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Thomas "Tommy’O" O'Reilly IV
1969 - 2020
Thomas "Tommy’O" O'Reilly IV
1969 - 2020
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Tom F. O'Reilly, IV was born in Teaneck, NJ on March 29, 1969. Although he only lived in NJ for his first four and half years, before his family moved to Naples in 1973, NJ was his "second home". After a courageous and hard fought battle with brain cancer, Glioblastoma, Tommy'O passed away peacefully on June 13, 2020 at 11:11 a.m., in his home in NJ, surrounded by his loving wife, Elaine, his children Declan and Kaia along with his parents Jo and Tom O'Reilly.
Tommy'O was always a very outgoing and charismatic man who had a love of sports, playing soccer and football at Naples High School and as placekicker for Rutgers University for 3 years. His love of trail running and marathons afforded him the opportunity to travel and meet hundreds of people with similar interests…it's how he met his loving wife, Elaine. Tommy'O was also very musical having played trombone in NHS Marching Band, and loved to play his acoustic guitar and piano. He also loved to sing and often gave "Commuter Concerts in the Car" on his way to and from work. Tommy'O's passions were his wife, his kids, running on trails and singing while playing his guitar. He leaves behind a legacy of always helping others achieve their goals and being happy. He had a great sense of humor, fantastic memory (could recall names, events, musical trivia as well as movie trivia) and displayed them all from his childhood until the last week of his beautiful life. He will be loved and remembered by many because of his kindness, honesty and contagious SMILE! "You can't control what happens to you, but there are two things you can control: Your Attitude and Your Effort!"
Funeral Mass will be celebrated at St. William Catholic Church, Seagate Drive, Naples, on Saturday, July 25, 2020 at 11 a.m. Masks are required to be worn while inside the Church and no group gatherings on Church grounds. This Mass will be live streamed : www.saintwilliam.org scroll down to Funeral Mass for Tommy O'Reilly or https://youtu.be/P418OB4sRdY . Wear something RED, Tommy'O's favorite color! Internment private.
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Julie & Izzy Ruoz
July 3, 2025
Tommy O´: Gone from this earth, but never forgotten! We will forever treasure our times tailgating at RU Football games!
Love, always,
Julie & Izzy Ruiz
Julie Ruiz
July 15, 2024
Remembering you always with love, Tommy O´ & the great tailgating good times at the Rutgers football games! Will forever miss you!
Kirsten Witt
July 25, 2020
Blessings and prayers to your loving family, Tommy 'O. I have such great memories of your cheerful and giving spirit, your jokes and your love of music and kids. You will be so greatly missed.
Jeff Topczynski
July 25, 2020
Peace Tommy O
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Garrett Meister-Phillips
July 25, 2020
It was truly a pleasure knowing you for over 35 years Tommy-O. Sending healing prayers and comforting hugs to your family. You will be deeply missed!
Aracelys Gil Reyes
July 21, 2020
Me da mucho gusto poder contarles cuantos sentimientos hermosos inspiró Tommy'O en mi, y también en mi familia. Para nosotros, él es un ejemplo a seguir. Por su lindo carácter, por su gran corazón siempre lleno de cariño para todos, por su gran talento, y sobre todo, por su enorme valentía al enfrentar esa terrible enfermedad.Lamento mucho no haberlo conocido personalmente pero a veces no es necesario, para poder admirar y tratar de imitar a alguien con tantas virtudes.Siempre estará presente en cada uno de nosotros. Tommy, D.E.P.
Julie & Izzy Ruiz
July 19, 2020
We will always treasure those cold nights during Rutgers Football season and how much Tommy O loved our Puerto Rican hot chocolate! R.I.P. dear friend
Martha Haidle
July 19, 2020
Tommy-O was a highschool friend of my son Sam. He was always a pleasure to be around and never lost that great smile! He will certainly be remembered!
Teresa Rosario Reyes Diaz
July 18, 2020
Primero que todo, quiero decir que para admirar, querer, y respetar a alguien, no necesariamente tenemos que conocerlo personalmente. Aún así, hubiese sido un gran privilegio haber conocido a Tom. Atraves de otras personas pude percibir el gran ser humano que fue. Pienso que Tommy O'REILLY fue y será una gran inspiración de amor, respeto, alegría, valentía, y ejemplo a seguir.Por siempre lo llevaré en mi corazón. ♥ Gloria eterna.
Sondra Willets
July 12, 2020
It is with great sadness I read about Tommys passing. He was a student in my language arts class at Gulfview Middle School many years ago, but Ive never forgotten him. What a character! It was very hard to be serious in the classroom with him planted in front of me. I dont care where I moved him, there he would be making faces at me, smiling, talking! He was a jokester, for sure, and with the personality that I couldnt just couldnt get angry with...and, I tried!
Good thing God has a sense of humor. No doubt Tommy is giving Him something to laugh about in the midst of all this madness going on down here now.
Thank you, Tommy, for crossing my threshold all those years ago. You were a rare gem among many in all my years in the classroom.
Devon Cosenza
July 10, 2020
Thank you for your warmth, kindness, and ability to make anyone and everyone feel welcome. Because of you and Elaine, RVRR became family. May your love and spirit always remain with all of us ❤
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