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Paul A. Deming
1958 - 2013
Paul A. Deming
1958 - 2013
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BORN
1958
DIED
2013
Paul Deming Obituary
Carrollton - Paul Arthur Deming, 54, passed away unexpectedly on January 14, 2013. He was born in Yonkers, New York on July 15th, 1958. He grew up in Valhalla, New York and graduated from Valhalla High School where he inaugurated the Viking mascot at the weekly football games.
He graduated from The Citadel Military College in 1980 with a major in accounting and a minor in walking tours. He was commissioned in the Air Force and served assignments in Oklahoma and Ohio. He served as a United Nations Peacekeeper in Western Sahara before separating from the Air Force in 1994. He passed the CPA exam and worked in various accounting jobs, most recently at Portsmouth Public Schools in Portsmouth, VA.
Paul was an all-sports trivia champion, a life-long Yankees fan, a golfer who loved a good game of "skins", and an avid bowler - forever chasing that elusive 300. He was known for his quiet sense of humor and witty remarks. He was a loving, ever-present and supportive father to his three children, Jack, Lauren and Miller.
Paul is survived by his three wonderful children, Jack Arthur Deming of Barboursville, VA, Lauren MacBean Deming of Roanoke, VA, and Miller Murray Deming of Carrollton; his ex-wife and friend, Nancy Deming-May of Carrollton; his parents, Larry and Shirley Deming of Ocean City, NJ, his brother Ken (Carol) of Valhalla, NY; sister Pam (Jeff) Gray of Monroe, NY; sister Liz (Scott) Mosley of N. Providence, RI, and many loving nieces and nephews and aunts and uncles.
Family and friends will gather 4-5pm, Saturday, January 19, in Colonial Funeral Home,
for visitation. A service celebrating Paul's life will be held at 5pm, with Pastor Jeff Cannon officiating. Visitation will follow the service till 6:30pm. Burial will be private.
Any donations may be made in memory of Paul Arthur Deming to the Citadel Foundation, 171 Moultrie St, Charleston, SC 29409, https://foundation.citadel.edu
Arrangements are in the care of Colonial Funeral Home, 1515 S Church Street, Smithfield, VA 23430
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Rick Osmun
January 16, 2023
Hard to believe it's been 10-years since Paul's passing...I think of him often and greatly miss his friendship....I pray his family is doing well and finds comfort in the many fond memories of Paul.
Sheila Fukawa
February 16, 2013
I was saddened to read about Paul's passing. I knew him in the manpower office at Tinker AFB, OK in 1985. He was kind and caring and an excellent officer in the Air Force. My prayers are with the Deming family at this sad time. God Bless You!
Debra, Lauren, Lindsey Accardi
February 10, 2013
Jack, Lauren & Miller, & Family, I just wanted to tell you that I'm so saddened by your loss of your Dad! As your neighbor, I have driven Lauren home from soccer, had the pleasure of just talking with Jack when he came over and hanging out with Lauren & Lindsey, & watched him play around with Miller in the yard and lawn mower..I called him one day and told him that a lady came over to my house and was asking questions about Jack (about security clearance). I told him that I gave Jack a good reference., He thanked me and told me he was so proud.I told him that he had 3 great kids! He seemed proud. In his voice you could hear him smiling. I just wanted to tell you that! I also want to tell you that, not knowing your dad on a personal note, only by observation, that your dad was always there for his children and he loved you very much. Your Dad will always be with you in everything you do, he is your guiding light, keep your memories because they will become your finest treasures. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and if you need anything or just want to talk, we are here. God Bless
Doug & Denise (Colonial Cats)
February 6, 2013
We just heard about Paul's passing. We knew Paul through Geocaching and shared some good times. So sorry for your loss.
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February 6, 2013
To the Deming family,
I was shocked and saddened to hear of Paul's death. So many memories came flooding back - sneaking through the hedge, babysitting (OK, falling asleep on the couch), so many wonderful times.
Our prayers are with you,
Suzanne and Tommy Letourneau (Meckert)
Jeff Meckert
February 4, 2013
To all the Demings,
From your backyard neighbor's in Valhalla - our deepest condolences. Paul was a great friend.
God Bless!
From all the Meckert's
Jackie Sopp
January 30, 2013
To Dear Larry, Shirly and family,
We were so sorry to hear of your loss.
Thinking of you at this sad time.
With love
Iain, Jackie, EMily and Lucy xxx
Glenn Hooker
January 28, 2013
To all the Deming family and friends, it was with shock and much sadness when hearing of Paul's passing. My deepest sympathies and warm wishes to you all.
There are many fond memories of Paul. Like the time he pitched a tent under the vacation beach house because there was no room inside. Or the time he got upset with us cousins because we didn't want to rent the tandem bicycle at the OC Boardwalk. He was right, we really should of got the tandem bike. I'll fondly remember his good humor and his way of making me feel comfortable around him. He always called me Cuz!
Chris Hooker
January 26, 2013
Our Thoughts and prayers are with the Deming Family and Friends. I have great memories of Paul from our many family vacations. Paul and his fun personality had a way to make those vacations even more memorable. May those fond memories of Paul continue to comfort all of us in these sad days.
Love Chris, Candace, Claire, Chloe, and Morgan
Bob & Carol Saghirian
January 26, 2013
Dear Larry, Shirley and family - We are so sorry to hear of the loss of Paul. Please know that we are thinking about you.
The great old days in The Hague
Jan Mitchell
January 25, 2013
Ken Deming
January 24, 2013
To all those kind enough to leave messages in memory of my brother Paul, all the high school krew, the family members near and far, the geocachers, it's wonderful to hear your reminiscences, to know he made the same impressions on you as he did on me and my family. Paul, Daul, Art, Spyder, Guido Panzini, we miss you bro! Thanks so much to everyone for your comforting words.
Antonio Cardenas / Deming
January 24, 2013
Dear Mom , Dad , Ken ,Pam and Liz , i just found out about Paul and i wish i was able to stay with you in such a difficult moment i have great memories of Paul and you all and since i met you 37 years ago i have considered as family .
Love
Tony.
Kieran Murray
January 24, 2013
Mr Prayers are with you and this time Shirley and Larry .
Eric and Kathy Miller
January 24, 2013
Our deepest sympathy to the entire family. We are honored to have known Paul and even though we have seen little of each other over the past 20 years, we will miss him deeply
Ruthann Conroy
January 24, 2013
Dear Larry, Shirley and the Deming family, please accept my sincere sympathy and know you are all in my prayers.
Heidi Christiansen
January 23, 2013
Dear Shirley & Larry, Liz & Sott, Ken & Carol, Pam & Jeff, please know you have all been in my thoughts and prayers since Rob called with the very sad news. May the comfort of all the good memories carry you through the sad days and months to come, with much love and many comforting hugs, Heidi Christiansen
Brian Roberts
January 23, 2013
The St. Peter's United Methodist Church in Ocean City, lifts up our prayers and is surrounding the family with our love and prayers. We are blessed to have Paul's mom and dad as a dear part of our church family. We join them in thanking God for ALL that their son Paul, was and, continues to be in God's eternal care.
Liz (Weezer) Mosley
January 22, 2013
Reading all these entries from everyone has truly warmed my heart. Seeing names from my childhood like teachers, neighbors, Paul's friends from high school and the Citadel...it is so amazing to see how many lives he touched. I want to thank everyone for posting their prayers and memories.
Julia Groton
January 22, 2013
My sympathies to the Deming family. I met Paul through our work with the City of Portsmouth. It was an honor to know and work with him, and he will be missed. God bless you Pauley.
January 22, 2013
Dear Larry, Shirley and family,
We are deeply sorry for your loss, we remember you all so fondly and all the events we did with our children here in Valhalla. God Bless you all and give you strength and peace during this time and always With warmest regards Rita and Tony Cestone your neighbors on Madison Ave.
Brian McCarthy
January 22, 2013
I met Paul & Nancy at Tinker AFB. Played softball & golf with him. I will always remember eating a Christmas meal at a local Midwest City pizza joint since none of us had kids at the time. Paul will be missed by many.
Karen Woodson
January 22, 2013
I had the pleasure of working with Paul at the City of Portsmouth for many years, he was always such a warm & wonderful co-worker. Paul, you will be greatly missed by those of us in local government accounting. To Paul's family, I pray that God will comfort you in this time of sadness.
January 22, 2013
Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts.
So sorry for your loss.
The Lessards - Smithfield
Jack Deming
January 22, 2013
You had a hell of a run Dad. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you! I love you.
January 22, 2013
More thoughts and prayers from another fellow geocacher. I'll miss one of the good guys, Randy Fly, "Va Griz"
Richard & Eunice Deming
January 21, 2013
Dear Larry, Shirley and Fanily:
Wish we could have been with you.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Paul was a great Dad.
Love,
Philip and Alexis Hodgman
January 21, 2013
Thinking of all the Demings at this sad time. So very sorry for your loss.
Hoss
January 21, 2013
Words will always fail to express our memories, that's why memories of the one's we love live in our hearts. I remember all the stupid things we ever did and have never once regretted them. They will live with me for always. For Larry, Shirley, Kenny, Pam and Liz and to all who loved him my deepest regrets.
Suzanne Hill Besore
January 20, 2013
Hugs and prayers to all of our Deming Family. Your family in Florida is praying for God to wrap his loving arms around each of you and bring you peace and comfort in the difficult days ahead.
Vicky Hallenbeck
January 20, 2013
I'm another geocaching friend writing to offer condolences. My heart grieves with yours. -- honeychile
Cheryl LaClair
January 20, 2013
I did not know Paul well but have met him at several geocaching events. I always enjoyed sharing stories with him and will miss him. Thoughts and prayers to all of his family and close friends.
January 20, 2013
Shirley, Larry and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Paul was a wonderful young man.
The Crock family
David Karlson
January 20, 2013
I knew Paul through Geocaching and was always a great person to talk to. He was a great friend who will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire Deming Family. Jack, Lauren, and Miller your dad was truly a caring individual person. May you find happiness knowing he is at rest with the Lord. RIP Paul.
January 20, 2013
Our condolences to the Deming for your loss.My God be with you in this time of sorrow. Frank and Sonja Mosley
Susan Constable
January 20, 2013
Jack,Lauren & Miller.
So very sorry to hear about the loss of your Dad. We always thought he was a wonderful kind and thoughtful man. Our thoughts, love and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. RIP Paul, you will be missed.
January 20, 2013
I knew Paul through Geocaching and was always a great person to talk to. He was a great friend who will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers go out to the entire Deming Family. Jack, Lauren, and Miller your dad was truly a caring individual person. May you find happiness knowing he is at rest with the Lord. RIP Paul.
January 20, 2013
Dear Miller and Family,
Please know that you are in our thoughts at this time.
Hugs,
Mr. and Mrs. Fortner and Everett
Lisa, Patrick and Molly McKenna
January 20, 2013
Dear Deming Family,
May the love and support of one another help ease the pain of your tragic loss...
Our sincere sympathies are with you at this time.
Rest in peace, Paul.
With prayers and love.
T C
January 20, 2013
Daul: If anyone were to ask me me who was one of my closest bro's growing up you would be right there. I will see you down the road in that golf course in the sky where we will tee it up and talk about old times... your friend always T.
To Larry, Shirley, Ken, Pam and Liz and kids..my deepest condolences.
Elizabeth Douglas
January 19, 2013
So sorry to learn of Paul's death. Larry often spoke of him during our time together at BONY. May you find comfort in knowing that Paul is now in God's loving arms. May he rest in peace.
January 19, 2013
Dear Shirley and Larry, Just read e-mail from Neill with the sad and shocking news of Paul's death....Many years have gone by since those weekends we shared with our "knobs"!! Sorry we lost touch but wanted you to know you and all Paul's family are in my prayers. Love, Mary Coxe
Judy Bartak-Maser
January 19, 2013
My sincere sympathy to the Deming family. I am so sorry for your loss.. You are an amazing, wonderful family.
January 19, 2013
I remember Paul when he was in the Manpower Office at Tinker AFB, OK. He was just a young man then almost 20 years younger than I. My condolences to his family.
Carol Swett Civil Service Retired.
Steve Pacensa
January 19, 2013
Dear Larry, Shirley, Ken, Pam, Liz and families,
My sister Stephanie called me a few minutes ago and told me about Paul. I was devastated. As your paperboy and friend of the family for our years growing up in Valhalla, I still remember all the good times we had bowling Saturday mornings, Paul and Kenny both coming with me on the paper route, playing basketball, and everything else. Please accept my families' deepest condolences and know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Darlene Calise
January 19, 2013
Liz and family,
Our deepest sympathies to all. You are in our prayers.
Love, Darlene Robb Eric Kriss Dante & Alex
Georgeann Guild
January 19, 2013
My heartfelt sympathy and prayers to Larry and Shirley Deming and family
Ted McIntire
January 19, 2013
During the brief time I knew Paul in the Air Force he exhibited kind and caring attributes, the greatest qualities a human being can possess.
Tanya Tock
January 19, 2013
I was saddened to hear of Paul's passing. We at the Manpower Office at Tinker AFB, OK had lost track of Paul and Nancy. It has great working him and in the early '80s. Reading of his life after Tinker does my heart good - knowing he had a good life. His family will be in my prayers as well as those of the Manpower Office that they may be comforted and keep his memory in their hearts and smile. We shall remember him fondly. Peace be to you all.
Don & Diana Wilcoxson
January 19, 2013
Our heartfelt sympathy to the family. We were blessed to spend a little time with Paul in a bowling league in the 1990's and he was truly a fun-loving, generous, caring man.
Neill Coxe
January 19, 2013
Paul was a great guy & friend. We were often side by side doing push ups knob year in Romeo company, but always laughing through it thanks to his dry sense of humor. Oh the stories I could tell. And what a great family! We Coxes had so much fun with you Demings during those weekends in Charleston. God bless you all. Neill Coxe, Romeo 1980.
Robina Franz
January 19, 2013
Dear Larry and Shirley
I am so sad to hear of Paul's death. It's not supposed to be this way. My prayers are with you. My love to the whole family.
January 19, 2013
Dear Larry and Shirley,
Such a shock to read of dear Paul's death. My heartfelt sympathy. To you and all your family. Will be in touch.
Love Pam Kammerer
Margaret Thomas
January 19, 2013
Dear Larry & Shirley and all the Demings,
we are very sorry for your loss and will hold you in our prayers.
Love Margaret & Gil
January 19, 2013
My deepest sympathies to the Deming family and all who knew him
Richard Saward '80
Paul with Lauren, Miller and Jack ~1996
Nancy Deming-May
January 19, 2013
Thank you so much for the pictures. We have been looking for those. Paul was a friend to all and loved by many. There is a large void in many lives now. Thank you for sharing your fond memories of a truly special person.
January 19, 2013
Dear Shirley , Larry, Ken, Pam, and Liz,
My sincere sympathy goes out to all of you. Paul was in my third grade class at Columbus Ave and a joy to teach. Know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers. Lydia Blake
Amy Rankin
January 19, 2013
Our deepest sympathies. He was a great neighbor, nice man. We chatted with him at the pool. He will be missed by our community
January 19, 2013
May the family experience God's support during this time of loss.
Psalm 147:3.
David Denton
January 19, 2013
We only knew Paul from the geocaching community, and he was always friendly and helpful. We will miss him and We were so sorry to hear of his passing and want to express to his family and friends how very sorry we are.
January 19, 2013
Larry and Shirley, Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please know your Ocean City "family" is thinking of you.
Pat and Melissa Walsh
Staci Scheetz and Family
January 19, 2013
Your family is in our prayers. Paul was a wonderful man with wonderful parents. The obituary reflects your wry humor and a family that has worked together through life's challenges. We are saddened for your loss, but enriched by our friendship.
Brian Roberts
January 19, 2013
Our prayers are with Paul's parents, Larry and Shirley, and his entire family. Our love travels the miles from Ocean City and the St. Peter's Church family. We join them in thanking God for all that Paul was and continues to be in God's eternal care. Pastor Brian-St. Peter's United Methodist Church, Ocean City, NJ
Richard Wegemann
January 19, 2013
Paul Deming was a Sophomore Corporal in “R” Company during Cadre when I was a knob. Nice enough fellow, soft spoken rarely harassed us, His cousin was Tom Vose who was my first room mate. Deming would come in from time to time to “check up” on Tom but his visits would always spawn a visit from a couple of Juniors like Leo Mercado and of course being Tom's roomy I got the “Treatment” as well... I think it was Parents (it may have been before that but) weekend Paul had duty and couldn't go to the Senior Party so he lent Tom his car and shoulder boards. Well you guessed it. The SGT of Lassane Gate stopped Tom and asked him if the “car belonged to a Upper classman”(he knew Tom was a knob but was trying like anything to let him off the hook) but as luck would have it I think it was Col Dick was out and about and Heard Tom answer to the SLG “Sir,Yes, Sir” of course at that point he had no choice but to bust Tom, who gave up Paul... Both received 40 tour(max punishment) Tom was transferred to “M” Company, and Paul was transferred to “B” company. Both receive amnesty when Prince Charles arrived an I think neither walked or only walked like 3-10 of the 40 when granted clemency. He really was a nice guy.. Vose made it through Freshman year but never came back, he proved he could make it... I pray for Paul's Family may God Bless you all
Rich Wegemann Class of '81
Romeo Comapny
Nancy Van Siclen
January 18, 2013
My deepest sympathy to all of the Deming family. My thoughts and prayers are with each of you.
Jay Floyd
January 18, 2013
Rest in Peace. Although I never met you, we are brothers, even if you were a Yankees Fan. I also minored in walking tours. Go Dogs!!! Class of '89
Bette & Bill Kaminsky
January 18, 2013
Larry & Shirley - Our deepest sympathies to you and your family. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers.
January 18, 2013
So sorry to hear of your loss. We did . it know Paul, but he was our neighbor and we were shocked to hear of his passing. Hold on to your memories. God bless you.
January 18, 2013
May the Creator and King of all grant Paul joy and peace everlasting in his life in heaven and may He grant Paul's loved ones strength, peace and comfort here on earth. Paul we miss you here, but we will see you there. Mark W. Johnson, Lt.Col.USMC(ret.), "G" Co., Citadel '81
Keith Nelson
January 18, 2013
It was hard to beat Paul to a "First to Find"
He will surely be missed by the local Geocaching community!
Citadel Graduation
Carmen Wood
January 18, 2013
Valhalla Viking High School Mascot
Carmen Wood
January 18, 2013
I've had the pleasure of working with Paul for the past two years. My fondest memory will always be when he rewarded me with a “prize” for meeting a very strict deadline he had imposed. He presented me with a plastic, battery-operated, bubble-blowing gun! It's one of the best gifts I've ever received because it reminds me of pure simple joy.
To celebrate graduation one year, the finance department employees brought in graduation photos of ourselves and spent the day reminiscing about our youth. Paul proudly told me about creating the Valhalla Viking high school mascot. He also shared his college graduation photo with us. Both photos have been uploaded to the photo gallery.
Paul's memory will be treasured.
Daryl & Len Lindholm
January 18, 2013
The wonderful times and Paul's life will eventually be a source of comfort to you. We can still remember that wonderful smile of his. They are gone but not forgotten.
Joe Orrico
January 18, 2013
May God Bless a great guy in Paul.........PAD was a great friend, a "guys guy" at school. He had a keen way of keeping all of our spirits high at The Citadel and within B company. And there was no bigger Yankee fan on Earth and there never will be. Until then, Paul........
KDR
January 18, 2013
Very sorry about his passing. Never got to meet the man, but was close to his daughter. Stay strong, Lauren Deming.
Mark Phelps
January 18, 2013
Paul's family, please accept my condolences on the loss of Paul. He will truely be missed as a co-worker and friend. I will always remember the good times we shared at work and away from work. I had great times with him at ODU football and basketball games, Tides games, and Admirals games. I will especially miss bowling with him every week. Paul was a great man.
January 18, 2013
Saddened to hear of Paul's passing.
Jeff Johnson
January 18, 2013
I offer you my sincerest empathy – when I lost a loved one, they became a memory; that memory has now become a treasure.
Roy Hulett
January 18, 2013
Paul will be always remembered by his Band of Brothers of The Class of '80. His memory will carry on!
Sam Beason
January 18, 2013
Truely sorry to hear about the loss of Paul. I knew him at The Citadel and he was a great guy, and a true Citadel Man! Certainly "a cut above" as we used to say at The Citadel. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.
January 18, 2013
May The Great Comforter give you His grace and mercy during this difficult time. Bun Stubbs 80'
Eve Deming
January 18, 2013
I will miss my Uncle so much, this has been such a shock to me, I'm not sure I truly believe he's gone.
Rick Osmun
January 18, 2013
I am truly saddened by Paul's passing...he was more than just a friend....he was my roommate at the Citadel...so together we experienced everything our military college had to offer...we shared a special bond...and through the years we managed to keep in touch and once in awhile get together to re-live those many memories. "PAD" will always be my Citadel Brother....he will be forever missed and loved.
Paul was an amazing person...a guy who loved life to the fullest and always made the best of every situation...I will always cherish the memories and will often toast his life.
My sincere thoughts and prayers are with his entire family.
Carl Steinhoff
January 17, 2013
My condolences to the family. Pad was a good friend while at The Citadel. He always kept us smiling and I am sure he will be missed.
Donna Valdez
January 17, 2013
Please accept my most heartfelt sympathies for your loss. May the peace that comes from the memories of love shared comfort you now and in the days ahead. Paul was truly a wonderful man, and his kindness and gentle being will be sadly missed.
GrandpaGene Gene Moser
January 17, 2013
I have talked and walked with Seepaulgolf for two years and have enjoyed our messages and our searches together. I will miss him very much. Good finds, Paul
Bill and Jade Stone
January 17, 2013
We spoke to Paul this past week, and as usual he was so kind and supportive. It is hard to believe he is gone. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family. We are blessed to have known him.
Heather Hynes
January 17, 2013
I will truly miss you Paul. You were one of the most gentle souls I have known. Our weekly chats about, basketball, hockey and football were always such a joy. May you rest in peace and my thoughts are to your family.
Carletha Savage
January 17, 2013
I am writing to extend my deepest sympathy on the passing of your father and son. He was a dear person and always kind to me. I am saddened at his passing. My prayers and condolences to his family and friends. I will miss him.
Former Co-Worker
Angie Balestino
January 17, 2013
My thoughts and prayers to Paul's family. I worked with Paul at Portsmouth City Schools; he was always a big help and I enjoyed working with him. I called him Pauly D and we laughed about it all of the time. Paul is a great guy and I will truly miss him. RIP my friend
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