John William Tomaszewski

John William Tomaszewski obituary, Andover, MA

John William Tomaszewski

John Tomaszewski Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 4, 2016.
John William Tomaszewski of Andover, MA, died on September 27, 2016, after five months of treatment for cancer. He was 55. Tended closely in his last months by his wife, Melanie S. Smith; his daughter, Haley; his sister, Doreen May; and her husband, Ralph, John embodied the courage and grace that his loved ones so deeply appreciated. Born in 1961 in Shelbyville, Indiana, John was a 1979 graduate of Linton High School in Schenectady, New York. Though he would later go on to earn a PhD, John distinguished himself not only as an academic, but also as a contemplative and endlessly curious person with diverse gifts and interests. After performing in local theater in his middle and high school years, he attended Union College, studied dance at the University of Utah, and toured internationally as singer and dancer with the Landers' Sisters show. He received a BA in biochemistry in 1991 at California State University-Long Beach while apprenticing as a pastry chef, and followed that with a masters (1992) and a doctorate (1994) in organic chemistry at the University of Washington, Seattle. He earned his degrees having married and begun a family. John then joined the staff at Indiana University (2000), followed by a brief stint at a California winery (2008), before landing a job as a service engineer for JEOL–USA, installing and maintaining nuclear magnetic resonance spectrometers throughout the world. John loved the natural world; he was an avid hiker, gardener, and wildlife photographer, with a truly astonishing collection of photographs of birds, butterflies, and frogs of which he was particularly fond. John was raised in a large and close-knit family. Son of the late Carl and Ethel Tomaszewski, he leaves behind his wife, Melanie; his beloved children, Tyler (23) and Haley (18), and their mother, Grace Nakatsukasa; siblings, Doreen May, Ruth Tomaszewski, Paul Tomaszewski, Ann Felt, Peter Tomaszewski, Mark Tomaszewski, and Jim Tomaszewski; and many friends who remember him for his intelligence, humor, and good will. John was an inspiration to his oncology team at the Mass General Hospital. Accordingly, in the hope that he might advance the science behind cancer treatment, John generously made an anatomical gift to the Harvard Medical School, where many of his treating doctors were educated. Memorial services will be held in private. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to the Gastric Cancer Foundation.

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John as John the Baptist in Godspell, 1977

Ellen Lombardi

October 5, 2016

John and I were in two musicals together, GODSPELL at Linton High in December of '77, and HAIR at Proctor's during the summer of '80. That smile, it could light up a room. And so talented! It was like he was a unicorn, a magical creature too amazing to be real. But unlike a unicorn, he was totally approachable, not knowing just how magical he was. High school is full of cliques and social structure....the jocks, the brains, the theater kids, the preppies, the artists, the hotties, .....John could have been the top banana in any of these groups if he wanted to. But he didn't want that, he just wanted to be John, and being John meant being part of everything and everyone.
We grew up in the same neighborhood, full of large families squeezed into small houses, with hard working parents who taught us to work for what we wanted, and to respect others. When I read all the things John accomplished in his lifetime, so many different careers, so many different talents, I am not surprised, but I am still amazed. John was special, he had a bright light that shone from his soul. When you were around him, you wished you could be more like him, so you tried a little harder to be a better person. Perhaps that was his greatest talent. Rest in peace, my friend

Jim Tomaszewski

October 4, 2016

John always brought laughter to our home. As kids (he was 2 1/2 years older than me), I remember "boxing" with him one day when we had nothing better to do. He had me laughing and crying (we were boxing afterall) at the same time...he was that good.

Lee M

October 4, 2016

I remember John and sitting on the porch. He once did a singing telegram in middle of restaurant for me. So sorry to hear of his passing. He was a unique individual. My thoughts are with the entire family.

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