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Marilyn Fletcher Obituary

Marilyn Marie (Snape) Fletcher

Greenfield, NH — Marilyn Marie (Snape) Fletcher, 59, of Greenfield, beloved wife of James Fletcher, and devoted mother to her four children, passed away on August 13, 2021, due to cancer.

Marilyn was a person of varied interests, and boundless imagination. She attended elementary school in Hockessin, Delaware, where in the fourth grade she was selected for a gifted class at the Delaware Art Center. She became active in Girl Scouts, an interest that would carry over into adulthood. Her love of horses resulted in riding lessons, in what would become a lifelong passion. After her family moved to Rehoboth, Massachusetts in 1973, Marilyn became the proud owner of her first horse, Toby. She also worked as apprentice archaeologist for three summers on a colonial site. She became interested in learning the new computer technology, but was steered off that vocational track as "only for boys."

After graduating from Dighton-Rehoboth High School in 1979, she picked a college where she could bring her horse along, but the school was having financial troubles, resulting in a last-minute switch to the University of Connecticut. It wasn't a good fit, and after a period of time, she cut loose to enter the workforce. In 1982, she moved to New Hampshire and took a job with Yankee Publishing, where she advanced from data entry to ad production and then camera supervisor, gaining a hands-on education in technological changes sweeping the publishing industry. She also worked evenings and weekends as a waitress, so she could buy her own house, and a horse, Skeeter, a retired Standardbred trotter fresh off the racetrack that, through tireless effort, she retrained for pleasure riding.

Marilyn always seemed to be working at least two jobs. In time she took a job at Wayne Green Enterprises in Hancock, filling a vacancy left by her eventual co-worker and husband, Jim Fletcher. The two would later meet in an art store, where she worked, and the relationship blossomed from there. Marilyn was first introduced to an Apple computer at Wayne Green. Quickly she understood how she could benefit from having one. She bought an Apple of her own, along with a printer and stat camera, and established a quick-turnaround, freelance design business out of her home, using the nursery as a darkroom. Jim recalls holding their first baby while Marilyn pasted up copy. A few years later, Marilyn and Jim were able to work together at Connell Communications in Peterborough where Marilyn was promoted to run the in-house marketing agency, CCI Design. When reorganization eliminated the design agency, Marilyn partnered with a colleague to launch a direct mail marketing business, Fletcher & Wilder Communications. The business grew quickly, and Jim signed on as designer. Marilyn ran that successful business for years, providing direct mail marketing services for many of the world's largest publishers.

In 1995, Marilyn, Jim and two children moved to Greenfield, taking up residence on a farm going back seven generations in Jim's family, on Fletcher Farm Road. When their first two children were in their teens, two more children came on board. The adventure was non-stop. The farm provided ample pasture for a number of horses over the years, starting with Skeeter, and other retired horses, later with Marilyn's New Forest ponies – one to start, becoming a trio – plus a small Shetland pony mix and a thoroughbred. Marilyn loved animals, and the farm would have a variety of four-legged creatures over time, but her horses remained special to her, and she continued riding for as long as she was able.

Marilyn touched many lives. A prodigious worker, she served in a variety of capacities in her own company, before leaving the business to spend more time with the children, and pursue her interest in the ever-enlarging field of computer technology and web design. She worked for Appropriate Solutions in Peterborough, Bosch Technologies in Merrimack, and eventually found her "perfect job" as a web developer for MIT Lincoln Labs in Lexington, MA, where she worked through June of this year. Marilyn served several years on the Greenfield Planning Board, including a stint as chair. She led her younger daughter's Girl Scout troop, pitched in as regional coordinator for camporee, volunteer coordinator, and other Girl Scout activities, and generously contributed her time to school and community functions.

In 2018, following the diagnosis of stage four lung cancer, Marilyn commenced therapy treatments at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute in Boston. With expert medical care, she was able to continue working and be there for her family during those precious years to follow. That first summer she took her children camping in the Great Basin in Nevada. In 2019 they traveled West by train and camped out in New Mexico with visits to Colorado and Arizona. During the 2020 pandemic, they went kayaking in Maine. She exuded that unstoppable dynamic, right to the end. As she put it, "I don't want to spend my life dying." Marilyn was born on December 18, 1961, the daughter of Robert and Sue Ellen Snape, now residents of Greenfield. In addition, she is survived by her husband, Jim; and four children; Griffen Fletcher, of Jaffrey; Terra Fletcher, of Gorham, Maine; Violet and Kade, at home. Also, her brother, Thomas Snape of W. Enfield, Maine; and sister, Stacy Snape of Fort Collins, Colorado; her Aunt Sylvia Smith of East Dorset, Vermont, and a number of other relatives including cousins, nephews and nieces, along with many friends and work associates. In accordance with Marilyn's wishes, funeral arrangements will be private. Memorial Donations may be made in Marilyn's name to Standardbred Retirement Foundation at www.adoptahorse.org/memorial-and-commemorative (for phone number or pdf donation form.) Mailing Address: Standardbred Retirement Foundation, 42 Arneytown-Hornerstown Rd., Cream Ridge, NJ 08514.

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Published by Monadnock Ledger-Transcript on Aug. 19, 2021.

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Diana Morales

August 13, 2024

You will always be remember my friend. RIP and you were a very special person.

Diana Morales

August 14, 2023

Dear Marilyn I miss you everyday. You were a great friend and always saying the right things to anyone who knew you. Learn a lot with you as a coworker and my friend. You sat next to me at work and I remember saying to you "Marilyn are you there?" Love you with all my heart never will forget you.

Anne Vadeboncoeur

September 21, 2021

I knew when I saw Marilyn and Fletch together that their relationship was special and always. My love to you Fletch and fam.

Jaylyn Joss

August 31, 2021

I had the good fortune to work with Marilyn at Lincoln Laboratory on several projects that needed her expertise. Marilyn always proved herself to be a highly skilled and knowledgeable professional, and at the same time was so darn kind and sweet and wonderful to work with. My sympathies to her family.

Sarah Bahr

August 23, 2021

I worked with Marilyn briefly as I needed her help on a website at MIT LL. I found her to be such a joy and an incredible person. My best to all of her friends and family.

Susan Allen Jacobs

August 21, 2021

Jim and family, I am so sorry to read of Marilyn´s passing. I have so many wonderful memories of working with her at WGE and our many lunches together - which, by the way, when it was her turn to pay, was usually money she found in your pocket while doing laundry. She was sweet and funny and I know she´ll be dearly missed!

Tom Swan

August 18, 2021

Peace to you all
Fair winds and trailing seas

Diane Menyuk

August 17, 2021

Marilyn was an incredibly special person. She saw the world from her point-of-view - but never doubted that others' perspectives, particularly people she valued most (her children) had their own ineluctable views on everything - which she treasured. I will miss her greatly. She was honest but tactful, and incredibly hard-working. The world is emptier now that she has gone.

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Shannon Spear

August 17, 2021

I got to know Marilyn through Girl Scouts. She was always patient & kind with the girls. Her calm demeanor was what made her such a great troop leader. My sincerest sympathies to all who loved her. She will be missed.

Amy Dion

August 17, 2021

I worked with Marilyn at LL. We didn't cross paths often, but we were partnered together for an exercise in a professional development class. I just wanted her family to know what an impact she made after what couldn't have been more than 10 minutes together. She had such interesting things to say about her previous work experiences, and made me feel like what I had to say was just as interesting to her. From just those ten minutes I know she was a wonderful person, and I'm so sorry for your loss.

Diana Morales

August 17, 2021

My condolences and sympathy to the family.

Walter and Linda Riendeau

August 17, 2021

Dear Griffen, we were saddened to hear of the loss of your beloved Mother. She was such an accomplished woman. Her greatest accomplishment was her family. Your Mother must have been so proud of all of you. Look at the pictures of your travels as a family, treasure the memories and know that she is with you in spirit. Love, Walter and Linda

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