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On Tuesday morning in the early Montecito hours, Josie Gower's life was tragically taken. This strong, adventurous, independent woman, whose effusive love of every aspect of life defined her, will be so sorely missed by her loving family; her children Briana and Al Haigh, and Hayden and Sarah Gower; her grandchildren Parker, Luca and Poppy; her partner Norm Borgatello; her sister Elda's family, the Castagnolas; and her many many friends and Italian relations.
Born in Santa Barbara in 1948 to Italian immigrant parents Mario and Maria, Josie Franceschini attended school in Santa Barbara before completing her nursing degree at Santa Barbara City College. However, Josie chose a very different life from nursing. As a young woman she chose to leave the US to sail through the South Pacific, and her adventures led her eventually to New Zealand where she married Kiwi rancher Jack Gower and where her two children, Briana and Hayden were born. But Santa Barbara and home always tugged at her heart, and in time Josie returned with the children and re-established her life in her hometown.
Over the following years Josie's reach within her community grew and grew. In her little red convertible she would be seen zipping to the properties she managed, she would happily grab a wrench or a paint brush or a hammer or would climb a ladder to repair and maintain those properties, and more than anything Josie expanded her circle of friends and contacts.
Simply, she loved people, making each new friend know how very special they were. There was nothing better than gathering with family or friends to celebrate. Her boundless energy was poured into making sure her own zest for life bubbled into every occasion. Josie particularly loved the Italian community events. One of her favorite activities was going to the Montecito YMCA. Known affectionately as "The Queen of the Y" she spent most days at the pool, swimming with her red lipstick intact, playing with her grandson Parker, chatting with the members.
Always true to her beginnings, Josie was dedicated to her church and she remained loyal to Our Lady of Mount Carmel, Montecito and the church's community.
In more recent years Josie had begun to cherish the quiet times she spent with family and the companionship of her partner Norm. And more than anything, Josie adored her role as Nonna to Parker, Luca and Poppy.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou
A celebration of Josie's life will be held at the Santa Barbara Mission, Thursday January 18, 2018 at 10.00am; with reception to immediately follow at the Friar's Lounge, Santa Barbara Mission.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to a fund dedicated to Josie Gower at the Montecito YMCA; 591 Santa Rosa Ln, Santa Barbara, CA 93108
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Dale
January 11, 2022
Josie, it's hard to believe you've been gone three years.
Miss your laughter and energy.
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Barbara Lyon
May 19, 2020
I was roommates with Josie in San Francisco back when she was going to dental college. She was such a free spirit and friendly to everyone. We had many adventures in San Francisco and I will always hold a special place for her in my heart.
Barbara Lyon
January 12, 2019
May ALMIGHTY GOD who binds up the broken-hearted" and "comfort all who mourn " sustain the family during this challenging time (Isaiah 61:1,2)
Ida MilliganAhmadzai
September 26, 2018
Josie, may God's angels surround you in heaven, you're in angelic company. I will pray for you always & for your family.
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Renee Pelletier
July 4, 2018
I met Josie in Tahiti, year 1979, and we had such a good time together. I kept lovely pictures of us tracking John Travolta ... We kept in touch for a while, telling us all the travels we were doing in our own part of this world. Last contact was a Christmas card from NZ, telling me about her first new baby coming soon. A lot of water passed under the bridge since then... As i am planning a long trip to Nz in 2019, i had the idea to search for her and ended up on her recent obituary... i am so sad! I want to write my deep condolences to her family. If you happened to see this , please contact me by email and i could send you the pictures from Tahiti. So sorry ...
February 3, 2018
Bella,
Each day I listen to the song "Broken Halos" (by Chris Stapleton) .
It provides some comfort and understanding, but I still miss you greatly.
Dale
Stephanie Damery
January 27, 2018
Hello Gower Family,
We are so so sorry to hear of your great loss.
Our hearts go out to you all during this time...
I have no words for what you are experiencing and as a community member I am so heart broken for you all.
We live in Montecito and returned home today. We went on a quick walk up our creek about an hour ago, and found a bunch of washed up photos and some items that we believe belonged to Josie and your family. We gathered what we could find and would LOVE to give them to you.
Please contact me:
Stephanie Damery
Cell #818.519.7532
Barbara LaPiana Quaid
January 22, 2018
I lived next door to Josie and Elda from 2nd grade on through high school. We recently connected and were planning on meeting for a glass of wine but sadly it never happened. Josie, you brightened my childhood with your friendship. Two Italian girls growing up next to each other always laughing and enjoying simple, silly things. I will carry your memory in my heart. God bless your family.
January 20, 2018
Angel with the Angels.
Senior Beach Party - 1966
Larry Diaz
January 19, 2018
Eight Graduation Dance
Larry Daiz
January 19, 2018
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Penny Smith
January 19, 2018
Bye beautiful. Penny
Steven Jerney
January 18, 2018
I met Josie in the late 1970s in Santa Barbara. We did a road trip across the US and Canada to Arlington, Virginia where she lived at the time.We stopped along the way to visit friends and family in Vancouver and Minnesota. It was a great and wonderful memory.
The song Josie by Steely Dan was popular at the time. The lyrics described her perfectly.She loved to sing and did a great Stevie Nicks impersonation.
Although I hadn't seen her in 40 years,I will always cherish the time we had together, such a fun and sweet gal.
Sorry, sorry to her family and friends. We are blessed to have known Josie.
Debbie Wilkinson
January 18, 2018
In another bitter sweet moment another angel has found her wings.
And has set off on flight safe into the arms of God and to those gone before her waiting and anticipateing her arrival as she makes her way into heaven.
Josie, I pray you are dancing and singing with the angels and that you are resting in peace. I know you were happy to see your mom and dad and all the loved ones that passed before you. Rest in peace, you will be missed but you'll always be in our thoughts and in our hearts
Donna Reid
January 18, 2018
A beautiful funeral and gathering for an amazing lady. Josie will be missed by everyone that knew her. Rest in peace. Until we meet again. Donna Reid, Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
Walter Marquez
January 18, 2018
Rest in Peace Josie. Your friends from Our Lady of Guadalupe School.
Larry Diaz
January 18, 2018
Dear family, loved ones and friends.
Ladies and Gentlemen, My name is Larry Diaz.
Josephine Marie Franceschini and I met in 1955, when we were in the second grade.
Josie lived on the East side of Santa Barbara while I was bussed across town from Haley and Del La Vina to Our Lady of Guadalupe School on Nopal and Montecito.
Fate struck, when one day, out of nowhere, we moved to Punta Gorda Street; a short 3 blocks from Josie. A distance I routinely ran to and fro.
Long before the movie "There's Something About Mary;" There was something about Josie.
You may find this difficult to believe; Josie was a shy little girl. Josie shy? It doesn't seem possible. Yet Josie overcame her shyness and grew up to become a women of sophistication and elegance, with a charming demeanor and wit. She was every boy's desire. And became every man's dream of what a woman could be. Indeed, Josie was an irrepressible force of nature, a tour de force; full of energy, unstoppable and without question, unforgettable! In short, a woman to be reckoned with. Josie was a 'bigger than life' person who refused to miss out on the good things life had to offer.
We grew up together; we walked home from school together. I might have even carried her books; a couple of hundred times. We forged a friendship steeped over years; when we were young and unaware of how important a deep, long lasting friendship can be. And long before we ever knew how hard it would be to say, "Goodbye."
By 1962, Josie and I would spend our after school time dancing on her back porch while listening to 45's on a record player that she would setup on a chair just outside the door. And that's because we weren't allowed inside unless her parents were home. Pretty amazing since we were not boyfriend and girlfriend. We were friends.
That Summer of '62, after our Eighth Grade Graduation we danced to "Sherry;" a big hit for Frankie Valli and The Four Seasons. We did our best to wear that record out. I'm telling Ya, "That girl loved to dance!"
Shortly after the start of our Freshman year in high school, came this realization; Josie would never be happy with a 'local hometown boy.' She had discovered a world much bigger than the confines of the school ground we once played on. She wanted more; she wanted to experience more life, more joy and more good times than most. And in her doing so; each one of us benefited in our own way. She was many things to many people. Indeed, she was the ever charming hostess, inviting me to visit the very day before she passed away.
So it is now, on this day, at this moment, we make our secret confession; with full knowledge that we've committed no sin. And we're guilty of no crime: The simple truth; "We'll never stop loving Josie."
And that's because: "There Really Was Something About Josie."
God Bless Our Josie.
Leslie Sanderson
January 17, 2018
Josie was one of the people we frequently swam with at the Montecito YMCA on the weekends. It is often difficult to find people that are totally accepting of you and your child when your child has a disability and might be a bit too loud, ask too many questions (over and over) or splash a bit too much. Josie (and several others) went out of her way to chat with, be accepting of and welcoming to our son Matthew. She will be missed. I extend my sincere condolences to her friends and family.
Tim Palmquist
January 17, 2018
Josie was like a ray of sunshine to my mother, Dolores Palmquist. During the darkest days of Mom's life, Josie brightened Mom's days with friendship and laughter. Birthdays were very important to Mom, but the days leading to Mom's 81st birthday were clouded by unthinkable conflict from divorce proceedings after 57 years of marriage. Josie spirited Mom away from that hurtful environment, celebrating Mom's birthday by taking her to a Steve Martin concert. After the concert, Mom enjoyed a weekend at Josie's home and garden. Mom has now gone home to be with the Lord, but I know she would want Josie's family to know how much she meant to her.
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