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Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2024
10 years later the chair is still empty but your laughter, your smile, your words of advice and your memories are still everywhere.
Today I was looking for something and found a Valentine's Day card from you. The message was almost prophetic - talking about sisters love and being there in good times and bad. That is a given regardless but I guess I never imagined the bad times would include losing you with so many wonderful years of life left to be lived.
I get sad (sadder) because I know how much joy those kiddos would have brought to you. You would be so proud of both of them and how they are growing into little people. I have to just believe that you are watching from afar with the rest of the family. They are amazing kids.
It's your 50th high school reunion this year. I know you weren't much for those things, but I was asked to provide some pictures and write a little something about you - which I did. I am sure you are not happy about that, but you know me. I wasn't sure what to say at first, but we were in Italy, and it was the night before we boarded the cruise and the words came to me, and I wrote up a few paragraphs. One of the things I said was that I once read a saying that nobody really dies as long as people remember them, talk about them, and share their stories and memories. So, in my closing paragraph to your classmates, I asked that as they celebrate their 50th reunion, they tell a Sue story or share a Sue memory at their tables. You can yell at me for doing that when I see you again.
I miss you every single day Babe! A song comes on (I listen to 70´s, 80´s or classic rock so that isn´t a stretch), I run across something in a drawer, a picture pops up on my phone, I see a butterfly (which I am convinced is you) or I just have a conversation with you on my way to work. I still call it Sue´s bathroom or Sue´s bedroom and if you can believe it, we are still getting mail for you. So, you are never far from my mind, and you are always in my heart. I love you Babe and miss you horribly! XOXO
Elaine Scrima
June 17, 2024
Happy Birthday Babe! How is it possible that 10 years have gone by since we celebrated your big day, in person, together? Now we just have those wonderful memories. I know this a few days late but with good reason. I kept my promise. I took you to Italy. Not quite the way I wanted to, but you traveled with us just the same. You were everywhere with us the whole trip - we used your suitcase, I wore your sweater, you went with us on all the excursions and site seeing adventures and I lit candles in every church I visited for you, mom, and dad. We celebrated you on planes, on trains and in automobiles. There were so many beautiful, breathtaking sites that I know you would have loved all of it but HB and I chuckled when we thought about all the shopping you would have done. I suspect you would have done some damage in Italy!
I decided to leave a little bit of you there in Italy - it was appropriate after all. We saw a restaurant supply truck with our name on it - Scrima Food, a pharmacy called Rossi, our Uber driver was Rocco and during one of our dinners we drank S Bernardo water. So, finding the perfect place for you was a priority. I thought St. Peter´s Basilica would be appropriate, since we attended St. Peters growing up but I could not get close enough to the fountain in the square. Had I known I was not able to do that I would have left you in the church itself. So, the next best thing was the Trevi Fountain. (Though I suspect you would have said it was too cold) I knew I made the right decision because later that evening when we were on a night tour of the city, I looked over and saw Babe written in graffiti on one of the bridges. I did a double take - I couldn´t believe what I saw. I haven´t had a sign from you in a while. I was so taken aback that I couldn´t get my camera out fast enough to snap a picture but that was my sign - that you were with us for this amazing trip. I hate I never got you there in person. Almost fitting we flew home on your birthday and why this is late. I miss you every single day Babe and I hope you were celebrating you with the family on your special day. Love E!
Elaine M Scrima
July 7, 2023
Hi Babe! Such a sad day for all of us. Hard to believe nine years without you. While I try and move forward, part of me is stuck in 2014. Everything happened so quickly - trying to process what we were going through and trying to figure out the right decisions - not so sure I did the best job but it wasn't for lack of love, I just didn't know what I didn't know. Would I do some things differently today - yes, many! But you know what they say about hindsight. The lessons you taught me, not only through life, but through your death, help shape my thoughts and actions every day. Not a day goes by I don't think about you and I wish so badly for one more conversation but I have them in my head and I know that you hear me. Ironically the kiddos are coming today to spend the weekend - getting so big. You would be very proud of the little people they are becoming. I love you Babe - and I, like more people than you would ever imagine, miss you horribly. So tonight, I will look to the sky and know that the brightest star shining above is you! XOXO - E
Wendy Fuess
June 15, 2023
Elaine,
I never forget Sue´s birthday and thought of her all day yesterday. Cleaning out old pictures before we moved abroad,I came across a few of Sue with the GE gang. Needless to say they are on their way to Portugal with me. I think she´ll like it here. It´s a peaceful, beautiful place. I hope all is well with you! Wendy
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Elaine M Scrima
June 14, 2023
Happy Birthday Babe! Can't believe this is your 9th birthday in heaven. So much has happened in 9 years! I think about you every day. All of you really but it's different with you - you are still supposed to be here. I still struggle with that babe. In my mind I know there are millions of folks who have lost people they love way to soon and I know people react differently and grieve differently but I never ever thought you wouldn't be growing old with us. Like that thought never crossed my mind. Here's the good news .. your memory is frozen in time. You will always be the beautiful, loving, caring, sensitive sister with the million-dollar smile that I remember from 9 years ago while the rest of us get grayer, rounder (lol) and maybe losing a step here or there. I know if you had it your way though, you would rather be here with us. All else is good - house is almost rebuilt - we are in the home stretch. Kids are good - you wouldn't even believe those two. Rossi is as tall as me probably. Rocco just a smart sweet boy. The rest of the family is all good. Knock on wood everyone is healthy! Babe, Uncle Phil is going to be 100 years old. Are you kidding me? Still sharp as ever. And I still give Jakey and Otis a treat from Aunt Sue every morning. And every day I say to Otis - Aunt Sue loved her some Jakey but she sure would have loved you! Well Babe, I hope the angels are rejoicing and celebrating you today. I am sure you are up there still making lists. I miss you horribly and I love you! And today - much like every day - I will celebrate you! Happy Birthday!
Love - E
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2022
Babe -
I dread this anniversary every year. Not that every day isn't hard but today always reminds me of another year without you.
I see everything about that day so vividly - well the whole weekend really, but that morning specifically. I am just happy that you got to spend time with Rossi that weekend. I am sure that brought you much joy. She's growing up fast Babe. I have been saving your diamond earrings to give to her when she is older. Rocco has one of your blankets and a bear you got as presents when you were sick. (Sue-Sue Bear he calls it) I talk about you all the time with them. That is probably the part I struggle with the most - they would have brought you such joy. You would have been an awesome aunt for them. I am trying to do double duty (being a good aunt for both of us). I am not sure how well I am doing. I can tell you this - there is nothing like seeing their faces light up when they see me and getting a big hug. I know it would be the same for you. They would love them some Sue-Sue.
Keeping it short this year - today is always a hard one to process and while today is the anniversary of when you left - I try and focus on how you lived. The positive influence you had on everyone you met - how you loved and were loved.
I look back at all the entries in your guest book from time to time ...one of my favorites from John Stanley "She was a wonderful young lady and loved by all that knew her. Sue made the world a better place!"
You certainly did and I hope you realized that before you left us.
Love - Me
Wendy Fuess
June 17, 2022
Happy Belated Birthday Sue! I thought about you all day on the 14th but alas the week got the best of me. Was so glad I got the notice of Elaine's message today and got right on to send this to you. I think of you often my friend. I so hope you've met up with Billy in Heaven and that the two of you look down on all of us and (mostly) smile. All my love, Wendy
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2022
Hi Babe! Happy Birthday! You know just when I thought things couldn't get any more challenging ... here we are. We had full intention of resurrecting the Sister Sue birthday party post pandemic this year - combined with Otis's 1st birthday (you would have absolutely adored him) but mother nature had other plans. I know your love of the Wizard of Oz and we had our own front row seat a few weeks ago. A tornado hit our home - thankfully we weren't there, and the dogs were scared but okay. Now the process begins - I wish I had a pair of those ruby slippers you loved so much that I could click together and be back home, but that stuff is just for movies.
Babe - you would be so proud of Rossi. In addition to the phenomenal athlete, she is becoming - she celebrated her 1st communion. She was beautiful - she will forever be our special girl because when she arrived, she brought us such joy at such a difficult time.
And Rocco - he's something. All boy. I so wish he had the opportunity to know you - that is what breaks my heart every time I see those kids. The things you are missing. They would have loved them some Aunt Sue.
But today we celebrate you - on what would have been your 66th birthday. In a way you are frozen in time. You will never age in my mind. The beautiful, vibrant, woman with the million-dollar smile ... like MTM you could turn the world on with your smile.
I love you Babe and I couldn't miss you more. I think about you every day and you know I talk to you a lot but what I wouldn't give to hear your voice again.
I can only hope and wish and pray you are celebrating your birthday with mom and dad and the rest of the family. That comforts my soul and for the briefest of moments gives me peace.
Happy Birthday .. I love you and miss you and most importantly I will celebrate you today and every day for the rest of my life.
All my love - your FL Babe
Elaine
July 7, 2021
Babe
Hate this anniversary. In fact, I pretty hate the entire week before today. It is a week that continues to haunt me. It is unfathomable to me that you have been gone for seven years. I keep waiting for it to get easier ... but it hasn´t, and I suspect it never will. It just wasn´t supposed to be this way (IMO) but alas ... here we are. With mom and dad it was different. It didn´t make it less sad because it certainly was but in the back of our minds, we always knew that one day we would be living without them. But you ... that was never ever a thought that crossed any of our minds.
So on July 4th - we went out for a boat ride. I was pretty teary most of the morning and during the ride out to get gas ... in fact I was talking to you in my head the whole time. You know I am all hung up on this "why haven´t you come and visited me", "I haven´t had any signs", "Can you just give me a sign that you are with me and you are okay". So we got gas and are heading back and right in front of the boat .. three dolphins. I know, I know the chance of seeing dolphins in Tampa Bay is pretty high but .. I usually see them in three´s these days and I always think it´s you and mom & dad. And when I saw them I said "Thank you Babe. That´s all needed." I also think you are a butterfly. When I see butterflies in the backyard, I always say "Hi Babe". And only in Wisconsin & Ohio ... robin´s are Gram. I loved how many robins we had in our back yard growing up and so they remind me of her. I know that all seems silly to most but honestly, I really don´t care what anybody else thinks about how I process this whole situation.
So Babe, the Lightning can win the Stanley Cup tonight. They are awfully good this year (well and last year) but feel free to use your influence to put a good word in. I remember the 2004 run and all of us watching at P&M´s and BM dropped Qui and broke his leg. That was an unfortunate accident for sure .. poor Qui was just a puppy. Anyway, I know you are rooting for the hometown team! I want them to win tonight at home because we will be there, and I just feel like it all lined up the way it was supposed to ... on your day. It would be back-to-back SC wins and that would be amazing. Then at least maybe we can remember this day for something that makes us smile instead of one that has brought us so many tears. We shall see but I have a good feeling and an even better angel on my side.
I could write forever - there are a lot of thoughts in my head and so many questions I wish I would have asked or things I wish we would have talked about; I just always thought we had more time. I guess we will have a lot to catch up on when I see you again.
Love & Miss you Babe!
Diane Devine
June 18, 2021
Thinking of you, Susanne. Miss you!
Wendy F
June 16, 2021
Sue,
I thought of you yesterday and knew Elaine would write to honor your birthday. I think of you often and try to remember good times when you were well. Love you forever!
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2021
Happy Birthday Babe!
Big one for us .. we hit our milestone birthdays in the same year. Just like 5 years ago, I am not sure you’d be liking this one so much lol but if I had it my way, I would rather you be here complaining about it than me wondering how we might have been celebrating it. We did resurrect the Sister Sue birthday celebration this year. A much smaller scale than years gone by but the folks that mean the most. As usual we ate well and after we watched the Bolts lose we jumped on the boat, roses in hand and went to the bridge and threw them in the bay as we did your favorite turn. We never go under that bridge without throwing our hands towards the heavens and thinking about you. I miss how in the summer time we would always find shapes in the clouds seems like you and I saw them the most even though sometimes nobody else saw what we saw. I don’t see them as often now or maybe I quit looking. The other thing about summer time was how well we just read the clouds in general. I can remember many a day we would be out on the boat and one of us would look at the clouds, then look at each other, nod and cast our eyes in a certain direction. We spoke without saying a word. We both knew that meant there was something to keep an eye on in the distance so we could get back to land before we got caught in a storm. We did that a lot in the BM-LM days but we still got caught in a good storm or two. Just added to the stories and memories we created.
Well we made it through a very strange year and while I would like to say things are getting back to normal, I don’t think things will ever be like they were. Kind of like after 9-11 – things changed for good. Same with this – we shop differently, socialize differently, interact with one another differently. You don’t know if you are supposed to shake hands, hug, kiss or none of the above. But we are resilient and we managed. It does seem like these days everyone has an opinion on a variety of topics and it’s not like we didn’t have that before, but the last few years we have been more opinionated and divisive then any time I can remember. Friends and families have become divided in ways that seem unimaginable to me. Admittedly I have not been immune. While I haven’t written anyone out of my life, I do shake my head lot in wonder or maybe disbelief regarding the thought processes or positions people support.
The kiddos .. no words. They are little people now. You would be enjoying them so much because now they have these conversations with you and it’s so amazing to see how their minds think. We actually got to see them for the first time in almost two years. You can imagine how they changed. And get this your sister actually got on an airplane and the whole family came down. I think her & Ron really enjoyed themselves and it was nice to have everyone together under one roof. We packed it all in .. a little boat, a little pool, a little Siesta Key, a little corn hole! Unfortunately I think you were gone by the time the kids discovered Siesta Key but you would have loved it. I know you had been down that way before but I just meant at the condo with them. I could so easily see us doing that together. I enjoy going down there and spending a few days with them- I just try and get as much kiddo time as possible. I try and give Rossi a little more attention – as I am sure you know because you had to deal with me, it’s easy for everyone to get swept up with the baby and I never want Rossi to feel she isn’t important. We snuck away one night just the two if us and went for ice cream. I love having conversations with her and we talk about you a lot. I want those babies to know their Aunt Sue and one day when she is old enough to appreciate them, I will begin to give her your miniature ceramic shoe collection. My gosh you have a lot of them but you enjoyed collecting them and I enjoyed finding new ones for you too.
Well Babe, I believe the heavens are celebrating with you today. You live on in all our hearts. I think about you every day, every day, many times. Love and miss you Babe. Happy Birthday!
Diane
July 29, 2020
Thinking of you, Susanne. Hard to believe it has been 6 years but in many ways it feels like many lifetimes ago. I’m so glad that our paths crossed and we became friends. How I wish we could get together and just talk. Miss you. God Bless you and your family.
Wendy Fuess
July 16, 2020
Elaine,
Reading all your memories with Sue brought back so many memories that I had with Sue.
Sue,
The other night I dreamed about you, happy and well with that megawatt smile. It does not get easier, but that is OK. Elaine will keep you alive in hers and others' memories as will I.
All my love to both of you!
Wendy
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2020
Well Babe! Here we are ... six years and many tears later. This entry is always so much harder for me to write. I posted your memorial obituary today in the Repository, which I do every birthday and today, (I am sure you would be mad at me for doing that) and today I said "they say it gets easier, but it doesn't." And for me it doesn't. Do not misunderstand. There are many-many-many good memories. Of course we have the childhood memories but so many really good memories as we got older. I always kind of felt protective of you after your divorce and especially when you moved to Atlanta. I was thinking the other day about all the things we did together. Trips to Atlanta to see you, going to the BUCS game in Atlanta, celebrating my birthday in Atlanta, driving that moving truck from Atlanta and getting all the way to Tampa without incident only to hit the crash hoop at the last gas station before we made it home. The year we flew up for every Ohio State game. We would leave on Friday morning, game Saturday, family Saturday night, flight back Sunday morning, in the car and then to the BUCS games on Sunday. Fate worked for us that year. Joanne got the extra tickets for the games and there were cheap, direct flights out of PIE. You, me, Joanne and mom had such a great time going to every game together that year. So much fun! And to top it off both our Bucks & our Bucs won it all that year. National Champions and Super Bowl Champions! Us going to the National Championship game together. We had a blast; shopping, pep rallies, the band, that great little Mexican place we found and of course the game! We ate so many Tostitos that trip; they were everywhere! The trip to Universal with mom and revertia! The ideo guide! Our Sunday evening phone calls you were probably one of the few people that I could tell anything to and I know sometimes you probably didnt like some of our conversations but you would let me vent and get things that were bothering off my chest; not things about you and me but just things that were happening in my life. You knew all the players so it was easy to talk to you about it. Then there were the boat days, Egmont Key, Beer Can island, the cookouts, big summers of fun with the Mikes and Sparky, Pete & Malcolm dinners, birthday parties, Krewe events, raking leaves after the storms, football Saturdays watching Ohio State; Id cook up a storm. The day your closet shelf fell and all your clothes were on the floor, (shocker all that weight), searching for Rudis to add to the collection; (you always liked Hermey), the cow collection and of course the miniature shoes. I still have them all. Hoping one day to get Rossi hooked on the shoe collection. I am not sure she would have the same appreciation for them quite yet, maybe never. Joe and Andreas wedding! The year we planned moms 80th surprise birthday party. That was big fun for the three of us and what an awesome evening for mom. We really pulled off something special for her and it was perfect; we didnt miss a detail. I truly believe that was one of the highlights of her life and ours. Then of course there was your going away party and then frequent trips back to Tampa. Usually holiday weekends so we could get some extra time. My 50th birthday party. All great memories that I try to stay focused on. I never would have thought at the time, that as we were enjoying those moments, that in 10 years, 8 years, 5 years, 2 years, 1 year there would be no more years. There are some really sad memories during those last eight months. When you called that Tuesday before Thanksgiving there was no question in my mind I was coming to DC. I didnt know at the time how long I would end up being there or what was in store for us, but I was going to be there. I didnt care if they fired me. I could get another job; couldnt get another Babe. I didnt do a lot of things right Babe but I didnt know. I was trying to plan for one thing and didnt see the other thing happening right under my nose. So many things I never asked you, so many conversations we could have had and should have had that we didnt. So many things I could have and should have done, that I didnt. Like why did I never take you to the grocery store with me? We could have gotten one of those rider carts and you could have had some normalcy by going to the store and picking your own stuff out. And why didnt I ever take you for a boat ride? Yes, I know your spine was fragile but we could have just went up and down some canals going slow. So obvious now; completely clueless at the time. And maybe you wouldnt have wanted to do any of those things and that would have been okay too. I just think about how happy you were when Joanne came down that weekend and we went to lunch and to Target and Dicks and your favorite Dillards and Macys! You had so much fun! Or when you and me and Heidi went to breakfast at the Garden Grill and then back to Target for more shopping! When you and me went to the Social Security office (for hours) and then lunch at Winners and then hit up the Twistee Treat! (Almost as good as the Dalton Dairyette) And you were doing so much better and I should have put you on that plane right after your birthday to go see mom but I didnt. I waited to get a better deal on tickets and the weekend we should have been going home to see mom, we were flying there for your memorial service. I shouldnt have cared about money or the cost of anything. I should have bought you whatever you wanted and let you buy what you wanted and let you do whatever you wanted. I was saving and protecting you for a future you never got. I knew you would never be in remission but the doctor said you could have five years or more with treatment and so everything I did was working towards that goal. And you never said anything to me about any of it. You never talked about things you wished we would do that we didnt. Things you might have wanted or things you might have wanted to do. I wish you would have said something. You just went with the flow. I am sure some of it was you just didnt feel good. I am sure some of it was you were scared. We never talked about if you were scared or what things were you thinking or feeling. Why did I never ask you those things? I think the other part was you were so concerned about me. Even until the end; you were concerned about me and about Heidi and how the whole situation was impacting us. And probably the hardest part for me is there is so much about you that I didnt, dont and wont ever know. As well as I thought I knew you; as close as we were, I know there is a whole other part of you and your life I never knew. Not sure why you never shared that part with me but thats okay. You probably wonder why I write this stuff to you? Well I guess selfishly in a way it helps me because these would be the conversations I would have had with you if I was thinking clearly back then. These are the things we would have talked about that we never did. I dont want to make it sound like we never discussed anything because we did. I loved Friday nights just me and you (sometimes Jakey too) you in your chair, me sitting on the couch us just talking about stuff. Laughing! I got you hooked on Days of our Lives! Sometimes we would call mom or Joanne. I treasure those moments. I remember back in DC us discussing next steps and I said you could stay in DC, you could go to Columbus or you could come to Tampa. I will forever be thankful and honored that you said you wanted to come be with us. Those 8 months were hard on all of us, but I felt like I won the lottery because we got to spend those last days together. Not the circumstances either of us wanted but still we were together. So I write for you, I write for me; I write for all of us. I love you so much and miss you like crazy. PS I decided every time I see a butterfly or dolphin and I see them a lot and also quite randomly; well I decided that when I see them it is you coming to say hi. Both animals are so peaceful, graceful, carefree and beautiful just like my Babe! Love always, Me
Wendy Fuess
June 15, 2020
Elaine,
What a great way to celebrate Sues birthday in this year of the pandemic. Im so glad she has a paver with such a pretty view. I think about Sue often and never forget her birthday. You are such a loving sister. Sue always spoke of you with such love and affection. Be well. Stay safe.
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Elaine M. Scrima
June 14, 2020
Happy Birthday Babe! Switched some things up this year. With all this crazy stuff going on in the world today decided to do something a little different this year. Hopefully we can resume the big party next year. So, a few years ago I purchased a personalized paver for you down on the Riverwalk. We aren't usually downtown on foot so today we decided that for your birthday we would go down and find your paver. You would love it. You are right by the Tampa Museum of Art, closest to the river, you can see the University of Tampa, all of downtown and you are near the dog park. So all the things you loved about Tampa, the water, the boats, your favorite puppies (Miller, Jakey, Emma, Buster, Summit) the city itself (you always loved when we went downtown by boat), the Performing Arts Center ... you would love it. Just like mom having her paver at the Shoe - people reading the inscription .. some may know you; some may not .. but they will wonder about you; who you were, and they will know that somebody loved you so much that they wanted you to forever be a part of Tampa! When we go under the Causeway, in tribute to you we always raise our arms like we are on a roller coaster. You used to love when Krispie, as you fondly called her, would take that turn so sharp and fast when we were coming back home by boat. So, you would have cracked up because I about went overboard a few weeks ago. Raised my arms, KP took the turn we hit some unexpected wake and I went flying. I was probably three feet in the air up off the seats and then on the deck. We laughed so hard. (once everybody realized I wasnt hurt). So, I mentioned these crazy times .... I would have been out of mind trying to keep you safe during this pandemic. The things happening these days ... we are living through history. I wonder what they will write about these times. Basically, the country shut down for a few months. Its just starting to reopen. No restaurants, gyms and no haircuts for almost 10 weeks! I wonder what Rossi & Rocco will learn in school about these times. All Rossi knows is she didn't have to go to school and Rocco - he's too young and carefree. He's all boy Babe. I know ... I say it every time, but they are growing fast. Rossi is 6 going on 26. You would be cracking up - she's getting quite adept at texting (Joe's phone) and the first text I got really caught me off guard because I thought it was Joe and maybe he had a little too much to drink lol. The messages are adorable because she will also do voice messages - and it warms my heart when she says Auntie E I love you. I know she would be texting you as well and every time I get one from her, I always think about how you would have enjoyed getting those messages from her as well. They come when you least expect them and when you need them the most. She is getting so tall. Rocco is all about cars, trucks etc. His little legs moving 100 mph running around ... usually running away from Rossi. But they love each other and its sweet. I hope they have as great of a relationship as they get older as we did. Every year when I do these, I try and find a different picture of you to include and so that requires me to scour through old photos. The one I posted today was from your going away to DC party at Bryan and Andys. It was a picture of you and Patrick that I cropped. I texted it to him. I havent seen him or spoken to him other than text, usually around your birthday, but he responded saying he loves you and thinks about you every day too. Fortunately, I also came across a few videos quite a few of Gram when she used to go into those hysterical laughing spells where we all ended up laughing so hard, we were crying. But I also ran across a few from Christmas of you and Joanne in the basement wrapping Christmas presents. I was walking around the basement taking videos of everything. Ironically, one of you asked me what I was doing, I said, making a movie and then I added one day you will appreciate that I did this. Prophetic in many ways. At the time I am sure I thought it was so we could remember mom, dad, the house and what it looked like. Preserving our childhood memories. Roller skating in the basement ... mom would yell we were making dust! Little did I know the videos would be to remember you. To hear your voice, watch you laughing, your mad wrapping skills (you were always the best present wrapper)! I am thankful for the few videos I have but it makes me so sad. I wish you would come visit me more often you dont come as often as you did the first year. I hope that means you are happy in heaven with our family. To that end I wish you a happy heavenly birthday. I love you and there are no words I could say that could convey how much I miss you. I wish I could hug you today to let you know. Happy Birthday to my Babe! Xoxoxxoxoxoxoxoxxoxoxoxoxo!
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2019
Babe - Five years ago our lives changed forever. Oddly and very predictably every July 7th I wake up on or just before the exact minute you left us. I see everything about that morning as if it were today. You were such a strong and independent woman and I think one of the many silent struggles you faced was having to be so dependent on others for well ... everything. I say silent struggles because you never complained about much ... maybe that I didn't make your soup hot enough (lol)! I still don't know how you even could eat soup that hot but you loved it. I hated seeing you struggle with things that we do every day and not think twice about. I chuckle at the things that people fight about or get upset about; it seems so trivial to the things that you were fighting. The silly things we manage to get our feelings hurt over or we get mad about are nothing compared to what you were dealing with - it certainly puts things in perspective. In the end that stuff doesn't matter when you are fighting for your life. Your mind knew exactly what was happening but it couldn't make your body do the things you wanted or needed it to do. I wish we would have had more time together but I know you would not have wanted to live that way and I certainly would not want you to live in pain. I can't even verbalize how much I miss you ... our plan was always you would retire and come back to Florida and we would take care of one another ... I guess in the end we kinda of did that just about 30 years sooner than we thought. I love you Babe! xoxo from the other Babe!
Wendy Fuess
June 16, 2019
Elaine,
I thought about Sue all day Friday. I'm so glad your legacy message came up today so I could let you know how much I still miss her and love her.
Happy Birthday in Heaven my dear Friend!
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2019
Happy Birthday Babe! Another year ... I know you might not be happy about another year closer to 65 but I would take that over this situation any day. You know your birthday is a little bittersweet for me these days - The sweet is of course we still celebrate and remember you and we will again tomorrow with our 6th annual Sister Sue B-day party but bitter because I know what the next three weeks; your last three weeks were like for you. Naively I didn't know they were going to be your last three weeks. Maybe I was in denial; maybe I just was an eternal optimist or maybe just truly ignorant as to what was happening. Can't change that now but I wish I could tell you how sorry I am about those last three weeks. On a brighter note .. Patrick texted me this morning - that was sweet. I only hear from him on your birthday and haven't seen him since your service. George and CJ were down a few weeks ago and came by the house for a few hours. They are doing well. He could sure use you right now! I am not so sure how you would like living in PA but I am pretty sure that you would have followed him there. OMG can I tell you about those sweet babies of ours ... Sue I swear you would be over the moon in love with those children. Beautiful - beautiful smart children. That Rossi - she would have loved her some Aunt Sue because you would have dressed her to the nines and she would not have objected - she is all girl. And Rocco - you could not possibly have a sweeter boy. I mean to tell you I truly hope and believe you get to see those children from afar and even though you can't do it in person, I promise I give them hugs from you every time I see them. When they are in Florida we walk up to the "shrine" I have created and I tell them to say hi to Aunt Sue. Rocco doesn't get it yet but Rossi does. I tell her every time (and she says you already told me this story) about how happy she made us the day she was born. It was our first radiation treatment and we were showing everybody her picture and you were beaming because she was Rossi Susanne. I am sure I told you this story already but I don't go back and re-read my posts; I just go with what I am thinking when I am writing. Any way - it's cute how she always says "you have already told me this story" And I say "And I am going to tell it to you every time I see you so you never forget. They are good kids. The furry kid Jakey is good - he gets a treat from Aunt Sue every morning before I leave for work. He sits down, shakes, gives me a kiss and gets half a treat from me and I put the other half on your chair and say here's your treat from Aunt Sue. She loves you. This morning he got like 8 treats all from you because it was your birthday lol! Everyone else is good J/R, J/A and me/H. Know we love and miss you horribly and I hope you are with all our family and friends celebrating. Happy Birthday! I love you Babe! From the Other babe your Florida Babe!
Diane Devine
July 26, 2018
Thinking about Susanne and wishing I could just speak with her about so many things. xoxo
Elaine Scrima
July 10, 2018
Well I wrote this on the 7th but they never posted it so I will have to try and remember everything I said. I do know I said that writing this one is always much harder than writing your birthday message. The whole week from the 1st to the 7th is just not a very good week for me. I was in denial - selfishly I didn't want you to go so I missed the signs that you were actually leaving and I missed the opportunities to spend those last moments with you differently. Maybe one day I will reconcile with that but for now it just makes me sad. I guess in some ways it was fitting to happen around Independence Day. It was your independence from that horrible disease that stole you from us. I would have traded places with you in a heartbeat if I could have. You were so brave - you never complained; never said why me or played a martyr. And even if you may have thought those things - you never said them out loud. You will always be my hero for that but then again you handled your death with the same grace, elegance and style you lived your life. I love and miss you dearly but I am thankful you are watching over us. xoxo
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2018
Happy Birthday Babe! Wow another year. Makes me so sad. We will have your birthday party Saturday - just a little pool party in your honor. I love doing this every year. I just wish you were actually here to celebrate with us. I was in NYC this week; first time since your memorial service at NYL. I had dinner with George one night and dinner with Helen the next. We shared so many good "Susanne" stories. Helen sure did think the world of you. Everything else is pretty status quo. Rossi is getting so big - truly a little person with a mind of her own. She is a miniature Joseph. I love that she can be tough but also a girly-girl. Had you not gotten sick, I really think that J/A would have asked you to be her godmother and you two would have been best buds. I can see you taking her shopping and she would be styling just like you always did. She is pretty stylish anyway but you would have shown her the shopping ways. And she would have adored you. We are all really good about talking about Aunt Sue-Sue with her. And my goodness that little Rocco you would be over the moon with that little fella. What a happy boy. And Rossi is a great big sister; just like you were with me. If their relationship is half of what ours was they will be blessed. I miss you so much. I don't think I will ever be okay with you not being here. Just like on Memorial Day. You always came to visit us on Memorial Day. We watched Heidi put the wave lights up (noticed I said watched) and then another Memorial Day we watched her put the big sun up on the wall by the pool and one of the first Memorial Days at the Boxwood house we went and bought our LR furniture together. That was a fun shopping day - many furniture stores and we had to go to Stein Mart and buy like 4 shower curtains because you couldn't find these "special" shower curtains in DC. Which I am pretty sure I found all of them and more when I was going through your stuff lol! But that is why you are my Babe! I hope you and Mom & Dad, Gram and Gramp, the Bernardo's and Aunt T are all celebrating you today. And I really hope and believe that I will get to see you again some day. Until then Happy Birthday to my Babe! Love and miss you! Your Florida babe!
Elaine Scrima
January 26, 2018
Hi Babe! Early check in .. we have a new nephew! Rocco Joseph Simmons ... you would love him and I know you would be buying that child all kinds f cute stuff. You were so good that way. He is so little like Rossi was when she was born. Rossi is over the moon excited about him. He was born this past Tuesday - I had to wait to tell you because of course they couldn't decide on a name. I couldn't help but think about the day Rossi was born and we were showing everyone the pics in the radiation lab and telling everyone how she waited to be born on Dad's birthday! You were thrilled and honored that her middle named was after you. We talk about you all the time and while she doesn't remember meeting her Aunt Sue - she very much knows who you are and Rocco will too! Love and miss you Babe. The other Babe!
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2017
Hi Babe! Three years ... it hurts just as much today as it did then and has every year since. Well that's every day really but especially today. So many things I wish you were here for - on Memorial Day I always think "Sue would have been here this weekend" same for July 4th but that holiday has a little bit different meaning now. Hey - we are having another baby! My guess is Rossi will be getting a little sister and I can only hope she will take care of her as well as you did me. You were always taking care of me when I was little - though I don't remember much but those 12 pictures mon & dad had (lol) of me when I was a baby usually included you holding me. You were so excited about Rossi and my goodness she is every bit of what you what have expected. You would be spoiling her for sure. She is all girl - princess dresses and purses! (Even on the boat) If they do have a boy that child will be in a princess dress because Rossi will be dressing him up! Well I hope you and Mom & Dad are watching over us and seeing that we are doing okay - I have my moments for sure and I suppose I always will because to mourn a loss means you have loved. And I loved you then and love you still - always have; always will. Love you Babe!
First Annual Sister Sue B-Day Party
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
First Annual Sister Sue B-Day Party (Miss that smile)
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
First Annual Sister Sue B-Day Party
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
First Annual Sister Sue B-Day Party
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Me-Babe-& the other Babe
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
First Annual Sister Sue B-Day Party
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Happy Birthday Babe! Looking back at those birthday memories makes me happy and makes me sad. I would give anything to share another one with you. We will celebrate again this year - 4th Annual Sister Sue B-day party this weekend. Toning it down this year Babe - schedules have been a little crazy. One of the best last memories I have is the 1st Annual Sister Sue B-day party. (I know I say that every year) But it made me so happy to see you so happy and for at least one day we were able to give you a little bit of normal in what was an anything but a normal year. Less than a month later you were gone. I love and miss you so much. We all do! I don't say loved I say love because in my mind you are still very much alive - I just don't get to talk to you in person anymore. My heart still aches but you know that; the void is still large but you know that too. But on the bright side, I hear birthday cake in heaven is the best because there are no calories (finally!) ... so I hope you are celebrating big. I love you Sue ...
First Florida Birthday!
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
First Florida Birthday! (You matched your Cake)
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Cheesecake Factory Birthday with "The Girls"
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Birthday / Going to DC Birthday!
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Cheesecake Factory Birthday with "The Girls"
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2017
Great Days in Florida!
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2016
Hi Babe ... two years without you. I probably tried to write this 100 times today. Nothing comes out right except I just really miss you. And you know what? Everybody is wrong - it doesn't get any easier. Give Mom & Dad a hug for me. Love & miss you Babe!
Elaine Scrima
June 14, 2016
Happy 60th Birthday Babe! I know you would be hating this one but I know you would be as beautiful today as you always were. You never believed it but everyone still says what a beautiful woman when they see your pictures. We had our third annual Sue Scrima Birthday Celebration on Sunday and almost everyone that was at the original party has come every year since. Some new faces too but you would approve. Of course the last two years of parties have not been the same without the guest of honor. Heidi outdid herself with decorations and such. She got you a big Happy Birthday balloon just like you liked. It was shaped like a big flower and had polka-dots. I said Sue would have loved it and of course Jakey was afraid of it. Right before sunset we took the boat out and went to your favorite spot and threw roses in the water for you going real fast like you liked around that turn; throwing our hands in the air. (We do it every time we are heading home) Well right as soon as we made the turn a dolphin jumped out of the water. Full breach and you know they hardly ever do that. I told everyone that was you letting us know you are never far away from us. Thank you for all my wonderful signs mom she doesn't send so many but I truly love when I get them from you. I tell everyone about them so keep them coming. There isn't a day that goes by I don't think about you or that your name doesn't come up and we all get to talking about a memory we have and we smile and sometimes cry and inevitably it ends with "you know Sue would be saying ..." and then we all laugh. I would trade all those memories to have you here with us again but I have to be happy with the 54 years of memories that I do have. Okay, I don't remember much from age 1-5 but I know you were taking care of me even then so it counts. I would have loved making this day a big deal for you and I hope you are getting the celebration you deserve I love you Babe. Happy Birthday!
Kevin Fitzgerald
April 16, 2016
Michigan misses Ohio.
Elaine Scrima
July 7, 2015
Babe - today is an anniversary I wish we never had. I miss you so much. You were always my biggest supporter. I remember one time you told me no matter what I was going through I would always land on my feet. That got me through a lot of situations that at the time I never thought I could. I tell people you were my best friend for 53 years and I probably realized that more in the past 12 months than I ever did before. Though you didn't need protecting, I always felt protective of you. So the gift of spending the last 8 months of your life with you is something I will cherish forever. You never complained, though I know your struggle was so very difficult for you on so many levels. Just another reason I admired you. There were so many obstacles that you overcame and you never let anything stop you. When you moved to Atlanta not knowing anyone - what courage you had to take on that adventure. I was so happy when you finally moved to Florida. Though you were only here a few years before you were off to DC, I was so happy for you. Doing things and meeting people that others could only imagine. So proud of your accomplishments. You always said you wanted to retire in Florida and though you made it back here, it was certainly not the way either of us envisioned. Thank you for always loving and accepting me. You were my rock. I love and miss you so very much.
Wendy Fuess
June 15, 2015
I thought about you Susie all day yesterday. Always remember your birthday since it is flag day. Happy first birthday spent in heaven.
June 14, 2015
Happy Birthday Babe! In some ways a year ago seems so far away and in other ways it seems like yesterday. Not a day goes by I don't think about you. You are with me always. I learned so many things from you from the time I was little through the end of your journey. In so many ways I feel like you were stolen from us. So kind and loving and it just doesn't seem fair. I am so thankful for all the memories - I loved making you laugh. You were so excited when you found out you were going to be a Great Aunt and it breaks my heart to know you are missing out on spoiling that precious child named in your honor. Rossi Susanne! I am glad for the short memories of her you had but knowing she will never get to know her Aunt Sue makes me sad. I will make sure to tell her stories about you as she gets older and I know you and Dad are watching over her from above. We are having a party for you today to celebrate your birthday. Last year was a great day and when I read your email to Julie about how your sister had an awesome party for you - well I can't begin to tell you how that made me feel. I love and miss you so much - I am not sure I will ever be the same but I know I am who I am because I had you for a sister. Happy Birthday. I love and miss you so much! Xoxo
Barbara
March 28, 2015
Miss you babe. So very much
Wendy Fuess
March 11, 2015
Elaine and all
I have no idea whether you still check this from time to time I hope you do. I found out today about Sue's passing last summer. I feel just awful. Over the last 10 years I had lost track of Suzie Q but never stopped thinking of her fondly I met Sue in 1982 when I went to work at BC. She followed me to GE Capital and I followed her to UHC. I still have the beautiful Tiffany crystal bow box she gave me when she left GE. She babysat my boys when they were little. She probably never knew that Billy beat her to heaven when he died at age 22 in 2012 but I hope they recognized each other when she arrived. I shall never forget her. My heart goes out to you all
Elaine Scrima
November 18, 2014
Elaine Scrima
August 8, 2014
Yesterday was a month without you. I miss our talks, our laughs... I know you miss my singing! I miss our breakfast dates, the Twistee Treat excursions and shopping at Dillard's and Target. I miss walking in the door and seeing you sitting in your chair and me asking how your day was. I miss it all but most of all I really, really miss you. I guess I will never quite get over losing you. In time I will figure out how to go on without you but I will always keep you tucked away in my heart. Miss you Babe! Xoxo
Hey .... You're my best friend
August 8, 2014
Christmas 2012 - Sleigh ride via boat!
August 8, 2014
Andrea, Joe and Rossi Simmons
August 7, 2014
You welcomed me into your family wih a "hey babe" and a big hug. I'm so glad we have been able to become so close over the years. And especially being with me through the pregnancy of my fist chld. Who later took your name and now I'm sure is being watched over by you. Love and miss you always. Xoxo
Sue Bloom
July 25, 2014
To Joanne and family,Im deeply saddened to hear the news of Susannes passing.Ive known you all for years and im just stunned. you have my sympathies and prayers and good wishes.Suzanne Bloom and family
Steven Bernardo
July 22, 2014
I close my eyes. I still can hear Sue's voice, her laughter. Through the many pictures on social media it is obvious how she loved and was loved by those she touched. Rest in peace Sue. Watch over us until we all are together again.
Rita Niemeyer Leith
July 20, 2014
Dear Mrs. Scrima, Joanne, & Elaine-
I am very sad to learn of Sue's passing. Extending my sincere sympathy to you & your families & friends.
I have so many wonderful memories(smiles & laughter)that we shared together. Sue & I were inseparable & best friends. I loved Sue like a sister. I will forever cherish the memories with Sue & your family.
Sue will always remain in my heart. It gives me comfort knowing she's in the hands of God. Rest in peace my dear friend.
Rob Boyer
July 20, 2014
I was deeply saddened to learn of Sue's passing. Although so many years have passed, I will always remember her as the caring person she was with such a beautiful smile. My condolences to Velma, Joanne, Elaine and everyone who knew and loved her.
Mary "Jo" Vitullo Heckler
July 19, 2014
I didn't know of Sue's illness. It has been far too many years since I have seen her radiant smile. She has remained in my heart even though we were apart. My heart is broken. I have no words to offer other than I know Sue is in HIS hands. Thinking of entire family and keeping you in my prayers.
Velvet Merritt
July 18, 2014
Sister Sue- my compass for love and kindness. I will cherish all our memories especially the joyful smile on your 58th birthday. You were loved and will be missed.
Jacky Biel
July 18, 2014
Susanne, it is very obvious that you touched a lot of lives, including mine. You will be greatly missed! My condolences to all her friends and family.
Carol Spotleson Gallagher
July 18, 2014
Dear Mrs. Scrima, Joanne & Elaine: I am so very sorry for your loss. Susanne was my first "best friend" and I will forever remember her fondly. Know that I hold all of you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. May perpetual light shine upon her.
Mike Luster
July 17, 2014
Sue, you brought so much light into every gathering of friends. Always accepting. Always encouraging. Always loving. My heart is broken, but I am so full of Joy to have known you and your sisters and your Mom and all the family we created in Tampa. My tears come from a place of sadness, but I wipe them away and laugh when I remember your Marco Polo in the store to find Elaine and you and Patrick giggling over who knows what and all those years of awesome brownies. Because I knew you, I've been changed for the better.
July 17, 2014
Sister Sue- From the time we first met, you weren't just Elaine's sister you were our sister, a part of our family, hearts & lives--always a kind, caring beautiful person, we love & miss u !!!! When We question why God took you so soon, so young, we can only believe heaven needed a SPECIAL angel- You!! Kristi & Karen
Joanne (Scrima) Simmons
July 17, 2014
Grief is hard, I feel empty and lonely but the special memories we all have shared with you help us cope; while seeing the slideshow presented makes me teary and yet smile..its unbelievable that you were taken from us so soon. I really miss you dear sister Sue. All my love
Peace be with you always.
Gary & Carie Greene
July 17, 2014
Dear Scrima Family,
We are so sorry for the heartbreaking, tragic loss of your dear Sue. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. We trust that God will fill Sue with His love and peace, and that she will be blessed with eternal life. We KNOW that she will be taking care of you, guiding you, and watching over you always. She is your guardian angel forever. We pray that God will comfort you at this time. With sincere love,
Lucy Costa
July 17, 2014
God bless you Susanne.
Amber Dietzmann
July 17, 2014
Beautiful soul inside and out although we never met in person working with Susanne the last 7 years over the phone was always a joy! My condolences for Susanne's family.
Diane Devine-Mount
July 17, 2014
Miss you so much, Sue. I wish I could pick up the phone and hear your voice.
Maureen Lio
July 17, 2014
Sue was such a special person with a warm,loving heart and beautiful smile. She was a wonderful friend who I will miss dearly. May God bless her and her family.
Tim Vignos
July 17, 2014
My condolences to the Scrima family. I had the pleasure of knowing Sue in high school.
Gail Cross
July 17, 2014
A wonderful person and friend always. I will miss you
Elaine Scrima
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Cheryle Yount Casar
July 17, 2014
May you find peace.
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Heidi Barnhart
July 17, 2014
You were the sister I never had. You embraced me from the first day I met you and always made me feel part of your family. I miss you more than words can say. You will hold a special place in my heart forever.
Diane Devine-Mount
July 17, 2014
There is so much in my heart that I want to say, but can't find all of the words. Susanne was a very special friend and a very special human being. I miss her so much, but am grateful to have known her. God Bless you, Sue. My deepest condolences to the family and loved ones.
July 17, 2014
There is so much in my heart that I want to say, but can't find all of the words. Susanne was a very special friend and a very special human being. I miss her so much, but am grateful to have known her. God Bless you, Sue. My deepest condolences to her family and loved ones.
July 17, 2014
My High School Friend who was always there for me.Sue's loving reach will be missed by all.
Loretta Eisenbrei
Bob Rebellino
July 17, 2014
Velma, Joanne, and Elaine,
It's been many years, but I still have fond memories of all you girls across the street. Little Susanne, the middle girl, who carried Elaine around when she was little. I can still see you guys sitting on that little front porch of yours. All my sympathy and prayers.
July 17, 2014
Susanne,
A special and beautiful friend. I will always remember you and miss your smile. Knowing you was joy.
- Rocca Evangelista
Kathy Pope
July 17, 2014
to my great great cousin, sorry we lived so close and yet never met. rest in peace.
Kitty Shourds McClelland
July 17, 2014
To the Scrima Family -
I am so sorry to read about Susanne. I didn't know she was sick. I know she is in no more pain. Remember the good times you had together. May the Lord comfort you during this difficult time. God Bless
Millicent Gordon
July 16, 2014
Susanne, beautiful in and out. Condolences to the family. God loves you best. Rest in Peace.
Jack Costa
July 16, 2014
Susanne, We will miss you dearly. You were a beautiful person inside and out. We will miss working with you and our conversations about work and life in general. Rest in peace.
Love,
Jack and Lucy
Paula Rossetti
July 16, 2014
Susanne, You are missed dearly. I will never forget working with you at New York Life. Our fun dinners in NYC and knowing you has been a pleasure. I'm sure you are not suffering anymore. May you sleep in peace now.
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