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Helen Brucker Obituary
BRUCKER Helen February 11, 1933 - February 2, 2008 It is with great sadness, we annouce the passing of our mother Helen Irene Brucker (nee Todd). Survived by her children Charles (Ginny), Kim (Colin), Candice (David), Pam (Jim), Todd (Leigh) and Brent( Cheryl). Also survived by her beloved 14 grandchildren Christine, Cory (Teresa), Carly, Shawn, Chelsey, Brandon, Brichelle, Kyle, Jeffrie, Bronson, Dylan, Kailan, Kaiden, and Dayton, her sister Ruby (Vic) and brother Phillip, special family friend Ken McKeddie. The sole focus of mom's life was always her family and grandchildren. She was devoted to them and they to her. Mom will also be missed by extended family and friends. With special thanks to Dr. Leung, caregivers at the Royal Arch Masonic Home and Burnaby General Hospital. Mom leaves us now to join her mother Annie and her father Adlard, her brother Paul and her infant son Bart. By request from our mother there will be cremation and no service. In lieu of flowers a donation to a charity of your choice would be greatly appreciated. Mom--nans will be in our hearts forever. We love you and miss you mom.
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18 Entries
February 11, 2017
Happy Birthday Mom can't believe it's been 9 years and that you'd be turning 84. Miss you so much talk of you all the time , Jesse feels like she knows you and I don't miss a chance with the boys to speak of you they miss you a lot. Think of you always never far from my heart love you forever and always Me xoxo David Shawn and Jeff also xoxo
February 2, 2016
I can't believe it has been eight years Mom,I miss you so much.I didn't know about this until Pam told me she had left a Memorial for you also,I read her stuff and I hope you are together she needs you so much always a Mother and you were the best. I don't feel you as much but my heart says differant,just wanted to say you are always loved and thought of love you always and forever Mexoxox also David Shawn and Jeffrie xoxoxo
Pam
August 21, 2015
Hi my Mommy. How's it going with all my loved ones? I would send you pics of everyone, but it still haven't learnt how to yet. That could take awhile. As we know. I just got a new cell phone & I haven't lleart how to even answer it. I scare my selves? Mind that's nothing new. Well I was just trying to get back to sleep. My pill is kicking in & I see I am outing down words yay aren't even words, so kisses & hugs to my favourate Mommy in the whole wide world & heaven. Love Always & Forever Pom Pom. XXXXXXXXXXXxOOOOOOOOO
Pam
August 11, 2015
Hi Mommy. I miss you. I just got home from the hospital Monday Aug.10. I was in there since July 27. That was a long haul. They have found some cancer. Math at was a bit of a shock. I haven't been feeling all that well for some time. Always tired & light headed, blurry vision & other stuff. Cory actually called me on that Fri to remind us about Kesslers's bday party. I was crying when I answered the phone from so much pain. He wanted to take me to emerg or call an ambulance. I said I would be ok. Then as the day went on I couldn't even stand so I got Jim to drive me. That's when they said I was quite sick. They did all kinds go blood wk & scans etc. very through. So now I have an apt with the clinic on Sept. 3. Had an iron transfusion yesterday & trying to move my apt sooner. That's when I guese they start treatments. Yesterday they told me that I am a lot sicker than I think I am. Because I look great, and I am happy. That has always been mine & yours problem. We look good outside so everyone including ourselves think all is good to go. When they told me I was shocked. I actually believed I was getting all better. I guese I'm not a dr. After all. Well 1 day at a time. Chels has been a real trooper. Kyle is living on Galliano & has been over a couple times to see me. Tine hasn't been feeling well, so I haven't sen much of her. Friends are amazing. Mind you I always new I have the bestet friends in the whole wide world. Candice has been really great also. Well I am having problems getting to sleep, but I am going to try again . Don't want to get back into that old routine. Kisses and more kisses your ways. I need you now so please stay close by. Mind you I already know your here, I feel,you every day. XXXXXXXxOOOOOOO Love Always & Forever, your loving Daughter Pam.
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Pam
July 24, 2015
Hi my Mommy, how's it going? I have gotten all my missing entries for you & Tod straightened out. I am so happy, because they mean a lot to me. I am still off wk & honestly don't know when I will be able to return. Today is the most painfull day that I have ever gone through. And we both know I have had a fair amount of pain through my sports etc. I pray that this does not get worse. I did stop & remember what you always said, & that was there will always be someone in the world who will be in worse pain. And to be greatfull for what we have. I am very greatfull & will always remember that. Thanks for being the best Mommy in the WORLD. Love Always & Forever, Your Baby daughter, Pam XXXXXXxOOOOOOO
Pam
July 10, 2015
Hi My Mommy, I'm sorry for taking so long to,chat with you. I see I haven't even told you about Tine & Chris's wedding. Everything went smoth from where I was sitting. It was a fun wedding as well as very different. I'm sad that there isn't many if any family pic's together, or us either. I don't even know what was happening with the whole thing, from start to finish. After all the years of us talking & looking at different wedding ideas & dresses etc. there was nothing. You know anyways don't you. Yeah when I was talking to you at their hotel room getting her make up etc. I am so glad you held me then cause I never would of made it. Why does it always hurt so much Mommy? I don't know how you did it with 6 kids. I feel so alone so often. Lost & adrift in this world of ours. So afraid for the future & so painfull from the past. I know one must pay for there crimes of their past. I take responsibility for my actions. You know I always have, and always will. But when does the punishment end? I know that I am a good person and kind & giving. So happy for all my family & friends when anything good in their lives happens. I have 3 amazing kids that are so loving & giving & caring. I can't begin to tell you how often I have been told how much my friends love my Kids. They are so happy to be around all of them. I'm told how unique they all are. Of course I have to reply with REALLY, REALLY. Yeah I'm quite aware. After all their mine. I have said that the 3 of them combined truly make up who I am. From beginning to end. Yup can't argue about that one. Well as you know it's your Son's B-Day today. So what are you guys doing for him. I bet your dancing up a storm & Tod is keeping you all in stitches with all his jokes & crazy antics. Carly asked me if we could have a family BBQ in memory of her Dad's Birthday. What an awesome young lady she is. So all that are on the mainland will be gathering here tomorrow for a long over due get together. Haven't seen anyone for so long. I haven't been doing very,well over these last 18 months. I just went back to wk about a month or so ago. I was so happy to return. I wasn't feeling pain like it had since the accident. Well say 3 wks in I began to feel some pain return. Then it came back so,fast and so furious. And I am also feel light headed & blurred vision for some time. On the whole I have been feeling horrible. I am depressed again. Pain almost around the clock. So many different kinds of prescriptions, I can't keep track anymore. I have been sleep walking & doing some very strange things when I'm sleep walking. I also go through times where I don't sleep for 2 full days & nights, even when I take my sleeping pills. I just whent through over 36"hrs with out ANY sleep at all. Such a horrible feeling. Well Mommy I don't want to go on & on about depressing crap. I miss you always & forever, your loving, caring & adopted daughter, Me XXXXXXXOOOOOO Kiss & Hugs to all for me please. LOVE ALWAY & FOREVER, Pam XXXXXXXOOOO
Pam
February 21, 2015
Hi my Mommy. So 2 years already hey. So how's it going up there? I was just telling Tod that one week from today, your first Grandchild, Tine will be getting married. Unreal, Mom. Yeah you would just love Chris. It's kinda hard not to. I know you see how she is thriving on life. I can't explain how lucky I am to have a beautiful daughter like her. Yeah I also know how you held Tine so so close to your heart. I'm pretty sure it works both ways. Well Mommy I know you'll be there with Tod. Did you hear my instructions, if at all possible. I said that I need you & Tod to hold my hands when I give my speech to Tine & Chris. Then I had to alter that request. I need you guys to perch on my shoulders. Because I will need my hands, 1 for the speech & the other one for my drink & Kleenex. Yeah I anin't gonna look pretty, but what can I say. Besides maybe you could have some extra make up for my face after it is all cried off. Just a suggestion! Well my Mommy Jay & I are going to take a walk into town right now. I have been trying to get in shape & lots of sleep. Because after what this last year & a half my looks are not very camera kind. Yeah I know, what can I tell you that you don't already know. Yeah, yeah I know it's because you are & always have been the best Mommy I could ever have prayed for. True Story. Yeah that's right!!!!! Love you Always & Forever, your youngest baby girl. XXXXXX xOOOOOO
Pam I tried to put photo. Sorry
February 11, 2015
Hi my Mommy. Today is your B-Day. Happy birthday MOM!!! I love you ALWAYS & FOREVER. So like I said Tine is getting married Feb. 28, 2015. They have pretty much everything under control. Oh Mom it is going to be such an amazing day. Just to see my Baby Girl walk down the isle. I do believe I will be a mess. But I hope I can keep it together for her. Oh who am I kidding? I can't keep it together for freakin commercials. Yup a box of Kleenex will be under my arm. I"ll get it in purple to match my dress. She is going to look so so beautiful. If that is even possible, because she is & always has been Georgeous. All right at the age of 1 - 2 she had something a little going on with her hair then. God Mom please be holding my hand and squeeze it if I get to loud while crying. It really isn't a good look for me. Yeah who cares it is all about them both. They are such an awesome couple Mom. You would absolutely LOVE Chris. They are without a doubt each other's soul mate. I mean that with all my heart. I couldn't be happier for them or more proud. But ohh dear I have to meet the In-Laws. As you know I ain't really like a lot of parents. Oh well there is an ocean to separate us if they don't like me. But I hope they do. He'll how couldn't they? I'm Tine's MOM. They will definately hear that as soon as I meet them. Looks could never tell. But as we know cackles travel far. Hee hee so Mommy are you dancing up a storm. I would love to see you & dad (Ken) jive one more time. You guys laughed so much & danced so well together. Don't forget to get Tod out on the clouds for a float. Love You All. Once Again, HAPPY NIRTHDAY MOMMY. Oh I forgot to tell you, you haven't aged a day. Still as beautiful as you always were. XXXXXXXXXXXXXOOOOOOOOO Love Always & Forever, your Pom Pom
Pam
February 3, 2015
Hey my Mommy, I was here yesterday & had a chat with you. After I talked to Tine. She is so so sick Mom. And has been for awhile. I always worry when she gets sick. Because she reallyp piglets sick. I told her about our talks & assured her that you will be with her on Feb. 28, 2015. What a special day it will be. Well Mom I guese I will wait to see if they have posted my chat with you. Still Love You Always & Forever XXXXXXXXXXXXxOOOOOOO Your loving daughter & (pain in the butt daughter) PAM XXXXXXX
Pam (Pom Pom) XXXX
February 2, 2015
May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.
Pam
November 30, 2014
Hi MOMMY, I LOVE YOU. Hey how about what's going on with Christine & her wedding? I tried my best & you know that. Well X-Mas is just around the corner. It's going to be one of the strangest X-Mas'es ever. With Canicies's kids away, Candice & Dave going to Hotel Vancouver for X-Mas dinner & lee is talking the 4 boys up to her brothers for X-Mas. Also Kyle is working out of town & I don't know if he's coming in. I sure hope he does. So how are you, Tod ,Dad, & all the others doing? Well my kids have flown the coop. Boy oh boy I like my having my space. I tell you the day Kyle moved I couldn't' even sleep. I was in bed waiting for Jim to go to work. I was downstairs in a heart beat. It took me ALL day & longer to get it cleaned and organized. As best I could but there was still one room down that I had to wait to do. But as soon as I got in there it was the same thing. I just love being downstairs in my spacious lay clean basement. I also have my original bed to sleep in & I am in seventh heaven sleeping in it again. I could never get it up stairs because it's adjustable, which means it weighs about 250 - 300 lbs. but all done now. I am just like you, I get boared of things being in the same place. Well no more. I'm still not back at work, but very shortly. I have a few more specialist to see. After all that, then bam I'm back. It has been over a year not working. I have no money & I am in the hole with my charge cards. I hate that. It won't take me long once I start work. Well just wanted to tell you I love you & all of you guys. XXXXXXXXOOOOOO
Pam
November 13, 2014
Hey Mom, I just finished my second chat with you & all about Kyle & his new job, etc.. Then I go to select a photo, the next thing I know, bam the whole conversation with you is gone. I also don't see the chat I had with you on Remberance Day. My second posting for that day was I came back & lit a candle for Us. Poof who knows where they all are. Some where out in cyber space. It kind tics me off, because I have very heart felt talks with you. And do you think that I can remember them? I can barely remember to wake up, or for that matter, go to sleep. Well I know you hear me. But I like to read it so I don't repeat my selves. Well there my Mommy I'm signing off for now. I Love You Forever & Always. Your friend & mine, Pam. XXXXXXXXXOOOOOOO
Pam
November 11, 2014
Hey my Mommy, I've been thinking about you & Tod pretty much all day. I wanted to light a candle for you & me. Otherwise known as US. I want it to keep you warm. Yeah yeah I know your always warm. See I can still make me laugh. Actually US. You know Mom I can't tell you how often that I laugh & immediately I feel so calm. Well you get what I'm typing right! No No I'm not referring to the calm before the storm. The calm comes from knowing that you had always had such an easy way obout you when it came to laughing. It was often & we were brought up with that easy & natural way to laugh at pretty much everything. That's what I mean when I refer to the meaning of Calm. Oh don't get me wrong I also remember the storms. But that's the way life is & should be lived. Thank You for that. I am often told that I laugh so easy & loud. I'm good with that. I Love You Always & Forever, your friend & mine. Your Daughter Pam. Or sometimes refered to by you as Pom Pom. XXXXXXOOOOOO
Pam
November 11, 2014
Hey Mom, it's remberance day, & I just want you to know that I always rember my Mom. I love you so much & I talk to you a fair amount . Hope I'm not upsetting Tod. Just joking, he's probable greatful that he doesn't have to read my short stories. Hee hee. I'm still having one hell of a time with Time. I sent her a msg. today asking her to write down what is bothering her. Kyle just got a job on Galiano Island. He loves it there. I am SOOOOO proud of him. Mom you hit the nail on the head all those years ago at Cory's wedding when you said you worr proud to be on his arm, because he is such a gentleman. I rember him always escorting you to the washroom because you were using a cane due to a lot of pain. He's a good man. Hand he's a handsome one at that. Also pretty damn tall. We sure know how to produce good looking & tall kids if I do say so myself. So. See I typed it instead. Mom kisses to all & I'm thinking of all of those that I have LOVED & LOST whit such fond memories. I Love You Forever & Always. Your daughter (adopted, I just had to get that in there) Hee hee, Pam XXXXXXXXXXXOOOOOOO
Pam
September 30, 2014
Hi Mom. I thought that we would be able to have your picture. It did say something about it being to long. That's ok, because I look at you every day of my life. I need to wipe the galas, due to me kissing you. Oh Brent does the same thing. I see Coleen has put an entry, that is awesome. I miss you Mom. Brent's lady friend is the one who told me that I could do it. When she showed me how to I immediately put you in my reach. I can't explain how overwhelming it was to know that. You would really like Laura. I'm so happy to know her. Well Mom, Tine is getting married & I haven't been told anything about. Well you keep an eye on her please. Chelsey is moving out on her own Oct. 1. I can't even begin to tell you how proud I am. She is amazing. I know you already know that, but I like to brag. Mommy, kiss & hug all of our loved ones that are with you. Miss you forever & ever. I'll be talking to Tod soon. Love Always & Forever Pam XXXXXXXXOOOOO
Angels at their best. Then they wake up. ;) XXXXXOOOO
Pam
September 5, 2014
Wow Mommy: I can't get over the fact that I can talk to you. I am filled with so much calmness just knowing your here. It appears that your original picture hasn't been posted, but I will check that out. I am sure that I can find a picture of you to put in. Oh oh are you concerned? Finically I will have a choice of the pic., not to worry it will be my Mommy that I know & Love & have missed talking to. So I'm sure you got the just of my pain. Well could you rain a little H_ll on my 3 little heart beats for me, please. Rattle some cages Nan's & get them heading in the right direction. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH, & AM SOOOOOO HAPPY I HAVE YOU BACK! Love Always & Forever, Pam XXXXXXXXXOOOOOOO
Pam
August 30, 2014
Hi Mom I had no idea that I could keep you here with me like Tod is. Hot dang now I don't have to keep asking him to kiss & hug you, cause I can do that myself. I am so greatful to my new & wonderful friend that found you for me. Hey mommy how you doing? I know you are with me through this really hard time lately. I was so sad & I ended up just going through my room to purge & I came across the card that you gave me many many years ago. About being carried through the hard times. Mom I just started bawling. It was so over whelming. I was so greatful to have you hold me. Dam Mom I can't stop the tears running down my face. I love you, I love you, I love you so so so much. Can't even express how much this means to me. Mom I'm having such a hard time with Tine. The pain is above & beyond anything you could imagine. Please help me, I'm falling & having such a hard time getting back up. I miss you Mom . Love Always & Forever. Pom Pom. XXXXXXXXXOOOOOOXXXXX
Colleen MacDougall
February 5, 2008
My deepest sympathy, thoughts & prayers are with all of you.
From:
Colleen MacDougall (Todd)
I am Phil's daughter (Aunty Helen's brother).
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