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Benjamin Wheeler Obituary
Benjamin Andrew Wheeler, 6, departed this life on Friday, December 14, 2012 at the Sandy Hook Elementary School. Benjamin was born in New York City on September 12, 2006, a son of David Cole and Francine (Lobis) Wheeler. Ben was an irrepressibly bright and spirited boy whose love of fun and excitement at the wonders of life and the world could rarely be contained. His rush to experience life was headlong, creative and immediate. He was a devoted fan of his older brother, Nate, and the two of them together filled the house with the noise of four children. He loved the local soccer program, often running across the field long after it was actually necessary, but always smiling and laughing as he moved the ball nearly always at full tilt. He was becoming a strong swimmer and loved his lessons. Eager to learn, he couldn't wait to get to school to see his teacher and his growing group of new first grade friends. Ben was also a member of Tiger Scout Den 6 which met at the Sandy Hook Volunteer Firehouse. Earlier in December, Ben performed at his piano recital and sitting still long enough to play one piece was an accomplishment he reveled in. He loved The Beatles, lighthouses, and the number 7 train to Sunnyside, Queens. In a conversation with Francine before school on Friday, he said, "I still want to be an architect, but I also want to be a paleontologist, because that's what Nate is going to be and I want to do everything Nate does." He will be sadly missed by his loving parents, David and Francine Wheeler; his brother Nate; his grandparents Carmen and Annette Lobis of Garnet Valley, PA, Ellsworth and Kay Wheeler of Charleston, SC, and Harry Berquist of Newport News, VA; great grandmother Sophia Turchi of Broomall, PA; Aunts and Uncles Michael and Sheila Lobis of PA, Anthony and Colleen Lobis of PA, Steven and Ann Lobis of PA, Jeffrey and Dawn Wheeler of WA, and Andrew and Jamie Wheeler of HI; great aunts and uncles James and Nancy Cole of VA, Robert Lobis of CO, Michael Lobis of PA, and Marianne Stewart of PA, Marie Turchi of PA;and numerous cousins and friends. He was predeceased by grandmother Ann Cole Berquist. It is suggested that contributions in Benjamin's memory be made to the Benjamin Wheeler Fund. The family will receive visitors at the Trinity Episcopal Church, 36 Main St., Newtown on Wednesday, December 19th from 4:00 - 8:00 PM. The funeral will be held at the church on Thursday, December 20th at 11:00 AM. Burial will be private. The B.C. Bailey Funeral Home of Wallingford has been entrusted with the arrangements. To leave a message of remembrance, please visit www.BCBailey.com.
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Susan Albert
December 16, 2021
Every time I travel to New York City, I make a point to visit the bench at Bryant Park that is dedicated to Benjamin. I sit. I think. I cry. I engage others on the bench in conversation, to let them know who Benjamin was.
Virginia
December 15, 2021
I can´t believe how nine years have gone by so fast, since the worst devastating day for all the parents, lost all their little Angels that did not deserve to die, the way they did. I remember this day so well, seems like it was just the other day. I pray for everyone, and I know this scar will always be in your hearts, they say with time we heal. But it´s not true, especially when holidays come by. May all your hearts be filled with beautiful memories, and may your nights and days be filled with love, faith and happiness. My deepest heartfelt sympathies, goes out to you all on the loss of your precious love ones. And my God Bless you always.
Ann Marie Curling
December 14, 2021
May the Lord bless you on this horrible day of remembrance. I think of you always. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
A Mom Of An Angel
December 14, 2021
To Ben´s Family
May Ben Surround Each Of You With Warmth From His Rays Of Sunshine.... Heavenly Hugs To All....
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Cindy Sabo
September 1, 2021
I have Benjamin's picture as my screen saver on my phone. I'm a Beatles fan so I connected w/Benjamin right away. I will not remove his picture until sensible gun laws are passed. I think of & pray for you everyday!
cheryl
December 17, 2020
wheeler family you are always in my prayer
Jon Nelson
December 16, 2020
I live in California and I'm a substitute school teacher who was literally brought to tears seeing the faces of the victims of this senseless tragedy. I can only hope that the families have found ways of coping with a tragedy that never should have happened.
Neisha
December 20, 2019
Every Christmas season Benjamin and your family are in my heart, mind, and prayers. Forever wishing peace and healing for you all. With my sincerest condolences, may he Rest In Peace.
Frances C. Uva
December 14, 2019
God bless you, Benjamin.
Thinking of all of you.
Sincerely,
September 19, 2019
Dear Wheeler family
Benjamin and your family are in my prayers
Benjamin Cardone
September 11, 2019
My name is Benjamin Cardone, I'm a Grandfather, when Benjamin's name appeared as one of the children murdered, I cried uncontrollably , maybe because we'er Both Benjamin's! I done know, I just know he has been in my Prayers since then ! Tonight for some reason , I thought about him and cried uncontrollably again! He will always be in my Prayers.
February 20, 2019
THINKING OF YOU
February 14, 2019
BEN
Happy valentines day
judy smith
December 30, 2018
as another year goes by -- we will never forget
December 29, 2018
prayers
Frances C. Uva
December 15, 2018
May God continue to bless all of you.....
December 14, 2018
The angels are trumpeting, in God's presence. You are there with them, in God's grace.
December 14, 2018
you are not forgotten beautiful angel.
September 12, 2018
thinking of you always
September 11, 2018
July 5, 2018
in my prayers
June 18, 2018
March 13, 2018
February 9, 2018
BENJAMIN AND FAMILY YOU ARE IN MY PRAYERS
February 8, 2018
January 11, 2018
IN my prayers
December 17, 2017
Never forgotten ❤❤❤❤ Thank you!
CHERYL
December 13, 2017
Thinking of you and your family,at this time god bless you all
December 6, 2017
November 13, 2017
IN MY PRAYERS ALWAYS
November 10, 2017
jimmy
September 12, 2017
happy birthday to you ben ,love you
August 26, 2017
in my prayers
August 24, 2017
LYNN POODIACK
June 21, 2017
Dear sweet Benjamin. I know that you are in the arms of our Lord. Bless you sweet child. My prayers are for you and your family.
Valenda Newell
June 20, 2017
PRAYERS AND BLESSINGS
Brian
May 1, 2017
Benjamin may you rest in gods loving arms forever.
CHERYL
April 16, 2017
HAPPY EASTER
jimmy
April 13, 2017
happy easter ben,love you
March 29, 2017
In my thoughts and prayers every day
March 24, 2017
love you ben
January 3, 2017
ALWAYS IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS
Sherry Gaby
December 17, 2016
Dearest family of Benjamin,
I am from Georgia and was visiting NYC this past week. I decided to sit down on a bench in Bryant Park that looked so welcoming on a very cold blustery evening. There I saw the plaque asking to "come and sit beside me" with Benjamin's name and life on earth dates. It was December 15. Benjamin has been in my heart since that day. I was drawn to the internet this morning to explore. Here he is, and now I know why. I have prayed for all the families and children of Sandy Hook since that day. I now know Benjamin, he is in my heart, we have sat together at Bryant Park. Thank you so much for the bench and thus the opportunity for me to learn more about your precious child's life.
james havens
December 16, 2016
merry xmass
December 14, 2016
I always say special prayers for Ben and your family. I have a son Benjamin who was born in 2006 and he also has an older brother. Please know that you all are always in my thoughts and I hope you have found peace.
December 5, 2016
PRAYERS EVERY NIGHT
james havens
November 10, 2016
love you ,jimmy
james havens
October 15, 2016
thinking of you ben ,love jimmy
September 15, 2016
always in my prayers
jimmy havens
September 11, 2016
happy birthday ben ,love jimmy
jimmy havens
August 3, 2016
ice cream for you ben ,from my heart to yours ,love jimmy
jimmy
June 8, 2016
ben you are always on my mind love jimmy
JIMMY
May 26, 2016
HEY BEN THINKING OF YOU ,LOVE JIMMY
April 20, 2016
Prayers every night
jimmy
April 18, 2016
love jimmy
March 25, 2016
prayers every day for you
jimmy
March 23, 2016
happy easter ben,love jimmy
jimmy
February 10, 2016
hey ben happy valentines day ,love jimmy
February 9, 2016
Thinking of you
Happy valentines day
February 7, 2016
thinking of you ben
jimmy
January 18, 2016
always thinking of you ben ,love jimmy
cheryl
December 26, 2015
prayers every night
jimmy
November 19, 2015
love you jimmy
November 13, 2015
thinking of you
candy for ben
jimmy
October 14, 2015
happy halloween ben ,love jimmy
Brenna
September 14, 2015
Happy belated birthday Benjamin. Love to you and your family.
M B
September 12, 2015
Forever in our hearts Benny. Happy birthday little pal.
jimmy
September 11, 2015
wishing you a happy birthday ben, i will light a candle on sept 12, love you jimmy
September 4, 2015
I SAY A PRAYER EVERY NIGHT
jimmy
August 7, 2015
a candle for ben
Natalie
July 29, 2015
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful child. Keeping your family in prayer.
July 18, 2015
you and your family are in my prayers every night
jimmy
June 16, 2015
hey ben wishig your dad a happy fathers day ,love you jimmy
May 18, 2015
thinking of you often
jimmy
May 14, 2015
for you ben ,love jimmy
jimmy
April 1, 2015
happy easter ben,love jimmy
jimmy
February 11, 2015
ben wheeler happy valentines day love you jimmy
jimmy
January 21, 2015
thinking of you ben on this winter day ,love jimmy
December 17, 2014
Thinking of Ben
jimmy
December 10, 2014
hey ben been two years of tears ,love jimmy
jimmy
November 19, 2014
hey ben be thinking of you on thanksgiving ,love jimmy
Sandra
October 22, 2014
You were adorable and I'm sure those who knew you were very lucky, Bennykinz. I can only hope one day to have a kid as cool, beautiful and talented as you seem to be.
jimmy
October 15, 2014
thinking of you ben, love jimmy
cheryl
September 13, 2014
I think of you every night
Brenna
September 12, 2014
Happy birthday Ben. May your family find joy and peace in their wonderful memories of you today.
Mike Bowie
September 11, 2014
On Friday 9/12/14, my wife and I will light a large candle for Ben on our front porch next to a model of a lighthouse we have. For Ben and all those lost, we will always grieve. Where we are from we have Annisquam Light, Twin Lights at Thatcher's Island, and Ten Pound Island Light. Where we live now we have Sannibel Light. God bless Ben, his family and loved ones, and the nineteen other beautiful children and six women. We will never forget.
happy birthday
jimmy
September 11, 2014
hey ben wishing you a happy birthday on september 12. miss you little buddy, love jim
Blanche Johnson
August 24, 2014
Little angels are never forgotten
They live in our hearts and mind
For they have graced this earth
Beyond there years and time
We will always remember you Ben
For you are the purest soul of a life lost much too soon
Thank you for being that little angel
That will live in our hearts forever
CHERYL
August 22, 2014
BEN I SAY A PRAYER EVERY NIGHT FOR YOU AND ALL THE LITTLE ANGEL
jimmy
August 15, 2014
hey ben lets have fun ,we love and miss you ,jimmy
Frances C. Uva
June 14, 2014
Dear Benjamin and Wheeler Family, Remembering you today. God bless all of you. Sincerely, Frances C. Uva
ben play ground
jimmy
May 19, 2014
hey ben you got your play ground ,looks great, love jimmy
CHERYL
May 18, 2014
BEN YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ARE IN MY PRAYERS EVERY NIGHT
CHERYL
April 20, 2014
WHEELER FAMILY, HAPPY EASTER, YOU ARE ALL IN MY PRAYERS EVERY NIGHT
Arlene Jenkinson
April 15, 2014
May God bless you and your family richly at this Easter season! You are in my thoughts and prayers!
Frances C. Uva
April 14, 2014
Dear Benjamin and Wheeler Family, Remembering all of you today as I do every day. Sincerely, Frances C. Uva
light house for ben
jimmy
April 11, 2014
Frances C. Uva
February 13, 2014
Dear Benjamin and Wheeler Family, With special thoughts of all of you on this Valentine's Day. Sincerely, Frances C. Uva
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