Dr. Jay C. Duffield

Dr. Jay C. Duffield

Jay Duffield Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Jan. 8 to Jan. 10, 2008.
Dr. Jay C. Duffield, of Joplin, died peacefully at his home Monday, Jan. 7, 2008, after a lengthy and courageous battle with cancer. Jay was born on Nov. 17, 1961, at Quinter, Kan., to Jackie Charles Duffield and Marilyn Kay (Duffield) Zapponi. He graduated from Grove High School, Grove, Okla., in 1980, and received an associate’s degree in biology in 1982, from Northeastern Oklahoma A and M College in Miami, Okla., where he was a member of Phi Theta Kappa Honor Society. Jay graduated with a bachelor of science degree in zoology from the University of Oklahoma in 1984, where he was honored as a Phi Beta Kappa. Jay’s education continued at the University of Oklahoma College of Medicine, where he was named a graduate with distinction upon graduation in 1988. After medical school, he completed his internship in internal medicine at OU-Tulsa Medical College and a three-year neurology residency at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School in Dallas, Texas. While a senior resident at UT-Southwestern, he was honored by being selected chief resident of the department of neurology. He was a board certified member of the American Academy of Neurology and Psychiatry. Notwithstanding all his academic and professional accomplishments, Jay considered his greatest joy to be his faith in God, which he exemplified in the way he lived his life and the way he dealt with his illness. He demonstrated grace and integrity in all his actions and his lengthy illness allowed a rare empathy which he expressed toward his patients daily in his medical practice. His love for his family was unsurpassing. He married the former Lynne Halterman, of Grove, on Feb. 4, 1989. After completing his residency, Jay and Lynne moved to Bartlesville, Okla., where he began his medical practice at Jane Phillips Memorial Medical Center. While in Bartlesville, Dr. Duffield was a member of the Washington-Nowata County Medical Society, serving as its president in 1994. He was member of East Cross United Methodist Church, Bartlesville. In January 1997, Dr. Duffield began practicing at Freeman Hospital in Joplin and remained on staff there until ill health forced him to retire in 2002. He was a member of First United Methodist Church, of Joplin, and was active in the First Dawn men’s group there. He also participated in the Grand Lake Emmaus Community and took great pride in his duties as a volunteer at the Freeman Cancer Institute. Dr. Duffield was preceded in death by his father, Jack Duffield. He is survived by his wife, Lynne and their sons, Cole and Andrew, all of the home; his mother and stepfather, Marilyn and Jerry Zapponi, of Grove; two sisters, Joni and husband, Craig Stevens, of Rolla, Mo., and Barbara and husband, Doug Powell, of Nashville, Tenn.; along with several aunts, nieces, nephews and cousins. He is also survived by a special uncle and aunt, Bill and Jane Duffield, of Grove. A service in celebration of his life will be at 10 a.m. Saturday, Jan. 12, at First United Methodist Church in Joplin. Graveside services will follow at 2 p.m. Saturday at Olympus Cemetery in Grove. Casket bearers will be Bill Duffield, Dr. Mark Halterman, Craig Stevens, Doug Powell, Charles Mortimer and Brent Hauser. Honorary casket bearers are Zach Duffield, Dr. Brad Reeves, Dr. Ken Pottenger, Jeffrey Curran, Charles Brower, Dr. Blake Little, Dr. Charles Sherrod, Dr. David Croy, Jud Fisher, Gary Castor, Grant Mitchell and Dr. Mitch Meier. The family will receive friends Friday evening from 6 to 7 p.m. at Parker Mortuary. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to Scholar’s Choice 529 Plans in place for Jay’s sons. Make checks payable to: “Smith Barney fbo Andrew and Jonathan Duffield 529 Plans.” These may be mailed to Cynthia at First United Methodist Church, 501 W. 4th Street, Joplin, Mo. 64801. Please consult your financial advisor. Online condolences may be made at parkermortuary.com

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January 18, 2008

Kari George posted to the memorial.

January 15, 2008

Leslie Carpenter posted to the memorial.

January 13, 2008

Gerald & Jean Clubine posted to the memorial.

Kari George

January 18, 2008

Lynne

And Family words can't describe how sorry we were to hear about Jay.The last time that I saw Jay was at our Grandmothers funeral in Grove.I wished that I had kept in touch with Jay,Joni and Barbie over the years, But we all grew up and went separate ways.Jay always reminded me of my Dad(Marilyn's Brother)His wit, that curly hair and the Intelligence that they both possessed. May you and your family find peace, We don't always know why things happen the way they do, But I have to believe that there is a reason.

Kari George
Jay's Cousin

Leslie Carpenter

January 15, 2008

I am a friend of Barbara's, and she has shared with me how blessed she is to be Jay's sister. God bless all of the Duffield family during this time of loss, but take comfort in knowing that he is whole again. The Lord is close to the broken-hearted.

Gerald & Jean Clubine

January 13, 2008

Our prayers and thoughts go out ot you at this time.

Dr. Raymond and Sandra Loffer

January 12, 2008

Lynne and family,
Our deepest sympathy upon the passing of Jay. He was a fine physician and a wonderful person to know. We both enjoyed the opportunity to work with him during his time in Bartlesville, and we can say that we came out the better for having known him. We send forth our deep affection and prayers to you in this time of sorrow. Know that you are in our hearts.

David Roe

January 11, 2008

Dearest Lynne,
Although I haven't seen you or Jay in a long time I always tried to keep up with you all through visits with your folks & Mark. My prayers are with you and your boys. Love you,

David Roe

Dolly Richardson

January 11, 2008

Lynn, Cole and Andrew......Peace Be With You. Fannie prayed daily for comfort for Jay and now Strength for you and your family.She holds a very special place in her heart for you all. Praise Be to God.

Elizabeth (Worley) McGhee

January 11, 2008

Lynne, we haven't connected in a long time, but I want you to know I'm praying for you in this difficult time of loss. May Jesus be your peace and comfort.

Joyce Courtney

January 10, 2008

Dear Lynne & family,
My deepest sympathy to you & yours for your precious loss. May God hold you ever closer and comfort you beyond words. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

In Christ,
Joyce Courtney

Larry & Diane Penix

January 10, 2008

Lynn and boys, We are long time friends of Jerry and Marilyn, and we were so sadden to learn of Jay's passing. Our prayers are with you.

Jeri (Crossley) Modesto

January 10, 2008

You all are in my heart and prayers. I graduated with Jay from Grove in 1980. May God bless you all.

Linda & Mike Strickling

January 10, 2008

Lynne - My heart goes out to you and your family. I can't imagine the sorrow you feel. Our prayers are with you.

Ray and Teresa Lomax

January 10, 2008

Dear Lynne,

Our hearts go out to you and your boys. As Mr. L says, "you were both good kids" and even better adults. We think of you both fondly.

Love,
Your Former Teachers
Mr. and Ms. Lomax

Jarett and Shannon Woolridge

January 10, 2008

Lynn, Cole, and Andrew,
Jarett and I are continually praying for you all. We know the Lord has His arms wrapped around you. We also know that in this time of deep sorrow you know that Jay has received God's perfect healing and is now rejoicing at being with his Lord and Savior. Isn't it amazing that Jay now knows all those things we can only imagine...he is right now face to face with Jesus. That is just amazing. Rest in His comfort.

Tracey Presslor

January 10, 2008

Our hearts were saddened by your loss of Jay. You are an amazing family and we pray that God will hold you tightly in his arms as you go through this time of sorrow even though you know Jay is with him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Jeff, Tracey, Matthew and Dillon Presslor

Jonette Kunard

January 9, 2008

Lynne, Cole and Andrew
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kelly and Jonette Kunard

Gerrie-Ellen Johnston

January 9, 2008

Lynne, Cole and Andrew,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless you all.

Phaedra LaFarge

January 9, 2008

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008

Nancy Martin-Walters

January 9, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with you Lynn, Cole, Andrew & Buddy too. Please read and remember Psalm 57. God Bless and keep you even closer in the coming days and hours.

Melissa Little

January 9, 2008

We love you all very much.

Missy and Blake Little

Kim Pedersen

January 9, 2008

You have long been in our daily thoughts and prayers. Memories of our earlier times together are precious to us and will always put smiles on our faces. We love you and pray for comfort and peace for you and the boys during this difficult time. Love, Brad & Kim Pedersen

Martha Haut

January 9, 2008

Lynn, my deepest sympathies to you and your family, losing your dear Jay to his Heavenly Home. May the best of all he was live on in you and your children. You were a model of strength and courage through this long battle and I hold you as a role model of great strength and faith.
As you start your new chapter, may your heart find peace and may you feel strength knowing the spirit of Jay is with you in all you do. I hope, in time, you look back on your years with Jay and remember the laughter, the fun, the joy, as Jay would have wanted it. Should there be anything on earth our family can do to help, please ask. Bless you all during this difficult time!
Christian love, Sister Martha Haut

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