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Raymond Richard Hayes
1946 - 2011
Raymond Richard Hayes
1946 - 2011
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BORN
1946
DIED
2011
Raymond Hayes Obituary
It is with heavy hearts that the family of Raymond Hayes announce his passing at the age of 65. Raymond passed peacefully at home surrounded by his loving family after a courageous and valiant battle with brain cancer on Wednesday, June 15th 2011. Loving Husband and best friend of 39 years to his "Babe", Brenda. Dear sweet Father of Corinne (Gord), Lee (Mary), Adam (Cheri-Lynn) and Katie (Brian). Cherished Pappy who will be sorely missed by his adored grandchildren, Jacob, Brooklyn, Addison, Caleb, Connor, Averie, Cameron, Owen and two on the way and predeceased by his grand-daughter, Marion. Fondly remembered by his parents Pearl and Basil (deceased) and loving brother to Greg, Brian, Marlene, Danny, Wayne, Heather, Doug (deceased) and all of their families. Raymond will be missed by his many nieces and nephews, all of his many friends, colleagues and students. Soke Raymond Hayes was the founder of Shin Jitsu No Kempo and trained in the martial arts for over 40 years. Soke was a great friend, mentor and teacher (Sensei) to all who had the privilege to enter his Dojo that he opened in 1982 in downtown Whitby. Raymond was dedicated and committed to his community and demonstrated this through his tireless efforts with the less fortunate and was a strong supporter of St. Vincent De Paul. Raymond was a faithful parishioner of St. John the Evangelist Roman Catholic Church and long time member of the Knight's of Columbus- 4th degree. Raymond was a true warrior in all aspects of life. He was a Soke (10th degree black belt) in the martial arts but always shared his knowledge through humility by example. He was the proud author of his first book "True Kempo-Pine Tree Reflection, the warrior within". Raymond's passions were his family, his martial arts and his commitment to God's work within the Knight's of Columbus. A True Warrior in life and throughout his battle he fought with determination and grace, never to complain or look for sympathy from others and always putting others needs before his. He will always be our special "Ray of Sunshine". Special thanks to St. Elizabeth's PSW Leanne for her dedicated and compassionate care for Raymond and also the rest of the Partner's in Community Nursing team that helped provide his care. Friends may call at OSHAWA FUNERAL HOME, 847 King Street West (905-721-1234) for visitation on Sunday, June 19th from 2 – 4 and 7 – 9 p.m. Prayers at 7:30 p.m. Mass of Christian Burial will be held at ST. JOHN THE EVANGELIST CHURCH (903 Giffard St., Whitby) on Monday, June 20th at 11:00 a.m. Interment Resurrection Cemetery. Donations gratefully accepted for the St. Vincent de Paul Society.
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Michael Carroll
January 23, 2012
Raymond Hayes was my Sensei and role model as a young teen......he continues to be my hero. I'm saddened to find out he has passed on, but overjoyed he has left behind such a big beautiful family as part of his wonderful legacy.
Norm Alfermann
August 13, 2011
Dear Lee, Adam and Gord,
It is with great sadness today that I hear of the passing of Ray. He was a wonderful and kind person and I was honoured to have studied under his guidance. He taught me more than the martial arts. He will be truly missed. May he rest in Heaven.
Norm
Trudy Percival
June 21, 2011
Dear Brenda, Corrie, Lee, Adam and Katie:
I was so sorry to hear of the loss of the "quiet man". He was a wonderful, inspirational person, loving husband and devoted parent and grandparent.
He fought a brave fight but is now in the arms of God and whole again.
May our memories and stories about Raymond keep him alive in our hearts forever.
God bless
Trudy
June 21, 2011
My sinere regrets in hearing of Ray,s passing.He was a bright spirit offering light to all who came in contact with him.my deepest appriciation for his generosity and freindship. Robert Youngs
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Ken R
June 20, 2011
22 years ago, I met you for the first time, and our paths crossed throughout those years.
You taught me that there is more to Martial Arts than kicking and punching, and we can always come home to where we came from and still learn.
Rest in Peace Ray
Carrie Tamblyn
June 20, 2011
Brenda & Family,
My deepest condolences with the loss of your husband, father, and papa. I am thinking of you.
Carrie Tamblyn (Co-Worker @ L.H.O)
Vern Keast
June 20, 2011
Lee and Adam,so very sorry to hear about your dad, he has left two of the finest gentlemen I have met in a long time,I am proud to have met a man who has passed along such great values as he did with you both.
My thoughts are with you and your family
Vern at Home Depot
Maggie Fenn
June 20, 2011
To Brenda and family. Please except my deepest sympathy on the loss of Ray. He was a wonderful husband, father, grandfather and so much more. I will deeply miss him. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your whole family in this time of sadness. Love always Maggie Fenn (Bilsky)
Kim, Marlon and Connor Vieira
June 20, 2011
Dear Gord, Corrine and Family
We are truly sorry to hear of the passing of Soke Ray. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time. His legacy will live on in all that he had worked so hard to create in the dojo. He will be sorely missed by many people. Love, Kim, Marlon and Connor
Eiju, Clare and Tom Daudelin
June 19, 2011
Lee, Adam and Sensei Gord,
We are saddened to hear of your loss. We hope your memories will give you some comfort during this difficult time. Our thoughts are with you and your families.
Leo Cacaras
June 19, 2011
Soke, until that day that we meet again in Heaven, this scripture will always remind me of you:
1Co 13:1-13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known. So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; BUT THE GREATEST OF THESE IS LOVE.
Amanda May
June 19, 2011
We send our deepest sympathy to Gord and Corinne, and family. The martial arts school Soke Hayes founded has had the most amazing and positive impact on our son, Riley. It was a great honour when Soke Hayes was in attendance at Rileys Black Belt testing. The photo taken with Riley, Sensi Gord and Soke Hayes at the belt testing sits on his desk as a reminder of that special day. Your family is in our prayers.
Pam Kruggel
June 19, 2011
My deepest sympathy to Cory and the Hayes family. Thinking of you during this time.
Sheryl Gaskin
June 18, 2011
Dearest Brenda and family;
May God ease your heavy hearts and may all your wonderful memories give you pause to smile a little now and then.
Sheryl
James Olley
June 18, 2011
I am terribly sorry for your lose. Uncle Raymond was a wonderful man with a life time of accomplishments and he will be sincerely missed. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Jim
Ian,Lisa,Noah Davidson
June 17, 2011
All our codolences for the Hayes and O'blenes family during this difficult time, our hearts and thoughts are with you.
True Love
June 17, 2011
June 17, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Brenda and all the family at this difficult time. Soke was a wonderful man and I feel blessed to have been a part of his life. He will be deeply missed.
May you rest in peace Soke.
Lindsey Butt & B.J. Graham
A Brother Knight
June 17, 2011
Ray was truly an inspiration during his courageous battle. May he rest in peace. Deepest sympathies to the entire family.
Gary Belcourt
June 17, 2011
Dear Hayes Family
My most sincere condolenses for your lost, Raymond was a beautiful and kind cousin, and will always be remembered.
Chris, Suzanne and Bridget Plue
June 17, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers go out to Ray's whole family during this difficult time. We keep you in our prayers.
May you rest in peace Ray.
Mary Justynski
June 17, 2011
I can clearly remember the first day I met Ray. He was such a happy and positive man. I joined the club only to fall in love with his family, Lee in particular. Ray welcomed me into the family with the biggest open arms. When I walked through that door, Ray would make me feel like I was the greatest thing since sliced bread. He supported me on any decision I made in life and made me feel like the sky was the limit. I was sad to say good bye but I know he is at peace. I can honestly say he changed who I am and how I look at the world and for that I thank him! Thanks Daddy Ray of Sunshine!
June 17, 2011
I love you Ray! Thank you for being an amazing brother.
Love your sister...Heather XOXO
June 17, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers to Brenda and all the family at this most difficult time. A mentor, teacher and friend...rest in peace, Soke.
Raymond,Maryann,Stephen and David
Serge Poirier
June 16, 2011
Best Friends. From first day at the class room door Grade 6. Lots of great memories as young boys,teens and men. It was my honour to call you my best friend. Ray you can rest in peace knowing you have used your talents to teach others to always try do do there best and be a good person in life. I'm so proud of you my friend. Love Serge.
Kristina Dyson
June 16, 2011
Sensei Hayes, as I have always known him, was a very kind-hearted man and an incredible teacher. Through martial arts, he thought me self-discipline and to always believe in myself. He has touched many lives, and because of this, his legacy will live on forever. My thoughts are with the entire Hayes family at this difficult time. Always remember that he is only a thought away.
Roy DaSilva
June 16, 2011
May memories comfort you and bring you peace during this very difficult time. My condolences.
Dennis and Joy
June 16, 2011
Our hearts our broken. Soon happy memories will melt our sadness away. Ray's fighting, gentle spirit has touched us and will continue to touch us all in many ways!!
Thinking of you all at this time. xoxo
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