Valentine Judge

Rest Easy Valentine. And thank you Phoebe for sharing such a beautiful tribute on This is Love. My heart was aching for you and yours. Sending my love to all who knew her. She seemed like an amazing women.

I did not personally know Valentine, but I feel as though I met her through Phoebe´s lovely tribute episode and through her obituary. Both are so wonderfully put together. I know none of the Judges but hearing about Valentine´s life and death brought me to tears. I offer my condolences to all of Valentine´s loved ones. She sounds like an amazing, loving, funny, beautiful woman, inside and out. I think I would have loved to meet her.

It was great to "meet" Valentine on Phoebe's recent podcast episode. So sorry to hear she is no longer physically in the world.

I knew Valentine since the 4th grade in Sudbury, MA. She was an artistic and creative person. In grade school, she created a Medallion for Good Behavior awarded to me after being reprimanded by the teacher for acting up and then doing better. We saw each other our first year in college when she came to Colgate. Good memories. The world is better off that Valentine was in it. Rest in peace my friend. Daniel Durand

Vanessa and Family
Sending many hugs and prayers for strength from my family to you yours while you navigate through this difficult time. Please know you are surrounded by many that love and care for you and should you need anything, most are just a phone call away. Thinking of you always.

Heidi Hala and Family

Oh Vanessa! My heart hurts tremendously for you and your family as you go through this difficult time. Sending prayers for strength, courage and comfort as you move forward through the days to come. There truly are no words to say to make things a bit easier, but please know my family and I are here for you in mind and spirit thinking of you always.

Carol and Evan Ealy

Valentine was an integral part of our Independence Park extended family. She used her talents for organizing neighborhood events and gardens in the park. Her door was always open for friends to drop in for stimulating conversation or a spontaneous party.

When Valentine wasn´t organizing events or hosting parties she was welcoming neighborhood children into her home for amateur archaeological digs in the crawl space under the house or tending to their needs as they stumbled into her kitchen in ice skates and wet clothes. My family and I have many fond memories that took place at her house on Dakin St.

It was an absolute pleasure to know Valentine. Sending our deepest condolences to the Judge family.

Heartfelt condolences to Phoebe, Jane and Alison for the loss of your sister. Tony and the children and their families may you find peace and comfort in the loving memories and inspirational character of Valentine. I am so very sorry.

Valentine was an amazing person from an amazing family who lived an amazing life. Eternal blessings on her memory. Light, love and healing to everyone who loved her.

Val never shied away from an adventure...no fear! Somehow during high school, she & I got hold of a canoe, put it on a vehicle (??), and instead of going to school that day, drove it to the Concord River for a paddle! Seemed like the thing to do on a spring day! Good fun, no witnesses, no questions!
Toward the end of our undergrad years, she lived in a great place in Brookline and I was looking for an apartment, so since the upstairs apartment was in transition, in I moved, and lived until I got my first "real Job" teaching at Cape Cod Tech.
Some years later, Win and Phil bought their place in my town of Barnstable, so we'd see each other on her trips to their Cape home, and she came in for a random Lincoln/Sudbury Class of '68. A great spirit of adventure and appreciation for art, music, nature & beauty in any form. Having such spirit will transcend! Long will live her spirit, giving inspiration to so many!
Marsha Alibrandi, Ed.D.

May Valentine's memory be for a blessing, as it is said. And may all her family, but particularly her children and grandchildren, be comforted knowing that she died "peacefully surrounded by family."

Many obituaries on legacy. com fail to do justice to the man or woman being remembered, the failure often being a failure to capture the man or woman's individuality, a remembrance that does capture someone's individuality being one that identifies the particular attributes and qualities that made him or her loved and/admired.

The obituary here, the work, I suspect, of Phoebe, does do justice to Valentine in the sense described. This was not as difficult a task as it might seem however, because, in her best days, before ill health took its toll, her beauty, outer and inner, her loves and hates, more generally her vitality, were out front or otherwise manifest for all to see and value. As the obituary states: ""She loved fried clams but did not like bellies. She loved onion rings. Chocolate chip ice cream. She loved a marshmallow sundae. She hated eggs and whipped cream. She loved opera and The Talking Heads. Italian Vogue. She loved an event and was a fantastic hostess." And most all, she "loved her children."

Sheri and I extend our condolences to Valentine's entire family, but especially to her children and grandchildren.

My heartfelt sympathy to all of the family. Valentine was one of my best friends. My heart is broken. So happy we shared times at the Cape, and lunch with her sisters, and her mom, at the Wayside Inn. When I located her in Iowa, and found out the she was sick, there wasn't a day that passed, that I didn't think of her. High School family ski trips, and boating on our SEAMAID, are special memories. RIP dear friend, until we meet again. Forever in my heart,
Carolee

Valentine was a neighbor of mine in my youth. And most recently she came to Maine to visit me. It saddens me that she has passed and I send my Love to her family. Love,jacqui

I grew up with Valentine as a neighbor and she visited me here in Maine not too long ago. I am saddened to hear of her passing and send my Love to all of her family. Love, Jacqui Deveneau

Condolences to Tony, Phoebe and all the family for your loss. The world got a little smaller with her leaving.
Love, Dave Harding

Vanessa and family, I´m sorry for your loss. I think the last time I saw Valentine was at Joel´s high school graduation at Rockefeller Chapel, which she attended with Madeline. Joel always enjoyed spending time with Valentine and your family.

I met Valentine over coffee at the Intercontinental Hotel before Joel was born. One favorite memory is when we met Valentine´s mom, Joel´s Mayflower descendant birth great grandma, at Bob Lehrer´s party when Joel was little. Joel later met Vanessa at another of Bob´s parties. Sending love to all of you.
Dory (Joel´s mom)

Dear Phoebe,

Your dedication to your parents has always been clear to me. You have been there when they needed you, and even when they did not. They have been lucky to have you, and this uncle is proud of you.

Love,
Rob

I feel so fortunate to have gotten a chance to know Valentine when she was staying with Vanessa in Des Moines. We had lots of laughs and enjoyed each other's company. The world has lost a great, funny, classy lady with your passing. My sympathy and love to all your family, especially Vanessa.

To Tony Phoebe and Vanessa you have my condolences I have good memories of Valentine she was strong and a fighter. Good thing about that is she's no longer in pain and going to a better place

We went to the Iowa state fair and she loved the horrible food. It started raining but she didn´t care at all. I will always love u Miss Valentine. I´ve learned so much from you that I´ve been passing down to my children. RIP beautiful Queen. You will never be forgotten.