Penny Wilhelme

Penny Wilhelme

Penny Wilhelme Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Dec. 28, 2024.
Penny Rae Wilhelme, born on January 2, 1957, in Wilmington, Delaware, passed away peacefully on December 24, 2024, in Newark, Delaware. She was the cherished daughter of the late Isaac Sr. and Mary (Kent) Hammond.

On February 26, 1977, Penny married Tom Wilhelme in New Castle, Delaware. Together, they shared a life filled with love and treasured memories. Penny devoted 25 years to Wilmington Trust, where her dedication and strong work ethic left an enduring legacy.

Penny was preceded in death by her parents; her husband, Tom; her sister, Florence MacLaren; her brother-in-law, Stephen Wilhelme; and her nephews, Justin McMonigle and Roy MacLaren Jr. She is lovingly remembered by her children: J.T. (Andrea) Wilhelme, Heidi (Jon) Fitzpatrick, and Amanda (Scott) Day. Her memory will also be cherished by her eight grandchildren who brought immense joy to her life. Penny is further survived by her brother, Isaac (Mary) Hammond; sisters-in-law Nancy (Henry) Mischler, Lori Andrews, and Kay McMonigle; brother-in-law Roy MacLaren Sr.; as well as numerous nieces and nephews.

A memorial service to celebrate Penny's life will be held on Saturday, January 11, 2025, at St. James Episcopal Church, located at 2 S Augustine St., Wilmington, DE 19804. Visitation will take place from 10:00 to 11:00 a.m., followed by the service at 11:00 a.m. Burial will be private.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Penny's memory may be made to organizations close to her heart: SC Bulldogs (202 Wilmore Dr., Middletown, DE 19709), Brandywine High School Drama Department (1400 Foulk Rd., Wilmington, DE 19803), or Concord High School Drama Department (2501 Ebright Rd., Wilmington, DE 19810).

May Penny's memory bring comfort and peace to all who knew and loved her.

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January 10, 2025

Jennifer Hunnell posted to the memorial.

January 10, 2025

Nancy Mischler posted to the memorial.

December 31, 2024

Kay McMonigle posted to the memorial.

Jennifer Hunnell

January 10, 2025

Ike & Family; Heidi & Family; JT & Family; Amanda & Family

Penny was such a wonderful cousin who always smile, gave the greatest
hugs (especially when you needed them), always saying Good Morning/Hi/
Love You on FB. Always willing to listen when you needed to talk, always there
when you needed to hear her experience, and so very helpful & thoughtful
with family in good times & bad. Her lay-back attitude reminds me so much
of the Kent trait (Pop Pop and my Dad). That is one good family trait to have!

I know she's up in heaven with Aunt Mary, Uncle Ike, Flo and the rest of our
extended family watching each and everyone one of us with love.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love you my dear cousin!

Jenn

Nancy Mischler

January 10, 2025

Penny and I were besties in high school where we worked in Mrs Lawsons office together. Then she married by brother. Lifetime friends and I miss her so much.

Kay McMonigle

December 31, 2024

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

Connie & Ray Conner

December 29, 2024

So sorry for your loss. I remember Penny from our church years. She was always smiling and helping where she was needed. She was so lucky to have such a caring family. Her grandkids were her treasure. She will be missed by many

Jacqueline &James Durborow

December 29, 2024

So sorry for your loss. Prayers for healing

Katie Robbins

December 28, 2024

Wilhelme Family my deepest condolences to everyone and prayers. Love you all.

I grew up with the Wilhelme Children as Heidi where best friends and would be at there home all the time after school or spending the night. We would go from Choir concerts, Band Events, or just hanging out.

The Wilhelme´s always made me feel welcome and treated me as one of their own kids.

Mrs. Penny has always been so sweet and even since we have grown up to be adults she has checked on us & our family and always sent her best wishes to us on everything we have done thru life.

I will miss her & her hugs and kind words so much!!!

I know she has a great seat in heaven and will watch over all of us and be with Mr. Tom as well again. Please send him my love as well.

We love you Mrs. Penny and will miss you so much!!

Heidi Fitzpatrick

December 28, 2024

Mom and family always supporting our kids on stage. She will have a front row seat at all future shows. We love you mom.

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