Stephen Arras

Stephen Arras

Stephen Arras Obituary

Published by Contra Costa Times on Jan. 22, 2010.
Stephen Kenneth Arras Resident of Walnut Creek Stephen, 38, a devoted son, beloved brother and kind uncle, passed away suddenly on January 19, 2010 at home. Born in Berkeley, California in October of 1971, Stephen and his family moved to Walnut Creek when he was three years old, and Walnut Creek remained his home for most of his life. Stephen attended Murwood Elementary School, Walnut Creek Intermediate and Berean Christian High School. He ran cross-country at Berean and graduated in 1990. Throughout his adult life, Stephen was a lover of all things horses and a "part-time" cowboy. After high school, he traveled throughout the American West and worked as a ranch hand, learning the cattle business. His stops included locations in rural northern California, Wyoming, Montana, Washington and Colorado. He attended a horsemanship school in eastern Colorado and also took equine related classes in Alturas, California. Among other cowboy jobs, he stayed and worked on a large cattle ranch in Wyoming. Stephen worked as a local contractor and small businessman in Contra Costa County, with remodeling and handyman work being his focus. He was a perfectionist and always wanted to get his jobs done right. Because of this, he had a faithful base of clients who repeatedly employed his services. Stephen was a true patriot and was always helpful, kind and unselfish, in the truest sense of the word-he was a friend to all. We will miss him greatly until we can see him again in Heaven, where we know he will be waiting for us all. Stephen is predeceased by his grandparents (of Minnesota and Connecticut), and is survived by his parents, Ken and Betty Arras of Walnut Creek; twin brother Eric of Sacramento; brother Chris and sister-in-law Mitzi of Petaluma; his nieces Tyra and Hannah and nephew Pierce. A memorial service is scheduled for Monday, January 25, 2010 at New Life Church, 2501 Danville Boulevard, Alamo. Viewing will begin at 11am with the service to follow immediately thereafter. After a post-service reception at New Life, Stephen's earthly remains will be laid to rest at Queen of Heaven Cemetery in Lafayette at approximately 2:30pm. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations in Stephen's name to St. Jude's Children Hospital, Memphis, Tennessee.

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January 20, 2011

Richel Curate posted to the memorial.

January 28, 2010

Chris Arras posted to the memorial.

January 27, 2010

Harold & Ina Young posted to the memorial.

Richel Curate

January 20, 2011

A year has passed and it seems like yesterday when we still talk and laugh together...Your memories will be forever in my heart...I may not have attended the service, but one day soon, I’ll get to visit...I promised myself to write here as soon as I have the courage to do so.., as soon as I’m ready to let go..
Thanks to the Arras family..May God bless you as we remember the fun loving memories we shared with him..

Chris Arras

January 28, 2010

The service was beautiful--
thank you to New Life Church for allowing us to use their very nice facility and a big thanks especially to all those who helped at the service and with all the preparations leading up to it.

Thank you to everyone who has left a guest book entry so far; to those who have spoken with my parents over the phone or visited; to those who have sent a card; to those who were able to attend the service for Steve; and those who have kept Steve and our family in your thoughts and prayers.

Not to mention all the flowers, gifts, meals and other support that all of our families' good friends and relatives have provided-- it is heartening to see the love that others have expressed through their actions. God bless you all and we look forward to staying in touch-- and for anyone who comes upon this guestbook after this message, please keep it alive by entering your thought or prayer. (And you can reach us by email link below.)

Harold & Ina Young

January 27, 2010

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

James & Debra Cannedy

January 26, 2010

Arras Family,

We do not have the words to say at this
trying time for you. But we do have the love & prayers for you all.

Tom and Anne Blake

January 25, 2010

May the God of all comfort bring the family closer together in love for each other. Ken, Betty, Chris, Eric and all the family, our deepest sympathies go out to you. Some day with joy you will meet Stephen again in Heaven.

frank arcari

January 25, 2010

dear,betty ken chris eric and mitzi iam sorry for your loss god is with stephen may he rest in peace iremember when you all visited ma on westgate street the boys where sleeping in the living room i came over for a visit and your dog attacked me i will never forget the memorieswill always be and god bless you all love junior

Chris Pipes

January 25, 2010

To the family of Stephen Arras -- You will be in my thoughts and prayers today as you celebrate the life of Stephen. It seems like just yesterday when I would pick up Stephen & Eric on our way to BCHS. Those were great days. I know today will be tough but may God give you peace and comfort through this difficult time.

Cat (Dayco) Guerra

January 25, 2010

To the Family of Stephen Arras,

May the Lord comfort and strengthen you during this difficult time. I'm so sorry to hear of this news. Though it's been a long time, I remember Stephen (and Eric) at Berean and what a kind and fun person he was. I was hoping to reconnect with him at our 20th reunion this year, but I know we will meet again one day in the presence of our Savior. I will keep you all in my prayers. May the love of our Father hold you at this time.

Diane Pryt

January 24, 2010

Dear Steve and Family,
You are all in our thoughts and prayers at this very difficult time. There are no words to express our sorrow. We will always keep the memories of Steve, the fond conversations we shared, and his amazing ability to repair anything very close to our hearts. He was always such a kind and compassionate young man... Everything he did was always with a smile, with manners, and with a spirit of giving and helping others. Our family will never forgot all that you have done for us. At times like this, words seem so powerless to express the feelings in our hearts. God Bless you Steve and all your family at this very sad time.
Diane, Frank, Nicki, and Jessi Pryt

Alexandra Clements

January 24, 2010

When i heard that Steve had passed away, i was the most shocked and devastated i have ever been about anybody's death. I just could not believe it. I am 22 years old and the concept of death is very hard for me to grasp especially when it is someone like Steve Arras. He has done so much for me and my mom over the years. He was so smart, he could fix almost anything and he did fix everything that needed to be fixed around our house. He was the sweetest, brightest and most special person. I enjoyed talking to him because he was such a character and not like everyone else. He was such a good person.

Thank you for everything Steve. We will sure miss seeing you around the here, it won't be the same without you.

Im so glad we had the pleasure to me him. We loved him dearly and thought the world of him. i only wish i could have more time with him on earth. I know that its the hardest for those of us still on earth because we miss him and we wont see him anymore but i know Steve is in a good place now.

To family and friends, we are so sorry about your loss.

Don Arcari

January 23, 2010

No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. My deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.

Terry & Dee Thompson

January 23, 2010

Dear Ken and Betty,

We can't imagine how painful this is for you. We know how much you loved Stephen and how much he will be missed. We also know that the Lord will give you comfort and strength to carry you through this difficult time.

We Love you and are grateful to have you as dear friends.

Betty Arcari

January 23, 2010

Dear Betty, Ken, Chris, Mitzi, Eric and grandchildren, What does one say when a tragedy occurs? There are no words to make it better.Just know all our love and sympathy are with you all at this time.The love of your family and friends , and the Lord will get you all through this trying time, though right now, you see no end to your grief.It does get better. Having gone through a double tragedy ourselves, we feel you hurt and dispair. Lean on each other, that"s what family and friends are for.It Will get easier in time.Be strong for each other---- Stephen is at peace.

January 23, 2010

Dear Ken & Betty, Patty and I are very sorry about your great loss. We know what you guys are going thru, as you may know we lost a Son Tim and I just lost my Brother Bob.. Life must go on all you can do is remenber the good things about the time Steve was with you. Pray, you will go on,but you will never forget Steve. Remenber He will always be with you & one day we will all be togeter.

Love
Patty & Dutch Beringer

Linda Bennett

January 22, 2010

Stephen,
You and your family have been a prayer in my heart since Tuesday when I heard you are no longer with your family here on earth. In talking with your niece, Tyra, I know your nieces and nephew will be missing your kindness and quiet generous spirit in their lives. We will always remember your quiet, kind presence in the family gatherings we attended. We know you have love and peace in heaven and we hope your family will find comfort during this difficult time.
Love, Linda and Al Bennett and Cody McConnell

Toni White

January 22, 2010

I'm so very sad and shocked to hear of Steve's passing. I will hold dear the memories of times we've spent sharing horse / life stories and remember always your great spirit and your quiet but witty sense of humor. You were as pure and honest as a person could be. My family appreciates all the hard work you've done for us over the years. I know your faith was very strong and I hope you are finding great comfort, love and joy in heaven. God Bless you and your family at this very challenging time.

Anthony Gonzales

January 22, 2010

Dear family and Friends of Stephen, I was told about his tragic death by my friend David Yuers. After reading his obituary I was suddenly struck with a feeling of loss for someone I never had the pleasure to meet. The pain of separation is the hardest thing in this life we must endure you are in my prayers as you now carry the cross of this terrible loss. May God bless and comfort you and I am so sorry to have never met Stephen, a fellow patriot and brother in Christ.
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Cheryl Arcari-Cannarella

January 22, 2010

Dear Stephen, although I never had the pleasure of knowing and growin up with you, you are still my family and will be missed in my heart! I too love and have horses. My beloved Jerry passed away 3 yrs. ago. So if you are going to be riding the Heavens, please watch over and ride my Jerry until we all meet again in Heaven! R.I.P my dear cousin! And also my deepest thoughts and prayers go out to my Aunt Betty, Uncle Ken, Chris, and Eric. God Bless you all during this very sad and difficult time. I love you all!!!..Cousin Cheri.

January 22, 2010

Dear Stephen, although I never had the pleasure of growing up with and knowing you, you are my family and will still be missed in my heart. R.I.P. my dear cousin. I too love and have horses. My beloved horse Jerry passed away 3 yrs. ago, so if you are going to be riding the heavens, please watch over and ride my Jerry. Until I meet you both again in Heaven, Cowboy up! Much love to you and my deepest thoughts and prayers to Aunt Betty, Uncle Ken, Chris and Eric..I love you all!! Cousin Cheryl Arcari-Cannarella

Mitzi Beringer-Arras

January 22, 2010

Dear Stephen,

May you find peace in heaven. I will miss you here on earth. I love you. Your Sister-in-law Mitzi

Chris Arras

January 22, 2010

Steve,

We will always hold our memories of you close to our hearts, to warm us while we complete our time on this earth. Then, when we meet again some day, we will tell you how important it was to us to have those memories of you in our lives. I know that, if there are horses in Heaven, you will be riding one. I pray that we will emulate all the wonderful characteristics and qualities that you displayed in your life-- your kind heart, your unselfishness, your giving spirit and infectious laugh-- as long as we walk this earth. Vaya con Dios, my brother, and I will see you some day on the other side...

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