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Raymond Andrew D'Alessio
1931 - 2016
Raymond Andrew D'Alessio
1931 - 2016
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Raymond D'Alessio Obituary
He was born on November 18, 1931, in Pittsburgh, PA, the son of Andrew and Carmela (Ruoti) D'Alessio. He is preceded in death by his sister Marisa (D'Alessio) Valentine.
He was the widower of Patricia L. (Denver) D'Alessio, his wife of 39 years. Growing up in Pittsburgh, Ray graduated from Carnegie Institute of Technology (now Carnegie Mellon University) with a degree in Mechanical Engineering and began a career in the steel industry which took him from Pittsburgh, PA to Muskegon, MI and eventually to Baltimore, MD where he met Patricia, married and started a family. Contraction in the US Steel industry forced relocations to Easton, MD then to Englishtown, NJ and in 1976 a final relocation to Madison, CT where he designed, built and managed the operations of a small steel mill, Yale Steel, in Wallingford. In the later years of his career he was a machinery and inventory appraiser for Citi Bank. After retiring from Citi Bank, Ray continued to be active in the community, volunteering at Community Dining Room and was very active as a board member at St. Lawrence Church.
Mr. D'Alessio is survived by his children, Kim Blackwell (husband, Neal) of Pennington, NJ, Keith D'Alessio (wife, Jennifer) of Cary, NC, David D'Alessio (wife, Diane) of Madison, and Gina D'Alessio (Tony Grasso), of Durham; grandchildren Zachary, Bradford, Patrick, Andy, and Hailey.
Calling hours will be held on Saturday February 13th from 9:30-11am in St. Lawrence Church, 7 Hemlock Dr., Killingworth. A Mass of Christian Burial will begin at 11am in church. lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to The Community Dining Room, 30 Harrison Avenue, Branford, CT 06405. To sign the online guest book visit www.swanfuneralhomemadison.com.
Lastly, the family would like to express their most sincere thanks to the many healthcare personnel that took care of Mr. D'Alessio in the last year of his life. Their efforts to make Mr. D'Alessio's life more comfortable and enriched are most certainly appreciated.
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July 1, 2016
Dear Raymond's family:
Just last week I was searching online for Raymond's phone number, as I wanted to update him on his friend and my mother, Florence Ufolla Bonadero's, recent move to a senior living facility. It was a shock to see that he had passed away earlier this year. I cannot imagine how heartbroken you must be. We just adored him: he was such a sweet, caring, wonderful man. He is undoubtedly with the Lord and the angels. We are so very sorry for your loss.
With love and prayers,
Ermie Bonadero and Flo "Bubbles" Ufolla Bonadero
Jim and Janet Fernstrom
May 17, 2016
Dave and family,
We just learned of your dad passing away. Our deepest to you and your family. He was a wonderful man, we always enjoyed our wrestling days, spending much time together with both your parents cheering the Tigers on. RIP Ray.
Chris Vegliante
February 23, 2016
One would have to travel far and wide to find a more gentle, caring , intelligent and generous man. I am , truly, a better man for having known him. C.V.
February 20, 2016
Sorry to hear of Ray's death. We were friends at ST. Agnes & Central. I lost track of him later in life. He was a great friend.
Bill Apel Pittsburgh, PA. Class of '49
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The Twohill Family
February 15, 2016
Dear family of Ray D'Alessio, we are so sorry to hear of your loss. Our family was extremely fortunate to have Ray and his wife as our neighbors. They gave us a kind welcoming to the neighborhood, and over the years Ray became a friend who always offered a smile and a wave. Ray would always help out after a storm and had a genuine interest in our family's well being. He will be greatly missed,
Sharon Bolles
February 14, 2016
Gina, Dave and family, I am so sorry to learn of your loss. Mr. D was always such a gentleman and a sincere pleasure to speak with. Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers.
Sharon and Tom Bolles, Bedford, Va.
Bob & Dorothy Brooks
February 14, 2016
Ray was a gentle man & treated everyone the same way. Working with Ray at Citicorp was always fun and also exposed his talent to the business community. I got to know Rays family while we commuted daily - Both Dorothy & I share the sorrow of his passing.
Uncle Ray, Kathy and Paul. About 1961
Paul Valentine
February 12, 2016
I've been thinking of Uncle Ray all day and I wish I could have known him and everyone else better through the years. We were blessed with a visit from Ray and Keith before my mom passed. The attached photo is from a Visit to our Florida home in about 1961 (with Kathy and Paul).
February 12, 2016
Dear Kim, Keith, David and Gina,
We are sorry for your loss. Ray was a good husband, Father and friend. We will always remember the good times we had together. Love to all of you.
Uncle Doug and Aunt Barb.
David & Kathleen Golinski
February 12, 2016
Praying for comfort for your family and peace for your soul Ray. We know the Lord will have a special place in heaven prepared for you. Your Aunt Edith sends her love and always thought of you as the years went by. Your life and that of the Ruoti family will always be the standard that we all strive to achieve. As our Lord said in Matthew 25:23 "We done, good and faithful servant". Your cousin, Dave
Toni Wood RN, BSN
February 12, 2016
Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. Ray is a great man and will live on in each and every one of his children and grandchildren. It was such a pleasure to care for and get to know him while he was in rehab, hearing stories and memories of his life and watching his eyes light up when he spoke of wife and how proud he is of his children. Talking and laughing about the dogs and cats, especially yours Gina gave him great joy as well as for me.
Always remember there are holes in the floor of heaven, he will always be there for each and every one of you. Feel the sun, that is his infectious smile, the rain and snow are his tears and thunder is his laugh, together letting you know he is with you always protecting and guiding you for ever.
Don and Marion McDougall
February 12, 2016
My heart goes out to Rays family. He was a great man and will be missed by his St. Lawrence family.
February 11, 2016
Sincere condolences to the D'Alessio Family on the passing of Ray.
Fred and Carol Hartung
Erica Krenzalek
February 11, 2016
I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your dad was such a kind caring man, who will truly be missed by many! My thoughts and prayers will be with the family in their time of grief.
georgeanne keirstead
February 11, 2016
So terribly sorry for your loss! Although I only spoke to him a few times while he was at rehab the same time my dad was, I saw a bright eyed, chipper man! My prayers go out to you all!
Georgeanne Keirstead
February 11, 2016
" Sorry for your loss. May the GOD of tender mercy comfort you in this time of Sadness PSALMS 18:1,2
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