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October 9, 2012
Jay, you are always on our minds. You'll forever be in our hearts. We remember the joy and the laughter you brought us, so innocently. Know that we smiled with pride as you grew from a young boy into an amazing, accomplished but humble young man. You know, we might still not have a computer if you hadn't built and given us one that Christmas. You remember, HATHOR carved on the front. So many wonderful reminders of you. Halloween is around the corner and there will be more stories and pictures; We are remembering you fondly Jay with our love and our prayers, until we meet again.
Aunt Dianne and Uncle Bill xxoo
P.S. It's your Grandpa Walter's 89th birthday today, October 9th. We're sure you'll show him a good time.
Thanks, Jay, love ya and miss you dearly.
February 29, 2012
I think of you so much. I miss seeing you. I miss your love and sincerity, your smile and those hugs of yours- those 'I love you too' hugs. Until a time when God sees fit, to join us once again, I'll miss you. xo
Breanna Botsford
October 3, 2011
As I sit here and type this I'm listening to 'Bruno Mars - Talking to the Moon'. I can't stop listening to it. It reminds me of the saturday night before you left for BC. You came home from your buddies wedding and came upstairs into my room. That night is one of the best memories I have with you. We were up til after 5am in the morning talking about life. We sat on my bed and talked and talked and then I wanted a cigarette so we went out on the front porch and you took out your iPhone and we looked at all the stars. There were 3 really bright stars in front of the house and I asked you the names of them and you showed them to me on your phone. They were 3 stars in the Perseus Constellation. I can't begin to tell you how much those 3 stars mean to me now Bub. I look up in the sky for them almost every night as they have moved in the sky like stars do as the seasons change. I can't wait til the end of summer comes and they are back in front of the house so I can look at them every night while I sit on the porch. A few nights ago before work I went outside to look for those 3 stars as I usually do and you sent me 4 shooting stars. I know that was your way of telling me you were there. The stars and the night sky have new meaning to me now. Every time I look up at the night sky I think of you. This song is perfect. Ironically my birthday is the peak day of the Perseids Meteor Shower like you told me in my birthday card last year. What is ironic about that is the Perseids Meteor Shower is named that because the point they come from lies in the constellation Perseus. What are the odds that those stars were the ones you and I were looking at eh?
I love you and miss you so much Bub and I can't wait til the day I can hug you and hear you voice again.
XO Bre
Nicole Lassaline
October 1, 2011
It's hard to believe a year has already passed us by. You left such an unimaginable void in our lives and hearts when you went to your forever home that day. I miss your laugh, your smile, your sarcasm, but most of all your hugs - you gave the best. Reading the many books I've read over the last year of people who have visited Heaven and returned with stories to share has provided me with much peace and comfort and the ability to help visualize the awesomeness you must be living. I wait for the day when we can share with Piper all the amazing things you accomplished here on earth, though I know you are with her always. Everyday on earth without you, is one day nearer to seeing you again. I pray for you everyday and for Dad, Mom, Bre and Don, Aaron, Yvette and Piper - that you continue to find ways to show them you are near. Looking very much forward to the day when I can hug you again. Love you Beebo. XXOO
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Stephanie (Talbot) Patterson
October 1, 2011
Just wanted to say to the entire family that our love and prayers are always with you. Its the memories we have that keep our loved ones dear to our hearts forever. May God give you all comfort and peace now and forever. May he continue to bless you with love and family.
We love you all.
Stephanie and Billy Patterson
Matthew Tickner
October 1, 2011
Hey Buddy,
I know I haven't written on this site before now though I have always wanted to. Unfortunately I lacked the courage to write knowing you are no longer here to read it. The thought of that really hurts. I think about you a lot and you often appear in my dreams so I know your around telling me that that your good to go and you are right were you need to be. When I came home for christmas, I walked into your room and seeing some of the stuff we played with when we were kids made me think about what a great person you really were and I broke down in tears. I wish I had the kindness and sincerity you possessed. You will be forever missed in my heart and will never be forgotten.
I love you mr jaybird and i hope to see you again one day!
Love Matt
Breanna Botsford
October 1, 2011
I miss you and love you so much!
Felicia :)
September 8, 2011
I can't believe that it's been a year since Jay went to be in the Lord's presence. Jay and I worked together at the car wash, and Jay always had a great big smile! May God bless you all, and keep the faith... till you meet again!
Mary Heath
September 8, 2011
Sandy and family,
I will visit and say a prayer at Jay's memorial today. May you be blessed by the love of friends and memories of dear Jay.
Mary Heath, Pastoral Minister, Heavenly Rest
sharon antenucci
August 23, 2011
August 22 2011
Happy Birthday, Jay! If there are birthday parties in Heaven, you will make sure that today's sets the standard. We miss you so much! xoxo
Love Aunt Sharon.
Trish Hamilton
June 16, 2011
Never will forget you friend. You will always be remembered by so many as someone we wish we all could be more like. Always smiling and happy. You are missed everyday at CSG. I hope they have plenty of fresh bananas in heaven for you everyday!
Yvette Botsford
October 21, 2010
With your arms around me
You're singing softly
And I fade from memory
And move on
May nothing harm you
I'm still inside you
With my wings around you,
you'll go on
Beebo,
For one of the first times in my life, I've been rendered speechless. Thinking of the good times may work for some, but at the end of the day it just reminds me that I'm saving memories because there are no more to be made. Praying for everything we've been taught to know and believe! Hugs again one day... Love you Bro
Keeping you fondly in my mind, heart and soul forever.
Love always,
Yvette
October 21, 2010
Don't cry because it ove, smile because it happeped
Yvette Botsford
October 21, 2010
With your arms around me
You're singing softly
And I fade from memory
And move on
May nothing harm you
I'm still inside you
With my wings around you
You'll go on
For the first time in my life I've been rendered speechless. Memories are cathartic for some, but at the end of the day, I'll always remember the good times because deep down I feel as though there are no more to be had.
Through what I have come to know, I am POSITIVE I will see you again. Trust that your inquisitive nature will bring you more answers than you could have hoped for and that you will in some way share that peace with me.
Know that you are always in our hearts, and that Piper will never know an uncles love more than yours.
Nothing but love and prayers,
Love Yvette
Miss you forever
Joel Brown
October 14, 2010
Jay,
Words cannot describe the pain I feel inside when I think I will never see you again. I lost a part of me the day you died, something I hope I gain back by loving your memory instead of grieving your death. I will never forget that solid week we spent at the farm turtle hunting and swimming in the pond, riding bikes, shooting the bb guns at everything in sight (except animals because grandma wouldn't like it!), and all the other things we got into that you and I can only smile about. When it comes to us, Jay, every time we got together was good, to the point just sitting around with each other could be entertaining enough. I loved you like a brother, Jay, and I hope and pray that I see you again when I'm gone. Until then, I will try to live my life with the dedication you showed while living yours. Rest in peace cousin.
Love always (and special handshake)
Tanya Stepanek
October 12, 2010
Jay in Cancun, blitzed with drink and beef on the pirate ship... Running away from Sandy from one end of the boat to the other, double fisted and laughing at us while we tried to get the drinks away! Him thanking everyone for coming while they got off the boat, as if he was the captain! The tears rolling down my face from laughter as he asked the taxi driver on the way home "is there a taco bell around senor?"... and "Kulukan!" over.. and over:)
There are so many more memories that I have with Jay and his family that always make me smile because all I ever did with them is laugh. To know Jay was to laugh with him and admire him.
But now there are tears, the ones that come when you miss someone so and there's nothing to do until the wave washes away until the next crash. But inbetween, with the delightful Botsford family, there is so much laughter and love that I am bound for life with this family and will happily ride the waves with whatever joy and sorrow that may come.
RIP Jay, I will see you again.
Dianne Paterson
October 11, 2010
On this day of Thanksgiving, we are grateful, as we come together in love and give thanks for our blessings.
Life has changed. Hearts are broken, tears flow, we are missing Jay. We wish words could comfort.
We don't understand, but we Believe. And we thank God for all that Jay was to us.
Jay was the best; a most loving son, and brother, a dear brother-in-law and uncle and devoted grandson; Jay was special to us all. Being the greatest cousin, and nephew came easy to him and he was the best; a dear boyfriend, and a good friend like no other.
We are thankful and yearn to hear the stories that tell of his jokes and banter, his vision and plans, the questions he sought and the answers he found.
He inspired us. We hear of his sensitivity and caring of others; he was humble and wise. He quietly gave to those in need. Jay was taught well, by his parents and grandparents who instilled in him the importance of family and the values that made him the wonderful young man he became. He loved, and was loved. His hugs were the best, his smiles sincere and his laughter contagious.
So on this day of Thanksgiving, we give thanks, and ask God to bring us peace, and keep Jay in His loving care until the day comes when we shall all, see him again.
Aunt Dianne and Uncle Bill
William Abanid
October 8, 2010
Back in 1996 I met your mother, Nicole, Bri and Yvette then I got to meet you. A young kid with with his future before him. Someone who had a lot to learn and experience. I learned you were independent and wanted to do do things for yourself. I knew that you loved your family in so many ways that many others would not see.
One day you grew and had already achieved so many things in your life. Like your family ... I am very proud of the things you have done and the man you have become. I am lucky to have known you and your family. I know that you will watch over them during there time on this earth.
I know I will see you again in the future...and look forward to meeting up with you for a beer! RIP young botsford
Scott Tracey
October 8, 2010
To be honest, I didn't really know Jay that well. I befriended his sister Nicole in highschool and found out that she and her family were a tight bunch. Through out the past month Lyndsay has shared so many great memories she had with Jay and the Botsford family. This all seems so wrong that he is gone after only 26 years. One thing that is true is he was loved by so many people. Just reading what everyone had to say about him is amazing. My heart goes out to the Botsford family.
I love you Bub xo
Breanna Botsford
October 8, 2010
I can’t believe it has been a month. I have been told that in time it will get easier but I still hurt, cry and miss him just the same. Jay was/is the most amazing brother any sister could ever ask for. There is not a minute of the day that goes by were I don’t think about him…his smile, his laugh, the happiness and love that he brought into all the lives of everyone who knew him.
Mom raised us all Catholic and God bless her for doing so. As I have gotten older I have not been to church often or said bedtime prayers like I used to do when I was little. But over the past weeks I have started praying/talking to God a lot. I have been having a hard time sleeping so I make it a point to have a talk with God every night when I get into bed. I always start by saying the "Our Father" followed by a "Hail Mary" and then I begin my talk with God. I can't even count the amount of times I have said the "Our Father" in my life and when I said it the other day it was so powerful...the words I mean. .."Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven". I could not stop thinking about those words. "Thy will be done"; this is God’s will. Everything in life is. As I reflect on this it gives me a feeling of peace in my heart that God needed Jay and decided it was his time to begin his eternal life with Him.
I was given an amazing book. There is a page in it that really sums up life and losing Jay for me. The author says…
“When shaping a vessel, potters exert equal pressure with their hands on both the inside and out to prevent it from collapsing. After the clay dries, it is then placed in a fiery kiln. The intense heat perfects the clay by removing blemishes, strengthening it, and enhancing the paint colors. The once wet piece of clay is finally transformed into a beautiful piece of pottery.
Life can be viewed as a similar work in progress. Like the clay, you will face various pressures from life. To prevent you from collapsing, you must respond to any external pressure with the internal pressure of a powerful relationship with God.
Just as clay is fired in a kiln, you will be put through periods of intense heat. But remember that the heavenly Father is using these times to remove imperfections in you and make you stronger. Let the Lord mold you. For He says "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you." Hebrews 13:5”
As hard as this time is for me, our family and everyone that loves Jay I have to remind myself that Jay would also want me/us to be happy. Jay always used to put his finger into the corner of Mom's mouth and pull his finger up to make her lips into a smile and say "Where is it?" So during this difficult time I/we have to remember that Jay would want us to smile.
I miss you so much Jay and love you even more than that. I look forward to the day that I get to hear your voice and hug you again.
My love always and forever in my heart,
Breanna XO
Michael Bourdeau
October 8, 2010
Jay you are my neighbour and brother, since befor i can even remeber we were the best of freinds, running the streets around our block. Me, you and matt we couldnt be stopped, thats why this is so hard to grasp that your gone forever. When i look back at my life, I think about camping at Port Burwell and the campfires our familys always had, those were truly the best memeories of my life. I can remember sitting around the campfire telling jokes and launching burning marshmallows and launching them threw the open skie, and laughing the nights away. I can also remember the trip to Tennessee where we all went white water rafter and indoor skidiving that was truly aswome, or even going to your grandparents farm in the states, you were and still are one of my bestfreinds, and brother. The first freind I ever had, you were even there the first time i shaved off all my hair, i remember you couldnt stop laughing at me. i must have looked stupid. Since i can rememebr you lived just a couple steps away, always right there if i ever needed ya, now i feel like we took that for gratented, maby we should have hung out just a little more partied just a little harder..... I will always look back at those memories and smile and think that was some of the best times of my life, its just sadenns me you will not be around to reminiss with me about them, something i though was going to happen till i got old and gray. I just want you to know you were always my brother, and part of my family, you and your whole family, we are all family., I feel bad because still till this day I cannot find the right words to say to them even though i try so hard, and know they need a shoulder to cry on, one day I hope I can, but i know your watching over them and us. Your forever in my hart Jay you truly touched my life. RIP i know i will see ya one day in the futur RIP. CHEERS BUDDY! i miss ya
Michael Bourdeau
October 8, 2010
Jay you are my neighbour and brother, since befor i can even remeber we were the best of freinds, running the streets around our block. Me, you and matt we couldnt be stopped, thats why this is so hard to grasp that your gone forever. When i look back at my life, I think about camping at Port Burwell and the campfires our familys always had, those were truly the best memeories of my life. I can remember sitting around the campfire telling jokes and launching burning marshmallows and launching them threw the open skie, and laughing the nights away. I can also remember the trip to Tennessee where we all went white water rafter and indoor skidiving that was truly aswome, or even going to your grandparents farm in the states, you were and still are one of my bestfreinds, and brother. The first freind I ever had, you were even there the first time i shaved off all my hair, i remember you couldnt stop laughing at me. i must have looked stupid. Since i can rememebr you lived just a couple steps away, always right there if i ever needed ya, now i feel like we took that for gratented, maby we should have hung out just a little more partied just a little harder..... I will always look back at those memories and smile and think that was some of the best times of my life, its just sadenns me you will not be around to reminiss with me about them, something i though was going to happen till i got old and gray. I just want you to know you were always my brother, and part of my family, you and your whole family, we are all family., I feel bad because still till this day I cannot find the right words to say to them even though i try so hard, and know they need a shoulder to cry on, one day I hope I can, but i know your watching over them and us. Your forever in my hart Jay you truly touched my life. RIP i know i will see ya one day in the futur RIP. CHEERS BUDDY! i miss ya
Natalie Amer
October 7, 2010
Jay Botsford,
I remember how you were never afraid to tell me how crazy you thought I was. Back in grade 8 I remember "telling off" the French teacher and Jay just looking at me with this hilarious expression, as if he was bursting on the inside, waiting to laugh. Jay used to always sit behind me because my name starts with an A and his with a B, so throughout the years I have made alot of great memories turning around to catch his expressions and endless comments ;o)
People like Jay and the Botsford family are few and far between. We've all been blessed to have Jay in our lives, no matter how short of a time it was. So let's remember the good times and celebrate the life of a great friend ;o)
Natalie Amer
Aveilana Saldana
October 7, 2010
Dear Jay, Even though the miles separated us, you have always been such a wonderful cousin. I will always remember when you and aunt sandy came and surprised us here. Jay we all love you so much and it's always been such a blessing having you as a cousin. I love you so so much, and i hope you left this chaotic world knowing that you made an impact in so many of our lives. Such a great brother, son, uncle, and so much more! you will forever live on in our memories. I love you, Ave <3 XOXOXO
October 6, 2010
A memory of Jay. It is hard to pick just one when there are so many to choose from. He made me smile, he made me laugh. One memory that sticks out in my mind is the time we spent together in Vancouver. I was so excited he was coming to visit...we had the whole trip planned out. The weather was beautiful. We walked along the water, climbed Grouse Moutain, and had a picnic lunch on Granville Island. I am so thankful we were able to share that time together. I miss him everday, but I know he is watching over me.
All my love, Amy XOXOXOXO
Karly Botsford
October 6, 2010
It's still so hard to believe that you're gone Jay, and i really don't think it will ever sink in. I think about your smile every day and all the amazing times you and our family shared together, and i cant help but laugh when i think of the time you and i were wrestling and i accidentally spit my gum into your hair.
I miss you more than you could know, and i hold you in a special place in my heart.
i love you forever and always,
karly xoxo
Laura McMinimee
October 6, 2010
Jay I will always remember you as Bre, Nicole and Yvette's little brother! A brother who always had a smile that lite up a room, laughed and had fun! You might of been their little brother, but you were and always will be a BIG part of their lives.
You will be missed.
Love, Laura McMinimee xo
Lyndsay Tickner
October 6, 2010
Even though Jay left us weeks ago, it still does not seem real. I was so incredibiliy lucky to know the Botsford family. They are the most kind people I ever met and they treated me like I was part of their family. I met them when I was 4 years old and living a few houses down on Green Valley Drive. My brother Matthew & I are the same age as Jay and Niki therefore our families became quite close. We took so many vacations together; camping in Port Burwell, skiing at Shuss & Shanty, hanging out at your grandparents farm, Traverse City, Mackinak Island,the many trips to Cedar Point. Jay and the rest of the Botsford's are a part of so many of my childhood and teenage memories.
The way I will always remember Jay is as a little boy in a Superman costume with a 'Clark Kent' curl in his hair. He loved Superman!!! He would dress up as Superman and just run around the house all day!
He was also one of the funniest people I knew. I remember him imitating Yanni and Andrea Bocelli in the family room.
The last memory I have of Jay Walter is at my wedding. I got married at the beginning of this summer. We went to the bar to do a couple shots. He told me I love you and gave me a big hug. I will cherish that memory forever! I will miss him so much!
Mr. & Mrs. B, Nicole, Bre, Yvette: I hope you know how much I love you and that I think about your family all the time. I wish Ottawa wasn't so far away so I could see you more than I do.
October 6, 2010
I remember Jay as that cute "little guy" in the pictures I looked at and I just wanted to say that he grew into a beautiful young and handsome man.
My thoughts are with you. Love Linda Foy x
Tony Bagnarol
October 6, 2010
Jay I knew you since you were a child who rode on your mothers bus. Thankfully, I was able to once again meet up with you in highschool. We spent many of lunch times laughing and playing cards. You will be missed.
My sincere condolences to you the entire Botsford Family.
October 6, 2010
A memory of Jay: Well living directly down the street from the Botsford family and being such close friends with Breanna/Nikki/Yvette and having Sandy as the COR Mom......Jay was always a part of the busy life and the motion and comotion. Everytime I came over, he always had a smile on his face , and could always make you laugh by telling you a joke. He always knew how to set the mood, especially with all girls around him................He was very creative has he always had ideas in how to decorate the house for Halloween, or what costume to get...........and he always made sure in one way or another that his sisters were okay.....................Jay you will be truly and deeply missed, but I know that you look down from heaven upon the rest of your family and will watch over them day in and day out. God Bless to the Botsford Family, and Jay- I'm sending you love and smilling back at you --------Jodie Little
(Bergoine ) Ottawa, Ontario
Nick and Aloria Dokianos
October 6, 2010
The things he accomplished are truly one in a million. He's a better man than most... I can't describe how sorry I am for your loss, but take comfort knowing that even in his death he will continue to inspire others to do great things. I know he's shown me what you can accomplish if you have the drive and will power to do it. He will be dearly missed...
Santo Saldana
October 6, 2010
I still remember the first and pretty sure the only time I ever went golfing: at the driving range with you. I remember watching as you beat Rag for the first time :) Miss you cousin. Wish we could've made more memories.
Kenneth Pantano
October 6, 2010
My dear cousins, Brian, Sandy, Bre, Nicole, Yvette,
I only remember Jay as a baby when I would visit your house many many years ago. I had the joy of chatting with him a couple of times on facebook a couple months ago. He was so funny with his remarks, and quick wit. He will be greatly missed, but I can tell you this, He is now sitting and talking with my pop, (uncle Argun) and uncle Pat, and Grandma and Grandpa Pantano. What a reunion they must be having. Jay I wish I had more memories of you, but what I do have I will cherish forever. God Bless you Sandy, Bots, and family. May God comfort you now and in the future. Love you, your cousin Kenny
Sandie Botsford
September 18, 2010
"I’ll lend you for a little while
A child of mine", God said
For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he’s dead
It may be six or seven years,
Or twenty-two or three
But will you, till I call him back
Take care of him for me?
He’ll bring his charms to gladden you
And – should his stay be brief,
You’ll have his lovely memories
As a solace for your grief
I cannot promise he will stay
Since all from earth return
But there are lessons taught below
I want this child to learn.
I’ve looked the whole world over
In my search for teachers true
And from the throngs that crowd life’s lanes, I have chosen you
Now, will you give him all your love
Nor think the labor vain.
Nor hate me when I come to call to take him back again?
I fancied that I heard you say
“Dear Lord, Thy will be done!"
For all the joys Thy child will bring
The risk of grief we’ll run
We will shelter him with tenderness
We’ll love him while we may -
And for the happiness we've known
Forever grateful we will stay.”
But should the angels come for him
Much sooner than we’d planned,
We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand.
Jay
There are no words that can express our extreme sorrow. We are so happy and grateful to God for giving you to us as a gift. We knew that you were always that but still unprepared for this abrupt departing. We have so much to be grateful for. The gift of your life--The joy that you gave to each of us and everyone you touched in your life--The fact that you spent time alone with each of us before you left on vacation--the fact that you had such a loving, joyfilled life and never doubted that until you took your last breath--the fact that we never had to see you suffer--the fact that we know we will see you again. We are filled with peace but still have such sadness within. Until we meet again we will be forever grateful for the 26 years God blessed our lives.
Our love forever and always Dad and Mom
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Don
September 18, 2010
The whole idea of Jay's passing leaves me speechless, in deep thought and sending love/prayers to the whole Botsford family. I have not known Jay for as long as most people but I knew him long enough to miss his presents and know he was such a great man. I feel so blessed for the time that I did get to hang out with him and those memories will always hold deep with in my heart. For they will be never forgotten. Jay's smile and personality was one of a kind. I always enjoyed his company and he always was up for some great conversation. Jay...I look forward to seeing you and another special friend of mine someday. Please have on ice, a ice cold 12 pack of Alexander Keith's. We will have so much to catch up on, talk about and maybe have another evening of "Meat Sweats".
I miss you Jay....until we meet again....
September 17, 2010
Brian, Sandra & Family,
Words cannot express how deeply sorry we are for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
David Emon & Staff
Simonne McNorton
September 16, 2010
Dear Botsford family,
My thoughts are with you often, please know that I am always near if you need me. Lots of prayers are sent your way....take good care of yourselves and each other.
Love Simonne & family
I love you Bub... XO
Breanna Botsford
September 15, 2010
Grand Bend camping, 2004
Andrew Kurek
September 15, 2010
Your removeable cast from the time you broke your wrist in the 6th grade. Our trip to Grand Rapids Michigan for Metallica. The night you tossed me up those street posts to bend those signs. The sound of your laughter. I will cherish these and all of the great memories we shared my brother.
My continued condolences go out to the Botsford family. The bond we have formed over the past week is and will remain very sacred to me.
Rest in peace my dear friend. I look forward to the time we meet again.
Jocelyn Antenucci
September 15, 2010
If I knew the day you left for Vancouver would be the last day I would ever see your smiling face and hear your contagious laugh, I would never have let you leave. However, I am thankful that you came into my work before you left and I was able to give you a big hug and kiss and tell you I love you. The world is a little less bright without you in it, but I promise that we will continue to share our memories of you and keep you alive in our hearts forever. And like Nicole, I promise you that Piper will always know how much you loved her. I have a locket around my neck with a picture of you in it so I can keep you as close to my heart as I possibly can. I will miss you each and every day for the rest of my life and love you even more. Forever in my heart. I love you.
- Jocelyn xo
Andrew Crow
September 15, 2010
Jay you were a great friend and a brother to all of us. We had great times together whether it was Moran's backyard or golfing or vacations we always had fun!
Your an inspiration to everyone who met you with your incredible weight loss. Your hard work and dedication will always inspire me!
I going to miss you Jay.
RIP
Jodie Little ( Bergoine )
September 15, 2010
My sincere condolences to you all- the entire Botsford Family. I still can't believe that he is gone . Remember how much he was loved and how much he loved you and keep his spirit in your hearts. He will guide you for the rest of your life. My heart goes out and I love you all and hope you will find peace.
Rest in Peace Jay-
Dwayne Johnston
September 14, 2010
My condolences to you the Botsford family. Its still so hard to beleive he is gone. Such a short life but after seeing all the people at the funeral home last night, i know he has touched so many people and that he has a lot of people to watch over from above. He is sadly missed but never forgotten. Rest in peace Jay
Bulent Moe Soydanbay
September 14, 2010
The death of someone close to us leave us shocked with grief. We cannot understand how one minute this person was here and the next they are gone. The truth is that those we love are never truly gone. The body may have run its course, but the soul lives forever. Human beings have been cognizant of eternal life since the beginning of time. Every culture has its own traditions about death and reincarnation. The anxiety commonly felt about death in our culture is a result of a scientific schema which says that "if I don't see it, it's not there".
When we lose something that is precious to us, we are left with a feeling of sadness. Whether it is a precious friend or even a treasured object, the loss can be hard to bear. It is as if a part of you has gone missing. Throughout our life we amass collections of friends and treasured possessions. Having close relationships help us feel as if we are not alone in the world. When we lose someone or something that is precious to us, we may realize that there is a certain aloneness that can never be filled.
Melissa Westbrook
September 14, 2010
Nicole, I can honestly say that I never knew your brother , but if he was a special as you are , he must have been a great guy . I know that he is going to be missed , but you will always have the memories to hold on to forever . keep him close to your heart and Piper will never forget him either . My deepest and warmest regards to you and your family .
Melissa
Nicole Lassaline
September 14, 2010
Oh my little Beebo. I miss you more then words can say already. I'll never let a day go by without thinking of your beautiful, smiling face and always remind Piper how much her uncle Jay loved her and was so proud the day when she was born. Always on my mind, forever in my heart. Love you. XO
Nick
September 14, 2010
Nicole,
My heart felt condolences go out to you and your family.
Tammy Hines
Beverly and Terry Arvisais
September 14, 2010
Brian, Sandy & Family
Such a shock to learn of your son, Jay's, passing. May you be comforted and strengthened by your faith and the love of family and friends. Sincere condolences from the Monczak and Arvisais families.
KAy & Tom Brown
September 14, 2010
Our deepest sympathy to all the family of Jay. We were very saddened by the news of his sudden passing. Our prayers are for strength for all to bear your pain.
Mr. & Mrs. Thomas M. Brown
Rose Strano
September 13, 2010
Breanna (Yuppie),
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family at this time. May the love that you have for each other bring you strength and comfort to get through the difficult days ahead. Rest in peace Jay.
David Hallock
September 13, 2010
"The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we hit it." - Jay Botsford May 29, 2010
I'm gonna miss you little brother, I'll be thinking about you always.
Rest in Peace
Tom
September 13, 2010
The shock of the news is heavy on my heart. I remember and will always remember his smile, his laugh and his kinship with Marissa and Joel. I am there in thought and heart.
Denise Sylvestre-Morrison
September 13, 2010
Breanna & Family
My prayers go out to the entire Botsford family & friends not just today, but in the trying days to come. Your family has a strong core and will find a way to get though this. You have always been a support system for all of us and now it is time to do the same for you.
Debbie Winter
September 13, 2010
My prayers at this sorrowfull time are with you,the family of Jay, and to his remarkable friends. It's been so nice hearing of the friendships, and the way everyone is staying together and sharing tears, laughter, and memories. God will keep you all in his open arms.
Kyle Lusk
September 13, 2010
My condolences go out to the Botsford family. You will truly be missed Jay. Rest in peace my friend
Anne Appleton
September 13, 2010
Dear Sandy,Brian & Family,
We can not tell you the depth of sorrow we feel for your loss. Please accept our deepest sympathy as we think of you at this time.
Love, Anne & Derek.
Kimberly Hasson
September 13, 2010
Dear Nicole and family.
We have only met briefly at Nicole and Aaron's wedding. But what I got to experience, you were a wonderful caring guy. David said you where a pleasure to stand up with. I know you were the world to Nicole, and many people. You will be sadly missed.
Sharon Antenucci
September 13, 2010
Still in disbelief! Losing Jay hurts all of us so much. It seems not so long ago, he was a sweet baby, then a funny, funny, young boy, and suddenly this remarkable young man loved so much by his beautiful family and friends. He has blessed our lives. We will certainly miss his humour, his hugs, his wit, and his big caring heart. Knowing that Jay has passed on too soon, I pray. And I believe he lives on in a place more beautiful than any of us could ever imagine. We will miss him each day! God 'gifted' us with Jay, for 26 wonderful years. Beautiful memories of him will live on in our hearts forever. God bless Jay and his family and friends. xoxo Love Aunt Sharon xoxo
September 12, 2010
Dear Nicole and Family, I am so very sorry for your loss. God had a reason for taking Jay to heaven. He is now watching over your family. We love you and you are all in our prayers. Pam and Mike Soulliere
Judy Flannery
September 12, 2010
Our prayers go up for you Sandie and all of your family at this terrible time.
Trisha's poem is beautiful and says it all! Jay is in heaven now with all the angels watching over us! Peace!
Kenneth Pantano
September 12, 2010
To my dear cousins Brian,Sandy, family:
My heart goes out to you during this time of sorrow. May God keep you close to Him and comfort you in your time of grief. I'm sending you hugs, prayers. Your in our thoughts, and my cousin Jay will forever be in my heart. Love you, cousin Kenny
marissa
September 12, 2010
Love you Jay.
Scotty Rieder
September 11, 2010
Jay, you were the best friend a guy could ask. We had some of the best times of my life together, whether it was traveling to Kentucky for a video game tournament, dressing up for Star Wars, hanging out at the cottage or just going out for a beer. Your intelligent conversations always kept me engaged, your humour always kept me laughing and your kindness was always there when I needed it. It's going to be very hard to go forward without you... Goodbye old friend
Ryan and Michelle Hankewitz
September 11, 2010
To the Botsford family, we are so sorry for your loss. Jay was an awesome friend and coworker and he will be forever missed. Work won't be the same without you. RIP Jay.
Danielle Grondin-Simard
September 11, 2010
My Family and I send our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Laura Crosby
September 11, 2010
My family and I send our condolences. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
trisha forget
September 11, 2010
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2010
Mary Heath
September 11, 2010
Sandie and family, my heart is breaking for you. Jay will be missed. Your deep faith and love will carry you. You have been there for us and for many others in times of need. Our prayers are with you now. Danny, living in Vancouver now, sends his love to you. He and Jay travelled through high school together. Loving Jesus welcome this young, handsome angel into your arms. God bless you all.
Mary & Rick Heath, and Dan
Matt Chabot
September 10, 2010
Jay was a person I was glad to have grown up with. He touched many hearts in his life, and will be missed. My condolences go out to his family and friends. Jay you will be missed.
Bryan Datoc
September 10, 2010
My deepest condolences to Jay's family and friends. Jay will forever be one of the most genuine and sincere people I will ever meet and much of that can be attributed to the people that helped raise him. His laugh and smile will forever be etched in my mind. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Adam Pellarin
September 10, 2010
My condolences to the Botsford family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Jay you will be missed, you were a great man.
Donna Bas
September 10, 2010
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this difficult time.
September 10, 2010
My condolences go out to the Botsford family, we will keep you in our prayers. Jay, I will miss all the laughs and fun we had together. Always thinking of you,
Matt Rieder, Kathleen McCulloch and Everett Rieder
Matt Rieder
September 10, 2010
My condolences go out to the Botsford family, we will keep you in our prayers. Jay, I will miss all the laughs and fun we had together. Always thinking of you,
Matt Rieder, Kathleen McCulloch and Everett Rieder
Kim Aiello (Dillon)
September 10, 2010
My condolences to the Botsford family. Jay will truly be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with the Botsford family during this sad and difficult time.
Karen Bordynuik
September 10, 2010
I am so very sorry. My heart is broken for the family and friends' sudden loss. There is nothing that can prepare you for something like this ... my deepest condolences. Know that you are on my mind, in my heart and in my prayers.
Much love,
September 10, 2010
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you at this time of sorrow and always.
Love Don & Anna Girard
Jeff and Monique Harron
September 10, 2010
Our sincerest condolences to the Botsford family and to all of Jay's friends and family. I deeply am saddened by the news of his passing. He will be greatly missed by all who worked with him. Jay was a terrific person, very polite and very intelligent.
My heart goes out to all who knew him.
Ashley Crow
September 10, 2010
Jay will be sadly missed by many. Deep condolences to his family and friends. Jay you were an amazing friend to my brother and he will miss you dearly. Rest in peace.
Ammex Global Marketplace management and staff
September 10, 2010
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Hodgins Family
September 10, 2010
Our sincere condolences to Jays's family and friends. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Brandon and Jessica Martinuzzi
September 10, 2010
One of the saddest moments is when you hear a loss of a friend. Jay you will be greatly missed. Our condolences to the Botsford family.
Kim Ouellette
September 10, 2010
It is hard to beleive that Jay is gone. He will always be remembered at work by is smile and laughter. Jay was a good man and the world will never be the same without him. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family.
September 10, 2010
Our prayers go to the family. We are saddened for your loss. Jay was such a good guy to work with. He will be sadly missed. In God's prayers,
Catherine and Sandy Stewart
Brandon & Jessica Martinuzzi
September 10, 2010
One of the saddest moments is when you hear a loss of a friend. Jay you will be greatly missed. Our condolences to the Botsford family.
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