Robert Vinh Dai

Robert Vinh Dai obituary, Fairfax, VA

Robert Vinh Dai

Robert Dai Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 18, 2022.
Dr. Robert Vinh Dai, beloved husband, father, grandfather, doctor and humanitrian, passed away on March 16, 2022 in Arlington, VA.

Dai was born on August 27th, 1947 in Nha Trang, Vietnam. He was the son of the late Buu Dai, a veterinarian, and the late Tran Thi Dong. His father passed away when he was 7 years old. He was very cute, extremely disciplined and polite as a child, said aunt "Co Mai" (Pham Tri Tuc, married name Cong Tang Ton Nu Tri Tuc) who took him to school every day. His family later moved to Saigon in the 50's.

Dai and many of his medical school classmates attended the French high school, Lyc?e Jean Jacques Rousseau, in Saigon from 1958 to 1965. He passed the National French Baccalaureate in 1965 as well as the highly selective national entrance exam into the medical school, where only 200 candidates out of 20,000+ applicants with highest scores chosen. After a stellar performance in medical school as student, intern, and Resident in surgery from 1965 to 1972, he presented his Thesis under Oath to Hippocrates and graduated from the Medical School of the University of Saigon in 1972. His close circle of friends, which included Drs. Than, Trong An; Anne Regina Capdeville; Tran, Duc Tung and Dang, Van Chat, had formed a small study group during the medical school years.

As an outstanding physician-in-training, he passed the yearly rigorous written and oral exam in mid-1972 and certified as an Interne Des Hopitaux de Saigon (Intern of Hospitals of Saigon) in surgery; this academic level was equivalent to a 3rd year US residency. The prestigious certification was designed to select the best doctors for the Teaching Faculty of The University of Saison School of Medicine. Dai was immediately recruited as an Intern/Resident in surgery by the late Dr. Pham Bieu Tam, the former Dean of Surgery, to practice at Binh Dan Hospital in Saigon. At the time, this surgical residency program was sponsored by the University of Pittsburgh and coordinated by Dr. Henry T. Bahnson, the late Professor of Surgery and Chairman at UPMC Presbyterian (formerly Presbyterian-University Hospital) in Pittsburgh, PA. During his medical years, Dai was an exceptionally sharp and brilliant scholar who could master all medical subjects in the blink of an eye. He read medical books like novels and could memorize everything at first glance. In 1973 He passed his ECFMG (Equivalence Exam of the Educational Commission for Foreign Medical Graduates) with high scores and selected as Assistant Professor into the Teaching Faculty of Saigon University School of Medicine where he practiced and taught Surgery to medical students and residents until 1975.

Aside from medicine, Dai loved sports and was an outstanding volleyball player for the Medical School, winning many games. Growing up with a mother living on his father's meager pension and with limited resources, Dai took a job as a pharmaceutical drug representative to afford medical books to make ends meet during his medical school years. He would run the streets on his Honda scooter from doctor's to doctor's offices distributing medical drug samples after class until late while other classmates were studying or playing.

He met the love of his life, Dr. Nguyen, Thi Tuyethoa ("Hoa"), who was in a class junior to him in Medical School. It was love at first sight. However, since he was very shy and reserved, he was incapable of making the first step. His close friends, Anne Regina Capdeville, and Than Trong An, helped bring them together. They were married in 1972 and their daughter named Vinh, Huyen Tran was born the following year.

Between 1972-1973, Dai had occasionally assisted Hoa's father (Dr. Nguyen, Tu Vinh, the sole general surgeon and Director of Bac Lieu Hospital in a remote province of South Vietnam) in numerous surgical operations, including innumerable wounded war patients, accidental trauma, repair of cleft palate, GI surgeries, amongst others, during multiple visits to Hoa's hometown.

In a country ravaged by war with incessant fighting between the South and communists of North Vietnam, with bombing occurring in the villages, countryside and downtown on daily basis, sounds of guns and bombs became a familiar part of daily life of all. Dai and his family had to occasionally hide in a bunker and had on a few occasions escaped shooting and bombing incidents during this horrific period. Despite the fact Saigon was heavily bombarded, particularly in its final days before the fall to the communists of North Vietnam, Dai was going to Binh Dan's hospital to perform surgeries and take care of his patients as usual. One evening a few days before the fall of Saigon in April 1975, he was suddenly grabbed from the hospital by one of his brothers-in-law Nguyen, Hong Phuc and taken home to care for family. That very night, Dai along with his wife and daughter immediately joined the family of his uncle, the late Pham, Hy Dung, Colonel in the Telecommunications, in a US organized military airlift out of Saigon. They took with them only a small bag of important papers, clothes, and powdered baby milk.

Now refugees of war, Dai and his family landed first at Clark Air Force Base in the Philippines where they stayed for three days. The next destination was Guam for ten days; then finally transferred to a refugee camp in Fort Chaffee, AR. Dai and his family were sponsored by the late Dr. James Patrick (a family practice doctor in Fayetteville, AR and one of a Hoa's father's friends, who participated in a Volunteer Physician Program for South Vietnam during war time) to move out of the refugees' camp.

With Dr. Patrick's assistance, Dai and his family moved to Pittsburgh in July 1975. Following Dai's reconnection with Dr. Bahnson (see above), Dai obtained an Internship and Residency in Surgery program at the Allegheny General Hospital in Pittsburg, PA. He became Board Certified in General Surgery in 1980. Dai and Hoa voluntarily joined the United States Air Force as Majors, USAF, and chose to be stationed in the D.C. area. He was interviewed by Dr. Dino Nonas in July 1980 and accepted a position as General Surgeon for Malcolm Grow Surgical Clinics and Surgical Center in Andrews Air Force Base, MD, where he worked from 1980 -1984. Following his honorable discharge from the USAF, he opened his private practice and became a member of the medical staff at Inova Fairfax Hospital and Virginia Hospital Center working as a General Surgeon and Trauma Surgeon from 1984-1993. Dr. Nonas, who had become a member of Kaiser Permanente Group, enticed Dai to join the group, which he did in 1993. He suddenly suffered a stroke in August of 2015, which preceded his planned retirement in January of 2016.

Throughout his long medical career, he had proven himself to be a giant in the field of Surgery with tremendous skills and a unique talent, combining his broad experiences in surgical techniques from Vietnam with US training practices. He was famous for performing the largest number of parathyroidectomies and thyroidectomies by doing more than 350 cases per year at Inova Fairfax Hospital, as noted by Dr. William Purkert; and also for Whipple's operations and mastectomies. He was full of life and full of humor in the operating room, making everyone relax and laugh as if turning on a light switch. A problem solver and a perfectionist, he was always calm and contained during each operation. No cases were too hard or too complicated for him. A compassionate surgeon, he cared about each one of his patients, often waking up at night thinking about what to do for them the next morning. He acquired innumerable loving colleagues and friends. He would always come to the rescue of colleagues in need and helped out with all difficult cases as asked of him without hesitation.

His commitment to the medical community particularly at Inova Fairfax Hospital, was to mentor and train numerous young medical students and surgeons. He demonstrated his passion in the way he taught, helped and encouraged them, always wanting them to excel and to become better physicians and surgeons. He was always glued to his computer at night searching for medical subjects and the latest articles with which to prepare his next talk or organize journal clubs alongside Dr. Bronsther. As a result of this passion he received many consecutive annual awards for Best Teacher of the Year from the Surgical Department at Inova Fairfax Hospital. After a while, it became too "boring" to see him win annually, so the Hospital decided to name the award after him. Dai was also a born artist who could quickly sketch any subject from the medical to the abstract including architecture, portraiture and nature. He would often illustrate for purpose of instruction and then just as quickly crumple up and discard the work.

To those who knew Dai, he was larger than life, yet humble, honest, full of humor, and full of "joie de vivre." In addition to his passion for medicine, he loved food, fashion, movies, music and ... gambling. He enjoyed playing mahjong with friends in the weekend and occasionally joined them for casino trips. As a life-long learner and a fast reader who could finish a book in a day, he was also interested in a broad range of subjects besides medicine including philosophy, history, war history, science fiction and fiction novels of all kinds.

He is survived by his mother-in-law, Thieu Thi Nguyen (CA), wife, Dr. Tuyethoa Vinh, daughter Tran Vinh, son-in-law Jeremie Carvalho, and grandson Lucien Vinh Carvalho (CA) who he cherished as a most precious gem until his final moment, and his brothers-in-law Nguyen, Hong Liet and wife; Nguyen, Hong Tao; Nguyen, Hong Phuc and wife; Nguyen, Hong Nho and wife; and Nguyen, Hong Son and wife. Dr. Dai Vinh was an incredible and exceptional surgeon, and an absolute treasure who has left an indelible impression on everyone who had the chance to know him or work with him. He will be deeply missed and always remembered

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

How to support Robert's loved ones
Honor a beloved veteran with a special tribute of ‘Taps’ at the National WWI Memorial in Washington, D.C.

The nightly ceremony in Washington, D.C. will be dedicated in honor of your loved one on the day of your choosing.

Read more
Attending a Funeral: What to Know

You have funeral questions, we have answers.

Read more
Should I Send Sympathy Flowers?

What kind of arrangement is appropriate, where should you send it, and when should you send an alternative?

Read more
What Should I Write in a Sympathy Card?

We'll help you find the right words to comfort your family member or loved one during this difficult time.

Read more
Resources to help you cope with loss
Estate Settlement Guide

If you’re in charge of handling the affairs for a recently deceased loved one, this guide offers a helpful checklist.

Read more
How to Write an Obituary

Need help writing an obituary? Here's a step-by-step guide...

Read more
Obituaries, grief & privacy: Legacy’s news editor on NPR podcast

Legacy's Linnea Crowther discusses how families talk about causes of death in the obituaries they write.

Read more
The Five Stages of Grief

They're not a map to follow, but simply a description of what people commonly feel.

Read more
Ways to honor Robert Dai's life and legacy
Obituary Examples

You may find these well-written obituary examples helpful as you write about your own family.

Read more
How to Write an Obituary

Need help writing an obituary? Here's a step-by-step guide...

Read more
Obituary Templates – Customizable Examples and Samples

These free blank templates make writing an obituary faster and easier.

Read more
How Do I Write a Eulogy?

Some basic help and starters when you have to write a tribute to someone you love.

Read more

Sign Robert Dai's Guest Book

Not sure what to say?