Janet Rife Obituary
Published by Legacy Remembers on Nov. 16, 2012.
Janet Parsons Rife, 54, our beloved daughter, wife, mother, "NanaJan," and friend died on November 16, 2012, at home, of ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease).
Janet was born December 31, 1957, in Casablanca, Morocco, to Richard Blaine Parsons and Cenia Marie Carlsen Parsons, whom she loved and honored. She married her eternal sweetheart, Richard C. Rife, on November 19, 1976, in the Provo Temple. Janet had six children and nine grandchildren, whom she dearly loved and selflessly served.
Janet was an Army brat, growing up in California, Texas, Norway, Wyoming, and Thailand. She graduated from the International School of Bangkok and attended BYU. Her main focus was as a homemaker and mother, but she was also a gifted interior designer who most often used her talent free of charge for friends and acquaintances. She was never happier than when letting her "decorating juices flow" on behalf of someone else.
Janet was a devoted latter-day saint who loved the Lord and the Church. She was a true disciple of Christ, who quietly served others. She did not seek fanfare; it was enough if the Lord knew. She was an avid student of the scriptures who had a daily "Sacred Grove" experience by studying the scriptures, praying to her Heavenly Father, and recording her inspiration in her journal.
She had—and completely magnified—many callings in the Church, including Young Women President, Primary President, Relief Society counselor, mission president's companion, teacher, Primary chorister, pianist, and temple worker. Her main role was as a Young Women leader who loved the young women and could not wait for the next girls' camp.
From 2001 to 2004, Janet served a full-time mission with her husband as president of the Korea Daejeon Mission. In this calling, she was surrogate mother to 350 missionaries, caring for their health, showing them love, and teaching them insightful gospel lessons. She set a great example of Mormon womanhood for the missionaries and helped them develop a deep love of the scriptures.
Still, her greatest service in life was as a wife and mother. Janet and Rich built a great marriage. She was so kind, generous, and fun that it was easy to be married to her. She loved her children and grandchildren with all her heart and derived great joy from her relationship with them. Janet loved to serve her children and grandchildren. To her children, she was a fountain of wise advice without a hint of criticism. She leaves a void in our family that can never be filled.
Janet had an eclectic list of "favorite things" she loved passionately: Organizing things; color coordinating; new clothes, shoes, and accessorizing; Disney princesses; clouds; the night sky and astronomy; the rainbow spectrum; blue and white china; the four seasons; Camp MIA Shalom (girls' camp for the Orem stakes), and the hike to Lone Pine; music, especially Handel's Messiah; art museums; hiking and biking; gothic arches; forget-me-nots; the color blue (and also red and yellow); the ocean and beaches; Mount Timpanogos; temples (especially Provo where she was married and Mount Timpanogos where she served as an ordinance worker); faith, hope, and charity (her theme); her husband and family; and supporting a missionary son in Korea.
Janet had high energy and a passion for everything she did. She was physically beautiful and spiritually beautiful. She created beauty. The world will be a less beautiful place without her.
If Janet was your friend, you had a true friend indeed. She loved to have lunch with her many friends. She is known by all for kindness and service within her sphere of influence.
It is rare indeed to meet someone who makes such a positive impact on the lives of others as Janet Rife did. Our lives—and countless others—have been greatly enriched by her presence. We will miss her terribly. There is no way to replace her.
Janet was diagnosed with ALS in July 2011. She faced this terrible disease with courage and grace. It was her goal to endure ALS with patience and cheerfulness. ALS robs its victims of muscle use. Janet prayed to be able to retain her ability to smile, so she could show the world that she was bearing her affliction cheerfully. And God granted this wish. She smiled all the way through this tragic illness. Although she hated the thought of "dying young," she was grateful for the privilege of raising her six children to adulthood.
We are grateful for the service of Janet's three daughters, who tenderly cared for their dear mother with the full support of their husbands. We are grateful for the love and support of Janet's parents and sons. We express sincere appreciation to Janet's network of dear friends and sisters in the gospel who devoted much time and effort to serve her and bless her life in the past months. We will never forget their kindness and service.
We express appreciation to Dr. Mark Bromberg and the ALS clinic at the University of Utah for their loving care of Janet.
Janet is survived by her parents, of Orem; her husband, also of Orem; three daughters: Laura (Alan) Buchanan of Provo; Mary (Logan) Hammer of Layton; and Jennifer (Trevor) Cox of Orem; three sons: Brian Rife of Orem, Todd (Kiersten) Rife of Orem; and Elder Michael Rife, Seoul, Korea; nine grandchildren: Connor, Abby, Andrew, and Hannah Buchanan; Ayden, Sophie, Myla, and Rife Hammer; and baby girl Cox expected in mid-December; brother: Keith Parsons; sister: Laura Hindmarsh; and sister-in-law: Jill Parsons.
Funeral services will be Wednesday, November 21, 2012, at 11 a.m. at the Orem Heatheridge 9th Ward LDS Chapel, 450 East 2000 North in Orem. Family and friends may call at the Walker Sanderson Funeral Home (646 East 800 North in Orem), Tuesday, November 20, 2012, from 6-8 p.m. and at the church from 9:30 to 10:45 a.m. prior to the service. Janet's wish was that, in lieu of flowers, you use the money to take your family out to dinner and make a memory.
Korean Translation by Dukhyun Cho
ì œë„· ë�¼ì�´í”„ê°€ 소천하였습니다.
우리ì�˜ 사랑하는 딸, ì•„ë‚´, 엄마, "내니ì (ì í• ë¨¸ë‹ˆ)"ì�´ìž� 친구ì�¸ ì œë„· 파슨스 ë�¼ì�´í”„(54세)ê°€ 2012ë…„ 11ì›” 16ì�¼ ìž�íƒ�ì—�서 ALS(루게ë¦ë³‘)으로 별세했습니다.
ì œë„·ì�€ 1957ë…„ 12ì›”31ì�¼ 모로코 카사블랑카ì—�서 ìƒ�ì „ 늘 ì‚¬ëž‘í•˜ê³ ì¡´ê²½í–ˆë�˜ 리차드 ë¸”ë ˆì�¸ 파슨슨와 세니아 마리 칼슨 파슨스ì�˜ 딸로 태어났습니다. ì œë„·ì�€ 1976ë…„ 11ì›” 19ì�¼ 프로보 ì„±ì „ì—�서 ì˜�ì›�한 ë°˜ë ¤ìž� 리처드 C. ë�¼ì�´í”„와 결혼했습니다. ì œë„·ì�€ 슬하ì—� 여섯 ìž�녀와 아홉 ì†�ìž�녀를 ë‘�었으며 늘 그들ì�„ 진심으로 ì‚¬ëž‘í•˜ê³ ì •ì„±ì�„ 다해 섬겼습니다.
ì œë„·ì�€ êµ°ì�¸ì�˜ 딸로서 캘리í�¬ë‹ˆì•„, í…�사스, 노르웨ì�´, 와ì�´ì˜¤ë°�, 태êµì—�서 성장했습니다. 방콕 êµì œí•™êµ�를 ì¡¸ì—…í•˜ê³ BYUì—� 진학했습니다. ê·¸ì�˜ 꿈ì�€ 현모양처였습니다. ê·¸ë ‡ì§€ë§Œ 실내디ìž�ì�¸ì—�ë�„ 특출한 재능ì�´ 있어 친구와 ì§€ì�¸ë“¤ì—�서 무료로 ê·¸ 재능ì�„ ë„�리 나누었습니다. 그녀ì—�게 누군가를 위해 ìž�기ì�˜ 재능ì�„ ì‚¬ìš©í• ë•Œë³´ë‹¤ ë�” 행복한 순간ì�€ 없었습니다.
ì œë„·ì�€ 주님과 êµ�회를 사랑한 í—Œì‹ ì �ì�¸ ë§�ì�¼ì„±ë�„였습니다. ì°¸ë�œ 그리스ë�„ì�˜ ì œìž�로서 소리 ì—†ì�´ ì�´ì›ƒì�„ 섬겼습니다. íŒ¡íŒŒë ˆë¥¼ 구하지 않았습니다. 주님ì�´ 아시는 것으로 충분했습니다. 그녀는 매ì�¼ë§¤ì�¼ "성스런 숲"ì�˜ 경험ì�„ 하는 열심으로 ê²½ì „ì�„ íƒ�구하는 í•™ìƒ�ì�´ì—ˆìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. ê²½ì „ì�„ ê³µë¶€í•˜ê³ , 하나님 아버지께 기ë�„í•˜ê³ ì�¼ê¸°ìž¥ì—� ì˜�ê°� ë°›ì�€ 것ì�„ 기ë¡�하였습니다.
ì œë„·ì�€ 그녀가 ë°›ì�€ êµ�회ì�˜ ëª¨ë“ ë¶€ë¦„ì�„ ì™„ì „ížˆ ì˜�í™”ë¡ê²Œí•˜ì˜€ìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. ì²ë…€íšŒìž¥, ìƒ�호부조회장단 보좌, ì„ êµ�부장ì�˜ ë�™ë°˜ìž�, êµ�사, 초등회 지휘ìž�, 피아노 반주ìž�, ì„±ì „ 봉사ìž�로 봉사했습니다. 특히 ì²ë…€ ì§€ë�„ìž�로서 봉사하면서 ì²ë…€ë“¤ì�„ 사랑했으며 늘 다ì�Œ 번 ì²ë…€ìº 프를 미리미리 준비하였습니다.
2001년부터 2004년까지 ì œë„·ì�€ 한êµëŒ€ì „ì„ êµ�부장으로 부름 ë°›ì�€ 남편과 함께 ì „ìž„ì„ êµ�사로 봉사했습니다. 350명ì—� ì�´ë¥´ëŠ” ì„ êµ�사들ì�˜ 엄마로서 그들ì�˜ ê±´ê°•ì�„ ë�Œë³´ê³ 사랑ì�„ ë³´ì�´ê³ ì˜�ê°�ì—� ì°¬ ë³µì�Œ êµ�리를 가르쳤습니다. ì„ êµ�사들ì—�게 몰몬 ì—¬ì�¸ìƒ�ì�˜ ì •ìˆ˜ë¥¼ 보여주었으며 그들ì�´ ê²½ì „ì—� 대한 깊ì�´ 있는 사랑ì�„ 개발하ë�„ë¡� ë�„와 주었습니다.
ê·¸ë ‡ì§€ë§Œ 그녀 ìƒ�ì• ì�˜ 가장 위대한 봉사는 ì—시 아내와 엄마ì�˜ ì—í• ì�´ì—ˆìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. ì œë„·ê³¼ 리차드는 위대한 결혼ìƒ�활ì�„ ì�¼êµ¬ì–´ë‚´ì—ˆìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. 워낙 ì¹œì ˆí•˜ê³ í›„í•˜ê³ ìž¬ë¯¸ìžˆëŠ” ì—¬ì�¸ì�´ì—ˆê¸°ì—� 그녀와 결혼하는 것ì�€ 쉬운 ì�¼ì�´ì—ˆìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. 그녀는 ìž�녀와 ì†�ìž�녀를 온 마ì�Œì�„ 다해 ì‚¬ëž‘í•˜ê³ ê·¸ëŸ° 관계를 통해 í�° 기ì�¨ì�„ ìž�아내었습니다. ì œë„·ì�€ ìž�녀와 ì†�ìž�ë…€ 섬기기를 사랑했습니다. ì œë„·ì�€ ìž�녀들ì—�게 한 마디 비난조차 하지 ì•Šê³ í˜„ëª…í•œ ì¡°ì–¸ì�„ í•´ 주는 현명한 ì¡°ì–¸ì�˜ 샘터였습니다. 그녀는 ê²°ì½” 채울 수 없는 빈 공간ì�„ 남겼습니다.
ì œë„·ì—�게는 그녀가 ì—´ì •ì �으로 사랑했ë�˜ 다양한 "좋아하는 ì�¼ë“¤"ì�˜ 목ë¡�ì�´ 있었니다. 물건 ì •ë¦¬, 색깔 맞추기, 새 옷, ì‹ ë°œ, 악세서리, 디즈니 공주들, 구름, 밤하늘과 별보기, 무지개 스펙트럼, 파란색 하얀색 ë�„ìž�기, 4ê³„ì ˆ, MIA 샬롬 ìº í”„(ì˜¤ë ˜ 스테ì�´í�¬ì�˜ ì²ë…€ ìº í”„), ë¡ íŒŒì�¸ì—� 등산하기, ì�Œì•… 특히 í—¨ë�¸ì�˜ 메시아, ë¯¸ìˆ ê´€, 등산과 ìž�ì „ê±° 타기, ê³ ë”• 아치, 물ë§�ì´ˆ, 파란색 (빨강과 노랑ë�„), 바다, 바닷가, íŒ€íŒŒë…¸ê³ ìŠ¤ ì‚°, ì„±ì „(특히 결혼ì‹�í–ˆë�˜ 프로보 ì„±ì „ê³¼ ì�˜ì‹�봉사ìž�로 봉사했ë�˜ íŒ€íŒŒë…¸ê³ ìŠ¤ ì„±ì „), ì‹ ì•™, 소ë§� ê·¸ë¦¬ê³ ì‚¬ëž‘(그녀ì�˜ ì£¼ì œì˜€ì�Œ), 남편, 가족, 한êµì—�서 ì„ êµ�사로 ë´‰ì‚¬í•˜ê³ ìžˆëŠ” 아들ì�„ ì§€ì›�하는 것 등등입니다.
ì œë„·ì�€ 그녀가 í–ˆë�˜ ëª¨ë“ ê²ƒì—� ì—´ì •ê³¼ ì—�너지를 ì•„ë�¼ì§€ 않았습니다. 외모ë�„ ì•„ë¦„ë‹¤ì› ì�„ ë¿�아니ë�¼ ì˜�ì �으로ë�„ ì•„ë¦„ë‹¤ì› ìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. 그녀는 아름다움ì�„ 창조했습니다. ì œë„·ì�´ 없는 ì�´ 세ìƒ�ì�€ ì�´ì œëŠ” ì „ë³´ë‹¤ ë�œ 아름다운 ê³³ì�´ ë� 것입니다.
ì œë„·ì�´ 여러분ì�˜ 친구였다면 ë‹¹ì‹ ì�€ 실로 ì°¸ 친구를 가졌ë�˜ 것입니다. 그녀는 수많ì�€ 친구들과 ì �심ì‹�사하기를 ì¦�겼습니다. ì œë„·ì�„ 아는 ëª¨ë“ ì‚¬ëžŒë“¤ì�€ 그녀가 ìµœì„ ì�„ 다해 ì¹œì ˆê³¼ 봉사하는 ì‚¶ì�„ ì‚´ì•˜ë‹¤ê³ ë§�합니다.
ì œë„· ë�¼ì�´í”„ê°€ í–ˆë�˜ 것처럼 ì�´ì›ƒë“¤ì�˜ ì‚¶ì—� ê¸�ì �ì �ì�¸ ì˜�í–¥ì�„ 주는 누군가를 만나기란 실로 쉽지 않습니다. 우리ì�˜ ì‚¶ ê·¸ë¦¬ê³ ìˆ˜ë§Žì�€ ì�´ì›ƒë“¤ì�˜ ì‚¶ì�´ 그녀가 있었기ì—� 훨씬 í’�성했습니다. 우리는 그녀를 ë�ë�¼ ë§�í• ìˆ˜ ì—†ì�´ 그리워합니다. 그녀를 ëŒ€ì‹ í• ì‚¬ëžŒì�´ 없으니까요.
ì œë„·ì�€ 2011ë…„ 7ì›” ALS(ë£¨ê²Œë¦ ë³‘) 진단ì�„ 받았습니다. 그녀는 ì�´ ì—„ì²ë‚œ 병ì�„ 용기와 우아함으로 ë§žì�´í–ˆìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. ì�¸ë‚´ì™€ 명랑함으로 ALSì�„ 견뎌내는 목표를 가졌습니다. ALSë�¼ëŠ” 병ì�€ 환ìž�ì�˜ 근육 사용ì�„ 앗아갑니다. ì œë„·ì�€ 미소를 잃지 않게 해달ë�¼ê³ 기ë�„했습니다. 그래서 ì�´ 세ìƒ�ì—� 그녀가 ê·¸ ê³ í†µì�„ 쾌활하게 ê²¬ë””ê³ ìžˆì�Œì�„ ë³´ì�´ê³ ìž� 했습니다. 하나님께서 ê·¸ 바람ì�„ ì�´ë£¨ì–´ 주셨습니다. 그녀는 ì�´ 참담한 ë³‘ê³ ì†�ì—�서ë�„ 늘 미소를 잃지 않았습니다. "ì Šì–´ì„œ 죽는다"는 것ì�´ 싫었지만 그녀는 여섯 ìž�녀를 장성하게 키울 수 있었ë�˜ 특권ì�„ ê°�사히 여겼습니다.
우리는 ì œë„·ì�˜ 세 딸들ì�˜ 봉사ì—� ê°�사합니다. 우리 딸들ì�€ 사랑하는 엄마를 ê°�ìž� 남편ì�˜ ì ˆëŒ€ì � ì§€ì›� ì†�ì—�서 ì˜¨ì „ížˆ ë�Œë³´ì•˜ìŠµë‹ˆë‹¤. 우리는 ì œë„·ì�˜ 부모님과 아들들ì�´ 보여준 사랑과 ì§€ì›�ì—� ê°�사합니다. 우리는 ì œë„·ì�´ 사랑하는 ë³µì�Œì�˜ 친구들과 ìž�매들ì—�게 심심한 ê°�사를 표합니다. ê·¸ 분들ì�€ 지난 수 개월 ë�™ì•ˆ ë§Žì�€ 시간과 ì •ì„±ì�„ 들여 ì œë„·ì�„ 위해 ë´‰ì‚¬í•˜ê³ ê·¸ë…€ì�˜ ì‚¶ì�„ 축복하는 ë�° ì „ë ¥ì�„ 다하였습니다. 우리는 그들ì�˜ ì¹œì ˆê³¼ 봉사를 ê²°ì½” 잊ì�„ 수 ì—†ì�„ 것입니다.
우리는 그간 ì œë„·ì�„ 사랑으로 치료해 준 마í�¬ 브룸버그 박사와 ìœ íƒ€ 대학êµ� ALS 병ì›� 관계ìž�들ì—�게 ê°�사들 표합니다.
ì œë„·ì�˜ 가족ì�€ ì˜¤ë ˜ì—� 사시는 부모님과 ì—시 ì˜¤ë ˜ì—� 사는 그녀ì�˜ 남편, ê·¸ë¦¬ê³ ì„¸ 딸들: 프로보 거주 로ë�¼(ì•Œë Œ) ë¶€ìº�넌, ë ˆì�´í†¤ 거주 메리 (로건) 해머, ì˜¤ë ˜ 거주 ì œë‹ˆí�¼ (íŠ¸ë ˆë²„) 콕스. ë˜�한 세 아들: ì˜¤ë ˜ 거주 브ë�¼ì�´ì–¸ ë�¼ì�´í”„, ì˜¤ë ˜ 거주 í† ë“œ (키얼스í…�) ë�¼ì�´í”„, í•œêµ ì„œìš¸ì—�서 봉사하는 마ì�´í�´ ë�¼ì�´í”„ 장로. ê·¸ë¦¬ê³ ì•„í™‰ ì†�ìž�ë…€: 코너, ì• ë¹„, 앤드류, 해나 브ìº�넌; ì• ì�´ë“ , 소피, ë°€ë�¼, ë�¼ì�´í”„ 해머; 12ì›” 중순 íƒœì–´ë‚ ì•„ê¸° 콕스; 남ë�™ìƒ� 키스 파슨스, ì—¬ë�™ìƒ� 로ë�¼ 힌드마쉬, 올케 질 파슨스입니다.
장례ì‹�ì�€ 2012ë…„ 11ì›” 21ì�¼ ì˜¤ì „ 11시 ì˜¤ë ˜ í—¤ë�”리지 9와드 예배당ì—�서 열립니다. 주소는 450 East 2000 North in Orem입니다. ì¡°ì�˜ë¥¼ í‘œí•˜ê³ ìž� 하는 가족과 친지는 워커샌ë�”슨 장례ì‹�장(646 East 800 North in Orem, 2012ë…„ 11ì›” 20ì�¼ 화요ì�¼ ì €ë…� 6-8)ì�´ë‚˜ 장례예배 ì „ 9:30-10:45ì—� êµ�회로 오시기 ë°”ëž�니다. ì œë„·ì�´ 한 가지 당부한 것ì�´ 있습니다. 화환ì�´ë‚˜ 꽃ì�„ ì •ì¤‘ížˆ ì‚¬ì ˆí•©ë‹ˆë‹¤. ëŒ€ì‹ ê·¸ ë�ˆìœ¼ë¡œ 가족과 함께 외ì‹�ì�„ 하면서 추억ì�„ 쌓으시기 바란다는 당부입니다.