Hailey Hunter Self

1995 - 2023

Hailey Hunter Self obituary, 1995-2023, Shawnee, OK

Hailey Hunter Self

1995 - 2023

BORN

1995

DIED

2023

Hailey Self Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jan. 6, 2023.

Hailey Hunter Self, 27, was born on April 6, 1995 in Shawnee, Oklahoma. She began her next journey on Wednesday, January 4, 2023. Hailey lived in Seminole, OK with her husband Zachary Self and their daughters, Hazel and Ezrah. 


Hailey was a cherished blessing to her mother, April Harjo and father, Virgil Harjo. From the beginning, it was clear that Hailey was a perfect combination of sweet, smart, and strong. She attended Varnum Public School and her green heart was forever a Whippet. She flourished at Varnum as an athlete and outstanding student. She met the love of her life, Zachary, at the age of six when their mothers became friends. High school is when their love story began and carried them to a beautiful and happy wedding with all their friends and family in attendance on October 7, 2017. They grew their little family with the additions of their beautiful daughters, Hazel Jude and Ezrah Jasper. Hailey’s proudest achievement was being the best mother to her girls, and she took great and thoughtful care in every detail of their lives.


At any given day you could find Hailey at Varnum school enjoying her role as a paraprofessional in the IEP program where she cared dearly about each and every student. Or you could find her at family events, or hanging out and laughing with Treven, Mvhvya and Travis, or anywhere else that her family needed her to be as Hailey always expressed her love in the most genuine way by showing up and standing beside you whenever she could. To be loved by Hailey meant that you had in your corner a fierce protector, loyal friend, and a guaranteed laugh with a dash of silliness.


Hailey was a proud citizen of the Seminole Nation, and a member of the Tallahassee band and Deer clan. 


Hailey is survived by her husband, Zachary and daughters, Hazel and Ezrah of the home; her mother, April Harjo; her Mimi, Gail Bowlegs; her brother, Treven Harjo and wife Alison; her sister, Mvhvya Gravatt; her father, Virgil Harjo and wife Faye; her sister, Jaylee Harjo; and a host of nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, and uncles.


Preceeding Hailey in death were her great-grandparents, Billy Joe and Lana Bowlegs.


Casketbearers will be: Ben Gravatt, Travis Loving, Curtis Larney, Jake Tiger, Roman Morrell, Dakota Factor, Tyler Miller, Brendon Johnson.


Honorary Casketbearers will be: Sekani Harjo and Kobe Miller.


A public viewing for Hailey will be held at Walker Funeral & Cremation Service on Friday, January 6, 2023 from 9:00 am to 3:00 pm. To honor Hailey’s memory, her family is holding a wake service on Friday, January 6th at 6:00 p.m. and a Celebration of Life ceremony on Saturday, January 7th at 1:00 p.m, both at the Varnum High School gymnasium in Seminole, OK.  We invite anyone who knew her to attend and celebrate her wonderful life. We ask attendees to wear Hailey’s favorite color, purple.

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March 8, 2023

Zoey Harrison posted to the memorial.

January 23, 2023

Izabella Gravatt posted to the memorial.

January 12, 2023

Lou Davis posted to the memorial.

Zoey Harrison

March 8, 2023

I’m so sorry what Hailey did but she’s in a better place now. I know it’s sad but Hailey wouldn’t want anybody to be sad she would want everyone to be happy just like she was. It’s so sad that im crying writing this.

Izabella Gravatt

January 23, 2023

It's going to be really sad living without Haley she was so important to me I was like her first child I love her I love her Hazel Ezra and Zach they were all important to me but most of all it was Haley I'm going to miss sharing memories that I already shared with her and new ones but I know no matter what I may not see her but I will always always have her in my heart.

Lou Davis

January 12, 2023

So sorry.. condolences to the family

Nancy Cordell

January 7, 2023

When I first started the 4th grade at Varnum, I was super nervous and didn't think I'd be welcomed or make any friends.. but Hailey was one of the first people to talk to me and I knew I would always have a friend in her. She truly was one of the kindest people in that whole school, with a smile that would lit up the celler on tornado drills... Haha but wherever she was, no matter what, she had everyone laughing. I remember when everyone figured out her initial were H.H.H. and from then on she was Triple H.. we took friendship pictures once in middle school and I'm so glad I'll forever have that picture because she was cheezing so big and that's how I'll always remember her.. I wish I would have let her know how much she helped me through the tough transition of being the new kid... I'm just happy I got to know her and have her as a classmate for all those years I'll never forget..so thank you Hailey... Thank you for being you.

Donna Wolford

January 7, 2023

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

Connie Elmore

January 6, 2023

Hailey a precious girl, with a precious family! Prayers and love to you all!

Delberta Vallejo

January 6, 2023

Thoughts and Prayers for Zac the girls and the Family. Words can't express what you all may be going through at this difficult time. Hope God wraps his arms around you. Love you Cuz.

Teri and Riley Cox

January 6, 2023

Hailey was such a bubbly person with a beautiful soul sending love hugs many many Prayers to you April, Zach her daughters and the rest of the families

Pamela Francis and Daniel Postoak

January 6, 2023

Keeping all the family in prayers

Chaney Watson

January 6, 2023

Rest in peace sweet girl

Prayers for the Harjo and self families!

Amanda Marson

January 6, 2023

You are such a beautiful soul

Sandra Akerman

January 6, 2023

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Tisha Tison

January 6, 2023

I worked with hailey at tdk she was funny smart very kind loveing it brakes my heart to hear this has happend she was new mother wife an amazing person. She will truly be missed she was such a happy soul we love. and for ever will miss u but ull live for ever in our hearts .tisha tison.

Kerri Carpenter Cheatwood

January 6, 2023

April my heart goes out to you and your family. You are definitely in my thoughts and prayers.

Dana Miller

January 6, 2023

We will always love you and miss you.

Cindy Goodnight

January 5, 2023

Prayers for comfort! Lys and I were reminiscing about the all the fun times these girls had at the house when Hailey would stay the night. Going to miss that beautiful smile!

Tara Pierce

January 5, 2023

I think I will always remember hailey when she would come over with her great grandma to visit my grandma she was always so active and man you could tell she was going to be smart as a tack but so friendly. My heart breaks for the families and you all are in my prayers

Connie Tipton

January 5, 2023

Rest in peace sweet girl.

Jane Boyers

January 5, 2023

Katherine and I called her Seminole Hailey. I loved her pure happiness, her sense of life, joy, love for Zach. Love and devotion to her girls, her mom, sister, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, family. We are so blessed that our paths crossed. I love you. I will see your joy in the purple sunrises and sunsets. Purple flowers and rainbows. Your legacy will continue through Hazel and Ezrah.

Teresa Sheppard

January 5, 2023

What a beautiful soul gone way to soon. She will be missed. Prayers for the family.

Misti Edwards

January 5, 2023

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Wendy Johnson

January 5, 2023

In loving memory of a wonderful & beautiful woman. Sending my sincere sympathies, love & prayers to all ❤

Heather De leur

January 5, 2023

I am so very sorry for your loss...I only knew her briefly through work...but she was so nice and funny and always had a smile in her face...she will be missed dearly

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March 8, 2023

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