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Stephen McHARDY Obituary
August 7, 1980 - July 13, 2013
Officers and Members of the Plumbers and Pipefitters Local Union 488 are asked to remember our late Brother, Stephen S. McHardy, who passed away on Saturday, July 13, 2013. A Private Memorial Service will take place.
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"My Only Sunshine"
Monica McHardy
July 9, 2014
On July 13, 2013, I lost my first born, my one and only Son! He gave me purpose in my life and now that he is gone, I wonder what my purpose is.
I Lost My Child Today
People came to weep and cry
As I just sat and stared, dry eyed.
They struggled to find words to say
To try and make the pain go away.
I walked the floor in disbelief.
I lost my child today.
I lost my child last month.
Most of the people went away.
Some still call and some still stay.
I wait to wake up from this dream;
This can't be real--I want to scream!
Yet everything is locked inside.
God, help me, I want to die.
I lost my child last month.
I lost my child last year.
Now people who had came, have gone.
I sit and struggle all day long,
To bear the pain so deep inside.
And now my friends just question, Why?
Why does this mother not move on?
Just sits and sings the same old song.
Good heavens, it has been so long.
I lost my child last year.
Time has not moved on for me.
The numbness it has disappeared.
My eyes have now cried many tears.
I see the look upon your face,
"She must move on and leave this place."
Yet I am trapped right here in time,
The song is the same, as is the rhyme,
I lost my child......Today.
For me, it was just yesterday although it has almost been a year.
I cannot accept he is no longer here.
I love you Stephen and miss you so terribly much. You live forever in my thoughts, my heart and my soul.
Love,
Mom
Monica McHardy
June 13, 2014
In Memory of My Son - Who Was Born On a Thursday.
I cried the day he was born,
A voice from somewhere came to warn
Of how he would have so far to go...
Because he's Thursday's Child, you know.
I thought that meant he'd have a long life.
And doesn't everyone have lots of strife?
But of course I'd be there all the while...
To pave the way for Thursday's Child.
But in my heart I think I knew,
There's only so much that love can do.
Cause when his life became a trial...
I could not shelter Thursday's Child.
A golden boy he grew to be.
And all who knew him loved to see.
Hazel Eyes and, oh, that smile...
That God bestowed on Thursday's Child.
All through the years his life was hard,
But he was cheerful, though, often tired.
When the MS came, he kept the smile...
You'd never have known he was
Thursday's Child.
His life was short, but even so.
He had so very far to go.
Then God reached out and brought relief...
Now Thursday's Child has gone to sleep.
Love,
Mom
My Only Son
Monica McHardy
June 13, 2014
My Son;
Eleven months ago today
You quietly slipped away.
There is no word, no label, no identifying moniker,
I am not a widow, not an orphan, not childless,
But one child less.
One less open laugh and little boy giggle,
One less challenging tete-a-tete;
One less artful, winking manipulation,
One less word of comfort, one less grateful hug.
One less chance to embrace you, my son;
No one word for the pain, the longing, the brevity
Of a life meant for living; an old soul meant to grow older than mine;
Would there be any one price too high, any sacrifice too great,
For one more moment, one more breath, one more warm touch;
I grasp desperately and sense the closeness -
the ONE just at the fingertips of my heart and mind,
Only to realize again and again and again,
There is no "One" - you are gone and I am - less.
They say time will heal and the pain will subside
For me, the pains remains since the day you died.
I love and miss you my darling Son.
Love,
Mom
Monica McHardy
June 10, 2014
My Son;
I sometimes ask the Lord
Why He took you before me,
And though He's never answered-
I guess it was meant to be.
I tell myself you're watching,
That you're never far away;
I sometimes feel the slightest touch
When I bow my head to pray.
I know heaven must have a window
With no curtain to hide the view,
I know you must stand there often
And watch me missing you.
I know you're helping me go on--
You're guiding me through the pain;
I somehow sense you're telling me
There's more sunshine now then rain.
Each new day now dawns with meaning--
Something inside of me rings so true,
Today will slip into yesterday
And I'll be one day closer to you!
Love,
Mom
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May 23, 2014
Go ahead and mention my child,
The one who died you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further,
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending he didn't exist
I'd rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine".
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take my lifetime.
Monica McHardy
May 11, 2014
First Mother's Day without You my Darling Son;
When I tell you that my heart still hurts,
You don't know what to say.
When I tell you that my eyes still cry,
You look the other way.
How could you know the pain I have,
and the sorrow that I feel?
For you haven't lost a precious child,
So for you, this isn't real.
I can't really say that I blame you,
For I was once like you.
I would turn my head and walk away,
Not knowing what to do.
But now I know, oh, how I know
What another mother feels!
For only when you have lost your child,
Do you know this pain so real!!
I love you my darling son and miss you so very, very, much especially on this day. For even if you could not be with me, you would always call to say "Ilove you Mom, Happy Mother's Day". If only I could kiss your face and feel your great big hugs .... I would tell you my son, I love you very much.
Love,
Mom
Monica McHardy
April 12, 2014
Stephen, My Darling Son
It's been nine months today
Since my world changed forever!
I thought that time was healing
All the hurt you left behind,
That empty spaces could be filled--
My arms, my heart, my mind;
And though my body looks the same
As it did when you were here,
The emptiness is growing
Even bigger with each tear.
I thought that time was healing
All the agonizing pain,
That as the tears were fading,
Soon I wouldn't feel the same.
And though I can be smiling
And you think that I'll survive,
The pain is in my blood now;
I have nowhere else to hide.
I thought that time was healing
All the loss a mother feels;
That now you live within my heart,
I had you near me still.
But I need so much to touch you,
To see you smile again,
And those memories I'm told are mine
Can never feel the same.
I thought that time was healing
All the while the mask was worn,
That underneath a new me
Was waiting to be born.
But now I find I am the mask;
It helps to keep me safe,
And though my heart is breaking,
You won't see it in my face.
I thought that time was healing
All those tears my eyes have seen,
That aching arms that miss you
Could be satisfied with dreams;
But here I am, in pain again
And healing stands alone.
A mother weeps, the world can see
For a son who can't come home.
I miss you Stephen!
Love,
Mom
Monica McHardy
December 24, 2013
My darling Son;
My first Christmas Eve without you
Leaves me feeling lonely and blue
You lived life to its fullest
Never dwelling on sadness or fear
I know you now live in peace
Spending Christmas with Jesus this year
Even though we are apart ....
You will live on forever in my heart
You were the greatest gift of all
I love you, I miss you and always will.
Merry Christmas Son!
Love,
Mom
Nicole Kerfont
October 27, 2013
Monica, I just want you to know that I am so truly sorry for your loss! There are no words that can comfort you, but please know that I am sending you my love and am thinking of you always! xo
Provincial Chess Champion 1990
Monica McHardy
October 25, 2013
My Beautiful Baby Boy's Birth
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October 25, 2013
Monica McHardy
October 14, 2013
My only Son
The mourning, misty oak leaves weep
Warm dew drops falling from them sweep
Across cold stones in salty streams
Spent tears for Stephen's broken dreams
Wolves howl under a death-pale moon
Dark sirens from the forest gloom
Black winds carry the raven's cry
Stephen's severed spirit crossed the sky
Strong oak forest groans and grieves
For red drops dripping on its leaves
From a son whose ashes were cremated
In peaceful rest from loving God
The mourning oak tree sheds its tears
For laughter it no longer hears
Clear drops hang from limbs in sorrow
Drowns all dreams of hope tomorrow
Each night a mother hangs her head
Against the dark, she cries eyes red
While Stephen's dreams, in still-heart sleep
The oaks they haunt yet nightly weep
Monica McHardy
October 14, 2013
Happy Thanksgiving Son!
Three months now you have been gone
Not exactly sure just how to carry on
A definite void in my life forever
Nothing on this earth can possibly fill - ever
I wish you could visit for a while
To see your beautiful smile
But I know If I ever saw you again
It would be too painful to let you go
So maybe it's best for you this way
I know your pain has now gone away
I loved you so much; I think you knew
How lost I would be without you
When you're not too busy in heaven above
Could you please visit me in my dreams my love
To let me know you are happy, safe and free
To comfort your old Mom; humor me.
I saved an old voicemail you left on my phone
Just so I can hear your voice from time to time
Your message ended with “I love you Mom”
To which I reply “I love you too, Son”
Monica McHardy
August 12, 2013
All I Know Is...
All I know is.... I will always miss my Stephen and long for him.
All I know is.... one minute I'm together and the next I'm falling apart.
All I know is.... my heart hurts all the time and it has never felt whole since the day he died.
All I know is.... the tears won't stop filling up my eyes, soaking my pillows or staining my face.
All I know is.... I "Really Really" miss him.
All I know is.....it hurts ALL the time.
All I know is.....I want him back.
All I know is.....sometimes I want him so badly, that I want to go to him.
All I know is.... there is no greater ache in this world than my child dying.
All I know is.....I love him, even in death, I love him so much.
I love and miss you Stephen,
Mom
August 7, 2013
Today would have been my son's 33rd birthday. We miss you Stephen.
Letter From Heaven
Hey everybody,
I hope this doesn't reach you too late.
I don't want you to worry,
Because life up here is great.
I can't wait for you to see the beauty of heaven,
But I know it's not your time.
I really miss you guys,
But I know you'll be just fine.
You know I can see you right,
So please stop shedding tears.
You guys, I'm perfectly fine,
So conquer all your fears.
I'll be watching your every move.
Relax! I won't spill your beans.
But stop all those naughty things you do,
Because you know there's nothing He can't see.
I need you to come here to meet me,
But not if you misbehave,
So please keep God in your heart,
And you'll be safe and saved.
Hey guys I know you miss me.
It's really hard not to.
But please, please stop grieving,
Because you're making me sad too.
You guys have been a great family,
And I am truly blessed.
You've raised me through my earthly life,
Now God will do the rest.
He's really a great person,
And an even better friend,
So I'm in great hands,
And on Him you can also depend.
Oh boy, I'm getting carried away.
I want to say so many things,
But I really have to go now,
Because today I'm getting my wings.
Bye you guys, love you forever and a day!
P.S.: Be good. I'll be watching!!!
August 6, 2013
We lost our precious son on July 13th, 2013 as a result of Multiple Sclerosis.
I've Earned My Wings
I'm sorry mom I left you so soon,
I was there with the angels when you found me at noon.
I no longer suffer in pain everyday.
My new home is in heaven, not far away.
Mom Remember! even though we are apart.
I'll always be in your heart.
I am watching from heaven over all of you.
Please don't cry cause it makes me feel blue.
Take care of my sisters and dad too.
There will always and forever be a part of me living in you.
I'll be waiting for you here, at the golden gate.
Time is ticking mom, Please don't be late!
I long to embrace you in my arms.
Don't worry Mom!
I'm at a place where there is no harm.
I've earned my wings. I live in the sky.
I'm watching everyday mom so please don't cry!
Love, Your Son
July 26, 2013
Stephen, I loved you so very much. Losing you is more than I can bare.
A Picture Of You
I only have a picture now,
A frozen piece of time,
To remind me of how it was,
When you were here, and mine.
I see your smiling eyes,
Each morning when I wake,
I talk to you, and place a kiss,
Upon your lovely face.
How much I miss you being here,
I really can not say,
The ache is deep inside my heart,
And never goes away.
I hear it mentioned often,
That time will heal the pain,
But if I'm being honest,
I hope it will remain.
I need to feel you constantly,
To get me through the day,
I loved you so very much,
Why did you go away?
The angels came and took you,
That really wasn't fair,
They took my one and only Son,
My future life. My heir.
If only they had asked me,
If I would take your place,
I would have done so willingly,
Leaving you this world to grace.
You should have had so many years,
To watch your life unfold,
And in the mist of this,
Watch me, your Mom grow old!
I hope your watching from above,
At the daily tasks I do,
And let there be no doubt at all,
I really do love you.
Love,
Mom
July 23, 2013
How does a loving mother, explain
Heaven to her ill son?
Please give me the words, O Lord, and
let me say them with a smile...
There is a place called Heaven, Son,
beyond the skies above,
It is the place where GOD is watching,
His Heart so full of Love.
He watches all His children, Son,
He watches you and me,
He wants to know we love Him, and
hopes that we will be...
Always strong and healthy, always
kind and free!
But, sometimes, things do happen, Son,
and sickness takes a hold,
It might be something serious, it
might be just a cold.
GOD sends His special angels,
to watch over us and pray,
And, by our side they linger, they
are never far away.
They lift us up on angels' wings when
we are all too weak,
And, oh!, they pray so softly, Son,
with gentle whispers do they speak.
So, have no fear, my darling, should
GOD come to take you Home,
For it is up there in that Heaven,
Son, where you will run, laugh
and roam!
You will hear that angel choir rejoice
in praises to the LORD,
And, my darling precious Son, you
never will be sick, again...
No, never, anymore!!
But, most of all, you will meet the
King, our Saviour, your Best Friend,
oh my!, If I could see him take your hand, I know that I would cry!!
You have fought so long, you gave your
all. GOD says it's time to rest,
We will always love and miss you, Stephen, but GOD...He knows what's best!
July 23, 2013
My son would have wanted to be remembered this way.
I'd like the memory of me to be a happy one.
I'd like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done.
I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways,
Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days.
I'd like the tears of those who grieve, to dry before the sun;
Of happy memories that I leave when life is done.
I miss you so very much Stephen and I loved you so dearly.
Mom
Carol and Ron Schlase
July 22, 2013
Our deepest sympathy to Mitch, Monica, Kelsey,Christie, Michael and Irene on the loss of Stephen.You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Papa & Nan Moran
July 22, 2013
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998
My Papa & Me
Michael Moran
July 21, 2013
Troy Dahl
July 20, 2013
To Monica, Mitch and the girls. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what losing a son or brother would be like. Stephen, I will always remember what great times we had growing up and you wonderful sense of humour.
Love,
Troy
Troy Dahl
July 20, 2013
To Monica, Mitch and the girls, I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what losing a son or a bother would be like. Stephen , I will always remember the great times we had together growing up and your wonderful sense of humour. I think of you often.
Love,
Troy
Bev Maxwell
July 19, 2013
So very sorry to hear of Steven passing away,he was a great person and Cara still talks of the great time she had with her dear cousin the first time they met. Will miss him, love u all!
Michelle Thomson & Steve Jones
July 19, 2013
Wishing you peace to bring comfort,courage to face the days ahead, and loving memories to forever hold in your heart. With deepest sympathy,
My Mommy and Me
Monica and Mitchell McHardy
July 19, 2013
Our darling son, we will miss you so very much! You fought your battle with MS courageously and never complained. We are relieved you no longer have to live in pain everyday. You will live on in our hearts forever. As long as I am living, my baby you will be.
Rita and Pat Moran
July 18, 2013
So sorry to hear of your loss of Stephen. Sending you big hugs and lots of love.
July 18, 2013
Very sorry for your loss. Sending you our deepest sympathy to you Monica, Mitch and family. Thinking of you - Norm and Roxanne Price
Irene(Nan) Moran
July 18, 2013
"You will always live in our hearts and prayers".We will always remember your beautiful smile,your candid sense of humor."OUR PRECIOUS DARLING".
Barb Styner
July 18, 2013
My deepest sympathies to all of you. My prayers are with you my dear friends. I knew you when you carrying your son and how much you loved him. And how much love you gave him, he is in heaven now with your dad and they are together now taking care of each other. I love you my dear friends and pray for you all.
Irene (Nan) Moran
July 18, 2013
You will always live in our hearts and prayers.We will love you forever,never forget your beautiful smile,candid sense of humor.OUR PRECIOUS DARLING!
Donna Schwabe
July 16, 2013
My deepest condolences to Mitch, Monica, Kelsey and Christie for you loss, you are all In my thoughts and prayers.
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