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Hazel PAQUETTE Obituary
Peacefully at home, Tuesday, January 3, 2012 at the age of 79. Beloved wife of Paul Wurtele. Loving mother of Alan Connolly, Russell Connolly, Stephen Connolly, Kim Malone (Ken), Kathy Clowater (Michael), Michael Connolly and Robert Paquette. Cherished grandmother of Roger, Julie, Tyler, Jessica, Kyle, Karlie, Caitlin, Debra and Travis.
Great-grandmother of Joshua and Riley. Loving aunt of Georgia, Christine and Heather. Predeceased by her parents Harry and Ada Lebreton, sisters Ada and Margaret and brothers Charlie, Wilfred and Alfred. Friends may pay respects at the Kelly Funeral Home, 2313 Carling Ave. (west of Carlingwood) Friday from 3 to 5 and 7 to 9 p.m. Funeral Service Saturday in the Chapel at 11 a.m. In memoriam donations to the Heart and Stroke Foundation appreciated.
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103 Entries
kim malone
January 3, 2013
Mom
Here it, is my final entry...I know I put a lengthy one in earlier, but wanted to add one more thing. We came to visit you today on the 1st anniversary of your passing. Alan, Kathy, Paul, Caitlin, Alex, Sandy, Karlie and myself were there. I brought along candles , we each lit one and listened to the song "There you'll be", it was truly emotional for us all, Mom it is still very hard to believe that the year has come, so many times I relive that day, as I am sure many of us do. It is hard not too think of it...Mom, this book is a tribute to you and every time I look at it and read all the words that are written, it will be with our love for you and all you meant...I am saying goodbye on paper only, for you will never be gone from my life..until we meet again, goodbye and I love and miss you.
your daughter Kim
Visit to Capital Memorial on 2013-01-03
Paul Wurtele
January 3, 2013
My Hazel
Well my dear it's now been a year since your passing. So many things have happened during the past year; such as birthdays, anniversaries, special events, and a new addition to the family. The one thing that was missing on all of these occasions was you.
Each of the family members are adjusting to your loss in their own way and at their own pace. Even though you have left us we all know that you are now in a better place, namely in God's Garden.
“God looked around His garden and He found an empty place, He then looked down to earth and saw your tired face. He put His arms around you and lifted you to rest. God's garden must be beautiful, He only takes the best. He knew you were suffering, He knew you were in pain; He knew that you would never get well on earth again. He saw the road was getting rough, and the hills were hard to climb, so He closed your weary eyelids, and whispered, “Peace be Thine”. It broke our hearts to lose you, but you didn't go alone, for part of us went with you, the day God called you home”.
I know that you always loved to have fresh flowers in the apartment so I have continued to purchase them in your memory. I have also been looking after your Xmas cactuses as I know how much you loved and cared for them. When you see God please ask him If Roses Grow in Heaven.
“If roses grow in Heaven Lord please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my Hazel's arms and tell her they're from me.
Tell her I love her and miss her, and when she turns to smile,
place a kiss upon her cheek and hold her for a while.
Because remembering her is easy, I do it every day,
But there is an ache within my heart that will never go away”.
We are now in a new year and we as a family can only hope and pray that
2013 will be a better year for us all. The healing process will continue, but no matter what Hazel, you will always be in Our Hearts.
“We thought of you with love today. But that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday. And days before that too.
We think of you in silence. We remember how you look.
Now all we have is memories. And your pictures in our book.
Your memory is out keepsake. With which we'll never part.
God has you in his keeping. We have you in our hearts”.
I have attached a picture from our visit to Capital Memorial this morning.
Sleep well my love as you will always be in my heart.
January 3, 2013
Hello Mom, Here I am sitting up late from work and thinking of this time last year. At this time then, I was about 15 minutes from receiving Paul's call to say the words I dreaded to hear all my life, You were gone. So many thoughts passed through my mind while I worked tonight. So many memories to hold on to and share with others especially my sister and brothers. Sometimes it is hard but I will keep trying to do all that I know you would want me to. You taught me to be strong and to try my best at whatever I wanted to do with my life. I promise to watch over Caitlin and love her just as you did for me. I miss you Mom so much. I will always remember the years we had together, good or bad you were always there for us all. Paul, Kim, Alan, Caitlin and I will come say hello in a few hours for the last of our firsts. Rest well Mom. Visit me in my dreams. I Love You,
Kathy
Kim Malone
January 1, 2013
Happy New Year Mom,
We here we are 2013, how did that happen, how did a year go by so fast...We are fast approaching that dreadful day and I must say this week has been the hardest so far..I remember this time last year, you and I were chatting about how we spent New Year's Eve, Paul was recovering from being sick, Ken was in bed and we said that we would celebrate it together the following year...well Mom, it was not to be...I looked at your photo, sent you a hug and kiss and wished I could have jumped in there with you...I hope the new year brings us much hope and happiness and calms our fears and sorrows..I know you are up there and want us to keep moving on and keep holding on...it is difficult some days but we are doing just that...there will always be a ache in my heart that will never go away Mom, you hold such a big part of it and I will hold safely in there...rest well mom, shine down on us, guide us all in the right direction and know we love and miss you more than words can say..I love you forever and always
Kim
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December 29, 2012
Well Mom, It has been some time since I have left you a message. Christmas has come and gone. Everything was so white outside you must have sent it to us, you loved a white Christmas so much. I know you were with us but I wish I could have hugged you and heard the sound of your voice on Christmas morning telling me Merry Christmas. We had a nice time at Alan's. I really enjoyed meeting and holding Abigail. I told her I would tell her all about you and how much you would have loved to have met her. Caitlin is doing very well in school. She has passed all of her classes although she was upset that she messed up her grade in one of her subjects. Michael has been hoping to find a new job. See what you can do,ha. Steve is doing alright at Buster's. I know he misses you so very much just like the rest of us. I think of you all the time and talk about you too. I find it helps a little but it isn't the same. Soon we will visit you for the last of the firsts. We must deal with the first year without hearing you laugh or seeing your face. I miss you Mom always. I Love you.
Kathy.
December 28, 2012
Hi Mom,
Well here it is almost the end of the year.Christmas was pretty hard for me,even though I put on a brave face,but I miss you so much.But I know you were there in spirit.I could sense you in the house,my heart is so heavy with you gone,I think of you every day,I so wish this was just a bad dream and I will wake up and see you there in front of me.I was visiting deb at the hospital a week a go and I found myself looking for you when I went downstairs to get a coffee,I wasn't going back up till I found you.Everyone was wondering where I was,I had been gone for awhile.
I didn't want to believe you weren't there.
But I feel you around me and I will except that comfort knowing your still guiding me in the right direction.
I had christmas at the house this year mom,and I know you were there to.You got to see your newest great grandchild,Abigail.I am so happy for jessica and shawn,it was great having all the grandchildren and great granchildren here.Steve did a real great meal,one heck of a cook.Paul did okay,but I do know what was on his mind.
We are there for paul,no matter what,he is our family.
I will do what you asked of me,and keep an eye on everyone and pass on any guidance I can help with.Just like you taught me.
Love you forever.and always in my heart
Your son
Alan
Karlie Malone
December 27, 2012
Hey Nan,
Im sitting here thinking about how so much has happened over the past year. Going through the strengths I am found and the weakness I am still working through. Im going into my last semester of photography in a week. I didn't do so well as I wanted but I did work really hard. I just haven't found my groove that I need to produce a fully amazing book by April. Thinking about graduation isn't as enjoyable as it used to be. I reminded myself all the time that I need two tickets for you and Paul. I have said that to myself so often that it felt more like a motto them a reminder. It doesn't feel right knowing that I have to go to my graduation and I don't get to physically see you when I get off that stage I wanted to cross for so long. I know you will be there with me in my heart but sometimes I just really wish I could take you out of my thoughts for just a moment so I can hug you again . I sometimes find myself getting the pink minnie mouse sweater and smelling it because it still smells so much like you. I always smell your perfume everywhere I go hoping it's you around the corner.
I know you are proud of me Nan, no matter what I do. I miss you so much Nan and I am ever so thankful for having you as my grandmother.
Watch over my further,
Karlie
Candlelight Celebration of Memories on December 04th 2012
Paul Wurtele
December 27, 2012
My Dearest Hazel
Well my dear we are now in the Christmas season and I must say that I find it next to impossible to get into the Christmas spirit. I went into the storage room and took out all the Christmas decorations and tried to make the apartment at least look like we are in the Christmas season. I also sent out a number of Christmas cards (a combination of your list and mine.) This was done after I had completed my year in review note. For a number of the Christmas cards I also included a copy of the picture taken of us during our visit to Disney in May 2011.
On the 04th I attended a “Candlelight Celebration of Memories” at the Kelly funeral home on Carling Avenue. All the members of the family attended but at times it was very emotional but I believe it was a great experience for everyone.
On the 10th I visited with Bobby (the day before his birthday) and I had a nice visit with him as well as Debbie. I left his birthday card as well as Christmas cards (with gifts) for both Debbie and Travis. Nothing much has changed as his heath it's getting any better
On the 11th I took Sandy over to Capital Memorial so that she could visit will Garry. Nothing much has changed with her but things are now moving forward with Garry's estate.
On the 15th Ann and I went down to see the light display at Upper Canada village. The lights were beautiful but like the time we were there it was very cold.
The wind off the river was strong and it was hard to keep my fingers warm as I was taking my usual small number of pictures (OK.. please stop laughing.)
On the 16th we had our monthly family breakfast at the Kanata Family Diner. It now appears that Russ is probably going to lose his job. He will be getting a buy-out for which I hope he can hold onto the money.
On the evening of the 24th I went over the Kathy and Mike's to continue the tradition of visiting them and distributing their Christmas gifts. The house was nicely decorated and I received some nice Christmas gifts.
The 25th was a very busy day:
It started with breakfast at Kim and Ken's. The breakfast, gifts, and the visit were all great but of course the conversations eventually end up with a lot of reminiscing about previous Christmas days.
After leaving Kim and Ken's I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit. It was a beautiful day with a slight wind. I noticed that Kim had left a Christmas card in your flowers so I took a few pictures. While I was there with you about a million thoughts must have passed through my mind. After a while I went around the wall to where my niche is located. As soon as I stated that eventually I will be there the chimes started to sound. I knew then that you were there with me and that you were OK.
My next stop was a Alan's for the family gathering and gift exchange. All the family members (except for Russ) were present. We were also able to see the latest member of the family for the first time. She wasn't feeling that well but it was still great seeing her.
After leaving Alan's I proceeded over to Ann's for Christmas dinner. All of her family were present and I must say that I had an enjoyable visit. I was home by around 23:00 for it had been a long but overall a nice day.
I have attached a picture from the “Candlelight Celebration of Memories” held on the 04th. Sleep well my love as I miss you so very much especially during this Christmas season.
Kyle Malone
December 27, 2012
It has been a weird year. Growing up I remember the one person that was always there for every Birthday, Thanksgiving, Easter, Christmas and general family gathering was you, you were the constant. This year has been the year where we have slowly starting shifting the family tradition, and started having things in our new home, Thanksgiving and Christmas being the main two this year, and I wish you could have had the chance to see it. I am very happy that Paul has continued to join us, he has been apart of the family for as far back as I can remember and I am glad that has not changed. I'm not sure the holidays will ever feel normal again, and I don't expect them to. You will always be missed.
Love
Kyle
Karlie and I Xmas day 2012, our new hats (note mine is a polar bear)
kim malone
December 27, 2012
Mom
Well Xmas came and went, it is now the day after boxing day. We had a nice day on Christmas, but we all know someone was missing and that was you. I thought of you all day and found it hard at times to make it through, but one needs to remember what it is all about, family and friends and just forgetting for one day...Paul came for breakfast it was lovely, then we went to Alan's had a visit there, missed seeing Abigail though, Russ didn't show..Bobby is sick...then Ken and I and Karlie headed to Kyle and Sarah's,we had a lovely dinner, first time is many that I did not have to do any cooking.. They did an awesome job, we all received some lovely gifts and kept the true spirit of Xmas..We came home later and settled for the night...I sure missed my phone call at the end of the day..It was always something we did, talking about the day, how tired we were, jumping into our jammies and calling it a day..I thought of you so many times..you sure are missed, I ended up sick that night, some kind of flu I am sure, haven't been sick like that in years..still wasn't up to par the next day, but we headed up to see Ken's mom anyway...there is another storm brewing and we wanted to see her while we could. Ran into his grandmother out shopping on boxing day...pretty spry for a 94 year old I must say..we were able to give her, her presents then off to see Lil. She is doing ok, but misses Bren alot, maybe the both of you can keep an eye on her....I am off today and going to tidy up a little and take it easy, Karlie is working and there is a snow storm outside, so driving is poor..still feeling a little under the weather so I won't push it too much...wow, there are just too many things I want to say, I will just have to keep writing in your journal....Mom, you are missed more than words can say, there will always be an emptiness in my heart, but also a warm spot for you as you were such a big part of my life..Watch over us mom and keep us safe..
love forever and always
Kim
Xmas 2012,,placed on the tree in memory of you.
kim malone
December 25, 2012
Merry Christmas Mom...
Mom, well here we are it is Christmas day and it is one of the last first's..I still find it so hard to believe a year is almost gone. I went to visit you yesterday...It was early in the morning, quiet and peaceful..Your flowers were covered in snow and ice, I fixed them all back up, the sun was shining down and it lit your picture up so much it was glowing...it just didn't seem right to be wishing you a Merry Christmas there..it just isn't Christmas without you...It will be a different one for sure...I did leave you a Christmas card, after buying you one all these years, I felt I needed to continue that this year....the chimes were quite, not a peep out of them....Ken and I went to mass last night, my usual, Liz and her family were there as well and she told me afterwards that she lit a candle for you...I was touched for sure, you were on my mind through the whole service..I hope if it is possible, that the celebration in heaven is a beautiful sight to see, Christmas was your favorite time of the year. I of course am up early Ken and Karlie still sleeping...Kyle is at his home with Sarah..it is a change (not sure I like it)..my thoughts keep going to our usual phone call in the early morning, you filling me in on what Paul got you for Xmas, discussing our plans and meeting up later in the day...at least you are here in our hearts and (with hope)looking down on us...We are having dinner at Kyle's this year..it would be too hard to have it here, as my mind would drift back to last Christmas, having you here for dinner and knowing that it was the last time I saw you....it would be too hard..so it was best to change things up...keeping busy helps, cause the minute I stop, a thousand memories come flooding back...which is good but sad at the same time....Paul is coming for breakfast and then we will all meet at Alan's later on today...then I am heading off to Kyle's. So mom, know you will be in all our thoughts today and know you are missed more that words can say....I love and miss you each and every day...Merry Christmas Mom, I am sending you along a hug...
forever and always
Kim
Xmas 2012--just for you
kim malone
December 17, 2012
Hi Mom,
Well we are just shy of the week before Xmas...of course thinking of you often at this time of year (not that I don't always think of you) but this year for many reasons for sure...We had our monthly breakfast yesterday, as usual it was nice, we talked about the holdidays, what you would have been doing right about now, how exited you would get before the holidays, how we would compare who was done their shopping first....So many times I have sat here waiting for you to call, or I remember something I wanted to tell you, oh how I miss your voice Mom, I suppose it is a little harder with Xmas fast approaching, for many reasons, the final first, it still seems like it was yesterday, I can't say I am anxious for Xmas to get here, but I can say I am anxious for it to go...I know it is wrong for me to say that, but it is just how I feel this year....for many reasons for sure, but there is next year and I am sure you will allow me this one pass this year....I have been trying to keep myself busy, if I stop for too long, it all comes back in a flash and it is as raw today as it was almost a year ago...I am sure we are all feeling the same way, in our own ways too...Mom, so many thoughts run through my mind, so many "what if's", would this year had been any different for you....even though it is difficult to physically no longer have you here with us, it would have been far harder to see you get worse..you would have hated that, I guess we were lucky that things went the way they did...which of course was your way.....I do thank God for that.....Mom, you will always be with us, in our hearts, our souls, and forever in our minds...I love and miss you.
forever and always
Kim
December 7, 2012
Dear Hazel
Many months have gone by since l last wrote a note to you.This is the time of year that you loved the most. Many times over the past 11 months l have picked up the phone to call you to ask advise about one thing or another. just wanted to let you know l miss you and think about our many phone calls to fix things. Hope you are at peace.
Love and miss you
Georgia
kim malone
December 5, 2012
Hey Mom
It's me again, We went to Kelly's last night for a candlelight memorial service in memory of loved ones that have left us..It was beautiful, there was music and prayer, poems and singing..truly, truly memorable. They played a video of the loved ones we were there for, including two photo's of you...It was hard for sure, I lost if not long after arriving at the funeral home, remembering the last time I was there, same room, same chapel, it was difficult, it was like yesterday Mom, unlike the 11 months it has been, Paul, Alan, Russ, Steve, Kathy and Caitlin and Alex were all there, we each remembered you in our own way...I lost it of course when your photo came up on the screen, yep I am still a big sap...I told the others you were probably watching from above and saying "just stop you big ball baby", that got a few laughs, the poems they read were inspirational and I asked the lady that we dealt with before, to send them to me, I will add them to your memory book, at the end there were refreshments and deserts and everyone got to take home a butterfly as a keepsake, I will hang mine on my tree and think of you everytime I look at it....afterwards Paul, Alan and I went to Tai Ping, we talked of plans for Christmas and of course talked about you, I don't think you will ever be far from our thoughts.. Mom, I am so glad we went to this ceremony, I know and hope you were smiling down from above, I think it was a wonderful tribute to you, sending along a hug to you, cause I sure wish I could do it for real, but I feel better knowing you are with me wherever I go....until next time...I love you forever and always.
your daughter Kim
Kanata Family Diner .. November 11th 2012
Paul Wurtele
December 4, 2012
My Hazel
Well my dearest yet another month has pasted and it now has been eleven months since your passing. Not a lot has happened since I wrote you last. On the 11th we had our monthly family breakfast at the Kanata Family Diner. The time was moved up due to the fact that the boys were heading to the camp for the hunt.
Also on the 11th I took Sandy over to Capital Memorial so that she could visit will Garry. Not much has changed with her (same old Sandy) but it now appears that things are starting to move forward with Garry's estate.
On the 25th I visited with Bobby and I can only say that I'm becoming very concerned about his health as he has lost even more weight since I saw him last.
He's appears to be just existing and as if the fight is gone out of him.
On the 30th I went over to Capital Memorial as it was the 16th anniversary of my Dad's passing. I have been thinking about him quite often over the past few weeks. While I was there I visited the office and asked them to replace the vase on your niche. It has been there since Fred's passing in 1989 and is very tarnished.
When I visited you on the 3rd I noticed that they had replaced the vase on the niche. I also replaced the flowers (Kim's) that were there with some Xmas holly to reflect that we are now in the Xmas season. Kim will be coming over later today to add some additional flowers to the arrangement. I took a few pictures and again used the video function on the camera. It wasn't a very nice day and I must say this was the first visit that the chimes on the tree didn't make a sound.
I have attached a picture of the boys taken during the family breakfast on the 11th. Sleep well my love as I miss you so very much.
Dec 3,2012 (11 months today)
kim malone
December 3, 2012
Hey Mom,
Well I put an entry in earlier this morning but so far it has not shown up...so I am adding another just in case...So here I sit on the 11th month since your passing...this year has flown by so fast, I cannot believe the year is soon approaching...I came to see you today, all was quiet, Paul had placed some holly and ivy in your new vase, I added the remainder of the flowers in all your favorite Xmas colors...Oh Mom, this visit was as hard as the last one, I miss you so, maybe it is this time of year. I always found it emotional for as long as I can remember, but today bothered me alot. Sometimes I wish I could just stay there with you and be close by, but I know you are always with me and in my heart. The chimes were quiet not a sound at all. I sat in my car afterwards and watched them sway as I was leaving, but yet not a sound..."what were you trying to say Mom". Christmas is just around the corner and it sure won't be the same, times are changing, life goes on, but yet some things remain the same, and that for sure, is the loss I feel when I realize you are not at the other end of the phone, or dropping by or just knowing you are near. I drove by the QCH today and relived all those visits to the hospital, oh how I have come to hate that place, I am sitting here struggling with words to finish writing this, maybe knowing the end of this book is coming, or that the year anniversary of your passing is a month away, or it's the holidays, orthe fact that we are going to Kelly's tomorrow for a candlelight ceremony which is in memory of you. I am just not sure, but struggling I am. How can you put a life time of thoughts and memories to paper in such a such period of time, how do you put to paper things that were left unsaid or ran out of time to say them, how do you express all the things that run through your mind and not forget to leave anything out...they say that time heals all things, but they have to be wrong on
that mom, cause time has not healed my broken heart or the ache I feel when I know you are not there, it has not healed the empty feeling that overcomes me when I least expect it. I was looking through some of your papers today, just seeing your hand writing on some things, or something with your name on it is so difficult, but yet comforting to know that you are the reason I am here...I am not sure yet how I will make it through Xmas this year, I really don't expect it to be easy but maybe with the help of a few bottles of wine (ha) oh well, one minute at a time is the best I can do....so Mom, I am sure there will be a few extra enteries in your book, with it coming to an end, I need to get on paper things I am trying to say...I like to think of it as a wonderful tribute to you, and a treasure to have and look back on...Mom, I just can't seem to get the words across today...just know you are and loved, missed and will never be forgotten...until the next time
forever and always
Kim
this says it all..
kim malone
November 16, 2012
Mom,
I know it has been a short time since I added to your book, but you have been on my mind night and day lately. Christmas is a short time away, people are putting up lights, the Xmas music is playing on the radio, the stores are decorated and getting busy. I find this time very difficult as it will bring probably the second hardest first's to light...You loved this time of year as much as I did..everything about it...but I am finding myself procrastinating and avoiding what I love to do best at this time of year...I was in one of the stores yesterday searching for somethings and spotted all the decorations and paper and ribbons, it was tough, but I kept hearing you behind me saying " move!! keep going, you can do it" and something like "I will smack you if you don't" I managed to push through that section and kept saying to myself "this is for you mom" I know you would be disappointed in me if I don't keep up with my usual Xmas decorating (maybe not as much this one time) so for you I will, do my best and keep pushing myself and listen for you at my side....just remember though, this one will be all for you....I love and miss you with my whole heart and soul....stay by my side and keep me moving along.....
forever and always
Kim
Caitlin Clowater
November 12, 2012
Hey Nan,
It's been so long and yet so short of a time since I've said that. It breaks my heart knowing that I'll never get to say it again. I've tried to leave you a message so many times but I can't seem to get the words right. If I could take the pain in my heart and turn it into the right words I probably still wouldn't be satisfied. You were such an important part of my life and I'll cherish each memory we created forever. I'm so thankful for all the time we shared Nan because without these memories I think I'd go insane with how much I miss you. I'm in college now and I wish I could hear you tell me how proud you are of me, I feel it though everyday. The hardest part of course is that Christmas is coming and I have no idea how to handle it. Christmas was so you Nan especially Christmas Eve here with you and Paul, Mom, Dad, Uncle Steve and whoever happened to show up. I know you'll be with us in our hearts but I know Christmas won't be the same for me for a long time. It's nothing like having you here physically just for one more hug, I wish.
I love you Nanny, always.
Caitlin
If I could light all the candles in the world for you I would.
kim malone
November 11, 2012
Hey Mom
Well here it is Remberance day and of course it is raining...we had our monthly breakfast this morning, Mike is home so it was nice to have everyone together. The boys were heading off hunting after breakfast. Roger was there too...we had some good chuckles remembering many things from years gone by...We received a letter from the funeral home that there is going to be a Candlelight Celebration of Memories on Dec 4,12, we are all going to go and we sent along a photo to be used...it is based along the fact the the holidays are coming...yeah....honestly Mom, I wish it would just go away...I know, you loved Christmas as much as me, but I am sure you know this year will not be an easy one...I said as much at breakfast and Kathy told me that you would be mad at me and smack me.....I think she is right.....well it has been a rough few weeks, you know my usual luck thing, washer and dryer on the fritz, replaced them, the new washer didn't work, dishwasher sprung a leak, needs parts, Ken had his leather coat stolen along with two cell phones and the icom for his hearing aids.....ha...I can hear you now saying, "when will it ever end"....well look at it this way, if bad luck follows me, then maybe it will leave someone else alone......Mom, with the thought of rememberance day, I like to think that it also includes the ones we have lost too and the war they fought along the way...and you did just that,,,I look at so many pictures of you and have such a hard time seeing how much two short months made such a difference with you....somedays those pictures are just too hard to look at, so I like to look at the ones where you were healthy and full of life.....know Mom that you are always thought of, we all miss you, each in our own way, but with all that we have....today is just one of those days that it is hard to accept and my heart aches with how much I miss you....thank God for the memories.....nothing will ever replace that......I wish I could put it all to paper for you to know what I am thinking, but I would be here forever doing that, as Russ said in his earlier one....I know you left this world knowing that you were loved and that you would be missed, I hope you are always looking down on us and watching us always, Mom I know that someday we will be together again and I hope you will meet us wit open arms and give us that hug we are all missing so much....until the next time...be at peace Mom, I love you forever and always.
your loving daughter
Kim
Russ Connolly
November 11, 2012
Well Mom,finally got the strength to come to this site.Through all the trials and problems I caused through my life,you never gave up on me.I don,t believe I could of had a better loving mother than you.Every morning I wake up ,you were always my first thought.I miss your phone calls every week,you always managed to cheer me up when i was down.you made day to day bearable.yoursmile made everything less off a trial,you brought joy to my existence and Iwant to thank you for that.You will never be out of my prayers,my thought and heart will always keep you close.Missing you Mom,love you!You earned your wings long before you left for heaven.Thank you again for being the best mom in the world!
Capital Memorial Gardens October 03rd 2012
Paul Wurtele
November 3, 2012
My Hazel
Well my dearest another month without you has arrived and I still find it hard to believe that it's has now been ten months since your passing. So much has happened during the past month. We celebrated Thanks Giving (another first without you) at Sarah and Kyle's. Prior to going there, Karlie and I went over to the Gatineau Park to take some pictures. You would have loved the colours even though the weather didn't co-operate (to many clouds.) On the 16th I had breakfast with Liz, Peter, and Danny's In-laws. I hadn't seen them in a few years so we did some catching up on how they are doing as well as how things are going in Winnipeg. On the 21st we had our usual monthly breakfast at the Kanata Family Diner. Kathy didn't make it this time as she and Mike had gone away to Kingston to celebrate their wedding anniversary. I was very pleased to learn that Russell was able to retain his job. Since I was going to be away for Alan's birthday (on the 27th) I gave him his gifts during our breakfast.
On the 25th I started my journey down to Columbus Ohio for Marnie and Matt's wedding. The drive was long (650+ miles) as well as very warm (or should I say very HOT!!). The hotel room was very nice and as it turned out the hospitality suite for the wedding was just across the hall. The wedding on the 27th was great as I met a lot of very nice people as well as got re-acquainted with a number of other people. My trip back to Syracuse was to say the least very exciting, as I had a “close encounter” with an 18 wheeler. If it wasn't for my quick reflexes I may not be writing this note today. I had asked the family members to provide me with their Xmas list prior to my departure so I was able to start the shopping while I was in Syracuse.
Kim and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit this morning. Kim replaced the flowers on your niche. I took a few pictures and also used the video function on the camera. While we were there some people were placing Canada flags on the graves of the military veterans. I borrowed a flag and placed it on my Dad's grave. Today I found it harder than any other time that I have visited as my mind was just racing. I don't know if it was the day, the cold weather, the flags being placed on the graves but I left there today completely drained (both physically and emotionally).
I have attached a picture from our visit to Capital Memorial today. Sleep well my love as I miss you so very much.
Russ posted this on facebook, how true it is
kim malone
November 3, 2012
Mom
As I am sitting here today, reflecting on the 10 month mark since you have been gone, so many things run through my mind. We made it through more first's, birthday's, anniversarie's, halloween (you loved that time too) Paul went on his first trip alone with out his co-pilot, the boys are getting ready to go to the hunt camp, Mike is coming home soon and some more first's will fast approach....we have made it through, not to say there has been no scrapes or bruises, laughter or tears, for those things will always be a part of our lives, as you will always be...as time goes on, so many memories come to mind, many, many happy memories for sure, some days I make it through talking about you and doing ok, but others not so much...knowing that you are where you are and not in pain and hanging on to make it through another day, brings me some comfort in many ways, we were blessed that you left this world as you did, but there are some many things I wish I had a chance to say, but I know that if I look around, you are always near, for I know that I will forever be a part of you and you of me....I just need to look at your picture and it brings a smile to my face....Kathy and I had our annual fall candle party, it was easier this time that the first and all I needed to do was look up and see your photo on the wall and know you were right there with us...we are all plugging through, taking it one day at a time....Mom, there are just so many things I want to say, but the words fail me sometimes, trying to put it all to paper just doesn't cut it, know that I love you and miss you and you are always in my thoughts, I will be out to visit you in a few hours, I hope the chimes are ringing....I was watching a show the other day, I got hooked on watching the show "medium from new jersey" anyway she was telling someone that they had released balloons at a graveside and that the loved one they sent the balloons to was up above holding onto those balloons, it made me think of the six we sent up to you on your birthday and mother's day....anyway, I could picture you holding onto those balloons we sent you, except for the "80" one, I know it got stuck in the tree for a reason....but then it found it's way up...it gives me comfort in thinking it could be possible...Mom, words fail me today, for I have some many things running through my mind and can't seem to sort out all those thoughts, so for now just know I love you, and miss you more than anything in this world, even though I may say it many times over, you will be forever and always in my heart and soul,
forever and always
your daughter Kim
my anniversary flowers, your favorite of course
kim malone
October 21, 2012
My dearest Mom
Well here were are midway into October. A few more first's along the way...we bypassed my birthday, Karlie's 24th birthday, Ken and I celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary and Kathy and Mike celebrated their 24th, Alan's birtdhay up next...as usual time is slipping by...we had our monthly breakfast this morning..it was nice as usual..Kathy was missing though, as her and Mike were in Kingston...Russ got to keep his job which is good we are hoping he can hang on long enough to at least get closer to the 60 mark, it would be to his advantage..Roger turned 39....wow, can you believe it...I can just hear you saying" Oh my God I am getting old....but I feel 29.....ha, the boys are starting to plan the annual deer hunt, Mike is coming home, he is planning to get his surgery done this time round, Paul is heading out this week to Marney's wedding, it will be his first big trip without his co-pilot as he says....been thinking of you lots, but then I always think of you...this year is coming to an end and with that so many things will come to end as well, all the first's will be done...I don't like to think about that too much, as it means closure, which I never liked. Kyle and Sarah are in Florida right now, they are dragon boat racing. They are in Disney as we speak, having a great time..it is Halloween in the theme parks all this month, Karlie would like to go there for her 25th birthday, wouldn't that be fun...The weather is starting to change, darker in the morning, colder, almost looks like a snow day today...well mom, just wanted to chat for a bit, and know I am always thinking of you and miss you more each day that goes by...I love you and miss you...
forever and always
your daughter Kim
Camp Fortune (Gatineau Park) October 2012
Paul Wurtele
October 8, 2012
My Hazel
Well my dear we have now reached another holiday namely the Thanks Giving weekend and you are not with us. On Saturday Ken and I went over to the AMC theaters to see the movie “Loppers”. I must say that it was a very different movie but the acting was great. We originally were to go during the afternoon but we ended up going to an early-evening show. During my visit with Kim I gave her our birthday gift as well as a very sentimental card (from the both of us) and Kim soon started crying. On Sunday morning Karlie and I went up to the Gatineau Park and we did our usual tour. The day was a typical fall day which you would have really loved, but unfortunately there were a lot of clouds so the pictures I took were not as colourful as they could have been if it was a sunny day. Karlie and I took the ski lift to the top of one the ski hills at Camp Fortune (yes my dear I know that there was no way you would have done it) and I was able to take some pictures during the ride up, at the top of the hill as well as during the walk down.
After returning to the apartment Kim and Ken picked us up for the trip the Sarah/Kyle's for Thanks Giving diner. Going down the 105 the view of the Gatineau hills was beautiful and you should have seen the cars trying to get into the park as they were lined up back onto the off ramp. We all ended up bringing something (munchies/fixings/deserts) and the kids really put on a great meal. During part of the afternoon I ventured out around the property to take some pictures of the fall colours. The day was very nice but of course there was always the issue of my missing wing man (namely you!).
Brian survived his stay at his brother's house and is now back down in the states. He has spoken with Mike a few times during his visit to Canada and again in the states, but I haven't heard a word from Mike for some time. The next family events are our monthly breakfast gathering at the Family Diner (October 21st), Alan's birthday (October 27th) and of course my trip down to Columbus Ohio for Marnie/Matt's wedding (also on October 27th). I will be giving Alan his birthday card and gift during our family breakfast gathering on October 21st.
I have attached a picture from our visit to Gatineau Park. Sleep well my love.
Kyle and Sarah preparing thanksgiving dinner 2012
kim malone
October 8, 2012
Hey Mom,
Happy thanksgiving...thinking of you today and missing you as always, you are never far from my mind..well we made it through another first, thanksgiving, Michael's birthday, mine tomorrow....I am having a hard time with that one, my birthday was never a big thing for me (at least not when I got older) but this year it bother's me for sure, I think it is more not hearing your voice that get's to me the most...anyway , we went to Kyle and Sarah's for dinner yesterday, it was really nice, they did a great job, Kyle even picked place mats to decorate the table with, wow, I was impressed maybe we do rub off on our children after all. It was a nice day, the drive was beautiful all the colors in full bloom, you would have loved it...Paul and Karlie went to the gatineau in the morning to take photo's, Paul and her went up on the ski lift and took pictures, Paul said that he tried to get you to go up there in the past, but no go...Paul brought me a birthday present from you and him, with a beautiful card that made me cry...you taught him well, I thought I was bad for picking up cards....anyway when we drove Paul home I noticed all the halloween decorations in the lobbey and couldn't remember seeing them last year, then it dawned on me that I wasn't at the apartment last year at halloween, you were in the hospital with your last surgery...too many reminders lately....oh well, just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you today and know in my hearts of hearts you will be thinking of me and wishing me a happy birthday...I love you mom....
forever and always
your daughter Kim xoxo xoxo
Fall colours at Capital Memorial (2012-10-03)
Paul Wurtele
October 3, 2012
My Dearest Hazel
Well my dear we have now reached the 09th month since your passing. A lot has happened since my last note. Brian has arrived and has been staying at David's which I guess has been fun for him (Ha ha!!). Last Sunday Kathy, Brian and I went up to Douglas for a visit. The stone that Mildred erected is really something to see and the plaque that Brian made for WJ is starting to show some weathering. A few weeks ago I was in a mood to revisit my past, so I visited my old family homes (Arnprior as well as in Ottawa) and the schools/churches I attended. I also visited Ada and Art's graves as well as my relatives in Arnprior. Ann came along and she was great company during my trip through memory lane.
Sandy, Kathy and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit this morning. I took a few pictures as well as I also used the video function on the camera. The flowers that Kim had replaced are still very beautiful. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited the usual suspects. After our visit we went over to the Kanata Family Diner for a late breakfast and some reminiscing.
I have attached a picture from our visit to Capital Memorial today. Sleep well my love as the fall colours have now reached there best. To say the least you would be in your glory (as per normal) at this time of the year.
Mom, on one of many trips to the gatineau hills
kim malone
October 3, 2012
Hey Mom,
Well here we are again, we are at the 9 month mark now, imagine, I still find it hard to believe. Time is going by so fast, life goes on and time marches on, but the memories of you will always remain. We went through another first, Mike's birthday came and went, mine is next. It will be hard not getting my call from you or my card in the mail...but I know you will be thinking of me. I miss you mom, so many things I wished I had said or done, but we tend to let things slide and before we know it , it is too late. I have so many wonderful memories, and know that I did the best I could and hope it was enough for you. It is fall now, the leaves have changed colors it is really beautiful. It will be strange not to hear about your usual trip to the gatineau hills, you loved this time of year so much. Karlie will go with Paul this year and I am sure they will both be thinking of you.. not like we never think of ou.Thanksgiving is this weekend, we are going to Kyle and Sarah's, Paul is going with us. It will be nice, I am sure the colors will be spectacular...Kyle and Sarah are doing all the cooking, I don't have to do any this year. Yeah...all I have to do is bring the turkey....(not a nice thing to say about ken)ha...see I haven't lost my sense of humor, I can hear you chuckling now.....stop laughing or you will pee your pants.....We are still going through our struggles, each in our own way, but we still talk about many memories and things of our past...you had a huge effect on us all..I went into walmart the other day, I had been avoiding going in for some reason, but I finally went in..I now know why I avoided it...the first thing I spotted was something you always had close at hand, followed by halloween decorations, followed by Xmas decorations, it was hard,you loved this time of year...I hurried out of the store then lost it, I had to sit in the car until I could drive home,yeah, yeah, I can hear you now, "oh my sensitve Kim, she is my weepy one"" yep, I can hear it for sure...John passed away last week (you know Ann and John) he had not been well for some time, I told Ann he was with you now and I am sure you are sharing a good laugh...I am sure you and Kaye and Aunt Ada have probably started a revolt by now, probably mad you missed so many of your shows or you haven't been out shopping...I bet you are causing havoc.....ah..if only Mom.....we will be planning our next breakfast soon, we want to do it before Paul goes away,I am sure that will be a hard trip for him, the first for him without you...he promised he will keep us posted of his travels. Well mom, I could go on forever, but I will save something for our next entry...but in keeping with the true
tradition of thanksgiving, here is what I am thankful for....Mom, I am thankful for your love and caring, for giving me life and making me into the woman I am today. I thank you for all the support, for being there and for surviving six kids that could drive anyone insane, I thank you for sharing all our joys, our sorrows, the tears and the pain, for the good and the bad, for being there no matter what...even when you were too sick and too tired, you still held onto that title of Mom...thank you for bringing Paul into our lives and for the person he is, for all his love and support and taking such good care of you all those years...thank you for the laughter and all the hugs I miss so much, Mom, I thank you from the
bottom of my heart for all that you were, for the happiness you brought into our lives, thank you for holding us all so near and dear to you...you will forever and always be in our heart, our souls and our thoughts, gone but never forgotten..nothing, no one or anything can ever take that away.
Happy thanksgiving Mom,
forever and always your loving daughter Kim
Capital Memorial visit on 2012-09-12
Paul Wurtele
September 17, 2012
Dearest Hazel
Well my dear yesterday was our monthly family breakfast gathering at the Kanata Family Diner. Kathy is still working but only in a casual position. We are hopping that something permanent will eventually happen. Russ will probably be out of a job as there is more down sizing going on at the Citizen. He will be bumped by a person with more seniority. He expects to get a buyout but only time will tell. After breakfast I went over to Kim's for a short visit and then headed for home. Later in the afternoon I met up with Ann and we took a drive down to Brockville. It was a beautiful day (the type of day you really loved as you could almost feel that fall is just around the corner). We had a very nice time.
Sandy and I went over to Capital Memorial on the 11th as it was the sixth month since Gary passed away. That night I made some decisions so on the next day I went back over to Capital Memorial and made the necessary funeral/burial arrangements. I can only say that I costs money to enter this world and it's sure not cheap to leave it either. This has been on my to-do list for some time (but I must say that it was not near the top) so now it's a done deal. The strangest part of the process was choosing my own casket. While I was there I took a few pictures as well as I also used the video function on the camera. Sandy added a witch (as Halloween isn't that far away) to Kim's fall coloured flowers. We both had a good laugh as you know what her nickname for you was. The flowers are very beautiful. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited the usual suspects.
I have attached a picture from our visit to Capital Memorial last week. Sleep well my love as we all miss you greatly but we also know you are in a better place.
your great-grand daughter Abigail 2012
kim malone
September 16, 2012
Hey Mom
Well we had a monthly breakfast this morning, the usual characters were there, as it should be. Paul, Alan, Russ, Stephen, Kathy and myself along with Ken. We had a nice time and as usual the conversations include you..we speak of you often with love and affection, I can see you looking down on us and know that you would be proud of us for doing this, you would have enjoyed every second of it for sure, I think it is good for all of us too, it brings us together more often and I think we are all getting closer each month that goes by...It is good for the soul and I think it is something we all need and want..Paul is doing fine mom, we are watching over him and treat him as family, which he is and always will be, there will always be a place in our hearts and home for him....this is one thing you can be sure of and that will not change...we are heading into the fall now and heading for some more first's. Michael's birthday is coming up shortly, I remember how I had everyone here last year for that, knowing full well that it would probably have been the last time you had all your family together in one place, you knew more than you let on...that I would bet the farm on......soon it will be mine, Karlies, my and Kathy's anniversaries, Alan's birthday and Roger's...these will come and go, although it will be hard not seeing a card from you or speaking to you on the phone (that is still the hardest thing of all)but, in my mind the worst is yet to come, Xmas will follow then we hit the year mark....these thoughts are never far from my mind, even though the healing process has started, when I stop to think for a minute, the memories all come back...I guess this will always be something that will cross our minds and tug at our hearts, but know one thing for sure mom, no one would want to see you go through what you did we know that it was very hard for you too...knowing that you are at peace and free of pain and sorrow, makes things just a little easier (just a little though) we will always love and miss you...and if it were possible to turn back the hands of time, we all know that the circle of life must go on, someday we will all be together but for now, you are always, always with us....we love and miss you , forever and always
your daughter Kim
Fall flowers for Hazel.. September 03. 2012
Paul Wurtele
September 4, 2012
My Dearest Hazel
Well my dear another month without you has arrived. It's hard for me to fathom that it's now eight months since your passing. So much has happened (as well as about to happen) since I last wrote. You now have another great grand daughter (but we haven't seen a picture of her as of yet.) Karlie and Caitlin will be returning to school as of Tuesday. How time has flown as it seems only yesterday that the summer had arrived and now it's already September. On Saturday I took Ann down to Watertown on a day trip. She hadn't been there for years and was very happy to tag along. We met up with Kim, Ken, and Karlie down there. I did some shopping and was able to pick up a great birthday gift for Alan. I also have some very good birthday and Christmas gift ideas. Sandy and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit this morning. I wasn't sure that she would be able to visit today as her feet were badly swollen again and she was in a lot of pain. I took a few pictures (yes I know my dear as I don't know what a few pictures mean!) as well as I also used the video function on the camera. Kim has replaced the summer flowers with ones of a fall colour. She did a great job as the flowers are very beautiful. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited the usual suspects.
I have attached a picture from our visit to Capital Memorial today. Sleep well my love as I miss you more than words could say.
a poem from heaven 2012
kim malone
September 3, 2012
Hey Mom
Here we are, 8 months today that we have been without you. It is hard to believe that time has gone by so, so fast. It is labour day weekend, a beautiful one at that, Ken and I and Karlie went to Watertown on Saturday. This time last year we were in Syarcuse. We didn't go to Collingwood as our usual, the drive is too long and too hard on Ken. The weather is starting to get cooler, darker in the morning and darker earlier in the evening. It's funny, that was the time you hated the most..All is well Mom, Jessica had a little girl just over a week ago, named her Abigail... I hope to see her soon. Kyle and Sarah are doing well, adopted another dog named Bailey, Karlie heads back to school tomorrow, her second year in photography, she is exited to go back. Caitlin goes back too Mom, in the hospitality field, you would be happy that she is going back too, it meant alot to you. We are all doing ok Mom, hanging in and taking one day at a time. Our next breakfast will be in two weeks, so far we are holding true to your wish..Some days are just so hard to fathom that you have been gone this long, time just keeps flying by, we still have some rough days ahead for sure, been thinking alot about this time last year, (well October at least) when we all got together for my birthday, that was our first time doing that, how we all loved it and said we would do it again, and here we are already, but one very precious thing is missing,and that is you...so many memories to treasure though whick makes it just a little easier. I am getting ready to come and visit you, changing your flowers today to the fall colours, which you loved, I am sure you would have already had things changed in the apartment by now to accommodate the seasons, we are so much alike in that way..I am attaching a poem that Russ posted on facebook, I thought it was so touching and appropriate, see you soon mom, miss you every day, always in my thoughts and in my heart, forever and always
your daughter Kim
Outside the Family Diner on August 19th 2012
Paul Wurtele
August 20, 2012
My Hazel
Well my dear on Saturday Sandy and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit as August 18th would have been Gary's 64th birthday. I took a few pictures (yes I know my dear!) as well as I also used the video function on the camera. When I played one of the videos back I could actually hear the chimes ringing. Sandy wanted to visit Gary/You even though her feet were badly swollen and she was in a lot of pain. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited the usual suspects.
On Sunday we had our monthly breakfast gathering at the Family diner. After that Ken and I headed over to the show to see the movie Expendables 2. It was great with a lot of action. After the movie I dropped Ken off and then went over and visited with Ann. We had a nice visit and I ended up staying for supper.
I have attached a picture of the crew taken outside the Family Diner on Sunday morning. Sleep well my love.
Kim, Ken and Karlie - fall of 2012
kim malone
August 20, 2012
Hey Mom
Well we had our monthly breakfast yesterday morning, it was great, enjoying our visits, and always keeping you close by...I had a terrible dream about you, shared it with the family, I was so mad at you in that dream, glad that is all it was, it was a strange one for sure though..Paul and Ken went to the show afterwards. Ken and I went to the states the day before, did a litlle Xmas shopping....not the same though ,you and I were always talking about it, not looking forward to that holiday either, we both liked Xmas so much, all the colors and decorations, it will be another first, then we hit the final first's and then repeat the cycle all over again but the hardest part will have passed. We do think of you often Mom and we are slowly healing in our own way. I picked up some flowers to change in your vase, I will be there soon to do that, can you believe it Mom, we are heading into September, the weather is changing, cooler in the evenings now and dark early and of course dark when I get up, I actually had to put a sweater on yesterday...Oh well again it is another circle of life with the change if seasons....well mom, keep those chimes ringing, Paul took a video a few days ago at the cemetary and can you ever hear those chimes ringing, it is a beautiful sound for sure...love you mom and think of you each and every day.
forever and always your loving daughter who misses you more than words can say
Picture from Capital Memorial August 2012
Paul Wurtele
August 14, 2012
Hazel
Well my dear on Saturday Sandy and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit as August 11th was five month since Gary died. Kim during her last visit replaced your picture because somehow water had gotten inside the plastic cover and had ruined the picture. She did a great job and with the lamination on the picture it should last for some time. I took a few pictures (yes I know my dear I don't know what a few pictures means) as well as I also used the video function on the camera for the first time. The videos were just OK so I will review the owner's manual before I try it again. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited a number of people.
The weather has been changing as we are now getting some rain but I believe that it's too late for the farmers' crops as the damage has already been done. I can only imagine what this is going to do to the food prices in the fall. Brian will be heading north as of the end of August and will eventually be here in Ottawa sometime after the 15th of September. He will be staying at David's while he is here in Ottawa.
I have attached a picture of the Statue beside where my parents are buried at Capital Memorial. Sleep well my love as I miss you more than words could say.
Karlie, Mom and Paul
kim malone
August 3, 2012
Mom,
Well I just came back from visiting you, Karlie and I went after I picked her up from work, I put up a new picture of you, and lamenated it, this time the weather won't damage it, it looks good, the chimes started ringing as soon as I got there, of course I said hello mom, Karlie visited with you first, she had a hard time, she misses you so much, then of course it was my turn, we chatted for a bit, it is still so hard to believe I am visiting you there and not at the apartment, I miss our times, and our visits, not so much the visits a the hospital, as you hated it there...I wasn't ready to leave, so Karlie and I walked over to the wall of memories, chatted with Aunt Ada and asked her to keep an eye on you...it is such a beautiful place there, so peaceful and there is just something comforting about it...we went into to check out the chapel and the visitation rooms, it sure is nice...I think that is where Ken and I will do our thing.....I sure hate to leave when I visit you, I could sit and talk with you for hours, but I know that when I return home and see your picture, you are always with me no matter where I go...rest easy Mom, I love you , forever and always
Kim
Chimes at Capital Memorial on 2012-08-03
Paul Wurtele
August 3, 2012
My dearest Hazel
Well my dear today makes it seven(7) months since your passing. Things have begun to stabilize (at least for now) on the job front with Kathy and Russell. Sandy's issues are still ongoing, but I have to believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel for her. The summer has been very warm (even for me) and I know you would have had a very hard time with the heat and humidity. We haven't had much rain in over a month and even the trees are having a hard time. The farmers expect to loose most of there crops so I can only imagine what that is going to do for the price of food this fall.
The family members are still having a hard time dealing with your loss, with each one dealing with it in their own way. I guess I will never get back to sleeping through the whole night as I'm still waking up at least four or five times during the night. I come home from work and I'm tired but not sleepy, so I end up going to bed at around 01:30. Today Sandy and I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit. She had to visit the office to handle some issues from Garry's passing and then we visited with you. While Sandy was over visiting Garry the chimes started ringing so I knew that you where there with me. Before leaving, we made the rounding and visited a number of people.
I have attached a picture of the chimes from today's visit to Capital Memorial. Sleep well my love as you well know how much I miss you.
Mom, in Old Orchard Beach(Maine)
kim malone
August 3, 2012
Mom,
Here we are again, it is now 7 months since you have been gone. Time is slipping away. Every year we talked about how fast the time is going, but I think this year seems to be going at lightning speed, like fast forwarding a video. It's funny to think that at this time, you and I are usually talking about our Xmas shopping, one of us are saying, I started mine, or you say you started yours..I miss that for sure, it is hard to believe that we will have to go through a few more firsts to get there...it has been such a beautiful summer mom, although very hot. You would not have liked that...sure not alot of rain at all, it has ruined alot of crops for the farmers, and brush fires are a major concern. I relive so many many memories of days gone by. I am sure all your loved ones do the same. You left your mark on all of us for sure Mom and you are so missed each and every day. They say that time heals, life goes on, things get easier as time goes by, but they neglected to say that next to loosing a child, a parent is just as hard. Some days are harder than others. But one day at a time for sure. Here we are heading into August. Karlie getting ready to head back to school next month. Kyle and Sarah enjoying their new house. Time is going by for sure...Mom, know that you are missed and thought of so, so often. I love you and miss you mom, more so today than yesterday. Knowing you are at peace and free of pain and sorrow, makes it just a little easier....you are forever and always in my heart..
your loving daughter
Kim
centennial lake, sitting on the dock, thinking of you
kim malone
July 30, 2012
Mom,
Well I just came back from my girls weekend at the cottage. As usual you were never far from my mind, It was unfortunate that I missed Paul's birthday celebration, but I was there for sure in spirit. I am sure glad the others were there. Of course it was yet another first we endured this year..I thought of you so often mom, and shared many memories of you. It was not easy listening to some of the conversations though, it still makes me sad and it reminds me of how much I miss you.. when I am up at the cottage, I go down to the dock and sit there in the quiet early morning, take some pictures and contemplate life. This year I took along your journal (the last one you wrote in) and each day I write you a letter, and have done so since you left us, it is my therapy...anyway I was sitting there in the quiet morning watching the ducks swim by, watching the sun start to rise over the water, it so beautiful mom, the whole time that I sit there, my thoughts are of only you...I talk to you and I would like to believe you are close by and sitting with me admiring the view. I had a dragon fly land close to me that morning, someone once told me it was good luck and that they represent someone you lost, so when it landed close to me, I stared at it for a long time, said "Hi mom, is that you, " it stayed there for a while, I talked to it, then when I tried to touch it, up it flew, so I said goodbye, Mom, hope to see you soon. I know it sounds crazy, but I like and need to believe you will always be close by...it was a beautiful weekend, filled with lots of laughs, swimming and deck talk as we call it...when I got home, the first thing I saw was your picture and smiled and was glad to see it once again. It is my beacon and to me it means you are here with me and all of us and watching over us...I love and miss you mom, so , so much....
until the next time, I remain always and forever your daughter.
Kim
My visit to Capital Memorial July 28th 2012
Paul Wurtele
July 28, 2012
Hazel
Well my dear today was my birthday and everyone tried to make it a pleasant as possible. The usual group was present and it was also nice that Sylvie, Ann, Chris, and Georgia were also able to attend. It was a beautiful day and I received a lot of very nice gifts. The one person that was missing and was also the on minds of the people was you. I know that in the past you would have been very active in the events leading up to today. We shared a lot of stories from over the years and to ensure that you had a presence; Kathy placed a picture of you on the table. Things started winding down by 7:30 PM with Ann and I helping with some cleanup in the back yard. This was even though we had been informed by Kathy and Mike that there was nothing needed to done. When I left the house I decided to go out to Capital Memorial for a visit. I just sat down in front of your knish and I must say many many thoughts and memories raced though my mind. I don't know how long I was there, but it was beginning to get dark when I left. Before leaving, I visited the usual people.
I have attached a picture from my visit to Capital Memorial tonight. Sleep well my love as I miss you more than words could say.
Monthly Family Breakfast July 2012
Paul Wurtele
July 23, 2012
My dearest Hazel
Well my dear the family has been very busy during the past two(2) weeks. On July 14th Kim, Kathy, Caitlin and Alan attended Jessica's baby shower. Kim sent me a lot of pictures as well as some videos. It was funny watching one of the videos as you could hear Alan explaining to Kim how to use the video function on her camera. Yesterday was our monthly breakfast gathering. Since Kim is going to be away next weekend she brought my birthday gifts with her. She gave me a picture album that she had made with a lot of pictures of You, Me, Us, Family and Friends. It must have been a lot of work for her to collect all the pictures and to assemble the book. From the very moment she presented me the book she kept telling me there were some errors, duplicate pictures and that she would fix the errors and have it reprinted. I informed her that there wasn't any need to do this as its just fine as it stands. We passed the book around the table to let everyone have a look. Russ didn't want anyone to look at him while he was looking at the book as I could see that there were a number of tears in his eyes by the time he was finished.
I have attached a picture from this month's family breakfast gathering. Sleep well my love as I'm really missing you.
The book "Love you forever"
Kim Malone
July 22, 2012
Hey Mom.
Well here we are again, had breakfast with the family this morning, I can see you smiling down on us taking it all in, you are always with us in spirit and we talk about you each and every time. I gave Paul and early gift for his birthday, from us as I will not be able to attend the BBq for him, the rest of his gifts he has with him and will open on his birthday, anyway, I made a book for Paul with photographs of years gone by of you, Paul and us, it turned out nice , even though I goofed and duplicated a few photo's, everyone liked it. Russ didn't want us to look at him while he checked out the book as he said it would make him teary!!, I think we all still have that to deal with for sure, anyway mom, just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you (like I never forget) missing you and thinking of so many things....I have attached a page from the book that Kyle gave me for mother's day, it is a book I read to the kids when they were little, well I think is says it all, it is part of the photo that is attached, Here it goes..............
The son went to his mother,
He picked her up and rocked her back and forth, back and forth,
And he sang this song,
I'll love you forever,
I'll like you for always,
As long as I'm living
my mommy you'll be.
You are and will always be my mother, in life and death ,that will never change, to quote the book...
I'll love you forever...
your daughter who misses you more that words can say...
Love Kim
kim malone
July 17, 2012
Hey Mom,
Was thinking of you today, like I do everyday and had the need to drop you a little note. I was listening to the "John Tesh" show on the radio the other day and he was talking about texting and emailing and talked about the one person you should never text or email..and of course it was your mother....he said that a mother can always tell how her children are doing by the sound of their voice and the way they talk, so it is important for the mother to speak with them in person, I was thinking about this and how right they are, you could always tell if something was wrong you always had a way of watching and listening when it came to certain things. How I miss our talks and speaking to you on the phone and missing you in general. We went to a shower for Jessica last Sunday, I wrote something in her card about how happy you would have been for her and how you knew how much she was trying to get pregnant. It made her cry...Kyle and Sarah just got back from Nova Scotia, they had a great time, we have our monthly breakfast coming up this Sunday, we are holding fast and true to this ritual, it was something you wanted to do since we did it last October, unfortunately your health did not permit it to happen, so in your memory we are doing this for you..Paul's birthday is coming up soon, Kathy and Mike are having a BBq for him, I can't go it is my cottage weekend with the girls, we are going late this year, but Ken will go and take Paul his gift...will keep you posted and updated...I went out to see you last Saturday, I need to fix your photo, the weather has damaged it, I will replace it soon though, the chimes were chiming when I got there but quiet after that...I know you were there, it is comforting just thinking about it....this year is going so fast mom, it is unbelievable, we are heading into August, I can't imagine what the end of the year will bring, too many memories to think about....some days are harder than others, we all miss you so very much, I don't think we have done our all our grieving yet....I am sure there is more to come, at least that is how I feel...we still talk about it and share memories which is good for us, we look at pictures and relive memories of days gone by..continue to watch over us mom, keep us safe and guide us through our days, know that we love you and we miss you very, very much . Even though you had small feet, you had some really big shoes to fill and no one can fill those shoes like you..... your love, your life, your being, will be a part of us forever and always......
forever in my thoughts
your loving daughter Kim
My precious mother when she was young
kim malone
July 6, 2012
Mom
Even though it has only been a few days since I added something in your book, it seemed like I needed to say something again, the last few days I have been missing you like crazy, not sure if because we hit that 6 months or what, but I sure do miss you more and more each day, I found something Karlie wrote to me when I turned 50, the words are special and I feel it appropriate to share some of those words with you today...I hope you like it mom, it touched my heart like you touched mine for so many years..
Even through sands of time and dust of decades, the world will still know you were my mother. Seasons change and grass grows, snow falls and melts away but you still remain the same to me. The years may go by and the time we shared together slowly drifts away, but you and I will know we had one another to count on.
We both remember when I was little, that yours was the first hand to grab when I was scared and feeling alone. The warmth of it still remains on my mind and so do you.
Butterfly kisses and playing piano on my spine when you tucked me in at night, makes me laugh and smile, especially when I need that little extra happiness in my life. All these things happened so long ago, but I still remember that it was a "mom thing" that made it better.
Even now with you gone, I will be thinking of you reading this with a smile on your face and knowing that you are here with me.
Mom I love you with all my heart and even though some days I may not have shown it as much as I should, I am grateful for the time we had, I am glad I was brought into this world for you.
I love you forever and always.
Kim
(written by your grandaughter Karlie in 2008, some words changed for today)
July 3, 2012
Well Mom its hard to believe that six months has passed so quickly. I have you in my thoughts all the time. Michael and I are muddling along but as you know it has been very hard. So many times I wish I could call you and talk to you about it but all I can do is think of you and even talk out loud but at least I know you are listening. As you know Caitlin is going back to school. She is so excited. She misses you very much but she also knows you are watching over her. Steve is doing alright too but also misses you very much. I went to see you today. As Paul said it was so sunny and the sun was right on you. Between that and the wind blowing the chimes I knew you were there. I Love you and miss you.
Kathy
Family Gathering at Julie's June 24th 2012
Paul Wurtele
July 3, 2012
My dearest Hazel
Well my dear it's now 6 months and yes things are still in turmoil for both family and friends. Tyler's personal issues, Russell's job and Kathy's work hours are still ongoing. Sandy isn't doing well either. She is still very depressed and with all the ongoing issues concerning Gary's passing things seem to have definitely gone from bad to worse. On the positive side Caitlin was accepted at Algonquin College. I visited Bobby last week and his attitude is much better, but he still may require additional surgery on his nose. On 2012-06-30 I met Ann at Tim's for coffee and we had a nice visit. On 2012-07-01 Kim/Ken and I went over to Sarah/Kyle's for a visit and a barbeque. The weather did co-operate this time as we had a beautiful afternoon. Today Sandy & I were over at Capital Memorial for a visit. We both had business with the office and then did a visit to all the usual spots. It still doesn't seem that it's been six months since your passing.
My sleeping habits still haven't changed that much at all. I still catch myself calling home on my breaks, going to the bedroom to see if you want some tea or something to eat, seeing a new book from one of your favorite authors and then thinking I must tell you. I have attached a picture from the family gathering at Julie's on 2012-06-24 as it shows Alan's three generations. I inserted a picture of us from our Florida trip in 2011 into Riley's birthday card. This was to ensure that your great grand-children would have a picture to remember you by. Sleep well my love as I miss you more than words could say.
Father's Day, 2012
kim malone
July 3, 2012
Mom
Well it is 6 months today, it seems so unreal to say it, how time has flown by this year, but the memories of you are just as fresh. We celebrated Stephen's birthday, Father's day and Canada Day. Ken, Paul and I went to Kyle's on Canada day, they had a BBq and we went swimming. It was such a beautiful day, I pictured you with us, lounging in the sun, how you would have loved it. Kyle and Sarah ran in the Canada marathon, their team came in second place..Karlie is doing fine, working hard this summer and keeping busy, school will be upon us before we know it, Cailtin is going back to school this fall, that will make you happy, you hoped she would some day...lots of changes for sure mom, Sterling Place closed down, it is really sad to see something like that happen, it has or the building has been there forever, who knows what will go there now...we went to see Ken's grandmother this past weekend, she turned 94...you sure wouldn't have wanted to see that age would you?? on the way there, just across from scotia bank, we spotted a big female moose running along the queensway, I thought I had seen just about everything in Kanata, but not a moose..Paul's birthday is coming up next this month, we sure are going through the first's for sure...Mom, you are missed more than you will ever know, I think of you each and every day....I love you mom, forever and always.
your daughter Kim
Kyle (your grandson) and Sarah, dragon boat races 2012
kim malone
June 23, 2012
Hey Mom,
Well another first today, it is Stephen's birthday, I will give him a hug for you, I know you are wishing him a happy birthday from above, we are going to Julie's tomorrow, will keep you posted, Kyle and Sarah raced today in the dragon boat tournament at Mooney's Bay..they came in first on their first race and 4th on their second, right now they are in 25th place out of 200...not bad at all, it is so nice to see him do stuff like that, I am proud of him as I am Karlie, they are the world to me...as I know you are well aware.....we miss you mom, we talk about you often, Karlie really misses you, I say hi to you everyday and write you a letter every day in your journal that you wrote in last, it is important to me and it keeps you close at heart, not that you will never be far from there......I miss you Mom, hope you are not tired of hearing that, but I do....I cannot tell you how often I reach for the phone to call you, or ask if you called yet, that is a hard thing to not to do.....I will be coming to see you soon, sorry it has been a little while, but know you are always, now and forever in my thoughts and in my heart......I am sending you a big hug...I love you Mom..
forever and always
your daughter Kim
Britannia Beach, where we grew up and spend many many happy times
kim malone
June 17, 2012
Hi Mom,
Well here we are celebrating another first without you, it is Father's day today, I sent Paul a lovely card for father's day, you would have loved the card mom, I felt you looking down and smiling, we all went for breakfast today, we are holding fast and steady to our monthly gathering, all your kids except one, Paul, Sylvie, Kyle, Ken, Karlie, Sarah and Ashley were there two, of course in comes Uncle Russ and Marley, it was like a Connolly reunion...you would have loved it mom having all your loved ones in one place at one time, I went to Britannia beach last weekend with the girls, I took you with me every step of the way, I remember we talked about it last year and you saying that you and Paul would go there this summer and check out the burger joint, well it was not meant to be, but you were there with me for sure, I talked you to the whole time I was there, remembering so many childhood memories of days gone by, staring out at the water and thinking, you could have not asked for a better life growing up in Britannia, wow so many ,many memories...I miss you mom, we all do, you are always in my thoughts, we are all going to Julie's next weekend for father's day, Julie, Riley and Stephens birthday....it will be hard to go, it is so fresh in my mind last year, especially when you and Karlie got soaked with the hose.....well I guess I will just have to have a caesar for you and me and hope for the best....take care mom, I am sending along a big hug, cause I miss giving them to you.....love forever and always.
your loving daughter Kim
Mom and Paul at Kathy's
kim malone
June 4, 2012
Hi Mom,
Well I can't believe I am a day late with this message, as we hit the 5 month mark yesterday...It sure has been on my mind,certainally not that I had forgotten...well the time is flying by for sure, but the thoughts and memories are still held very dear to us, I ran into one the nurses you always had at the hospital and he was very sad to hear about your passing, he did say how much he loved having you as a patient and how much he knew you hated being there (nobody knew that more than us) I still chuckle when I think of your last visit in there, how you tried to convince me to change clothes with you so you could leave and go home..boy did we have chuckle over that one, Like Paul my sleeping has not improved, in time I am sure. I still keep reaching for the phone to call you or check for messages to see if you had called, some things will take longer than others, you are always in our thoughts and never far away from us , as you will always be in our hearts...the memories will live on forever....rest well mom, keep watching over us all and know that you are loved and missed forever and always
your daughter Kim
The Clan at Chris's August 2011
Paul Wurtele
June 3, 2012
Hazel,
It's now 5 months and yes things are still in turmoil for both family and friends. Kathy's work hours have been cut in half and on Friday I was informed that Sterling Place will be closing within 60 days (Caitlin will be out of job.) I spoke with Bobby last Wednesday and he will require additional surgery on his nose. Sandy isn't doing that well either. She is very depressed and with all the issues concerning Gary's passing things for her have definitely gone from bad to worse. Today we all gathered at Sarah/Kyle's house for a family/friends barbeque. The weather didn't co-operate as we had rain but for a few times during the afternoon the skies did clear. While some of us were sitting in their sun room the conversation naturally changed to you. I would say that it ended up being a story telling time and I do believe that it was a positive experience for all those that were involved. My sleeping habits still haven't changed with one good night of sleep followed by a few bad ones. I have attached a picture from our visit to Christine's last summer (2011-08-13) and yes I'm actually smiling. Sleep well my love as I miss you so very much.
Xmas 2009, Mom, Kyle and Karlie
Kim Malone
May 31, 2012
Mom,
It is soon getting to be that time again for another entry in your book, I cannot believe how quickly the time is going. I miss you mom, every day I keep thinking the phone will ring and you will be there, I look for you on the street, I see you every where, Karlie visited you last week, she said you waited to ring the chimes as she was leaving, guess that is your way of saying I know you were here and I will see you soon....we went out to Kyle and Sarah's house on the long weekend and as we were driving there, I lost it when I realized that you never got to see the house or that you will never get to go there, I know in spirit you will be with us, Mom, I miss you, some days so much it is hard to breathe, I know you are at peace and feeling no pain and no sorrow, and that makes things a little easier knowing that, but you left your mark mom, you are forever burned in our memories and held dear in our hearts....rest mom, I love you forever and always,
your daughter Kim
your
Karlie's birthday October 2004
Paul Wurtele
May 13, 2012
Happy Mother's Day Hazel
It's now Mother's Day and a lot of things have definitely changed. There wasn't the usual flurry of activities with the numerous telephone calls/visits today. Today of all days the apartment seemed so very empty and without any life or sounds. The day unlike your birthday, was an absolutely beautiful day. We all met for breakfast at the Kanata Family Diner and then went over to Capital Memorial Gardens for a visit. While we were at the Diner I gave both Kim and Kathy some flowers after all it's Mother's Day. I must say it was strange seeing Kathy's Mike without a beard. Your flowers still looked good and because of the season, Kathy also added some freshly picked lilacs. While I was there, I also went over to my Mother's grave and replaced the flowers I put on her grave. After the visit we were all invited back to Kim/Ken's for a barbeque as well as to celebrate Kyle's birthday. I spent most of the day at Kim/Ken's and since it was such a beautiful day, we all sat out in the backyard (I know you were with us in spirit.) Kyle received a lot of very nice gifts (and of course a few were of the gag variety.) I don't know why, but I feel so very alone today even though I was with the family all day. All day today I mind kept replaying the verse that was in your Memoriam card.
“God's Garden” … God looked around His garden and He found an empty place, He then looked down to earth and saw your tired face. He put His arms around you and lifted you to rest. God's garden must be beautiful, He only takes the best. He knew you were suffering, He knew you were in pain, He knew that you would never get well on earth again. He saw the road was getting rough, and the hills were hard to climb, so He closed your weary eyelids, and whispered, “Peace be Thine”. It broke our hearts to lose you, but you didn't go alone, for part of us went with you, the day God called you home.
I have attached my most favorite of all the pictures I have taken of you. It was taken at Kim/Ken's during our visit for Karlie's birthday in 2004. Sleep well my love as I miss you more than words could say.
Kathy
May 13, 2012
Happy Mother's Day Mom
Well mommy, We just spent our first Mother's Day without you present to see us but your children were together with Paul, sadly without Michael, and the most important one of all, you.
It was a beautifull day and I know you were watching over us all. As I passed the flower vendors on the street corners I thought of all the times that I bought flowers to give you, I wished I could have done so again. I miss you and I will always be proud to have had you for my Mother.
Love always, Kathy
your children , Mike is with us in spirit
kim malone
May 13, 2012
Happy mother's day Mom
I never knew or understood what it was like for a parent until I had the pleasure of becoming one. I never knew or understood why you always worried about us, until I became a mom. As I grew older and get older each year, I understand more and more
what a parent is all about. I hear myself in you so many times, things like "wait until you have kids" or "when I was younger" or you will always worry about your kids not matter what age they are. And it is all so true, You always worried about us, sometimes too much, you never forgot a birthday, an anniversary or any us at Xmas time.. You always worried about us when we were sick, even when you were sick yourself. This and much, much more, in my book it is the true meaning of a mother, and you filled that role like no other. It is hard to think of mother's day as belonging to anyone but you, you were and will always be my mother, I think of you today with great joy and with great sorrow, How I wish we were celebrating it together, but it was not to be, but if you can hear me, Happy mother's day mom....a million hugs are coming your way, if only that were possible, but in spirit, they are yours forever
A Mother's Day Prayer
Mom if I could talk to the Lord above, I'd pray to keep you safe in his holy love. In every minute , hour of each day, I pary that you'll be blessed in every way. Mom you've given everything to me, taught me how to live and how to be, I'm thinking of you now on Mother's day, I love you mom much more than I can say.
Lord she has a dear heart like no other, Lord please take good care of my sweet mother.
I love you forever and always
your loving and forever grateful daughter Kim
This is something you would be saying to us for sure
Kim Malone
May 12, 2012
Mom
Been thinking of you as always, we had a wonderful visit with you at the cemetary on your birthday..It was nice we were all there, we all miss you so much and some days it is hard to believe you have left us,(in body only) for your memories will live on in each and every one of us...I hope you got your balloons and the birthday wishes we sent along, it was funny that the 80th birthday balloon hung onto to a tree and refused to let go, we laughed as we figured out you would be waiting at heaven's gate and stick a pin in it....know mom that we knew you were tired and this past year took its toll, our treasured thoughts will be that you did it your way..rest easy mom, we love you and miss you..
your daughter forever and always.
Kim
Kathy
May 11, 2012
To My Mother, My Best Friend
Although I can't see you or hear you, you are
always in my thoughts. I miss you each and
every day. I hope you received our balloons
we sent you yesterday on your 80th (I feel
that smack for saying 80th). Watch over us all. I Love you and miss you.
Love and Kisses Kathy.
May 11, 2012
Happy Birthday Mom,
I feel you around me all the time,I miss you so much,still wanting that five pm phone call about the story we always talked about,I know your at peace now and I love you so much,we all have are tough days,but we think of you and all the good times.
Love you Mom
Alan
May 10, 2012
Happy Birthday Hazel
I miss talking to you and going out with you. This is the first time l an not able to talk and see you, but that won't stop me from thinking and talking to you often. Love you always hugs from me.
Georgia
Our trip to Florida May 2011
Paul Wurtele
May 10, 2012
Happy Birthday ... My Love
It's now your birthday and not a lot has changed with me. My sleep habits haven't changed very much as I have a cycle of one good night and then a few bad nights. So far this year we have celebrated three other birthdays and Easter. There was one missing person at all these events and that was you. The only one so far to actually said it was Kim at Easter, but I feel that it's on at least some of their minds (especially Kim and Kathy). I spoke with Bobby a while ago and he sounded a lot better or at least his attitude sounded a lot better. It was very strange as I had a dream about him and he called the very next morning. During one of my weekends off I went with Kim/Ken/Karlie down to the States on a day trip and I enjoyed it. The following day I went to visit Bobby. We had a very nice visit but unfortunately his health will probably never get any better. I have purchased a niche around the area where you are located at Capital Memorial Gardens. I have been thinking about it for some time and when Julie E-Mailed me that one was available, I decided to purchase it. Sometime in July I will look into selling the double plot I already have. On April 22nd we had the monthly breakfast gathering at the Kanata Family Diner. It was nice to be able to see everyone as Georgia was also able to attend. On May 05th I met with Ann and Georgia at Tim Horton's. We had a great visit and later that night Kathy and I attended the Chris de Burgh concert (I know you were there with us in spirit). The concert was fantastic but when he sang “Missing You” that did it for both Kathy and I, as the tears just started flowing. It's hard to believe that on May 05th (a year ago) we were in Florida touring Disney's the Magic Kingdom. On May 6th we all met for breakfast at the Kanata Family Diner for a belated celebration of Russell's birthday. After the breakfast I ended up going down to Dow's Lake to see what the tulips were like and of course I took just a few pictures (40+). On May 7th Peter and I had lunch with two of our cousins (David and Ian) whom we haven't seen since Aunt Pat's funeral back in 2004. Sandy and I visited your niche this morning. I left a yellow rose and my ticket to the concert, but obviously so many things have changed for this birthday. There wasn't the usual flurry of activities by the kids prior to your birthday as well as the visits/numerous telephone calls today. The kids will be visiting you later this afternoon when they all get off work. I guess I've said enough for now as I don't think I have missed anything/anyone, so here ends this epistle according to Paul. I have attached a picture of you taken during our visit to the Magic Kingdom (2011-05-05) and I believe what it says on the wall behind you. Sleep well my love as you are always in my mind and heart.
Mom doing what she loved best
kim malone
May 10, 2012
Happy Birthday mom
My dearst mom...today would have been your 80th birthday. Oh I can hear you now...."yuck" I am so old, so wrinkled, look at my chicken neck" Yep I can hear you now....boy, what a party we could have had. If there is such a thing as celebrating in heaven, then enjoy, you deservie it, celebrate with your friends, your loved ones and all the angels..we are down here thinking of you and wishing you a very happy birthday, and sending all the love we have for you, from our lips to God's ears...know how much you are missed and how much you were loved and how much you are still loved each and every day that goes by. Wear that crown proud mom, for you earned every jewel in it.
we love you forever and always,
your daughter Kim and family
In memory of Mom - 2012
kim malone
May 4, 2012
Hey mom
this was sent to me and I thought it was so appropriate for us....and oh so true, love forever and always...
miss you lots.
Kim your daughter
kim malone
May 3, 2012
Hey mom
Well here we are, four months today, some days it is hard to believe, other days we would rather not believe. I look at your picture everday and share many, many memories of days gone by. Russ's birthday is coming up shortly, I will wish him a happy birthday for you, Paul has resumed the role of making sure we are not forgotten, you would be proud mom, he is doing a great job...I know you are here in spirit with each and everyone one of us, and the impact you left on us is greater than anything I imagined..rest well mom, you deserve it..I love and miss you, forever and always
your loving daughter
Kim
to have a little bit of Nan around the house
kim malone
April 26, 2012
Hey mom,
Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you , as I always do, Karlie bought me these flowers with a note on them and I wanted to share them with you. It reminded me of the last time I bought you yellow roses and how much you loved them, I wish I could do that again, I miss you mom, and think of you every minute of the day.....I hope the roses are plentiful in heaven, I love and miss you forever and always
your daughter Kim
kim malone
April 19, 2012
Mom
Hey mom, been thinking about you so much lately, how I miss you, if I stop long enough all the thoughts and memories come flooding in, you are truly missed more than I can ever say. Mom, Karlie did it, she passed her first semester, it was tough, she really needed to pass one class to move one to next semester, I said my prayers and prayed you would look out for her and help her to find her way, well mom, you must have heard me...thanks, thanks for looking out for her, watch over us all mom, know that we are thinking of you and missing you each and every day...I love you with my whole heart and soul, forever and always
your daughter Kim
mom's flowers
kim malone
April 8, 2012
Happy Easter Mom
Well the first of many occassions that we will have without you. Kathy's birthday came and went, I told her that you were thinking of her that day. We will be thinking of you today, as we think of you each and every day. Hope the flowers are in bloom and you and your brothers and sisters are having fun chasing the easter bunny. You are in our thoughts and prayers... missing you as always
love your daughter forever and always
Our trip to Costa Rica March 2010
Paul Wurtele
April 3, 2012
Hazel
It has been three months and in a way nothing much has changed. During the day/evenings I keep myself busy but the nights tend to be long and lonely. Some nights I'm able to have a reasonable sleep but others I just can't turn off my head. During the past few months we have lost a few of the people you knew in the building. I guess you already know and probably have already met them. I was looking over some of the pictures from Costa Rica and I came across the picture of you and George. From the time I first met George (and Wilson also) I liked them both. I still remember that he wanted to adopt you as his mother. Say hello to the both them for me. I've been keeping in touch with the girls as well as Georgia but I must say that I haven't spoken to Bobby in some time. I feel bad about not talking to him, but as you have always told me the telephone lines go both ways. Yesterday I went over to Capital Memorial for a visit as it was such a beautiful spring day. They have finally installed the 2012 plate on your marker. I also visited a few other locations to say hello to people that are buried there. While looking at the pictures from Costa Rica I came across a picture of the two of us that was taken on the patio at Riverside. I have added that picture to this note as it was from a happy time when we were together. Sleep well my love as you will always be in my heart.
Mom, Paul and Kathy
Kim Malone
April 2, 2012
Hey mom,
we are nearing the 3 month mark tomorrow and even though time is going by, it doesn't change how we feel, or make the loss any different, time heals as they say and the pain eventually goes away somewhat, but the loss remains the same, even if it is 3 months, a year or 10, I will always miss you, you are forever in my thoughts ,my heart and soul, you will always be a part of me, as I will always be a part of you, the bond of being a mother, wife, daughter, aunt, grandmother, sister or friend, will never change what you were to us, you are truly missed and never far away from our thoughts, if only there was a direct line to heaven, how lovely it would be to speak with you again, and hear your voice, watch over us and keep those chimes ringing, I will listen for you when I visit.
love forever and always
your daughter and family
March 3, 2012
Well mom, it is two months to the day today, I miss you as much as I did then, you are forever in my thoughts and prayers and will always and forever remain in my life, my heart and my soul. I pray you are at peace and know that you will not be forgotten , you will always be a part of us in many ways, know that even though we must move on and you are no longer here, you will always be here in our hearts...I love you and I miss you each and every day..
always and forever your daughter Kim
February 20, 2012
I know it's really later at night but I miss you so much right now. I thought I could keep myself together a little longer but I think I finally allowed myself to give in. Oh Nan, I miss you so much, I want you here so bad. I want to talk to you about my shopping and school and all my adventures. I love you Nan, forever in my heart. - Your grand-daughter Karlie.
Paul Wurtele
February 14, 2012
Hazel
It's Valentines Day and you are not with me to celebrate. The days still seem to drag on and I must keep myself busy so that I can turn off my head. I bet that you and Ada are having a great old time. It's hard to believe that she passed away 15 years ago yesterday. Sleep well my love as you will always be in my heart.
Kim Malone
February 14, 2012
Mom
Happy Valentines Day,hope there are lots of beautiful flowwers where you are, especially roses of all colours, they were your favorite, you will forever and always be in our hearts
love your daughter Kim
Kim Malone
January 29, 2012
Mom, a month is soon upon us and I miss you more each day. To have one more minute, one more hug, one more touch, if only that were possible. Be happy mom, free of pain and watch over us all and visit in our dreams. My heart breaks knowing you are not here in body, but your spirit and your love and your life with us will carry on forever. I am thankful for all that you were, all that you gave and all that was you. I think of you every minute, every second of every day..the loss was great. I treasure our time together, I pray you are at peace and although you are with many loved ones now, know that the loved ones you left behind will unite one day..
all my love forever and always
your daughter Kim
January 11, 2012
Paul & Family,
We were saddened by the news of Hazel's passing and regret not being able to attend the services. Although we had only known Hazel for 2 1/2 years, we have nothing but the best to say about her. She was genuine, charming and kind. We will miss her and her laughter.
Karen Willmott & Brent Shaver
Assistant Resident Managers of 1300
Christine Matte
January 7, 2012
Aunt Hazel, Star passed on your message.
I will miss you always.
Love, Chris
Tom Stott
January 7, 2012
Michael and family. I am sorry I was not able to attend the funeral but my deepest condolences are offered to you and all your family.
Debra Paquette
January 6, 2012
Nanny,
I wish I could be there with everyone today, and I wish I could have gotten in to see you just one more time, gotten to talk to you, tell you I love you, but coming out here for school made me lose that chance. I will never forget you, your kind words, and being able to talk to you about anything and everything. You were an amazing woman, and you will always be remembered. I know you are in a better place now, watching over all of us. We all miss you so much. I love you.
January 6, 2012
We have so many good memories of Hazel from the days of the Bell Town! Dad and I talked on the phone last night about some and enjoy everytime we have thought of your mom. The one thing that always comes to my mind, when I think of her, is Hazel being such a LADY! Our deepest sympathies and thoughts to all in the family. Love Scotty & Maggie
January 6, 2012
norm scrivens
January 6, 2012
we have lost a good friend but we have a lot of good memories.
may you rest in peace hazel
carol and norm scrivens
January 5, 2012
Kim and family may the memories bring you comfort.
Love and prayers Nancy
Our trip to Florida May 2011
Paul Wurtele
January 5, 2012
Hazel, I have now lost my love, my partner, my soul mate. Our home is now missing a key player that can never be replaced.
Brenda & Brian Morrison
January 5, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family.
Caitlin Clowater
January 5, 2012
I may never get the words right but the pain in my heart says it all. I love you Nanny and I'll miss you always. You were always so strong and positive everybody knew they could count on you to listen when we needed it. As much as it hurts to let you go I know that this is where you're meant to be now. You'll always be with us.
Theresa Clemen
January 5, 2012
Hazel will be missed so much. She has helped and been there for so many of us. A beautiful flower.
Kim Calder
January 5, 2012
Our thoughts and prayer are with your family.
Laurie Lance
January 5, 2012
I will miss and love you always Aunt Hazel. I wish you peace & happiness with Nanny :) To my cousins & Paul, I am so sorry for your loss big hugs, my thoughts are with all of you at this time. Love you all - Laurie Ann
Georgia Lance
January 5, 2012
Hazel was a very special aunt to me. You were my second mom, thank you for the happy memories they will stay with me forever - I will miss & love you forever. Alan, Stephen, Russell, Kim, Kathy & Michael you all had a very loving mother who will always be with you. And Bobby,she loved you,cheerish your memories of her as well. Paul, you & Hazel had a loving relationship that few of us have. Love your niece, Georgia xo
mom and her grandaught Karlie Xmas 2011
kim malone
January 5, 2012
Mom
words will never express how much you were loved and how much we will miss you, our hearts are broken, we know you were tired and needed to rest and that it was very hard to loose so much of your independance, you are in a better place now and although you left behind many of your loved ones, there were many waiting for you to call you home, rest now mom, know that we love you and miss you, watch over us all and we will see you again.
love forever and always,
your loving daughter Kim and family
Mary Huson
January 5, 2012
Dear Russ and family. My thoughts and prayers are with you in the loss of your mother. I met Hazel a few times and really admired her.
Sincere Sympathy
Guy Lurette
January 5, 2012
"Ma" she was always present during my childhood and adolescense stages - supportive and caring. It sadden me when I heard of her passing. My thought are with my "adopted" siblings Al, Russ, Stephen, Kim, Kathy and Micheal. Such a great loss to such a great family.
Karen Robillard-Connolly
January 5, 2012
Ma...that's what we all called her, from the time we were kids hanging out at the house on Ahearn, when our parents didn't understand us, there was always Ma. She was always just "there". My love goes out to all of her children, even the extended family ones, this is a great loss. <3
Tracy Nieuwoudt
January 4, 2012
Although we can't be there in body, we will be thinking of all of you. My deepest sympathies to everyone who was graced by Aunt Hazel's love. I will miss her dearly and hope that she watches over us from her spot with my Nanny.
Tracy, Daryl and Rory
Paul & Patricia Zappa
January 4, 2012
Please accept my deepest sympathies.
Bryan Fuller
January 4, 2012
Hazel and families:- I have been looking for a long time for you. I am sorry, for your Mom's passing. I am not going to be far behind her, I am in extremely poor Health.
Hazael, my friend, May you finally now rest in peace for Ever Bryan
Robbi-Lynn Marrs
January 4, 2012
Kim, Ken, Kyle, Karlie and the Connelly / Paquette / Wurtele families -
I was shocked to read that Hazel passed away. I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that my thoughts are with you during this very difficult time. So many memories........
Sue and Angelo Scolli
January 4, 2012
My deepest sympathy, my prayers and thoughts are with you all
Anna & Mike Beatty (Patacairk)
January 4, 2012
Alan, Russell, Stephen, Kim, Ken, Kathy and Michael;
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mother. Our thoughts and prayers are with your family at this time.
Dave Carson
January 4, 2012
I am sorry to here of the loss of Hazel she was such a wonderfull person to know .Paul My Thoughts and Prayers are with you at this time .Wendy _ Dave carson
T S
January 4, 2012
We are sorry to hear of your loss. Our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time and for the days and weeks ahead. Hazel will be missed. Tammy & Mike
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