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Mona Laird-Rafeedie
April 24, 2020
Thirty years ago today you were born. My heart filled with joy and sunshine of the promise of the day. I miss every day since you have been gone. As long as I am breathing, you will never be forgotten. Love you forever.
May 10, 2019
We all miss you so much everyday. The tribute for your birthday was amazing and so thankful for your friends that were able to come. Cannot believe how time passes - seems like an eternity and yesterday all at the same time. Love my precious and beautiful boy - so special that words cannot explain. As long as I am breathing, you will never be forgotten.
Hali Ragle
May 9, 2019
I really miss you.
October 30, 2017
I'll make you proud. -Logan
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Maw Maw Sharon
April 24, 2016
Today would be your 26th birthday. i think about you each and every day and miss you more than words could express. you would love and be proud of your niece and nephews. daylin looks like you and reminds me of you! we all love and miss you so much. its hard to believe that its been six years since you've been gone but there is not one day that goes by that you aren't in my thoughts and prayers. i love you baby james.
Mona Laird-Rafeedie
April 24, 2016
I woke up this morning thinking of your 19th birthday when we spoke at the moment you were born. The day you were born was such a beautiful day - sunshine and flowers and balloons, your precious smile. You loved the stories of that day. Love transcends time and I still long for you, my beautiful boy. Can't wait to see you again and hear your voice and get that embrace I am lucky enough to have known that still visits me in my dreams. Miss you and just want to kiss you. Love you so much, Mom
Brenda Bates
April 24, 2016
James, today is your 26th birthday. Still so hard to believe you are gone, not a day goes by that we don't think of you and all of the joy that you brought to our family. You would be so proud of your Mom, Jena and Logan. They have all shown tremendous courage in putting one foot in front of the next during some really tough times. Your legacy lives on..inspiring us to live life to the fullest and have some fun!
We still miss that little boy with the most infectious smile, amazing athleticism and too many friends to count. You will always live on in our memories until the day we are all together again. Love and miss you, Aunt Brenda
Hali Perkins
April 23, 2016
Tomorrow is your birthday. I wish you were still here. I miss you so much sweet angel. You were such an amazing young man! Fly high baby boy! We will meet again one day and until then I will continue to dream about you and reminisce of all the good times we had together.
Carroll Laird
April 26, 2015
Son your 25 years old ,can't believe it's been 6 years ago I miss you more and more each day...I love you son !
Love you dad
Brenda Bates
April 24, 2015
Twenty-five years ago today, our family was blessed with the most beautiful boy "Sweet Baby James." Still seems like yesterday all the cousins were just kids having fun...you always loved a party! Happy Birthday in Heaven. Love you!
Carroll laird
January 21, 2015
Good morning son,Jena started working with me today, she really likes it. It's like it was yesterday when we was working together , I miss you son.... love you.
Dad
January 20, 2015
been thinking about you a lot bro, you made an impact on my life and i will never forget you, i have friends that live in the same apartments your dad used to live in in salt lake every time i go there i cant help but think of you, Rest In Peace your friend from slc,ut
October 16, 2014
James: I miss you so much, every morning thinking of you and each night, wishing you were home. Time passes and the only consolation is that each day is one day closer to being with you. You will always be part of our lives and are still a treasured part of our family even though we are not together.
Miss you and just want to kiss you,
Love you forever
Mom
September 1, 2014
Son ,I love you so so much! miss you everday wish we was still working together.I know you are watching over your family. see you soon my son...love you dad
May 10, 2013
Son ,some people in your life that has died and moved on you will always miss no matter how much time has passed by.And believe me time doesn't heal all wounds.I miss you so much I love you Dad
April 24, 2013
Happy Birthday James...we miss you and will never forget you. Love, Aunt Brenda
April 23, 2013
On the day that you were born
the angels got together
and decided to create a dream come true
Just like me
They long to be
Close to you
Love you and miss you and just want to kiss you on your birthday and every single day of my life...
Mom
March 28, 2013
Son I miss you so much I love you,dad
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As I sit in Heaven
and watch you everyday
I try to let you know with signs
I never went away
I hear you when you're laughing
and watch you as you sleep
I even place my arms around you
to calm you as you weep
I see you wish the days away
Begging to have me home
so I try to send you signs
so you know you're not alone
don't feel guilty that you have
Life that was denied to me
Heaven is truly Beautiful
just wait and see
so live you're life,laugh again
Enjoy yourself,be free
then I know with every breath you take
you'll be taking one for me
February 15, 2013
Logan, Luca James and Seppe
February 14, 2013
Son: Missing you today as every day, our hearts with missing pieces as everyone celebrates Valentines. I still have your Valentines, hand drawn with notes to me. Special now more than ever. Everyone remembers you, everyday we think of you. Chase's son, Luca James, named after you got Christened this past Sunday. Seppe came from California and we celebrate his new life in Christ and he wore your Christening gown. So thankful for the blessing and thankful for the love of your friends that still love us. We miss you, son. Just waiting for the day when you grab my hand again. Love you forever, my baby you'll be...
Mom
February 2, 2013
I love and miss you so much son !keep watching over your siblings and keeping them safe. Dad
January 31, 2013
As I read some of the wonderful things said about James from family and friends I can't help but to see how loved he was. From you Mona I can feel the hurt, pain and no the sadness that you still have. Believe me I know not like some people who don't understand why the pain and the loss is still there for James. I am ever so right there still myself after over four years. Yes James lost a dear friend of his, right before you lost your precious son James, his friend my son Garrett. Not a day goes by where Garrett is first and always on me and Kara his moms mind. I know some people just don't get it even though so many sorrowful years have gone by. They should feel blessed that they have not had to live through such a tragedy. Thank you for being such a friend to add year after year towards Garrett's legacy, if you didn't do it we would most certainly do it our selfs. But I'm sure you love doing this in honor of Garrett's and James friendship. What a kind act to do for parents who share the same heart felt loss. Can't wait to share in Gods promise, when we are all united together in that great reunion in heaven. Now I know how the father must have felt. Kyle Worthington my precious son, Garrett's Father
December 20, 2012
Son its Christmas time again and it really sucks your not being here and all.I dont care for this time of year anymore its not the same without you,and in my case all my children are off doing their own thing cause there all grown up now so I dont see to much of any of them anymore. I wish you and I could go hunting again ,nows the time to go. the guys at work are killing alot of deer and some big ones too,but only a couple been bigger than yours.I think about you always I look at the sky alot to get a glemese of you peeking over a cloud.it still hurts everyone misses you !!!! I love you & miss you
November 29, 2012
EVERYONE MISSES YOU SON,WE LOVE YOU,DAD
November 27, 2012
Starry Night
I look up at the stars
always thinking of you
We see shooting stars now
signs from you
I remember the night I caught you out on the roof of the yellow house...
You had climbed out your window and were sitting on the roof
Just looking at the stars
You were twelve and in the astronaut club
We made a model of the planets and the stars
I was so afraid you would slip and fall
You just smiled and said "Look, Mom. How Cool..." The sky was lit up with them and it was cool. You were never afraid. You were always so nimble. You stood up and just walked back to me - not looking down from two full stories like it was something you did everyday.
I think about that night when I look up at the stars... Looking for you...
I remember you sitting there with your hand in your chin, your favorite pair of purple shorts and your smile. I love you and miss you so much. I remember everything and miss everything about you....
Yesterday someone randomly said - "You are James' mom..." and it made me so happy.... So happy to still be your mother...
Love you, Son
Mom
Mom
September 26, 2012
Just because time has passed
Doesn't mean I want to hear
Justifications from others
As to why you aren't here…
Why can't anyone understand
It will never be “okay”
That you are not here with me today
You had a good life,
You were always happy and free
Don't they know I still want you here with me
Doctors say I'm “untypical”
There has been enough time
The real insanity is assuming
this loss will pass
I cling to the memories
Your voice, your hat
Your laugh, your jeans
Your American Eagle underwear….
We all miss you
Your dad, your sister, your brother
For us – there will never be another
Like you – Our Special boy
We cry silent tears no one ever sees….
Missing you still brings me to my knees
As the seasons change, still reminds me of you
And us talking about all the things you would do
I love you and miss you and just want to kiss you
Every day I wake up wanting to see your sweet face
September 7, 2012
One Boy
One boy is all I need to get me thru the day
With twinkling eyes and a grin that takes my breath away
I am trying to listen to your brother, that our salvation is in the cross
But every moment of every day I still feel your loss
Ever thankful for the rainbows and redbirds, and hearts, the signs
No one will ever understand the love of yours and mine
I miss you so much, Son
I wish you were here with all of us
Love you forever
Mom
June 27, 2012
Son I miss you so damn much!!! I LOVE YOU...DAD
debe goree
June 21, 2012
Today I thought of you and your Mother....
Another young man I knew well has passed suddenly and left broken hearted parents.
Like your Mother, their pain and grief unmeasurable, their smiles & laughter quieted...
their sadness unimaginable...
Up in heaven with the Angels now, you are in God's arms, safe & surrounded with comforting love.
My prayer is that your Mother and other grieving Parents take comfort that you are in a beautiful place of grace and wonderment and that you look & watch over them every minute of their day.
Please send them Strength to Laugh & Love again until that day when you are all reunited.
You are always in my Prayers.
debehugs
Ryan Chavers
June 15, 2012
R.I.P BUDDY.
May 13, 2012
Some people are raised without knowing their mothers, so I should be thankful.
Thankful for all the real love that we shared. I miss you so much, miss our learning together and teaching each other. Logan got his truck yesterday. He looks just like you. I saw his bare feet dangling out of the side - with his quick hop - just like you... Makes my heart skip, memories...
I woke up this morning and looked outside. The birdfeeder you thought I was crazy for wanting for Mother's Day so long ago has broken. It doesn't hang anymore, but I keep it sitting on a small table. A red bird was there at my first glimpse. Logan jumped up when he saw my face because he thought something was up... He couldn't see it at first, but then it jumped up, and showed himself proudly, and flew away....
Hearts all over the world never feel the love that I felt when I was with you so for that I am grateful. Until I can hold your hand and you can whisper in my ear things that make me giggle, I will wait here patiently and watch for all the signs of love you send to me. Love you, my first born beloved son.
Proud to be the Mother of:
James Carroll Laird, III
Hali Perkins
April 24, 2012
I want to wish you a happy birthday, but I can't. I miss you so much that words can't describe. I know you are watching over me..that is suppose to help I guess..but it doesn't. I would do anything to give you a big birthday kiss and hug. I love you! Fly high baby!
April 24, 2012
Another Year
Another year in the Heavens and you are
doing your thing
Another year you have been blessed with God's presence
I miss you, James
Another year passes, but not a day that passes and you are not on my mind
Another year you'll send us more signs
You are living in my heart for another year
Until the day we meet again,
you get to watch me pray for you and all these things,
Another year
Another year you celebrate your wings, One day we will fly together
and do our thing
So I patiently wait for you
Another year
I will always love you
Love always,
Brittany Landry
April 24, 2012
April 24, 1990
On this day at 10:03 am, you were born
On your 19th birthday, I called to tell you happy birthday at that minute
And you thought that was "cool"
I am missing you and just want to kiss you
Missing you today as every day until all these stones are moved away
Love you my number one Son,
Mom
Brenda Bates
April 24, 2012
James,
We will never forget you - that little brown-eyed boy with a great big smile born 22 years ago today.
What a blessing for our family, and for all of the others whose lives you touched. Even though your years were short, your life was large. We will never forget you and remember this day always with love and a fond memory of the little brown-eyed boy blowing out those candles with a great big smile.
Know you are smiling down over all of us today. Love you somewhere over the rainbow. Aunt Brenda
April 24, 2012
I miss you so much son, Happy Birthday ! ILOve you, Dad.
April 4, 2012
I got a call today
from a friend of yours
Someone I had not seen in years
Calling me to tell me that you were such a good friend
That you were a loyal defender and would have taken on the world for them
We would give our world to have you back
You still mean so much to all of us
Just like Seppe said, as long as we are all breathing, you are still here with us
Miss and love you, Son
Mom
Carroll Laird
March 7, 2012
Son,Our Hearts still ache in sadness,and secret tears still flow ,what it meant to lose you,no one will ever know... son I miss you so much ! I LOVE YOU DAD !
Carroll Laird
March 5, 2012
If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane,I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. Dad
March 3, 2012
I thought of you with love today,but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday and days before that too. I think of you in silence. I often speak your name. Now all I have is memories and your picture in a frame. Your memory is our keepsake, with which we never part. God has you in his keeping. I have you in my heart.
Maw Maw
February 27, 2012
One thousand days
since you have been gone
One thousand days
one day is too long
I love you and miss you
and just want to kiss you
Lost in this craziness of searching
everyday in everyway
Finding you in my heart and in my mind
and in my dreams
Seeing your face, hearing your voice, feeling your hands
One thousand days of endless grief of endless love
Mom
February 19, 2012
Son, Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same,but as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.I LOVE AND MISS YOU ,DAD
Happy Day
January 5, 2012
Happy Day, Your graduation
We were so happy
You were done with school
We thought you had so much in front of you
We never thought our time would run out
Never a thought
Never a doubt
I would always have you
The way things should be
We talked about your future
You were "figuring it out"
We talked about you getting married
And your being a dad
And me being a grandmother
Now I am just sad
Just sad you are gone
So sad that it's true
The day they drove up
dressed in blue
To give me the news
No mother ever wants to hear
Now I cry this sea of endless tears
Because I miss you and only had you 19 years
They never stop
Neither does missing you
December 29, 2011
Greeting cards have been sent
The Christmas rush is thru
My one wish is
That I could be with you
Miss and love you so much
Miss your smile and your touch
Miss your joy at opening your presents
You were always the most excited
Love you, Son
Mom
December 7, 2011
“James:
Don't worry, you're not getting this to ask if you're getting enough sleep
Or remind you to sit up straight. Those days are long gone, thank you very much! I just want you to know how glad I am you're my son and how lucky I think the world is to have you in it.
You earn respect because you honor commitments, work hard, and play fair. Your generous spirit and good nature make you a fine man and such a source of pride to me. I'll always treasure a heart full of memories of “my little boy,” but with every day that passes, my appreciation deepens and my admiration grows for the remarkable man you are…
The son I love so much!
Dad”
Card written and signed on May 29, 2005
November 26, 2011
James, I'm so thankful for your smile and for how you enjoyed your life. It has been an inspiration for all of us. We miss you but know you are with us always, somewhere over the rainbow. Love you. Aunt Brenda
October 5, 2011
My smile
It's gone, like you
went away with you
Your smile at me
I miss so much
You always made me smile
Everyday
Since the day you were born
I miss you so much
There are no words to explain
My broken heart
That only you can fill
Your little hands that grew to be so strong
Your blonde curls that turned dark
And your eyes that were the sweetest eyes I have ever seen
We didn't even have to talk to eachother to know what the other was thinking.
I miss you. I miss everythng about you.
I love you so much, Son.
Mom
September 9, 2011
Missing you
today as every day
Until all the stones are moved away
August 12, 2011
We grieve what we value;
we grieve in porportion to our affection.
We grieve forever.
August 5, 2011
The secrets of a mother and a child,
A small cupped hand, a whisper, a smile
I miss you so much
Silly secrets we shared of things only we thought were funny
Or a shy question asked for confidence or courtesy
You always wanted to be sure you were being nice...
Or you were telling me to be nice...
I love you and I miss you
My first born son
You were my first gift of life
Mine is only half now since you are gone.
Mom
July 24, 2011
All the places I go remind me of being there with you
Remembering all the things you said - The first time you saw a homeless man with his young son - and how sad you were for the boy and the man... The little boy was the same age as you. You were both 6. You gave them your $5 bill... You were so generous, you were so kind, you always rooted for the underdog.
I miss you so much but every day I feel you with me - so much that there is no doubt it is only you trying to show me somehow you are here...
I love and miss you so much that nothing else matters to me but holding your tan hands - the hands that patted me back when I patted you... We all want you back, James. We all still need you....... Miss you so much
Love you forever my son
Mom
christina
July 22, 2011
loving & missing you every single day. wish i could see that beautiful smile one more time. ily james <3
June 19, 2011
Remembering all your dad taught you today, and missing you.
Love you,
Mom
Shooting the big gun
Mona Laird
June 19, 2011
Lynn DeBenedetto
June 12, 2011
Mona,
Your poems are just beautiful just like you and your beautiful family. I just read all of them. My heart goes out to you and my sister Judy. I lost a husband but losing a son I just can't imagine. Lift all your pain to the Lord. You are a great mother and your "Angels" are by your side. Love and miss you, Cousin Lynn
Janelle Dawson
June 12, 2011
Mona,
As I read this intimate account of your grief and your love for your son, my heart cries for you. I pray I never know what you have experienced, and still do. My own son is in the military and my greatest fear is losing him. I pray for him daily. Thank you for reminding each of us to cherish every moment we have with our children and the appreciation of the gift we still have in them.
I am so glad that you are able to document your pain, as I pray it helps in your healing. I know your life will never be the same, but I pray you continue to heal and live your life to the fullest. I believe there is no bond greater than a mother to her son, as I know that bond myself.
Keep healing my friend, and know that one day you will be wrapped in his arms again.
Love to you and your family,
Janelle
June 1, 2011
There is always something there to remind me...
May 20, 2011
Saying goodbye is the hardest part.
Two years ago we had to say goodbye.
Nothing is the same without you.
Nothing will ever be complete without you.
A part of me went with you two years ago today.
May 16, 2011
Two years ago today I lost you.
I will spend the rest of my days waiting to find you.
Love you so, miss you so, everyday, just wanting you back
Remembering everything about you, from the day you were born, your first steps, your whole short life, still thinking I may wake up and this will all be a bad dream. Love is the only thing that matters and I LOVE YOU!
Mom
May 1, 2011
The Warrior
"Out of every one hundred men,
ten shouldn't even be there,
eighty are just targets,
nine are the real fighters,
and we are lucky to have them,
for they make the battle,
Ah, but the one, one is a warrior
and he will bring the others back."
April 24, 2011
James,
I too remember how much you liked to make a wish throwing your coins in the fountain at the mall. I can still see you standing there with that sweet smile, believing in magic.
You were such a magical child.
We cherish all of those precious moments, but since the day we lost you, everything changed. Our family will never be the same and we are still hurting, but we are also trying to honor the memory of your zest for life. Trying to find joy in simple things like you and PawPaw taught us. It is not easy, but we will keep trying, and I too will make a wish with a dime thrown in the lake.
I think of you when I hear, "It is not years in life; but life in years that matters." You sure got this!
Thinking of you and wishing you a Happy 21st Birthday in Heaven.
Love you, Aunt Brenda
Mona Laird Rafeedie
April 22, 2011
James:
When I was pregnant with you, I started saving silver dimes in a ceramic baby shoe. My mother said it was “good luck.” You always had such good luck. I am still amazed by you.
I’m amazed at your life, amazed at your beauty, amazed at your spirit and amazed by your love.
I am praying for that “Amazing Grace” to get me through until I see you and you hold me for the first time in a long time – just like I held you when you were born. Your Dad would always pick at me and say “I kissed him first…”, because he was the most happy I have ever seen him the day you were born. He said “I must have done something right for God to have given me a son.”
I must have done something right also for God to have given me the gift of you and your love. I miss you every day, especially on your birthday.
There are 21 dimes are for all your friends who I know will visit you. Jena has taken the first one and is making her wish in the ocean. Each person can take one and make a wish in the water fountains where you are at your final rest. You loved to make “wishes” with your sisters and brother. No one could make as many skips as you! In honor of your birthday, I hope everyone gets their wish.
Love you so son,
Mom
(I luv u 2 mom)
April 15, 2011
Two young men, tipping their hats at me
"Hi Ma'am, James Laird was our friend, you see
Please don't cry. You had a great son.
He will always be with us."
Your last fight has been won.
As your birthday gets closer and I see signs with the date, my heart is breaking over the plans we had made.
Your 21st birthday, we had so much to do
But God called you to Heaven
so I'm here without you
The day is not forgotten, or the first time I held you in my arms.
Missing you today as everyday
Love you,
Mom
April 11, 2011
My eyes stay filled
Missing you still
Britany Landry brought me a picture of you yesterday
The last photo taken of you
wearing the last shirt I bought for you
for your birthday that's coming up again
Without you
No one is the same
Nothing ever will be
Missing my boy
Always wanting you with me
Mom
March 24, 2011
Baby James,
I think of you everyday but the thoughts have been more frequent due to the time of year. Your Birthday is on Easter Sunday this year and Easter will always remind me of you because it was the last time I saw your beautiful face here at my house for our family crawfish boil.
I have a picture of you & Carroll on my book shelf in a spot that I pass by 1000 times a day. It makes my heart skip a beat & takes my breath away every time I look at you.
I miss you terribly and can't wait to see you again one day. I truly love & miss you with all my heart.
Nanny Reesa
maddie
March 23, 2011
Im thinking about you alot tonight...
i miss you soo much its crazy!!!
not a day goes by that i dont think of you i cant wait to see you again and give you the biggest hug in the world. i dream about you all the time and hear your voice and feel you again. they seem so real that i never want to wake up because its the only time i get to spend with you. i love you so much!!
February 25, 2011
“…Stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.” 1 Corinthians 16
Knowing you are with Paw Paw now gives me some comfort. I know you had a hug for eachother.
Just like Blason said, he never knew anyone that had more courage than you, Son.
Can't wait to see you and Paw Paw again.
Missing you but watching birds soar in the sky, just like you and my dad.
Love you, Mom
January 25, 2011
"The greatest purpose in life
is to love and be loved."
So, you definitely fulfilled life's greatest purpose. Although there are things you may not have had enough time to do, you were so very loved. There is still not a week that goes by in this small town that someone doesn't stop me, honk at me or wave at me to say they were your friend. So many - people I don't even know - say they are proud to have been your friend. I am missing you today as every day and the tears flow like this rain. I hear your voice in my dreams and see your face in my sleep. Missing you today as every day since that Spring when everything stopped. Love you, Son. Mom
Mom
January 13, 2011
"And this is my beloved son, with whom I am well pleased...."
I am missing you so and love you so, my beautiful boy.
December 24, 2010
Our holidays - never the same
We still have ornaments with your name
We love you and miss you
How you loved Christmas Day
We miss your excitement and your making us laugh
Wish you were here with us son, everyday and today as we gather all together - the absence of you is greater
Your sister and brother talk of your waiting up when you were all younger.
Now I'm waiting just to see you again.
Miss and love you,
Mom
December 17, 2010
Been thinking of you as I see the season change and remembering how much you loved to hunt. The Christmas cards also remind me of you as I remember how much you loved Christmas. The other day, we had a luncheon and I got a little red Cardinal ornament - it is now in my office and I think of you whenever I glance at it. You are in our hearts forever. Our love for you is eternal and our memories are dear, just wish you were still here.
Love you, Aunt Brenda
November 25, 2010
James,
Today, like every day is a day that we miss you
But today, we are also thankful that we had you, because you gave us so much joy and showed us how to life life to the fullest
I know that you are looking down on us, our Guardian Angel, like Trevor said
Until we are all together again, know how much we Love and Miss you,
Aunt Brenda
November 24, 2010
My Thanksgiving Prayer
Since I believe strongly in Guardian Angels, thought this fit.
Guardian Angel, watch over those whose names you can read in my heart. Guard over them with every care and make their way easy and their labors fruitful. Dry their tears if they weep; sanctify their joys; raise their courage if they weaken;restore their hope if they lose heart, their health if they be ill, truth if they make a mistake, repentance if they fail.
You are all our Angel and never forgotten.
Trevor Sibley
November 22, 2010
I flew away from this place
to try to escape from this pain
of missing you.
Looking down in the sand, a perfect heart out of rock, a sign to say
"I love you."
Missing you more every day
like the song - time will bring you down, time will bend the knee...
Just one wish that I could have one more day for you to spend with me...
I would never let you go, hold you tight, grasp your hands... Remembering how you would sleep on my chest when you were first born... Now it's empty and hurting because I miss you so much. I just want to see you again.
Love you, Mom
October 29, 2010
Today is the first day since your last real birthday, April 24, 2009, since I have turned the page on the calendar in the kitchen with the "Thoughts for the Day and the Heart." I did it because we are having people over and I know everyone thinks I am crazy. This is what it says:
For by and by the mist will lift
and plain it all He'll make.
Through all the way, tho dark to me, He made not one mistake.
Miss you Mom
October 15, 2010
"Cloud 9"
Someone mentioned Cloud number 9 to me today... They were so happy, they were on Cloud number 9... I just stood for a moment, could not quickly reply. Thinking of you, in Heaven, maybe wearing your number 9 jersey... Maybe that's why it's called "Cloud Number 9."
Love my boy, miss you son.
Mom
Mom
September 30, 2010
Everyday
Everyday I am missing you
Everyday I am needing you
Everyday I am searching for you
Everyday I am hurting for you
Everyday I am praying for you
Everyday I am loving you
Everyday
September 20, 2010
The way I look at life has changed
I have slowed down the hustle to get everything done,
stopped being with people who bring me down
I listen more – I watch more
I watch children catch the bus and wave to their mothers
They are so lucky to still have the little hand waves
I watch old people help each other out of cars
They are so lucky to have each other
I watch mothers take care of their children in wheelchairs
They are so lucky to still have their presence
I watch for flowers to bloom in the spot where you planted the tree
I watch for birds to come to the feeders in the yard
I look at the broken patch on the side of the house where you hit it with the lawn mower
I watch Logan cut the grass in your shoes
I watch Hali cry when she lays in your bed
I watch Jena try to cope with the loss of her bubba
I watch myself age in the mirror, my face marked with lines from grief
I watch time go by and know that as it passes – I am closer to being with you again
The rumble of dodge trucks makes me think for a minute you are home
I know you are at “Home”, a place with only peace and grace
I miss you so much, miss the joy you brought to my heart by just being my son
I miss you making me laugh at things only we thought were funny
Everyday is a challenge with you not here
I don’t know why this has happened and still can’t believe its true
You are in my thoughts and in my dreams and my heart is broken forever without you
Love you, James
Mom
September 9, 2010
One year ago today they laid the stone with your name;
21 years ago today, your dad and I were married...
The significance of the irony of the dates, 9/9/89, 9/9/09 - and your jersey being "#9.
Who would have ever thought these things to be true
Miss and love you
Mom
September 6, 2010
"Mom, who is Casanova?"
I had to laugh, you asking me, with your head turned slightly, taking off your sunglasses after a fresh hair cut from Catty Shak. You said, "they said I look like Casanova, who is that?" I explained it was a compliment as he was one of the first famous film stars, known for being a lover and also his good looks..." You just laughed with that quick - Ha ha... and walked into your room...
I got roses yesterday. They are some of the pretties I have ever seen, dark in color, like your eyes, and they were marked "Casanova..."
I have them in my room, along with the sticker that tells me they are "Casanova" - just like you...
Beautiful and loved
Miss you so son, Love you, Mom
September 1, 2010
One boy is all I need
to get me thru the day
with twinkling eyes and
a grin to take my breath away
Who'll do anything to make me laugh
and kiss me square on the lips
Just like in the past
but I can't go back
for if I could - I'd be looking
out the window still and sure
for a yellow bus or a big red truck
that held my precious treasure
of one boy, my first born
who I will miss forever
One boy is all I need to make
me whole again
His name is James
Mom
August 27, 2010
I never thought I would ever have the job
of your grave tender.
It's a place we all go to remember...
To ease our longing for you,
an endless abyss.
To go to be close to you, at peace where you lay.
I never thought I would ever be your grave tender.
I'll do this for you forever and I'm glad to bear this pain rather than you for me - for if you missed me half as much for just one day - my heart would still be broken.
I have to keep faith, knowing you are in God's grace and LOVE BEARS ALL THINGS.
Love you forever my precious son,
Mom
August 23, 2010
"One window is all I need
to see the light of day
and see all the birds and trees
One window is all I need
To see beyond you and me
To wonder what the day will bring
One window is all I need
To see what all has happened to me"
by: James Laird, III in 9th grade
at Denham Springs Freshman High
August 19, 2010
My Little Bro
I love you and I wish you were home,
it hurts me to think you're so alone.
Its not the same without you here,
why this happened to you is still unclear.
I remember when we were little and we played in the yard,
then we'd go sit inside and play with cars.
You'd look at me with that smile,
your smile used to glow and strech for miles.
When I had a bad day you could make me fell better,
and i still cant believe your gone forever,
It hurts me to see what everyone is going through,
it hurts even more because there's nothing I can do.
I just wish I could make it all ok,
but all I can do is sit and pray.
I pray for you every night before I go to sleep,
and every time I think I hear you creep.
Sometimes its like you're still here,
I look at the door and wait for you to appear.
Then I realize that your really gone,
and I go back to feeling so alone.
I love you so much you just don't know,
But no matter what you'll always be my little bro
i love you so much james and cant wait to see your beautiful face again. but i know you are always with us and i have the best angel in the world to guide me through.
i love you little bro.
love always,
your big sis,
Britney
August 8, 2010
A mother bird came and built a nest out the back door we built for you..
That has not happened in the four years since we've lived here, just since you have been gone. You would have loved to watch her... She made it with twigs and mud. You always picked at me saying "You love those birds, just like your mom..." You thought I was crazy for wanting a bird feeder for Mother's day - telling me "Pick something better than that!" She laid 5 eggs. I thought there were only 3 at first but Logan kept saying - "Mom, there's more. I'm telling you!" and he was right. She stayed with them, sat on them until they hatched, fed them non-stop, cleaned them and even went crazy when we would try to get too close...
They grew from little chirping naked fragile chicks into strong young birds, standing on the edge of the nest, flapping their wings until they flew off... Now, the mom just hangs around, waiting for them to come back. Some do and some don't... When they do come, she peeps and peeps - I guess it's like life. Everyone flies away... I hope your flying high today.. Cause I'm the bird in the empty nest just wanting the baby chick back... Miss my boy... Love you forever, son.
August 4, 2010
I found a cd you burned in your old cd player in your room. I know it's from when you were 16... There are 19 songs... You must have made it for Lindsey Kirk!
All you, 100% you...
I listen as I drive, thinking of everything about you, girls kissing you like you are a Prince... You are still my Prince - so charming you could get everything you wanted so easily... I am still always on your side no matter what...
"We can go to the tropics, sip Pinacolada's, shorty I can take you there..." I remember you LOVED those frozen drinks in the lazy river at the Oasis Hotel where we loved to take you and your sister and your brother...
The songs bring me back to you - in every way but physically having you here. I would give anything for one more day with my beautiful brown eyed boy who always held my hand with a special touch. I miss you, James. I miss you having my back and me having yours, too.... I still need you everyday... Love you so much -forever....
Mom
August 2, 2010
ALWAYS number 1, just like the sticker still on your remote, #1 son...
ALWAYS my hero, there was nothing you couldn't do...
ALWAYS in my heart, it's just weak now, missing the strength I got from you...
Love and miss you today as everyday. Wishing you were here with us, with your smile, perfect teeth and chin. The dentist called to remind you of a cleaning... You loved that pretty hygenist... They are sad you are gone, too. Your friends still flash their lights and wave at me. I'm still "famous" because I am still your mother... I hope you are waiting by that gate for me because I'm just waiting and praying to see you when I get there...
Love you forever
Mom
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