Anthony Parr Marshall

Anthony Parr Marshall passed away peacefully on November 16, 2024. Born on August 7, 1937, in New York City, he was affectionately known as Tony to his friends and family and was a loving husband, father, and grandfather.

Tony, the son of Mildred Heimbach Marshall and Joseph Parr Marshall, was raised in a five-story walk-up on cobblestoned East 53rd Street at the corner of Lexington Avenue. He attended Hunter College Elementary School and was a proud member of The Knickerbocker Greys, serving as a lieutenant of the Seventh Regiment Armory. At the age of 12, Tony sailed on the Queen Elizabeth to Europe, where he studied for five months in Italy, France, and Switzerland. He was among the first Americans after World War II to be admitted into Yugoslavia, accompanied by his classmates from Landhaven School in Camden, Maine. Later, Tony self-published a book chronicling his time in Europe, titled Adventures of the Year 1950 A.D.

Upon his return to New York, Tony attended Trinity School. He then continued his education at Phillips Academy, Andover '55, Princeton University '59, and Columbia Law School '62, each of which he was exceedingly proud to have attended.

While in law school, Tony met Betsy Harbison at a nursing school mixer. They were married in Rochester, New York, in 1963 and spent the early years of their marriage in New York City before moving to Middletown, New Jersey, with their two children, Charles Christopher and Katharine Elizabeth.

Tony spent over 40 years practicing law as a trusts and estates attorney in New York City, initially as an associate with Davies, Hardy & Schenck and later as a partner at Kirlin, Campbell & Keating. In the 15 years leading up to his retirement, he served as senior vice president and managing director of estate planning at the United States Trust Company and Bankers Trust Company.

Throughout his career, Tony was actively involved in several professional organizations, lecturing frequently and authoring numerous articles. To name a few, he was a Fellow of The American College of Trust and Estate Counsel and the American Bar Foundation. He also chaired the committee on estate and trust administration of the New York State Bankers Association and the trusts and estates law section of the New York State Bar Association.



After retirement, Tony and Betsy moved to Vero Beach, Florida, where they enjoyed 15 wonderful years near Christopher, his wife Mary (Zoltak), and their three young children Alexandra, Scott, and Kyle. In his final years, Tony lived with Betsy in Pittsboro, North Carolina, close to their daughter Katharine, her husband Matt (Tulchin), and their two sons, Harbison and Atticus.

Religion was a central aspect of Tony's life. He was a lifelong member of St. Bartholomew's Episcopal Church in New York City, where he was baptized and confirmed, participated in the junior choir and vestry, and later served as vestryman and warden. Over the years, he lent his expertise in trust and estate matters to his faith in countless ways. Notably, he served as president and chair of the board of trustees of the Health Care Chaplaincy Inc. in New York City, president of the Retiring Fund for Deaconesses of the Protestant Episcopal Church in the United States, and as a vestryman and senior warden for St. Augustine of Canterbury Episcopal Church in Vero Beach, Florida. In addition to the countless hours he dedicated to these organizations, Tony consistently and generously contributed charitable donations to St. Bartholomew's, St. Augustine, his alma maters, the Vero Beach Museum of Art, and the Indian River Medical Center Foundation, among others.

Some of Tony's avocation memberships included The Princeton Club of New York City, Seabright Beach Club and Seabright Lawn Tennis and Cricket Club in New Jersey, and the Quail Valley Golf Club in Vero Beach, Florida. He learned to play tennis only after moving to New Jersey but so enjoyed the sport that he was an unofficial ambassador, always playing with joy and enthusiasm. At age 60, his career and love of tennis converged when he was honored with the Rudolph O. Schwartz Tennis Trophy from the American College of Trust and Estate Counsel, in recognition of his good sportsmanship, companionship, sincerity, heartfelt nature, and passion for the game.

Tony is survived by his loving and devoted wife, Betsy; his children Christopher (wife Mary) and Katharine (husband Matt Tulchin); and five grandchildren: Alexandra, Scott, Kyle, Harbison Tulchin, and Atticus Tulchin.

Tony's memory will be cherished by his family and all who knew him. He touched the lives of many. A Celebration of Life to honor Tony will be held on Friday, December 27th, at 3:00 PM at Galloway Ridge in Pittsboro, North Carolina. Memorial contributions may be made to St. Bartholomew's Church, New York (www.stbarts.org) in honor of Tony's life and legacy.