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Alan Isenberg Obituary
ALAN MARK
Suddenly on Sat., Jan., 26, 2002, Alan Mark Isenberg, age 44, of Robinson Twp; beloved son of William D. & Marjorie A. (Cooper) Isenberg; dear brother of William R., Donald J. & Judith A. Isenberg; dear uncle of William P., Bradley A. & Melissa L. Isenberg. Mr. Isenberg was owner/operator of Isenberg Auto Body in McKees Rocks. Friends welcome at MCDERMOTT FUNERAL HOME, INC., 1225 Chartiers Ave., McKees Rocks (Family owned & operated since 1886), Tuesday & Wednesday 2-4 & 7-9 pm. Funeral Thurs. Mass of Christian Burial in St John of God Parish, St Mary Church at 10:00 am.
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Judith McIntyre
January 26, 2016
Alan,
To my sweet brother, just to let you know we are thinking about you today. Fourteen years ago you were taken away from us. Not a day goes by that we don't think about you. You are missed by all who knew you for what a wonderful and loving human being that you were.You were loved so dearly. I hope you are well, we miss you tremendously. Until we meet again. Take care. All our love.
Your sister Judy Beans,
and brother-inlaw Jerry
Judith McIntyre
December 25, 2015
Alan,
Wishing a Merry Christmas and just wanted to let you know how much I miss you. I hope you are taking good care of Mommy and Daddy. I hope all three of you have a beautiful gardian angel hugging all three of you. May god bless all of you.
Take care,
Love you!
Judy and Jerry
Judy McIntyre
November 26, 2015
Alan,
I know it's been awhile, just wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving. Please take care of mommy and daddy. I know I can count on you. You always did look after them. You were a good son and brother. I hope you are all o.k. I miss you all like crazy, it hurts so much.Please know in my heart we think of you every day. Take care dear brother, for your sister will always have your back.
Love your sister,
Judy Beans, and brother-in-law Jerry
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2015
Alan,
It has been 13 years today since you have passed. I am thinking of you as always and now you have mother to take under your wing. Alan I just can't beleive she is gone. I know she missed you something awful. Our lives here are so different now, you ,Daddy and Mother are all gone. I hope and pray for all three of you. I have such a hole in my heart without all of you, life will never be the same. Please take care of mommy and daddy, as you always did. God Bless all of you. Love you and miss you.
Love Judy and Jerry
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Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2014
Alan,
Can't let the day go by without wishing you a Merry Christmas. We love you and miss you, I hope you and pops are O.K.
Take care !
With much love,
Judy, Jerry, Mother
December 15, 2014
Alan,
Wishing you a Happy 57th Birthday today. Mom,Jerry and I miss you so very much, it still and always will hurt not having you in our lives. May God bless you and everything about you, you are so dearly missed.With birthday wishes and all our love. Judy Beans, mom, and Jerry
Judy McIntyre
April 20, 2014
ALAN,
Just thinking of my brother today on Easter. I wanted to let you know you were in our prayers today as always. Hope you and Daddy are O.K. You will always be in our hearts and a great part of our lives. Take care, and remember we love you.
Sincerely and lovingly,
Judy, Jerry, and MOTHER
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2014
Alan,
To my dearest brother, this was a sad day for us, 12 years ago today you were taken away from us. I look back on that day and still wonder why, God chose you. You had a heart of gold and was so kind, I know in my heart you were the best brother ever, and until this day we will never understand why.But I do know this much, we miss you and love you so very much! If ever we could turn back time it would be to have you with your family once again, the way it is suppose to be. I just want to be able to tell you how much you are loved, maybe someday we can. You take care Alan, Mom loves you and misses you too. Here's looking up at you.
With hugs and kisses! Your sister Judy Beans, Jerry, and Mother
Judith McIntyre
December 26, 2013
Alan,
Didn't want the day to go by without wishing you a Merry Christmas, and to let you know we were thinking about you. Take care little brother and remember we love you. Say hi to pops.
All our love ,
Judy , Jerry and Mother
Judy McIntyre
December 15, 2013
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday today, and to let you know we are thinking about you. We miss you so very much! Take care my sweet brother, and tell pops we love him and miss him too. May God be with you and Daddy.
Love Ya!
Judy, Jerry, and Mother
Janis
December 15, 2013
To dear Alan, I am remembering you today with your big bright smile. Still miss you so much, on your birthday and always.
Love,
Janis
Judith McIntyre
March 31, 2013
Alan,
Wishing you a Happy Easter and letting you know you are in our prayers today. God Bless you and pops!
Love Ya!
Judy, Jerry
& Mom
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2013
To my sweet brother Alan,
It has been 11 years today that God had taken you from us. It never gets any easier. We miss so much! I hope everything is well with you, I hope you are looking down at us,knowing that we are looking up at you. Mom was very sad today, I asked her if she knew what day it was, not realizing, I told her and she said no wonder why she was so depressed. She misses you so much Alan, I only wish that God hadn't taken you so early. I know our lives would of been so much better. The only thing that keeps us going is our love for you and our memories. We hope you and Dad are O.K. Please send us a sign just to let us know. It will comfort us. Take care Alan, talk to you soon!
Love You!
Judy Beans, Jerry,
Mom
Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2012
Alan,
This candle represents our love for you. May God Bless you!
Love your sister Judy, Jerry, and your dear mother
Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2012
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas. We miss you and Daddy so much it hurts. This Christmas was especially hard knowing you were both gone. I guess it is just something we have to get through. I just don't know how we are going to manage without you and pops. I hope everything is O.K. Please take care and watch over Dad. We love you and miss you.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Love Judy Beans,Jerry, and your loving Mother
JUDY MCINTYRE
December 15, 2012
ALAN,
JUST WISHING YOU A HAPPY 55TH BIRTHDAY TODAY. JERRY AND I WENT TO VISIT YOU YESTERDAY,IT WAS ESPECIALLY HARD BECAUSE NOW OUR FATHER IS WITH YOU. MY HEART WAS SO HEAVY IT WAS JUST SO SAD SEEING YOU BOTH UP THERE,BUT KNOWING YOU TWO ARE TOGETHER MAKES IT A LITTLE EASIER KNOWING YOUR NOT ALONE. YOU TWO BEHAVE UP THERE AND TAKE CARE OF POPS. I'M SURE HE WILL FEEL YOU IN ON EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING ON DOWN HERE. WE LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU,HERE'S TO YOU ON YOUR BIRTHDAY!
ALL OUR LOVE,
JUDY,JERRY,& MOTHER
Judith McIntyre
December 25, 2011
Alan,
Mother and I wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas. Just to let you know you are in our thoughts, today and always. Take care and may god keep you warm and give you a hug for us. We miss you so very much.
All our Love,
Mom and Judy
Judy McIntyre
December 15, 2011
To my dearest brother Alan,
Just wanted to let you know we were thinking about you today. It is your 54th birthday. No words can express how we feel not having you here to celebrate. I only hope you know you will always be a part of our lives and never leave our hearts. We always think of you and will never forget you. I only hope we can get through another holiday without you. You are so sadly missed. At least I am with Mom to get her through this difficult time.
May God bless and look over you when we are not near. Take care my dear sweet brother. I love you so very much!
Take care,
Love your sister Judy, Jerry, Mom, Dad, brothers Bill and Don
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2011
Alan,
Nine years today you were taken away from us. I only hope everyone who loves you will take a moment today and say a prayer or two for you. I hope everyone will at least think about you and remember what a wonderful person you were, and how much you meant to those who loved you. This world was just a better place with you in it. I only hope others would take the time to appreciate everyone that they love in their life, because you never know what life will bring you. You will forever be in our hearts, and will always be a part of our lives.
Take care and god bless!
Your sister Judy,Jerry,Mom,Dad,Billy, and Donny
Judy McIntyre
December 26, 2010
Alan,
I just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas and God Bless. You are forever in our thoughts, just wanted to let you know we were thinking about you today on this special day. Take care, until next time.
Love you!
Judy, Jerry, Mom,Dad, Donny, and Bill
Judy McIntyre
December 15, 2010
Dear Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday today. I only wish things were different and that you were here with us. Mom is staying with us now so you can rest knowing that we are here to look over her and take care of her. She is in good hands. I miss you Alan, I really do. Some day we will meet once again. I have so much to tell you. You take care and Mom says she loves you! God Bless you Alan.
Love your sister,
Judy beans, Mom,Dad,Billy and Donny
Judy McIntyre
December 26, 2009
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! We got a call from Chucky Christmas morning, it was bittersweet. It was so nice hearing from him. I told him to keep in touch. I wanted to let you know I was thinking of you at this special time.
Love Ya!
Your sister, Judy Beans
December 15, 2009
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday. I only hope others will remember you on this special day. I hope you like your flowers. We all miss you something awful. Life is just so complicated down here. You may not of had all the answers, but you did make life a little easier. Mom always says If only Alan was here. Again Happy Birthday and take care!
All our love,
Mom,Dad,Judy,Jerry, Billy, and Donny
Janis
April 22, 2009
Alan M. -
HI to you. I haven't written lately, but you are always in my thoughts. I love you and wanted to let you know the the coming of Spring reminds me of your smile.
Your friend who misses you dearly,
Janis
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2009
To my brother Alan,
It has been seven years today, that you were taken from us. Just wanted to let you know we were thinking about you. We always think about you Alan! You will never be forgotten! I really do miss your smile and talking to you. It would be nice if I could just see you one more time, and tell you how much I love you, and give you a hug. That would mean the world to me. Take care my dear sweet brother, until we meet again.
Love you with all my heart,
Your sister Judy,
Jerry,Mom,Dad,Bill,Donny
Judith McIntyre
December 15, 2008
To my Brother Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday! You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers, and especially in my heart. There is not a day that goes by, that I don't think of you. Take care Alan,
All our Love,
Judy, Jerry, Mom, Dad, Billy, Donny
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2008
Alan,
It has been six years today since you have passed. I did not want this day to go by without telling you how much we love you. Jerry and I came to visit you. Mom sends her love. Just wanted to let you know you will alway be in our thoughts and prayers. We think of you always, you will always be a part of our lives.
Take care my dearest brother,
Love you forever,
Judy Beans,Jerry,Mom,Dad, Family and Friends
Judy McIntyre
December 27, 2007
Alan,
I just wanted you to know that you were thought of during Christmas and the new year to come. Billy and his family and Mom and Dad were here. It was crazy, but all the little kids were having fun. Even pops enjoyed himself. Our holiday would of been complete if you were here. Thank God we have our memories.
Mom really got a surprise! Karen Petrillo sent her a picture of her Mother and her friend. It really warmed her heart, but it really made her cry. At least something good happened. I know she will treasure that picture. Well here's to you Alan, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year ! We love you! Take care, and God Bless You!
Love You, miss you,
Your Family and Friends
Judy McIntyre
December 16, 2007
To the best brother ever!
Alan, I just wanted to take the time to wish you a Happy Birthday. The 15th would of been your 50th Birthday. Mom, Jerry, and I came to see you as you know and I really hope you liked the Flowers and balloons we brought you. Sometimes I just don't know what to say. But I do know that you will always be in our hearts, and you will never be forgotten. I hope God is taking good care of you! May you look down and look after those who love you, and know in your heart that you will always be a part of our lives. We miss you dearly. Take care, my dear sweet brother, some day we will meet again.
All our Love,
Mom,Dad,Bill, Don, Jerry,and Judy
JUDITH MCINTYRE
January 26, 2007
ALAN,
TODAY MARKS THE ANNIVERSARY OF YOUR DEATH. FIVE YEARS AGO YOU WERE TAKEN AWAY FROM US. PEOPLE SAY TO REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES, BUT I WANT MORE THAN THAT. I WANT MY BROTHER BACK. I JUST CAN'T EXCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU ARE NO LONGER WITH US, AND I GUESS I NEVER WILL. IT IS JUST LIKE A PART OF ME DIED WITH YOU. LIFE IS JUST TOO COMPLICATED HERE.I KNOW THAT YOU ARE IN A BETTER PLACE, BUT IT IS JUST NOT THE SAME WITHOUT YOU IN OUR LIVES.YOU WERE LOVED BY SO MANY,YOU MEANT SO MUCH TO ALL OF THOSE AROUND YOU. WE MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU. I HOPE YOU THINK OF ME OFTEN, THAT WILL KEEP ME GOING. JUST KNOWING MY BROTHER LOVES ME. YOU TAKE CARE!
ALL MY LOVE!
YOUR SISTER,
JUDY BEANS
Judy McIntyre
December 26, 2006
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas! I hope you know that not a day goes by that we don't think of you. Your nephew Billy was here on Christmas Eve, it was funny he had said something to me and laughed. When he did, he sounded just like you. It sent a chill through me, but you know what ? It was like you were here. We miss you and Love with all our hearts. Take care brother and don't forget, you will always have our love.
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
December 15, 2006
To my brother Alan,
I just wanted to wish you a Happpy Birthday. I couldn't let the day go by without doing so. You would think it would get easier trying to go on without you, but it doesn't. This world is just so complicated. I just don't understand why of all people did God have to take you! It just isn't fair. Alan we miss you so much!
I hope you like the flowers Mom, Jerry and I gave you for Christmas and your Birthday. Well Alan I will talk to you later, but for now just remember I Love you with all my heart. Always did , always will. Take care my dear sweet brother.
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
January 26, 2006
To my dearest brother Alan,
Today marks four years, since you were taken away from us. I just feel so sad, when I think that we will never see you again. I guess we have to be grateful for the time we had you in our lives, and for all the memories that we hold so dear to us.
I know that our lives will never be the same, but I try to think back and remember the good times. Alan you are so dearly missed. I know you are in good hands, and that is what keeps us strong. You will be forever in our hearts and never will you be forgotten. I know you are in a better place, and I only hope you are looking down on us and helping us through this. I know I was truly blessed for God sending me a brother like you!
All our love,
Mom, Dad, Bill, Don,
Judy and Jerry
Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2005
Dear Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas. I had our family over last night, it was really nice. It was an o.k. holiday, but it would of meant more to us if you were here. The other night we decorated our tree and finished decorated our home, I cried because I knew you would of enjoyed all the decorations, and being with your family.
I sincerely hope everyone thinks of you at this special time of the year. I really miss you Alan, I hope God is taking care of you. Until then Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
I Love you dearly'
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Janis Williams
November 23, 2005
Alan M.,
Today is the day before Thanksgiving and the day which we would usually get together, as the actual holiday was always busy. I miss you very much tonight. My friend, you were taken from us way too soon. These tears I cry are for you and for everyone that misses you so much.
May you be in good comfort where you are and know that I miss you so much. I am beside myself with grief - if I could only see you again. I just miss you so.
Take care my friend. With much love,
Janis
Becky Brandon
June 19, 2005
Happy Father's Day Alan.
Love,
Chuck, Sierra, and Becky
Judy McIntyre
March 27, 2005
To my dearest brother Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Easter before the day is over. Mom and Dad were here for dinner today. He brought Lucy, I tell you what Alan, Dad just loves her so much, you will be happy to know she is in good hands. She just loves Daddy so much. They would be lost without each other. Jerry and I came to visit you yesterday, it was good to be near you once again. I only wish that you could be back in our lives. It hurts knowing that I will never see you again, nor being able to give you a hug, or hear you say what's up sis, or to hear your silly little laugh. I miss you so much! Please take care my dearest brother.
Until next time,
Love Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2005
To our Dearest Alan,
Today is three years since your passing. To this day it is still very difficult to go without you in our lives. I wrote an article about you in the area paper, the picture we put in was so very you. You always had a smile on your face. And always put a smile on those who were around you.If you only knew just how many people loved you! I miss you so much, I truly regret not being as close to you as a brother and sister should be. But I guess that was due to our busy lives and the many friends that you had. I do want you to know that I loved you with all my heart!
I stayed with Mom today just to be with her on this day. She misses you so very much! Hopefully others with think of you and remember all the good memories they have of you. You were just so special and touched so many lives. If only this was all a bad dream and we could have you back. I hope God is looking over you, and he is showing you the path that he has laid for you! We miss you and love you ever so much! Take care and remember I am always here for you!
Love Ya!
Your sister Judy Beans,Jerry,Mom, Dad, Bill, Don,Chucky, Becky and Ciara
judith mcintyre
December 26, 2004
Alan,
I know it has been awhile since I have written, but that is due to my computer being down. However we had just been to visit with you and I hope you like the flowers we gave you. It is to so very hard to go on with out you. I had our family over for Christmas and your son Chucky came over with Becky and their daughter Ciara, your granddaughter. She has grown so much! It was nice to see them once again. It was hard to make it through another Christmas without you, but we made it through. I guess our holidays will never be the same. I miss writing my letters to you. We all miss you here, take care! Talk to you soon.
Love Ya!
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Janis Williams
April 25, 2004
Alan M.,
You are never far from my heart. I still think of you every day.
I miss you and love you and will see you in Heaven when I get there. I'm sure you'll have lots of funny stories to tell me. God, I miss the sound of your laugh.
Take care my friend.
Janis
Judy McIntyre
April 11, 2004
Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Easter! This year is a sad one, holidays are just not what they use to be any more. Dad won't be joining us, for reasons that you know. I will miss him. I made you a beautiful arrangement for your grave, I hope that you like it. I just get all sad when I think about you Alan. I was trying to pick out the flowers for the arrangement and I was getting all teary eyed. I just can't help it. You were so special to me and I miss you so. It just hurts so bad not having you in our lives. I try but there is just a part of me that is missing, and I can never get that back. I only hope things are better for you where you are, because things are so stressful here. I guess that is just a part of life. Well Mom sends her love, we will see you soon. Take care my dear sweet brother!
I love you with all my heart!
Happy Easter from Mom, Jerry, and sister Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
February 26, 2004
Alan,
Just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you as always. I renewed the guest book, somehow it is just so hard to let go. By writing to you each month makes me feel better. I guess everything here is O.K. Mom sends her love. We celebrated our birthdays last week. Mom didn't want to go anywhere for dinner, but we talked her into it. It seems like since you died she just doesn't care to go anywhere. I know for Mom especially life just won't be the same. I try to be there for her, but I know when we leave all she does is think of you. I know you both had that special bond.Well the weather is getting better and hopefully we will see more of you. Alan I miss you so much! This just doesn't seem real to me. I try to keep busy, but when I see a picture of you it hurts, and all I do is cry. But I do try to remember the good times. Alan you will always stay in my heart forever. You are so very sadly missed. Take care and we will see you soon.
I love you!
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
January 26, 2004
To my dear brother Alan,
It is hard to believe two years have passed since you were taken away from us. Jerry and I came to visit you last night before the weather got too bad. It is just so sad to go were you are Alan, I had said to Jerry, this is just so unfair that God took you away from us. I do not understand him! What was he thinking? It just wasn't your time Alan.
I took off work today, I just wanted to be by myself, I knew I would be thinking about you, especially today. I had written an article about you in the area paper. I hope you like it. Mom wanted me to enclose her favorite prayer. It is so sad, but Mom said that it was so you. I agree. I only hope that you will be remembered on this day and everyone will say a little prayer for you. Well you take care Alan, may God keep you warm and keep you in our hearts forever. See you in my dreams and don't forget, we love you!
Until next time,
Love,
Your sister Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2003
To my dear brother Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas! Jerry and I came up to see you today, it was so bitter cold. But it doesn't matter to me I would see you every day if I could. We also went to see his Mom and Dad. It was funny but when we went to see them it was very cold, but when we went to see you it seemed like it was 10 degrees warmer. I think it was the beautiful trees that are there to keep you warm and to protect you. I still find it hard to believe Alan,that you are gone. I do not think it will ever sink in that you are no longer with us. We are going to bring Mom up soon to see you. Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you especially today. I miss you and love you with all my heart.
Take care!
Merry Christmas!
All my love,
Your sister Judy
and brother inlaw Jerry
Judith McIntyre
December 15, 2003
Dear Alan,
Today Dec. 15, would of been your 46th birthday. I tried to get to see you yesterday, but the weather was too bad. But I thought of you and I wouldn't let this day go by unnoticed. I only wish you were here so I could wish you a Happy Birthday! I just miss you so much!
Well the holidays are upon us, and again it is a sad time for everyone. I tell Jerry that it is just not the same without you, and it is hard to enjoy Christmas. I always loved Christmas, but with you not here it will never be the same. I know he knows how I feel, he is going through the same thing. He lost both of his parents, and I know he understands. I just thank God that I have him to help me get through this.
I did come to see you last week. It doesn't get any easier for me. It is hard to believe that you are gone. I just wish that God would say I made a mistake and said we could have you back. I would be the happiest person in the world.
Mom misses you so! I know the holidays will never mean anything to her again. She loved you with all her heart. I try to ease the pain for her, but it is difficult. I know we will make it through, with the love and support of each other. Well that's all for now. Hopefully I will visit you on Christmas Day. Until then keep smiling and Alan please give me some sort of sign that you are here with us for the holidays. Take care my sweet brother!
All my love,
Happy Birthday!
Your sister Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
November 26, 2003
To my Dear Brother Alan,
Just wanted to say I was thinking about you today. Remember my friend I told you about, Donna? Well she passed away Sunday. I guess this is just the way life goes. She wanted so much to live. She fought so hard, but I guess her body just couldn't take it any more. It was so very hard for me. Donna was my closest and dearest friend. I will miss her so, and cherish our friendship. I will miss our conversations on the phone. She helped me heal some of the pain when we lost you. I only hope she is in a better place now. She suffered so much! I told her to tell you how much we love you and miss you. I also told her to keep you in line. Believe me I know she will. Keep an eye on her Alan and watch over her. She is one person you can truely trust.
It is so hard to come to terms with this Alan. I miss you so much, and now my best friend is gone. I just had flashbacks of when you had died, and all I did was think of both of you the whole time. It is a part of life that we all must come to terms with. I know life goes on, but it will never be the same. You will always be in my heart,never will you be forgotten.
Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and I guess I have to go on with things. Sometimes I would just like to let the holidays pass by, but I guess that would be selfish. This is the hardest part of losing someone you love. Getting through the holidays. I hope all is well and I will see you soon. You are always in our prayers. I will always love you! More than any one possibly can! Take care!
Love Judy and Jerry
(Judy Beans)
Judith McIntyre
October 26, 2003
To my Dearest Brother Alan,
Well here I am again Alan, it would make me feel so much better if other people wrote to you. I guess they are not aware that I renewed the guestbook for another year. Alan it just isn't the same here without you. I just miss you so. It doesn't get any easier without you. You know I have been doing a lot of thinking. I have been having such a hard time with this, and life is just so complicated. I do not understand people. I talk to Mother and Jerry all the time, and try to sort things out and I get nowhere! To me it seems that Mother, Jerry and I have so much good in us and when it comes down to it we would do anything for anybody. But why is it we always get dumped on? I do not get it. Why is there so much hatred, selfishness, and greed in this great world of ours. So many people do and say so many mean things to each other, and I do not understand why. It just hurts me so that God took you away from us, you were such a loving and giving human being Alan. You did so much for others and it wasn't appreciated! Why does God take away the good ones and keep the evil ones. What is his plan? I wish I knew!
Take my friend Donna for example, she is such a good hearted,kind, and loving person. Beautiful inside and out. But right now she is in the hospital fighting for her life! I only hope and pray that God keeps her here because if I lose her , I do not know what I will do . She is my best friend!
Alan I only wonder if you are in a better place! Life is just too hard and complicated down here. At least you do not have any stress were you are. But I would rather have you here to help me get through the tough times! I only wish people would be a little nicer! The world would be a much better place! You could of taught them well!
I miss you, and thanks for listening!
Love you with all my heart,
Your sister Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
September 26, 2003
To my dear brother Alan,
Another month gone by and still it is so very hard to except that you are gone. I miss you so! Some times I think of you at work and I get all emotional and try to calm down. I do not want to lose it at work. I save all my thoughts of you, when I am away from there. It is just better for me to handle it. We came to see you a few weeks ago, it just feels good knowing that you are close by. It is such a beautiful place were you are Alan, but I would much rather have you here with your family. I do have some good news however, you are once again a great uncle. Your nephew Billy and his wife Melissa had a baby. They had a baby girl. I believe her name is May Lynne. Not sure of the spelling just yet. Billy is just so excited! I only wish that you were here to enjoy her. I know you are looking down on her and smiling. You know Alan little Billy is really growing up, he is such a good kid. You know Alan I know that Chucky was only in your life for a short time , but at least you had some quality time with him, and you were fortunate to have a son like him. He like Billy is a good kid. I see so much of you in Chucky. I only hope we get the chance to get to know him a lot better.
Well Alan take care and behave up there! I miss you and Love you very much. Until next time!
Love you lots!
Your sister Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
August 26, 2003
Alan,
You know there is not a day that goes by, that I do not think of you. I just wish that things could of been different. All of our lives have changed, now that you are not here with us. It just seems that life is so much harder, more complicated. There is such a void in our lives. Mother had once told me, you know at least we know were Alan is, and that we are not a family who's loved one died in a horrible way, or that they were missing. I can only imagine what families go thru. What ever the case may be, it so very painful. With you not around it just hurts so much. We will never find peace, or will we ever find closure? If only I had the chance to see you one more time to tell you how much I loved you. But then that wouldn't be enough. I would want you here to stay. But yet I am ever so thankful that I can write to you thru legacy. It gives me some sort of comfort and it soothes my soul.
It is odd, but call me crazy but I always think that you would show me some sort of sign that you are near by, or just that you are O.K. Maybe you do and I am missing it. I miss you Alan , my dear sweet brother! I will always remember your smile and the sound of your laugh. And I only hope God is by your side, watching over you. Tell him some stories, I am sure he wouldn't mind!
I love you forever!
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Marjorie Isenberg
July 27, 2003
My Alan,
It's been a year and a half since I lost you. It seems like yesterday. Every night I ask God, please help me. Let me think of the good times. The last few nights I have been dreaming of you and the last dream I was talking to some one who was looking for a job. I talked to the boy and he told me Tracy said she would talk to you and see if you could hire him.You will never be forgotten. Like it reads on your headstone, "Too well loved to be forgotten". I always hated the thought of getting old. But now I tell Judy I don't know how I can go on year after year with this heavy heart wanting to be here without you.I don't know if Judy told you, I broke my shoulder about 9 months ago. I now have a metal shoulder replacement. Sometimes the family calls me the bionic woman. It was a long recovery , but I am doing just fine now. Donny said if this had happened about 20 years ago they would not have been able to help me this well. I am very careful not to fall again. I guess that it all for now.
All my love,
Your heartbroken Mother
Judith McIntyre
July 26, 2003
Alan,
Another month gone by, just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I wanted to tell you that Chucky ,your son came down to see us. It was so nice talking to him Alan, he is so sweet. He really is a good kid. You know when he came thru the front door I told him to take his shoes off to be comfortable, and without me telling him, he allready had them off. Just like you. It was so nice to see him, he sat in the chair that you always sat in, and just like you he couldn't sit still. Alan he looks so much you, I just saw you in him. It was like you just came thru him and poked your head out to me. It had me all choked up. I just feel like we are going to be so close to him, because he is a part of you. I guess that is one of the ways that we can be close to you without you being here. I only wish that he could move closer to us. But any way we had such a nice talk with him. I know we haven't known him for a long time, but I allready I love him. I guess we just have a lot to catch up with him. So many things to tell him about you. We want him to know everything about you. I know he misses you so very much. I only wish you had a just to have him in your life a little sooner. Maybe then, things would of been different and you could of been here with us. I miss you so!
You know I have a wonderful life with Jerry, I love him so much, but my life would be so much richer if you were here. I will come to visit you soon. I Love You Alan, I allways will. Take care!
My dear brother,
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
June 26, 2003
Alan,
Another month goes by and still my heart is so heavy. As the 26th of every month approaches I think to myself what will I say about you? So many thoughts are in my head, but what does it matter? Life is so hard without you in it. I know everyone loses someone dear to them, at one time or another, but it wasn't your time to go. I had so much I wanted to tell you, that I never had the chance to. My hopes and dreams that I had hoped for you and me as well. I wanted to have a brother and sister talk just to see if you were happy. I had no idea what was going on in your life. I just wanted to let you know, that I was here for you, and that you could of told me anything that you wanted and knew you could trust in me. I would of been there for you no matter what. That is what sisters are for. I loved you so.
All the questions we have. I keep hoping and praying that we will find the answers we are searching for. I told somebody at work yesterday that Mother was depressed. He asked me, why? I said she misses my brother. He had told me, hey, you have to move on. I just wanted to scream! Nobody knows how we feel, no one can even imagine the pain one feels unless they lose someone close to their heart, like we lost you. I will never understand why God took you away from us. But I do know this. Alan,you will always hold a very special place in my heart, I will always treasure the memories we have of you. I just hope you are happy were you are. I know you are smiling down on those who truely loved you. Maybe some day we will find what we are looking for. To me you were the best brother ever! Please take care and remember, I love you with all my heart.
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
May 26, 2003
To my dearest brother Alan,
Today we honor memorial day. This is a day that we share the memory of others who lost a loved one. It is indeed a sad one. It is a beautiful day, one that we share the fond memories of those who we hold close in our hearts. You know you will never be forgotten. I do believe that you were one special person in this world of ours, who's memory will live on.
Yesterday I went to a fortune teller. I had been wanting to go to one since you died. I had such high hopes, thinking that I would get some answers that I had longed for. I was very disappointed. She really didn't tell me anything that I didn't already know. I guess it is just a matter of what you believe in. All that she did say was that you kept saying enough! I guess because we were trying to find out what happened to you. So she said that you couldn't rest, until we could. Maybe I am stubborn, but I feel there was something more that we could of done for you Alan. I wish that you would give me some sort of sign, just to let me know that you are O.K. Maybe then I would feel just a little bit at ease. I just want to be able to talk to you one more time. Is that too much to ask for? I miss you so much, and so does Mom. We always think about you. You will always be a part of our daily lives. Please rest peacefully, my dear sweet brother.
I love you more than anything,
Your sister Judy Beans
Judith McIntyre
April 27, 2003
To my dear brother Alan,
You know I am so glad I have this opportunity to write to you , otherwise I do not know what I would do. Somehow it just makes me feel a little closer to you. Jerry and I drove past Holy Souls today. Every time we go by there, I always get so choked up. I just get this uneasy feeling. My heart just feels so heavy. Always, I look up the hill just to see if anyone is visiting you. Jerry will always say, I am sorry honey, I shouldn't have come this way. I say to him, Jerry, It can't be helped, and besides it is O.K., I feel closer to him.
Today it is one year and three months since you died. Alan I just feel so sad. So bad, that we could of done something for you. That someone could of helped you. I know in my heart what happened to you was senseless, and should of never happpened. I think to myself if only. But this is something I will feel for the rest of my life. I just wish that we could have you back into our lives, then everything would be perfect. But now we only have memories. I guess we have to be thankful for that. I hope and pray that you are doing O.K. in your new life. Please give me a sign just to let me know. I miss you and love you so very much!
Take care my sweet brother.
Love Always,
Your sister Judy Beans
marjorie isenberg
April 20, 2003
My Alan,
Judy and Jerry had me over for Easter . This is the second Easter with out you . It does not get any better. We came up to see you today and we felt so much closer to you, the sun was out and it was such a beautiful day. We had a wonderful meal and we will have pumpkin pie later. I just can not make lemon pies any more because that was your favorite. I always made an extra one for you to take home with your care package. Judy said a rabbit came in her back yard and thinks you may have sent it. I guess thats all for now.
All my love,
Your heartbroken mother
Judith McIntyre
April 20, 2003
To my dearest brother Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Happy Easter. It is so very hard when the Holidays come around. They just don't mean anything to us any more. Without you in this world Alan, nothing will ever be the same. We go on with our lives , but it is a struggle. I talked to Mom this morning, and I can feel the pain in her voice. I told her, Mom I know, I told her it will be O.K. We will go visit him today. I have a floral arrangement for you for Easter. It is that of an angel, because that is what you were to me.
We will see you soon. Take care Alan. May God shine down on you on this very special day. I love you with all my heart.
God Bless!
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
March 27, 2003
To my dearest brother Alan,
Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you. Alan I think about you every day. Sometimes I will be on my way to work on the bus and ask God why did you take my brother away from me? I just don't understand it. I miss you so much Alan it hurts. I wouldn't ask for another thing for as long as I live if only we could have you back. I just don't know how people go on when they lose a loved one. It has to be the hardest thing to deal with. I tell you what though, I just thank God that he gave me Jerry. I do not know what I would of done without him. He has been so supportive. He is helping me get through this. I only wish Alan you had the chance to get to know him. You know Alan you and Jerry were so much alike. You both were so loving and caring and you have a heart of gold. He loved you Alan like a brother. We talk about you often, but when I do I just cry. You were so well loved.
Well I wanted to tell you that Pops finally came home yesterday from the hospital. It just so happened to be his birthday too. What a birthday present! Alan he just worries me so much! I know he couldn't wait to get home, but I just know that he will not take care of himself. He was really lucky this time, and I just wish that he would take it easy. I love him so much and I don't want any thing to happen to him. I realy miss him at times and wish that we were able to spend more time together. It breaks my heart that I can't see him as much as I want to. But I know he knows that I love him. And I know he loves me. I guess that is just the way that it has to be.
You take care my sweet brother and I will visit you soon.
P.S. Have a talk with Pops, maybe you can talk some sense into him. Until next time, I love You!
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
February 28, 2003
To my dear brother Alan,
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you, as I always do. It is so hard to go on with life without you in it. It just seems like everything is just sitting still waiting for you to come back.I know our lives will never be the same.
Mom went to her doctors appointment yesterday, and while we were sitting in the waiting room, there were two little children playing, a boy and a girl. Mom said it reminded her of me and you when we were little. Funny how I was thinking the exact same thing.I know as life goes on we will always see something or somebody that reminds us of you. You will never be forgotten Alan. Someday I will like to do something special for you, because you were so special to me. I just keep thinking over and over what happened to you, and it just doesn't make any sense. I guess it never will. I only hope God will try and make us understand and tell us what we need to know.
Until then Alan,may the sun always shine on you and may you keep smiling down on those who truely loved you.
Take care my sweet brother,
I love you!
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
January 26, 2003
To my dear sweet brother Alan,
One year has gone since God took you away from us. Since then, life is no easier to us. So many questions left unanswered. Will we ever find what we are searching for? Will that someone find it in their heart to tell us what we need to know? Please give us some comfort! Alan, we miss you so much, it is so very difficult to ever imagine life without you in it. There was so much I wanted to tell you,and now I will never have the chance.
I wrote an article about you and had it published in the area newspaper. It was so very hard for me to say what I wanted to say. I only hope the message gets across to others. What it comes down to is, I just wanted people to know what a wonderful person you were, and how very special you were to us, and to those who were fortunate to have you in there lives. I only hope that this day others will remember you, as I am sure they will. Alan, you were loved by so many people. You touched ever ones heart. You were not just an ordinary man, you were my brother. It just seems like yesterday, that I had last spoken to you. I only wish I had that chance again. I just want to be able to hug you and tell you that everything will be O.K. But I know that will not be possible. I think of you every day and try to remember the good times. That is all we have. I hope you are in a better place, and may you keep smiling. Until next time, my eternal love,
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Ed Maritz, Jr.
January 24, 2003
God Bless, Alan. You are not forgotten, one year or many more years later. Be well above us and away from us in eternal rest. Godspeed to those that so deeply mourn your passing.
God Bless,
Ed Maritz
Judy McIntyre
December 26, 2002
Dear Alan,
How does one make it through the holidays. It is just so sad.Since you left us Alan our lives have changed so much. It is just like a part of you has died also. One can not enjoy life to the fullest when a loved one has parted.It will never be the same. I only wish you were back with us. Mom misses you so much, she keeps asking God why he took you away from her. She keeps hoping that maybe some day you will come back to her. Sometimes I think that too. That this is all a bad dream. Just to think that we will never see you again, never talk to you again breaks my heart. That makes it all so unbearable. I only hope that God will show us how to be strong. Take care my dear sweet brother. I love you ever so much!
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
December 25, 2002
To Alan,
Just wanted to wish you a Merry Christmas, allthough it is a very sad one. I miss you so Alan,it just hurts so bad. I had our family over for dinner last night, but it just wasn't the same. It just wasn't Christmas without you. It never will be. There is just an emptiness in our hearts. Life will never be the same for us. I hope you like your tree, I know it will make you smile. Take care my dear sweet brother and may the stars shine on you tonight. God Bless!May peace be with you!
I Love You!
Judy Beans
Sarah Doubt
December 24, 2002
Dear Alan,
It's me Sarah, april's daughter. I want to wish you a happy be-lated birthday, a Merry Christmas, and a happy new year. I'm very tired so that means I can't think of anything to say. My mo said ''hi''.
Well thats all for now.\
love,
Sarah & April
Janis Williams
December 16, 2002
Alan,
I am thinking of you today, as I do every day, but I wanted to let you know that this day did not go unnoticed. Everyone remembered! And we are thinking of you and everyone misses you dearly. Friday was the most difficult day. I love you and hope that you know that I wish things could be different. We all wish things could be different. I don't want to cry for you, because I know you are happy in heaven, but I can't stop crying for me, because I miss you so much. Take care my dear friend.
Janis
Judy McIntyre
December 15, 2002
To my dear brother Alan,
Today of all days it is especially hard for me to write. It would of been your 45th birthday. I feel so sad. I just can't say Happy Birthday, because it is not so happy. I always would think of you as getting older and I could never picture you getting older. Now I will not have to. I will remember you with that beautiful smile and that sparkle in your eyes. You were always smiling. You always made people smile. I wish you were here so we could celebrate your birthday. Instead I will visit you at your grave. I only hope those who loved you will remember you on this special day. I know Mom does and she is so very sad. Sorry Mom will not be able to make it. She is in the hospital, she broke her arm. She is coming along, but she is very depressed. Let's help her get through this O.K. I miss you so very much Alan. Take care my dear sweet brother. May the sun shine on you today. I will see you later.
With all my Love ,
Your sister Judy Beans
Judy McIntyre
November 26, 2002
To my dear brother Alan,
I have barely started writing this letter, and already the tears are flowing. Alan I just can't stop thinking about you. It just seems like yesterday that you were taken away from us, and we are no closer to the truth. Mother and I are so distraught over you, how will we ever get over this? People tell us to move on with our lives, I am trying to, but it is so hard. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about you.I keep hoping and praying that some one will come to us and tell us something about your death that will comfort us.
Thursday is Thanksgiving and I just don't know how we will get through it. I remember last year I yelled at you because, right after we ate dinner you layed down on the couch. I got mad because I wanted you to talk to us. You would always tell us that eating a big meal made you sleepy. I even took a picture of you. It is going to be a sad Thanksgiving Alan without you.
Sunday we are going to a service in memory of those who died this year. It is going to be kind of a Christmas service. They will have an ornament with your name on it. I thought it was a good ideal. I know it will be sad. I am sorry Alan, but I just won't be looking forward to the holidays this year. I miss you so much, there were so many things I wanted to tell you. Now what am I going to do? You were so special to me, more than you will ever know. I will always cherish all my memories of you. I will never forget you. You will always carry a special place in my heart. Take care my sweet brother and Happy Thanksgiving. Good Night!
I love You!
Your sister Judy beans
Marjorie Isenberg
November 26, 2002
My Alan,
Thanksgiving is just a few days away. It will be so hard to get through with out you. I am not making lemon pies. I know how you loved them.You never missed a holiday dinner with us. You would always take a nap after dinner. They are calling for a lot of snow by this evening. We thought of going out to dinner. I just do not know how to get started planning anything. How I miss you. It will be so sad for all of us. When we went to see your Aunt Rosella, it just brought all the feelings back we had for you. We had to go. We saw all the same people, the same place, and all the same questions.We still do not have the answers. I guess we will never know. It is so hard for me to write to you, my eyes keep filling up with tears and I am blinded. Jerry, Judy and I visited you last Sunday. Your headstone was beautiful. the words we put on it just fit so well.
"Too well loved to be forgotten"
I love you!
My dear Alan!
Your Heartbroken Mother
Judy McIntyre
October 26, 2002
To my dearest brother Alan,
Oh God Alan it is so hard to be in this world without you! Mother is having such a hard time coping without you. I try so hard to help her. I try to be there for her as much as I can. It would help if other people were supportive and called her, maybe write her a letter, or even an e-mail. She says it seems like people forgot about you. I do not think that is true. I guess people just don't know how to deal with your death and they do it in there own way.
Any more it is so hard for me to write these letters, but it is the only way I can talk to you. I really do regret not spending as much time with you like I wanted to Alan. It just seemed like you were so busy with your life. I know you had a lot of stress in your life. You had so much responsibility. I know you were under a lot of pressure. I only wish that you and I were closer like we were when we were younger. Maybe I could of helped you. I would of been there for you Alan, and helped you as much as I could. I would of done anything for you. You had a heart of gold. You did so much for people!
I remember one time we took you out for dinner for your birthday and you wanted to pay. I thought that was so sad. You said that you were use to it, and that no one ever did that for you.
I do have many fond memories of you, but I wanted so many more. You were such a beautiful person Alan, I miss you so very much. You will never be forgotten. It it so very hard dealing with your death. We are trying to cope, but life will never be the same without you in it. I can't even talk to other people about you , because I just break down and cry.
The holidays will be so sad this year because you will not be here to join us. I do not know how we will get through them. And then your birthday is coming up. Oh Alan, this is all so sad. I miss you so much! Why did God take you a way from us? This is something we will never know.
Well anyway Alan I hope God is taking good care of you where ever you are. We always think of you, every day of our lives. We will never forget you. Please take care my dearest brother. I love you from the bottom of my heart!
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Marjorie Isenberg
October 26, 2002
My Alan,
I don't know how I will ever go on with out you. This is one of those days that I wish I could hear your voice and touch you. I miss those phone calls we had. If I could only call you now and may be you could help me with some problems I just can't solve, by my self. Your sister Judy and I talk every day and try to cheer each other up, but we just end up crying. I pray each night and ask God to help me get through the day. I miss you so much. I guess I should be thankful I had you as long as I did. You will always have a special place in my heart. I love you so much my Alan. Good night!
Your heartbroken Mother,
Marjorie Isenberg
Judy Isenberg/McIntyre
September 26, 2002
Alan,
It is hard to believe nine months today God has taken you away from us. Life just isn't the same without you Alan. You know mother and I talk every day and we try to understand what happened to you. Thank God we are here for each other because no one will understand the pain we are going through except us. The hardest part is the not knowing. Why did this happen? Perhaps someday someone will come forth and answer all of our questions. I do hope that God is taking good care of you. I miss you dearly. Alan I came across this little poem and I thought it was so true in how we feel. It goes something like this.
If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane then I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again.
If only we could.I just miss you so much Alan. My heart has a tear in it, that can never be repaired. If I had only one wish that God would grant me, it would be to bring you back home to us.
I Love You so very much!
Take care my dear sweet brother and God Bless!
Your sister Judy Beans
Judy Isenberg/McIntyre
August 26, 2002
To my sweet brother Alan,
You know they say as time goes by it gets easier coping with the death of a loved one. Well I don't believe that. For me it gets harder. Alan I just can't believe you are gone. You know I told Jerry one day last week you know honey I am so happy with you I thank God I have you in my life. I looked so long and hard for that certain someone and I finally found him. And I thank my lucky stars that God gave me Jerry. He is just the best think that has ever happened to me. But then I said to him if I only had my brother Alan back then my life would be complete. I would never wish for another wish as long as I live. But I know that will never happen.
Dad is doing O.K. Alan, his surgery went O.K. he lost his toe, but thank God he didn't lose his foot. He is still not out of the woods, but he just has to take care of himself. Jerry and I went to his cabin the other week. He was glad to see us. As we were sitting at the table I noticed on the wall where Dad has numerous pictures hanging on the wall. I looked down and noticed there were two pictures of you. Both pictures were when you were up the cabin. One picture you were sitting on the picnic bench with your arm around Dad. You had such a big smile on your face. You seemed so happy. The other one was a picture of you kissing Dad on the cheek. I thought it was so sweet. I know you loved Dad very much. I know he loved you and misses you so. We went in to town that same day. We went to a store and I bought Dad two picture frames for your pictures. I wanted your pictures to stand out from the rest. When we got back to the cabin I cut out your pictures to fit the frames. Of course I cried. It just seems no matter what I do Alan every time I talk about you I just break down and cry. I will never understand why God took you away from us. I miss you so. I can't imagine what it is like where you are but I do know that you are at peace. May God look after you and take care of you.
I love you dearly,
Your sister Judy Beans
Marjorie Isenberg
August 26, 2002
My Alan,
Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. Judy and Jerry took me out today. They try to spend as much time with me as they can. You were always there when I needed you. I always knew I could depend on you. How many sons would take their old mother to her 50th class reunion like you did. How many sons would tell there mother every day they loved her. You did.How many sons demanded respect from everybody when it came to your mother. You did. Every morning I wakeup with you on my mind. I wonder If I can make it through the day.But I know I must. I love you so much my Alan.
Your Heartbroken Mother
Judy Isenberg/McIntyre
July 30, 2002
My Dearest Alan,
Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you, as I always do. I miss you so much Alan I just don't know how we will survive without you. I had written you a letter on the 26th, the anniversary of your death, but it did not go thru. I do not want you to think I forgot about you. That will never happen. Just wanted to let you know that Dad was in the hospital, as I am sure you already know. His foot got infected and he neglected it and now he may lose part of it. He was up Kennerdale when it happened. We went to see him Sunday at the hospital and I tell you what Alan he really scared me. By the look on his face he is scared too. His foot looked really bad. I think he is just so depressed and just doesn't care. The look on his face made me cry. I love him so much and I worry so much about him. All I could think about is losing my Dad.I know he thinks about you and misses you. You helped him out so much. My heart just goes out to him. He is so worried about his foot. I always tell him to take care of himself, but you know Dad he is just like Archie Bunker. I just hope and pray to God that he will be O.K.
You know Alan I had a picture of me and you when we were little kids. I think it was taken in one of those little picture booths. We were always so close when we were younger and I will cherish those memories forever. I know we grow up and we go our own separate ways, but I really do regret not being close like we once were. You will always be in my heart no matter how far away you are. You will never be forgotten. Mom misses you ever so much. You take care and behave where you are. I love you! We'll talk soon.
Luv Judy Beans
Janis W
July 26, 2002
Hello Alan M!
It's been exactly six months since I have seen you sweetie! What have you been up to up there in heaven? I hope you are having the time of your eternal life! We all still miss you here on earth. We talk about you and to you all of the time. I Just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you and that I cannot believe I'll never talk to you again in person. Alan, I trusted you so much to help me with all aspects of my life and to be there to just be my friend and to give me advice. I really trusted you so much, more than anyone in my life.. I am so very lost without you.
I never thought, ever, that I would have to get through my life without you, you know? I have never made a single important decision without your input; it's crazy, but I don't know what to do without you my dear friend! Hey, send me some thoughts from where you are sitting! Help me figure this out. You are so smart and funny and clever, I know you have advice I could use! So, please, send it down from heaven to me.
Love you eternally,
Janis
Janis Williams
July 5, 2002
Alan M.,
Hello sweetie! Another difficult Holiday without you. I was at my brother's and it was sad, because usually I called you when I got to their house and we'd coordinate what time you were coming over. I can't believe still Alan that I will never see you again in my life. Damn, that is the hardest pill to swallow. I cannot believe still to this day that it's true. I miss you dearly Moo Person! I was in Michigan recently and many of my friends asked me if I was "OK" since you are gone... what does one say to that? Yes, I am managing, but "OK"? OK what? That you are gone forever from my life? I will never be OK with that, you know? I am just still in disbelief my darling. I will never be the same without you in my life. Good night my friend; we'll talk soon.
Janis
April Rumpf Tosadori
June 27, 2002
Dear Alan,
I can't believe it's been 5 months. I miss you so much. I think about you everyday. I have your picture on my mirror in my bedroom and my mom found a whole bunch of pictures from Las Vegas. I keep them in my car. I still can't believe you are gone. You are only gone physically. You are in my mind all the time. I just wanted to tell you today that I love you and I will always be thinking of you.
Love, April
Judith Isenberg/McIntyre
June 26, 2002
Alan,
It has been 5 months today, and we do not know anything more than we did the night you died. I can not believe it to this day. We need help, but no one is helping. We can not do this alone. Mother and I can not cope with your death. We just can not believe you are gone.Mom came to visit you for the first time, Memorial weekend. It hurt me to see the pain in her face. I only wish I could take away her sorrow and find her some kind of comfort.I pray to God that the one responsible will come forth so they can live with theirselves. You were not done with your life on this earth Alan. You had so much more living to do. I miss you so much. There was so much I wanted to tell you as your sister.I needed you!Mom needed you! We will never get over losing you! I only hope that we will find you justice some day. Until I visit you again Alan, I love you so very much! You take care little brother and remember your family loves you ever so dearly. Take care!
Love Ya!
Your little sister Judy Beans
Judy Isenberg/McIntyre
May 27, 2002
Alan,
I came to visit you at your grave today. Such an empty feeling I felt.I looked around hoping that someone would come to me and tell me what happened to you. Someone to give me the answers that I have been searching for. Will we ever know the truth? How can some people live with theirselves, knowing what they did to you. You were loved by so many. I don't understand God. Why would he take you away from us? You gave so much of yourself! You didn't deserve to die! The hardest part of dealing with your death is the not knowing. If there is a God he will show us the way to the answers we need, so we can then have justice for you. We love you and miss you my dear sweet brother. You will never know how much you are missed. Take care, and until next time I will always be thinking of you. Love, your little sister,
Judy Beans
Marjorie Isenberg
May 26, 2002
My Alan,
Another month gone by and still no answers.The pain will not let up. Just looking at your picture brings tears to my eyes. Last Monday I had a cataract removed, and I always thought you were handsome, but now I think you could pass for a movie star. If only I could have you back. I miss you and love you so much, my dear Alan.
Your heartbroken Mother
Bob & Tracy Mayo
May 25, 2002
Alan, you will be truly missed by all. You're thought about often and will never be forgotten. Thanks for everything.
Janis
May 15, 2002
A Minute
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an
hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an
entire life to forget them.
Alan, you are a special person and I will never forget you.
Janis
Debbie Porchiran
May 13, 2002
They say the measure of a man is the mark he makes on the world he leaves behind him. With the depth in which Alan is missed by all his friends and family, I would say Alan's mark on this world was a great one. Rest in peace Alan.
Jeff Williams
May 13, 2002
My deepest sympathy to Alan's family and friends.
My fondest memory of Alan is the time he let me drive his new Corvette. I was amazed that he would be so generous with something so precious to him. It was the first time I drove a Corvette.
Thanks for the memories Alan !
Janis
May 12, 2002
Alan M.,
Hi sweetie. I am thinking of you, so I just wanted to say hi. You know, school picnic is coming up and you really left me stuck. I haven't been to school picnic with anyone other than you in about 10 years.
Jeff & Deb called and wanted to know if I wanted tickets. I didn't know what to say. Always, always, I just had them get two for us. I still remember the first time we ever went to Kennywood together, you won me a big bear on your first try. You were so proud and it was so very sweet. You were smiling from ear to ear.
I plan to go to Kennywood with my nieces and nephews because I love them and they expect me to go, but I so sad thinking about it. It's June 8th, just after my birthday. They'll be no hug, no card from you this year for my birthday. Gee Alan, I miss you so much, I just can't stop the tears sometimes. The really bad part is, that whenever I used to have sad things happen in my life, YOU were the person I called to cheer me up. Who am I supposed to call now? You were my dearest friend. Oh, god Alan, I miss you so terribly.
Take care. My thoughts are with you.
Love,
Janis
Judy Isenberg
May 4, 2002
Dear Alan,
Today is my wedding day. And I couldn't go on until I talked to you. I only wish you were here to share my special day with me. It is just not going to be the same with out you. I miss you so much Alan it hurts. I feel it will always hurt. I waited so long for this day. Who would of known that you would not be here to share it with us.We had rehearsel last night and I had a picture of you at the alter. I was O.K. but who knows about today. I only hope that I can keep my composure. I have a boutonniere for you beside your picture. You will be mentioned in our prayers. My sweet brother in my eyes you were an angel and I know you will be looking down on me and wishing me the best of luck. I know the weather will be good because you will be shining on me and giving me that sign that your with me on this special day. Don't worry we haven't forgotten about you.We still don't know what happened that night to you, and believe me we are going to find out. This is only the beginning.You will have justice. Until then you take care and relax and enjoy the wedding and may God be with us.
My eternal love,
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Sarah Doubt
April 9, 2002
Dear Alan,
for as long as me & my mom lived with you in your own house you feeled joy & happiness to our hearts.I try to call the radio station to tell them not to play a reminder song of you cause it's to sad to hear.Well i'll see you sometime in the next century-you have a good time watching oover us & tell my nana sarah not to cook so much up there.But don't call her sarah.You have to call her,''babe'' that's my nany's mom cathy well i'm gonna say ''bye'' & hopefully whoever has mesia she's in good hands
Janis Williams
April 6, 2002
Alan M.,
Hi Sweetie! I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking about you today as I do each day. Some days are easier, and others, I just can't stop the tears from coming. I am moving into my new home and as I unpack, I find so many things that remind me of you. Pictures from our first vacation together, the little cat toy we bought for Fe, an Isenberg's Auto Body shirt you gave me years ago. While I am trying to be joyful about my new home, it feels fake, like false joy. It isn't the same without you here to help me unpack and hang out with me, to be my friend and talk to me! And to badger me about moving into this neighborhood and tell me how much you dislike city life. I know you loved your home, the serenity and the space. It was a peaceful place for you. I can picture you lecturing me and asking me, "why would you want to move downtown?" I just wish you were here to do it, just so that I could hear the sound of your voice. But don't you worry about me, this neighborhood is just fine. It's my broken heart that is my only source of despair. I miss you so much, it is still so hard everyday. I hope that you can see me and that in some way you can try to lessen my pain from where you sit in Heaven. I hope you have that big smile Alan!
Easter was very hard. I thought back to last Easter and all of the Easter holidays before. We always made time to see each other, even if it was just for a short while before I had to return to Michigan. My mom always looked forward to seeing you on the holidays. This year my mom bought flowers in your name and they placed them at the Altar in our Church. Then she was allowed to bring them home and she gave them to me. It was bittersweet. They are here now and smell so lovely, but each day I see them I am sad for God taking you too soon. My mom misses you so much. She always considered you one of our family.
I know you are keeping an eye on us down at the Body Shop, but in case you have been busy lately, I wanted to let you know things are going OK. They will NEVER be the same as when you where with us. Somedays I have a question and I expect you to walk in the door and tell me what I need to know. You were amazing, how much you knew and could remember about customers and parts and cars and the customer with their 4th wreck who came in for an estimate - you could remember all their cars and all their wrecks, all their repairs and their kids and families and their lives. You truly touched people, because you truly cared about them.
The customers come in and they are still so grief stricken. Everyone tells us stories about how you helped them in the past and how much they relied on you. It is so touching, but most days I end in up tears just listening to the stories about how good and kind you were. Your customers love you and appreciated you very much Alan.
Spring is here soon sweetie and if you were here, you'd be getting the 'Vette out soon and taking the top off, driving with that big smile on your face. I long to see your smiling face for real, but I guess I will have to look to my memories if I want to see it ever again.
I miss you my dear friend. I am thinking of you today and everyday.
Janis
April Rumpf Tosadori
March 31, 2002
Dear Scalon,
Happy Easter!!! I just wanted you to know that I was thinking about you today!
Judy Isenberg
March 31, 2002
My dearest brother Alan,
I just wanted to wish you a Happy Easter. Although it will not be a happy one for us. Without you no holidays will ever be happy again.There is such a empty spot in my heart dear brother and without you it will never be filled . I miss you so much. I dreaded this day. I talked to Mom the other day and we were talking about Easter, and she felt really bad because you will not be here. She remembered Christmas when you were sad because she didn't bake any lemon meringue pies. She felt so bad about that. But I know you will have all you could ever want where you are right now.
It is going to be so hard for us this first holiday Alan. Mom it taking it so very hard about you. We all are. It just doesn't seem real. I miss your smiling face. Every time I would see you and you would leave ,you would give me a kiss on the cheek. I thought that was so sweet. Not many brothers would do that. I know I was very fortunate to have a brother like you. Just wanted to tell you a little story. I went to McKeesRocks yesterday to see a lady about making cookies for me for the wedding. Her name was Joyce. I had told her who I was and she knew you well.She told me you use to stop in her store and get cookies all the time. She asked me what happened to you because she was away when you died. I told her what I knew. She then told me how bad she felt because she too lost her son 3 years ago. Needless to say we were both in tears. This lady was so sweet and so understanding, I only wish everybody else was. This lady was just so nice, I felt like I knew her all my life. Without a doubt she is doing my cookies for the wedding, because I know she will do them with love. When I left I gave her a hug. Alan everybody that knew you simply loved you and are in disbelief over your death. That all have such fond memories of you. I only hope that you will be remembered on this special day. Well we will be up to see you later today, so take care and remember I love you ever so much.
Happy Easter my dear brother Alan
Love your sister Judy Beans
Judy Isenberg
March 28, 2002
Alan,
This is your sister here, I know once again. Just wanted to let you know, Mary Petrillo needs your help. She just resently had major surgery and is not doing too well.Mary is not coming out of it like she should. Alan this is Mom's best friend. She needs her so much. Please don't let God take her away too. Mom can't cope with losing you Alan. It is so hard for her to except your death. She feels like you are on a long vacation. I know you had nothing to do with your death and that you wouldn't put our mother thru all this pain. Please Alan help us get Mary thru this. Mom needs her desperately. She also found out that her friend Terry died. Alan the world is just crumbling around us. I know nothing will ever bring you back but we need something to keep us hopeful. If there is a God he will help Mary P. and he will find justice for my you my dear brother. We need help from the outside world, can someone just help us ? Please!
Take care.All my love,
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Judy Isenberg
March 24, 2002
Dear Alan,
It is Sunday morning, and I was thinking about you. I had my bridal shower yesterday. It was hard for me, but I went thru with it. I tried to stayed focused because I knew if I thought of you I would have lost it. At one point we were waiting for people to arrive and a knock at the door we heard. Vegas (Jerry's niece) went to the door and know one was there just the wind. I thought to myself Alan that it was you. It made me feel good that you were checking up on your little sister, just to see how things were going. Mom was sad that day Alan she told me she didn't feel good. I know she was thinking about you. I wish I could take away her pain and bring you back but I know that is just impossible. Alan we still to this day do not know what happened to you. We need help and no one is helping us out. I talked to my minister last week and I told him what happened to you. He felt so bad and he understood. He too lost his brother 2 years ago. I only wish I had talked to him sooner. He really made me feel better. He told me that he would pray for us and ask God to find justice for you. He is going to remember you in our wedding ceremony. It is going to be so hard for me I only hope we all can get thru this on our wedding day. Don't feel left out Alan I know you will be with us that day. Our brother Bill is going to take your place. I know no one can feel your shoes, but I know in my heart he will do a good job. It is going to be hard for me and I told him I need support to make it thru. Don't forget to give me that sign that you are with me on my special day. I know I will be thinking about you. Until next time my dear sweet brother, I love you with all my heart.
Your sister,
Judy Beans
Rev. John McKinsey
March 16, 2002
I was so shocked, and saddened to hear of this fine man's passing. Saddly, we often have more questions than answers as to why something like this takes place. Please know of my prayers for your family.
Petrillo Children
March 12, 2002
To the family of Alan Isenberg,
Our heartfelt sympathy and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Life is such a precious gift, and Alan was a special person. He touched the lives of many with his generous nature and loving smile and will be dearly missed especially by his loving family.
May his memory and goodness along with the prayers and support of family and friends help get you through this time of sorrow. He is surely in the hands of the Lord looking down with his smile on each and everyone one of you.
Judy Isenberg
March 3, 2002
Alan,
This is your sister Judy here. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I miss you so much, I just can't bear it. Tell me what to do! It just feels like someone ripped my heart out and threw it away.I hope God is looking after you my dear brother. You were one in a million. I love you from the bottom of my heart. Just the thought of never seeing you or hearing your voice again hurts. Please take care and don't forget me.
Love you forever,
Your little sister,
Judy Beans
Ken Cooper
March 2, 2002
Unfortunealy for me, it's been many years since
I had an opportunity to spend some time with Alan.
My memories of Alan are from my younger days.
I can still remember all of his energy as my family visted
with all of our relatives on Aunt Anna's farm. Alan was
the one person that was constantly in motion. I also remember his smile. He always seemed to have a little grin on his face and now I think back and wonder just what he was thinking.
I know that he will be greatly missed by everyone
that he touched during his short time here on earth.
My thoughts and prayers are with all of the Isenberg's
during this difficult time.
Maureen Sullivan
February 28, 2002
My brother and I would like to offer our condolences to family and friends of Alan.
He was a wonderful, kind and generous man. I can remember way back to 1990 when he was there to remove my car from Northside during a snowstorm. We both knew that he was always there for us; this whole situation is very difficult to comprehend.
I pray that the family gets through this and that it becomes easier with time.
We miss you very much Alan. God bless.
Maureen and Tim Sullivan
Janis
February 27, 2002
Dear Alan M.,
It took everything I had in my heart and soul to go to your gravesite yesterday. It is so brutally sad. I cannot believe that is you I am crying over in the ground beneath me.
I don't know what to do honey. I have so so many memories of you and of us. It seems I have very few memories that don't somehow include you. You are with me each and everyday of my life. I miss you so very much and just wish so badly that I would have returned from Michigan sooner.
Had I known your time would be so short Moo Person, I don't think I would have ever left. You are a wonderful wonderful man and God will never be able to replace you. Everyday I think of you and cry for you and wish that things coud be different. Please know that throughout all of our times together and apart, and our ups and downs that I never stopped caring for you. You know I would have done anything I could for you, and I did my very best to always be here for you. I will continue to be here for you, but it grieves me so to think that you are no longer here for me. For me to call late at night to tell my problems to, to make a joke that makes me smile again.
Oh Alan, I miss your smile and your silly self and the joy that you brought into my life. I still can't believe this is all true. God must be taking good care of you, and I hope that you are so happy. No more stress honey, that's for us now, not for you. I love you Alan M.
Bye for now,
Janis M.
Mary
February 27, 2002
I am so sorry about alan isenberg I have known alan and his mother for 40 some years He was a great kid always so freindly and manerly. I know his mom and family are hurting, especially his mom. She loved him so much and I know he loved her. I was her freind for all those years . I wish I could ease her pain, but she knows I will always be there for her.I would like to do more.I wish i could say time will take care of it but I know she will never stop hurting. Your freind Love Mary.
Judy Isenberg
February 26, 2002
To my Dearest brother Alan,
It is one month today that you were taken away from your family. Till this day we do not understand why. We still do not have any answers.Why did God do this to us. You had so much to live for. You gave so much of yourself. It is just not fair.I visit you at your gravesite and it is so hard for me. I just can not believe you are not with us any more. It just breaks my heart. No body will understand the pain until they have lost a loved one close to them. I know we didn't spend that much time together, but I valued the time we had. Please for those of you who take life for granted, spend as much time that you can with your family. You never know when someone can be taken away from you. Apppreciate each and every person you love.
Alan, Mother is not able to visit you yet. Please be patient, and give her time. It is so hard on her. She loves you from the bottom of your heart, and you know that. I only hope that you will stay in everybodys heart. So many people said so many nice things about you, and you would be proud. I love you and miss you. I will never forget you. Just to let people know the guest book will be open for a year, thanks to a good friend. So lets keep those letters coming, to keep Alan smiling.
I love you Alan, you take care! Your little sister,
Judy Beans
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