Richard Kincaide
Richard Kincaide
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Born in Wisconsin in 1936 to Lucille Margarette (Knipple) Kincaide and Richard Daniel Kincaide, Dick grew up with two sisters, Diane (Kincaide) Bruce and Kay (Kincaide) Peña. The Kincaide family moved several times during his childhood, living in places such as Oakland and Honolulu, before finally settling in Marin County, California.
Dick graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of California, Berkeley, in 1958 with a Bachelor of Science in Business. A lifelong supporter of the Cal Bears, he cherished attending football games at Memorial Stadium with his family, where he proudly cheered on his team.
Dick and Rita Kincaide were married on October 4, 1964, after meeting at the Regis Club in San Rafael. Their loving marriage spanned over six decades. Together, they raised their three children in Corte Madera and Larkspur: Timothy Richard Kincaide of Petaluma, Sharon Marie (Kincaide) Rayner of Scottsdale, and Jeffrey William Kincaide of Dublin, California.
One of Dick's greatest joys was watching his eight grandchildren grow. He took immense pride in their accomplishments and cherished each one dearly: Andrew and Nicole, children of Timothy and Cynthia (Walsh) Kincaide; Claire, Jessica, Justin, and Christian Joseph, children of Sharon and Steven Rayner; and Nicholas and Jordan, children of Jeffrey and Shannon (Ogden) Kincaide.
In 1962, after serving his country for two years in the Navy in the Pacific, Dick began working for his father as the first employee of the Manufacturers Representative Firm R.D. Kincaide, Inc. Over the course of his career, he remained active in the plumbing industry for more than 60 years and earned the esteem and respect of all who worked with and for him.
A devout Catholic, Dick's faith was central to his life. He was dedicated to acts of kindness and service, touching the lives of everyone he met. He was an active parishioner and lector at St. Patrick's Parish in Larkspur, and later at St. Raymond's Parish in Dublin.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the American Diabetes Association in honor of Dick's memory.
A Funeral Mass will be held on Thursday, February 6th at St. Raymond's Church in Dublin at 10:00 AM.
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Kay Pena
February 13, 2025
My big brother Dick
My big brother Dick was intelligent, honest, kind, compassionate, generous and loving.
My first recollection of my brother however was not so nice. In our Oakland backyard, when I was about 5, and he was a teenager, I found my toy metal, blue willow, tea cups and plates with bee bee holes. I was very upset that Dick had used my tea set for target practice.
After that incident, I experienced all of the wonderful attributes of a big brother. He always included me in his activities, from playing hide and seek in our Oakland home to taking me along with his friends to movies on a Saturday night.
In Oakland, Dick attended his Freshman & Sophmore year of high school at Oakland High School, along with our sister Diane. In 1951 (or 52) our family moved to Hawaii where Dick was a Junior in high school. The next year we moved to Los Angeles, where Dick graduated from high school. I can´t imagine how well he tolerated moving three times during high school and still able to maintain good grades.
When we moved to Los Angeles to a rented upstairs flat in Huntington Park, I was extremely excited when Dick and my father went out to buy a new car and a television. I was a little disappointed when they came back with an old dilapidated car, and a dinky portable black & white TV. This move was actually a turning point in our family life. My father became a sober alcoholic - never to take a single alcoholic drink for the rest of his life.
The next move was back to Oakland, where our father started his own business in San Francisco. Dick was able to attend the University of California in Berkeley, where he graduated in 1958 with honors.
When Dick returned from his navy duty in Japan, he generously showered us with gifts. He gave pearl necklaces to our mother, Diane and myself. I also remember a tea set (tea pot, tea cups and plates). He also gave me his 35 mm camera and a bone necklace from Nara, Japan.
Dicks fathers´ business grew and eventually Dick was employed by our father when we moved from Oakland to Marin County. I distinctly remember my father telling Dick. "Dick, you can´t call me `daddy´ anymore."
While living in Marin County after college graduation, Dick met the love of his life, Rita, who he married & had 3 beautiful children.
Dick was certainly generous. When we bought our newly built home in San Ramon, Dick gave us a whole landscaping irrigation system for our house.
Dick´s love & compassion for us was demonstrated on a New Year´s Day (can´t remember the year). We were visiting Dick and his family, and we spotted an autographed football on the coffee table. It was someone´s idea to autograph the football. Someone signed first, but that autograph was very tiny. Not the case with Juan´s signature. It was big and bold! We didn´t know at the time that it was signed by OJ Simpson (when OJ was a big football legend). Dick´s family was pretty upset about the precious Christmas present of an autographed football. Of course we apologized and even offered to erase Juan´s signature. Dick called a few days later to graciously accept our apology - expressing that he didn´t want to break up our family relationships over a football.
My experiences with Dick demonstrate true generosity, love and compassion. We miss him greatly, but hopefully we will be together again.
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Dan Roberts
February 6, 2025
True professional, Icon of the Industry and genuinely nice person. He will be missed.
Sharon Rayner
January 31, 2025
A Righteous Man
Over the past few months, I´ve tried to think of what Dad "stood for" in one word-what did he value most? That word is family. His adoring love for his wife of 60 years is something rarely witnessed. His encouragement in the lives of my brothers and me is irreplaceable. The charm with which he regarded his eight grandchildren was infectious.
He had strong memories of his childhood and cared deeply about his family of origin. He honored his parents by caring for them as they struggled with the complications of diabetes and cancer as they aged. He was a vigilant defender of his sisters. His love for his first family never faded, but rather extended over time to his nephews and niece.
He had a singular devotion to the guardian of the Holy Family, Saint Joseph. From the beginning, the Catholic worldview has been that men are called to sacrificially "provide for and protect" all the people placed in their lives by God. He not only did this for his family, but also for the many employees he led over the years.
As the Book of Wisdom proclaims, "The souls of the just are in the hand of God." I believe that my Dad will stand before his Creator as a righteous man. He will spend his time in heaven as a continuation of his life on earth, protecting those he loved by now covering them in prayer. He won´t wait to be asked, but I strongly suggest to all his loved ones, remember that you now have a loving advocate in the spiritual realm, and as Saint James tells us, "The prayer of a righteous man is strong in its effects."
Eternal rest, grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.
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