Thomas B "Tom" OBrien

Thomas B "Tom" OBrien obituary, Durham, NH

Thomas B "Tom" OBrien

Thomas OBrien Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Apr. 9, 2024.
Thomas B. O'Brien, 80, of Durham, Wolfeboro, and Amherst, NH, died on March 23, 2024 at RiverWoods Durham surrounded by his loving family. Tom was born in Pittsburgh, PA on October 1, 1943, son of the late Thomas and Dorothy O'Brien. He was the beloved husband of Mary (Simler) O'Brien, and is survived by his son Douglas O'Brien and daughter-in-law Susan O'Brien of Walpole, MA and grandchildren Jennifer, Daniel and Kevin O'Brien; his daughter Karen O'Brien and son-in-law Gary Romano of Lynnfield, MA and grandchildren Benjamin and Finnian Romano; his brother Edward O'Brien and sister in-law Susan O'Brien, of Silverthorne, CO, and niece Heather Greene of Eagle, CO; his sister Suzanne O'Brien Paulsen (predeceased) of San Francisco CA, and nieces Bridget Doll and Kate Paulsen of San Anselmo, CA.

Tom graduated from Shaler High School in Glenshaw, Pennsylvania (1961), and Saint Francis University, Loretto Pennsylvania (1965), where he met Mary. They were married after graduation. Tom served in the United States Navy from 1965-1970 as a Naval Aviator of the submarine reconnaissance aircraft, the P3-Orion, based in San Francisco and Tokyo. Upon honorable discharge, he joined Delta Airlines as a commercial airline pilot for over 25 years. Tom shared his passion for flying as a flight instructor both in the Navy and with Delta airlines. Tom and Mary raised their children in Amherst, NH where Tom taught the kids to swim, hike, and fly in his favorite plane, a blue and white Citabria two-seater sport plane.

In 1996, Tom and Mary moved to Wolfeboro, NH where they lived until 2019. Tom loved Lake Winnipesaukee and had a deep commitment to the community in Wolfeboro. Tom was involved from the earliest days in the development and building of The Nick Recreation Park. It was one of his greatest joys to be a part of creating space for all ages to gather in Wolfeboro. He remains recognized as Director Emeritus, and honorably one of the sports fields bears his name. During his years in Wolfeboro, Tom also served as President of the Wolfeboro Lions Club, a vestryman at All Saints Church, a volunteer with Habitat for Humanity, a Trustee of the Lakes Region Conservation Trust, and Chairman of the Campaign to Protect Sewall Woods. In his spare time, Tom enjoyed golf, skiing, and traversing Lake Winnipesaukee in his boat while searching for Loons.

A gathering in honor of Tom will be held on April 26 from 1-3p at Riverwoods, 14 Stone Quarry Drive, Durham, NH.

In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to The Nick Recreation Park at https://thenick.org/ways-to-give

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William Yoder

March 30, 2024

I went to high school with Tom. He was a great classmate and a wonderful young man. He always had a pleasant way about him. Tom was a leader in our school. Tom always had a very intelligent and funny remarks for any situation.
Our school class was and still is a very close group, for those still around. Our
class lost a great one in Tom. How ever, we called him "Spike".

Linda Snyder McGuire

March 29, 2024

O'Brien Family,, I am so sorry to hear about Cousin Spike! I had many good and happy thoughts of your family and staying with you all at your home as a kid! My happy thoughts are with you at this hard time.
Linda Snyder McGuire and Family

Barton Green

March 28, 2024

My heart goes out to Mary and her family.Tom was always enthusiastic, fun, and smart. We served together not only with Delta but in VP-40. We have lost a very good man who will very much missed.

Kate Heelan

March 28, 2024

I have fond memories of cousin "Spike" and spending time with all of you when we were kids. Mary and I have kept in touch through Christmas cards and Facebook. I am so sorry for your loss, he was definitely a great man . Sending love and hugs from the Snyder cousins! Kate Heelan

Dave Bushy

March 28, 2024

Tom was one of my favorite pilots at Delta. His enthusiasm and joy for life was infectious! Whenever I flew with him, it was a great flight and a wonderful time with a dear friend. He made the world a better place! Prayers for his family and gratitude for the time we all had with him.

Michael and Marie Riley

March 28, 2024

Mary, we just heard about Tom's death. What great memories we had together both in the Navy and with Delta. In VP-40, Tom and I were in the same crew and fIew together often and then were hired together at Delta. I always considered us a couple of lucky Irishmen to have been blessed with wonderful families, friends and careers - I just can't call flying a job. Marie and I will say a special prayer for an old friend. Take care of yourself. Mike & Marie Riley

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