Kathleen Graham

1927 - 2012

Kathleen Graham obituary, 1927-2012, Westminster, CA

Kathleen Graham

1927 - 2012

BORN

1927

DIED

2012

Kathleen Graham Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 4, 2012.
Pipe Major Kathleen Elsie "Nicholson" Graham June 8, 1927 - August 30, 2012

Pipe Major Kathleen Elsie "Nicholson" Graham completed her amazing life's journey Thursday August 30th, 2012 at 11:25 am at Long Beach Memorial Hospital in Long Beach, CA.
She was the original Pipe Major and founder of the Nicholson Pipes and Drums that is based in Westminster, California. For the last 30 years she had dedicated her life to teaching the bagpipes and forming this award winning band to honor her father and family name.

Kathleen was born in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, June 8, 1927 and was the first born of three sisters to Pipe Major Malcolm and Elsie Nicholson. She began highland dancing lessons at age 21/2. By the time she was 4 she was learning the bagpipes from her father, Malcolm Nicholson, who was a police sergeant and the Pipe Major of the Vancouver Police Pipe Band. By the time she was 5 she was acclaimed to be the youngest piper in Canada having won the silver cup from the Gaelic Society for her skill on the bagpipes. At that time she had already won 11 medals for highland dancing. Through her teen years she had won many aggregates at numerous piping competitions. One of the contests she competed at and won was highlighted by the 2 well known judges from Scotland, William Ross and John Burgess.

Kathleen had not limited herself to piping and dancing. At age 12 she won a 5 year Art Scholarship given by the Vancouver school board. Then at age 17 she received a silver medal from the Toronto Conservatory Music in Ontario, Canada, for the highest marks for her singing exam. She won numerous prizes at Gaelic festivals for both Gaelic singing and recitation. Kathleen then joined the Vancouver Ladies Pipe Band in 1938 and then joined the Glengary Girls Pipe Band in 1942.

During World War ll Kathleen and her sisters toured and performed at Canadian Military camps and USO shows. She also toured with the AB Marcus production company throughout the US and appeared on Broadway and New York television shows. She was also a dance instructor at Arthur Murray Studios in New York. One of her routines she actually played the pipes while highland dancing.

She then married and moved from New York to Seattle Washington where she established a
large highland dancing school and was part of the Seattle Highland Games Committee. While in Seattle she and her husband adopted her only son Malcolm and when he was 2 years old she divorced and then moved back to Vancouver, Canada and worked at the Vancouver Police Department. While working at the police department she opened and ran a successful music and dance school that focused on the highland arts, modern dance, and ballet.

In 1966 Kathleen once again relocated with her son to Santa Monica, California. Her son acted as her sponsor and she became a naturalized US citizen and then she remarried shortly after that. Kathleen's varied work experience started with being an executive secretary, but she had an eye for decorating and earned an accredited Illuminating Engineering certificate from the University of British Columbia which lead her into a consulting job for an LA lighting company. She had designed numerous residential and commercial properties in LA, trail blazing the industry with the use of theatrical lighting in the commercial and residential markets. One notable design she was proud of was the Disneyland Hotel where she designed the lighting for the hotel lobby in the late 1960's. Finally, her versatility in the job market is capped off by her working for LAPD and Beverly Hills PD in the capacity as a cleric and woman's jailer.

While moving from job to job and raising a son in Southern California she started teaching the bagpipes in Santa Monica, CA. One day she was approached by a couple of her adult students to start a band, which she initially declined as there was no capital available and she did not want the commitment of managing a band. She was ultimately convinced and formed the Nicholson Pipes and Drums in 1981 when the 2 students that approached her put up the seed money to start the band and her son Malcolm agreed to help with the drum section. Kathleen had taught many individuals and some were notable actors like Rick Jason from the 60's Classic TV Show COMBAT and David Huffman who appeared in the Clint Eastwood movie Fire Fox. She then moved to Garden Grove where she was a member of the Crystal Cathedral Choir and also continued to teach bagpipes. One of her bagpipe career highlights was when one of her adult students gave her a piping gig referral of a lifetime. Kathleen was asked to audition and got the final call to play Amazing Grace for Spock's funeral scene in the Star Trek movie classic The Wrath of Kahn. She did the recording at Paramount Studios with full live orchestra on the sound studio which was a thrill of a lifetime.

Kathleen moved back to Vancouver in the mid 80's to care for her father until he passed away in the mid 90's and then she returned once again to Orange County to teach another generation of young and adult pipers. The Nicholson Pipe Band's longevity surprised her as she was very proud of all the accomplishments the band had made, from playing for the roll out of the Tiger Shark aircraft at Northrop,1984 LA Olympics, Inaugural festivities in OC for President Reagan, EXPO 86 in Vancouver, BC, Canada. As well as supporting Southern California law enforcement and all the Marines down at Camp Pendleton.

Finally, the band was given the honor to be the official band of the Clan McNicol/ Nicholson. In 1996 she organized a band trip to go to the Isle of Skye to perform and participate at the dedication of the the clan Kirk'n (church). The band has produced 2 acclaimed CD's and will always be a positive living memorial for Kathleen as her former student, Pipe Major Robert Hackney and her son, Drum Sergeant Malcolm Willis will carry on this band's positive winning legacy.

Kathleen is widowed and is survived by her son Malcolm B. Willis, daughter-in-law Irene G. Willis and her 2 grandchildren Alisha and Cristina and great grandchild Avery. Services and celebration of her life will be held Saturday, September 29th, 2012 at 2:30 PM at Westminster Memorial Park in Westminster, CA. You can go to: www.westminstermemorial.net to leave written condolences for the family.

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September 28, 2012

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September 29, 2012

Dear Malcolm, Irene & Family:
We extend our deepest sympathy to you, your family and the Nicholsons at this time of loss. Kathleen a wonderfully gifted lady, a rare pearl, is now with us in Spirit. She taught music with incomparable talent and dedication; she took a deep interest in the art of writing and lived her life in the most principled way. We pray that you find strength, solace and His grace in the kindness and support of family and friends at this trying time.
Valerie Magill and Mark LeBel (Santa Monica, CA)

September 29, 2012

Dear Malcolm, we send our love to you, Irene and family as you honour your Mother. We are sorry we cannot be there with you and share in the celebration of Auntie Kay's life.
You are in our hearts. x

Love Beth, Jim and family.

Evan Gair

September 28, 2012

Malcolm. your mother is probably up there now giving the big guy chanter lessons,sorry I can not be there onSaturday.my thoughts are with you and your family .

Peggy (Gillies) Askew

September 27, 2012

Malcolm, Sending to you and your family, our sincere sympathy, at this very sad time. Past members and friends of the Vancouver Ladies Pipe Band.

John Reynolds

September 25, 2012

Malcolm,
On behalf of all of the men and women of the Garden Grove Police Department, we send our condolences to you, your family and friends. I believe her life will be celebrated every time you and your team perform Pipes and Drums. You and your gifted sounds will always be a shinning tribute to her dedication and love for music and teaching.


John Reynolds, Sergeant
Youth Services Unit
Garden Grove Police Department
Garden Grove, California

September 25, 2012

Dear Malcolm, Irene and family, we are so sorry for your loss. Kathleen was a very special woman and will forever live in our hearts. We are grateful for her influence in Cameron's life. Her genuine interest in his overall well being after his move from Scotland to California was apparent, and the bond they struck was beautiful to witness. When we would come pick Cameron up after his piping lesson, both he and Kathleen would have a twinkle in their eyes and be laughing about something or other! She really had a unique way of drawing the best out of her students both musically and also on a personal level. Malcolm, we look forward to remembering and celebrating your mother's life with you and your family this weekend. Love Mairi, Evan, Cameron and Rachael

September 24, 2012

Malcolm, Sorry I can't be there. Please accept my apologies and accept our love and respects to you and your family. Sincerly, Richard and Pam Wilkins

Andrew, Jo-Anne and Robin MacAdam

September 20, 2012

It was a great privilege for us to know Kathleen and especially to have her teach piping to our son, Robin. She was such an inspiration to him and her excellent instruction techniques and constant support helped him to become successful in solo competition and a member of a top competition band. She was a most vibrant, talented and interesting woman and we always enjoyed getting together socially as well--she liked to entertain and was a great cook. After Kathleen moved back to California, we stayed in touch with long chats on the phone, sometimes an hour or more, and she especially liked to tell me about how the band was doing as well as her many pupils. The last time we talked, she called from her hospital bed and I am so grateful we were able to connect one more time. She will be sadly missed by our whole family.

Elouise Roane

September 18, 2012

Auntie Kay,
I wipe away a tear as I look upwards to the sky,
I didn't get the chance to say my last good-bye. Love Elouise

Terri Felton (Collister)

September 17, 2012

With my deepest sympathy to all the people so fortunate to be part of Kathleen's amazing life. "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

September 15, 2012

Malcolm,
Sorry for your loss.
With my sympathy.
Jacques Journet
Rancho Santa Margarita

Robert Hackney

September 11, 2012

Kathleen, you had a huge impact on my life. From the time of my first lesson on pipes at age 31 you let me know that I could succeed when most instructors in the piping world believe that only young kids can learn. Thank you Kathleen. I will always remember you with love and admiration. Pipe Major Robert Hackney, Nicholson Pipes and Drums

September 11, 2012

Dearest Cousins,
In this time of sadness on the loss of Kathleen, I know you will celebrate her life and spirit. She must have been exceptional to have raised such an exceptional, wonderful person as Malcolm! Love & blessings to all of you.

Your cousin, Mary Louise

SHARON MAC DOUGALL

September 10, 2012

Malcolm
I am soo sorry for your loss. She was magnifcient indeed, however, her greatest claim to fame lies in the fact that she nurtured you and produced one OUTSTANDING HUMAN. Your pleasant smile shows all the beauty within. I know she will be greatly missed and loved in death as she was in life. May God bless you in this time of sorrow.
Sharon Mac Dougall

Alex Lopez and Lynn Exe

September 10, 2012

Malcolm and Irene,

Our deepest condolences for your loss. May Kathleen's passion for life and love serve as model for us all. May she eternaly rest in peace.

Love Cousin Alex and Lynn

Don Forsyth

September 10, 2012

Malcolm,
Kathleen's life will always be one to celebrate. Her gift of music and patience to teach help guide and develope our son Ian into the man he is becoming before us. We didn't simply go to see her each week to learn the pipes, we also went to learn lessons in dedication, respect and confidence. The bond between Ian and Kathleen was like no other we've seen. She was able to take a child who had bounced around from hobby to hobby and transformed him into a medal winning performer. We will miss her dearly.

God Bless,
Don, Sandy and Ian

Col(s) Charles A. McLean

September 10, 2012

Malcolm,
On behalf of the United States Marine Corps, I want to express our most heartfelt condolences for your loss. Kathleen led a full life of purpose as witnessed both in her wonderful family and the Nicholson Pipes and Drums - who will carry on her memory and her spirit of giving. Kathleen was a true friend of the Corps and her community. She will be missed. God bless her and your family.
Semper Fidelis,

Robert Heggie

September 9, 2012

Malcolm,
We share your sorrow along with family and friends, while knowing that the celebration of Kathleen's life, will remember the love and joy she brought to so many, along with her teachings and furthering of the Great Highland Bagpipe and drums. Without doubt she will hear applause and pipes playing by her father upon his greeting her again. He will be so proud, as we all know she is of you. What a joy for me to have played in competition with Kathleen's band, as I did for her father's bands, as well as having the Nicholson Pipes and Drums be such an important and memorable part of the history of the Palm Springs Pipe Band.
Our deepest condolences,
Pipe Major Robert Heggie

September 9, 2012

Malcolm, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time of sorrow.

Ina Gibbons (Palm Desert)

Linda Lewis

September 7, 2012

Malcolm - she was fortunate to have such a dedicated and caring son and I'm sure you will miss her. I'm not sure we ever stop missing our parents but wonderful memories of them will always be with us. Sending hugs your way.

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