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This obituary was originally published in the Star Tribune.
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Carrie Dalos
September 1, 2024
Carrie Dalos
September 1, 2024
Carrie Dalos
September 1, 2024
I can´t believe it´s been 20 years since you left. Last night we were talking about how you changed the entire eventing scene for us by providing instruction that made us oh so much better at riding and life. The stories we remembered about Ralph Hill and the riding program that allowed Janet Sullivan to take her horse to prelim. You are missed here and we live our lives based on some of the principles you engrained in us.
Alyssa Dalos
March 18, 2022
Hey Vick - I still miss you all the time. I wish you were here to see who I've grown up to be, and I hope you'd be proud. I wish you could meet my Ben, I think y'all would really get along, he reminds me a bit of Ron - quiet, steady and kind. Anyway, your photo lives on my mantel and I like to think it's you watching over me. I love you, I wish I had told you that more.
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Carrie Dalos
September 1, 2021
17 years ago dear and we still miss you very much.
Michelle Bye (Myrmel)
August 17, 2017
Vicky,
It's been so many years since you left us all for another ride. I still miss you and am guided by your wisdom. It's a special person that has the capacity to make each person feel that they alone possessed a unique relationship with you. You did that. People still have the grandest things to say about you, to remember you by. You have such an enduring legacy in the community, amongst all who knew you. I'm so grateful I visited you before I left for India. Periodically I replay your question (like all of your sage words that stick in your students' heads, even years later). Eyes still watching your client, the peanut gallery whispering amongst themselves on Freedom's bleachers, you asked, "Are you happy?" Your reply to my yes was to the effect that's good and all that matters. That's all you want for us all. Thank you.
Lisa Kellenberger
September 13, 2010
Vicky,
I am so grateful to have had you in my life. I am envious of the energy and presence you possessed and I continue to use your advice in my everyday life. I love you and miss you.
Lisa Kellenberger
September 13, 2010
Vicky -
I am lucky to have had you in my life. Your energy is with me every day and I continue to remember your advice. Thank you. Love you and miss you.
Liz Lund
December 8, 2008
hey vic!
i can't believe how time flies by. it seems like just yesterday you were on earth with us. this year laura markham was awarded your trophy and you would be so proud of all she has done. in general life is good :) it is what you make it and i'm doing my best. your words of wisdom stuck with me and i try and apply them to life everyday! you are missed greatly. much love.
sarah bandt-alt
August 16, 2008
I still miss you so much. I just can't help to think how lucky I was to be a part of your life. Your teaching style taught me so much about life. I cannot be thankful enough for that. love you!
December 28, 2006
Vicky
Gone but not forgotten!
God Bless You
Jeannie
Cassie Henry
October 13, 2006
I'd been away from Minnesota for a long time and hadn't heard about Vicky's death until I came across a mention of the memorial scholarship in her name. I rode with Vicky for years as a teenager at Spring Gait, and she was one of the most generous people I've met. She always found ways for me to ride and was ready to put in a good word for me to horse owners. I had to smile as I read some of the entries in this guest book - Lisa, I remember you and your sisters when you were kids - and I remember riding Soap Suds, trying my darndest to teach him dressage and ride him in Vicky's Sunday afternoon jumping lessons! And I've still got a picture of Taj on my wall at home!
I still train horses and teach lessons part-time here in New York, and I hear a lot of Vicky in myself every day when I teach, and it's nice to think that all the things she taught me might be passed on. Best wishes to all of you who knew Vicky -
Cassie (Campbell) Henry
May 31, 2006
Hey Vick. So much stuff has happened with Chandler lately, and everything has just been extremely emotional. I keep thinking how proud you would be of me... And I think about all the stuff you'd yell at me about and I try to fix it. I think about you all the time and it seems like yesterday when everything happened, even though a lot has happened since then and it's been a while.
Thanks so much for everything
I love you, Lisa
Carrie
May 30, 2006
Well Vic,
It is finally happening. Moving day and I am so scared.
I wish you were here to tell me all the stuff you always told me.
You made everything seem like it would be alright.
Liz
December 7, 2005
Hey Vick!
Wow. So much new exciting stuff that I wish you were here to share it with. Well I'm in FL now! Enjoying 80 degree weather while everyone at home is bundled up in the cold, yes I am a little spoiled & loving it. I won the Vicky Harris trophy, I was so excited when Ron called me, it was good to hear from him, he sounds like he is doing pretty well. I am riding lots of cool horses here and it's really exciting. I just entered my first event which is in January. Hannah is great, she's eating well too, a little too well. I have been longing her a lot, thought you would be proud of that! Somedays I can feel you helping me when I ride, when everything all clicks together I hear you in the back of my head telling me that rare good job & it makes me want to cry with happiness! I miss you so much, miss talking to you, life is such a complicated thing & it was so nice to be able to talk to you about it. I have been learning a lot though. Hope you are riding amazing horses! Lots of love forever
October 11, 2005
Hey Vicky!!
I miss you so much! You would be so proud of me, I just got to CT about a week ago! I'm just getting use to everything but have already learned a lot! Julie is a dressage lady and gives me lessons on her horses! Its so fun, I groom for her and feed and turnout and just take care of her horses over all and I ride her pony and ex-race horse and help her with her young 3 year old, i get to be the dummy and sit on him while she longes him. Its lots of fun though! I'm always thinking of your advice and how much it's helped me through some really rough times! Wish you were here to talk to, miss you lots! RIDE ON!
Love you,
Liz
September 8, 2005
A year has pasted. The grief I felt this time last year has lessened a bit. But your absence is glaring. I love to read the messages from the kids that loved you so much and those treasured memories you gave them, along with your sage advice. That keeps you very much among us. I will never forget your kindness,wisdom and friendship. Miss you friend.
Liz
August 31, 2005
Hey Vicky!
I miss you a ton! Just getting everything all ready for Trott Brook this weekend, I'll be riding two, Hannah & Rocky. I will be needing your help so stay with me this weekend! I'm not going to KY anymore I'm going to CT at the end of Sept then to FL Nov-April to work with a DRESSAGE lady! Just like you said, if i get really really good at dressage then I can work for just about anyone! That's my goal! Going to miss you a lot this weekend, last year was such a great show with you there, it will be hard this year without your physical presence even though I know you'll be there watching over everyone! Miss you tons! Love you Vick!
Lisa Kellenberger
August 31, 2005
Hey Vick, wow this year has been hard, just like you said. Even though it doesnt seem like its been a year already... Just today I had incents going in my room while i was cleaning it, all those essential oils and stuff really make me think of you, when the dragonflys used to sit on your shoulders and water bottle, @ Piper's. That summer was so much fun. Sometimes I wish i could go back in time for just a week, or maybe only an hour... Thanks for everything. This weekend were going to a wedding so we'll miss Trott Brook, I'm dissapointed because we had so much fun last year at that show.. I love you Vick, Ride on <3
Carrie Dalos
August 30, 2005
Vic,
We are coming up on a year.
So much has happened, yet it just seems like yesterday that I was listening to you spout wisdom of some form or another.
Today I was informed that the Native Americans have a celebration on the year anniversary of a loved ones journey. The mourning is done and the soul continues its journey. We give each other gifts of love and hope. I guess if the native americans thought it was a good idea?
Most of us are headed for Trottbrook this weekend and I know you will be there standing in the warm up ring and helping us along.
Love you Carrie
Lisa
July 20, 2005
Hey Vick, - Theres so much to tell you I don't no how to start! I started riding my moms trail horse Taj and i brought him to a Pony Club XC clinic yesterday, and it went really well, i was really happy because i want to show Chandler and him. My Dad and sister come home today from S.America. I have a lot of soccer going on right now, getting ready for highschool soccer, its going to be very busy this august. I did training at Carriage House (no xc) and im gonna do PineMeadow and my first REAL training will be Wayne, I'm really excited! 3 days ago we had to put Soap Suds down, I'm sure you already no... I new he was suffering and everything, but i just felt so bad. When anybody says, sorry about Suds, it takes me a while to process, i automaticaly think, the Suds I used to ride.. and I never think that he was sick or anything. So that makes it harder for me, because i feel like that part of my life has kind of been erased or something. I always had a piece of you in Suds, because you had taught so many people on that horse. I have a piece of you with Chandler too, but its just different. I have to go (make a calendar for opening dates and such :)) - I love you Vick, Thanks For Everything.
Liz
July 19, 2005
Hey Vicky!
So much is happening and I wish you were here to give me advice! I turned 18 yesterday!! I might be buying a horse and I might be moving to KY to work with Dorothy for a year! I am SO excited, I'll keep you up-dated though on what happens! I miss you lots!! Ride ON!!
July 18, 2005
Vick
Really a hot, hot, summer. I didn't ride most of last week because it is just too hard on my guy, but the little girl got ridden. She is an angel in this weather!!!! But she picked a fight with the wrong mare and got the snot kicked out of her, now she can only be ridden at the walk for a week or so! I swear they have no sense of self preservation. Miss you.
Lisa
June 13, 2005
hey vick, its been a while since ive written in this.. ive been thinking about you a lot lately, summer is finally here! a break from that "in the way" school stuff.. im so glad that i was one to have known you, my life has gone great lengths because of you. Im a much stronger person now, i feel like im dealing with a lot of crap that i dont want to think about, and that why i like being w. friends and stuff so i dont have to think about a lot, but it always seems to creep up (specaily at night when i lay there and think about the day or w.e) but the horses have been good - i had a ralph hill clinic this weekend but the i think chanders a little burnt out.. he was stiff int he begininng of the clinic and 20 min into it he was getting myuch worse so i got off and coudlnt finish the weekend :(... but i also had a soccer tournemtn so that uncrowded my weekend a little bit. - suds is getting much worse and everyday i wish he makes it through,i feel so bad for him.. but the other horses are doing great, hamel (marielle's horse) is staying at our house now and kristen was going to lease him but i dont no now.. tara is in south america (wow) - i have so much to tell you, but another time :) i LOVE YOU SO MUCH VICKY I MISS YOU A TON!! LOVE LISA
I LOVE YOU!!!!! -Liz
June 12, 2005
Vick!!
wow a lot has happened! I graduated!! YAY! Aren't you proud? I'm going to St. Cloud, too bad our plans didn't work out though, really wish you were still here I miss you a lot. I love the mare I'm riding, Hannah, she is so amazing I KNOW you would have really liked her! You would be so proud of the work I've done with her, most of it on my own with Liz giving me lessons here and there! Jumping has been going great too, started this spring and have done a few clinics, but I wish you were around to help me jump like a frog ;)! You always knew just what to say to help me! I went to Carriage House! It was my first show of the year and first show ever with Hannah, really good we got a 34.5 on dressage but had 7 time faults in stadium...oh well we'll work on that for ya! I also rode Sombrero, wasn't really suppossed to but Syd's pony got hurt. 38 in dressage but E in stadium, its okay though, we've never jumped colorful fences and we got to the 5th one and even went up a bank! He is cool, you would like him too. I'm doing my C3 this summer at the end of July. I've been riding with Kyla, she's not at all like you but I like her a lot. I was reading the previous entry about how they see you in the shadows, me too...I can swear sometimes and clinics or shows I see you walk by and I almost yell out your name. I miss you, a lot has changed in my life, not just in the horses and I wish you were here so that you could talk to me. I love you forever, BE STRONG!!!
June 7, 2005
It has finally gone from spring to summer, hot and humid, and of course bugs!!!! My little mare is a trial, I wish she would give me just one good day, the pill! The big boy is a blessing even when he is not at his best. The new barn is very active. It is very difficult to get lesson slot. Even though after all these years I'm still trying to keep my horse straight, I guess I'm not trainable, It is worst than golf.
It is soooooooooo warm and humid today that I am not sure if I want to ride, plus it has to be inside because of all the rain. Finally made it to Lexington this spring. A week BEFORE the Rolex. There is a woman at the barn that visually reminds me of you. I see her out the corner of my eye, in the shadows and I briefly see you. If you run into Max tell him Fortuna is a freaking mess, he is probably having a fit!! His beautiful lawn and pastures are in shambles. Karin is coming home for the summer, bless her heart.
Liz
April 29, 2005
Hey Vick!
Its finally that time of year where things are picking up a little! I just did a Doina clinic and it was so much fun, you would be so proud of my riding! I'm taking two horses to Otter Creek this weekend to school and it is suppossed to be a nice weekend! ROLEX is this weekend too, couldn't go this year though, hopefully i'll be there soon if you know what i mean! I miss you a lot and think about you so much! Newsy is going to CO tomorrow, she is going to be a broodmare, I think she'll be happy, I went and gave her lots of kisses tonight and she reminds me of you so much and how you helped me with her. You taught both of us so much and I'm glad you were able to watch our success at Trott Brook, all thanks to you. I miss your words and your wisdom and just you. Thinking of you always,
Love,
CARRIE Dalos
April 20, 2005
Hey Vic,
I have to say that I have been thinking of you so much recently.
Discovering that you have left so much with all of us that is truly the essence of you. The things that come out of my mouth and how I ride are so much about who you were and what you taught us to be.
You would be so proud of me, I am teaching! So much of who I am is what you took all those hours teaching me. I have truly grown since your death, though some days I have to say I wondered if I was going to be able to live up to your expectations, but it seems that all is well and we are all still riding and helping each other and living the principles that you believed.Your beautiful Kat horse is so very wonderful and Alyssa loves him so much(even riding those occasional bucks are now a part of her skills) they are truly a great pair. I see them teaching each other some pretty important lessons. I do appreciate that you are still with us as your spirit is strong and I do have to say I do depend upon that.
Love Carrie
Lisa
April 19, 2005
Hey vick i miss you so much.. lately its been getting better but the last month or so its been really hard and i miss you a lot.. i try not to drag other people down w. me so i write it down.. its spring so the horses are getting frisky .. chandlers been taking off lately - haha - but guess what! youd be so proud because i was riding the other day and i was doing sitting trott and i was leaning on my knee rolls with me knees and everything was working perfectly - i was doing 'nothing' and everything seemed to flow perfectly, i new you were with me - thank you vicky.. i love you and miss you a lot - the grass is getting green its been raining... i have a ton going on but im still riding a lot (dont worry :)) longview is soon and i cant wait.. but it wont be the same without you... we got a puppy the other day and i no youd love her. - love you vicky! RIDE ON
April 4, 2005
Horses are moved. Now to begin the process of figuring out the ins and outs of the new culture. It makes for a very interesting time. Spring is here. I did discover that it doesn't pay to wish time away........no more of that!
March 11, 2005
Hi! Moving the horses at the end of the month. I hate to do it but it will be a better situation. How many times did I move with you? Numerous..........so I guess one more time should do it. I don't know if I have another stable and instructor in me, but as you would say, "Hell, why not". I get a little discouraged. You rarely showed a negative attitude, always a smile. I need to remember that and BUCK UP! Miss you.
Liz
March 1, 2005
Hey Vick!
Uh I'm sick right now stuck inside and being kept from the horses unfortunatly...I have had a lot of time to think sitting on the couch all day. I miss you a lot, I am so thankful for being able to know you and learn from you. You taught me so much about the horses, and not just the riding, the care too and other valuble life lessons. I really wish you could see the mare I am riding now. I think you would really like her, it would also be great to get your help with her. I'm always thinking of you, there are a lot of songs that remind me of you. The song "If Heaven" reminds me of you.
"Dont cry a tear for me now baby
There comes a time we must all say goodbye And if thats what heavens made of You know i ain't afraid to die"
You weren't afraid of death. Its like you knew everything, and knew that it was all going to be okay no matter what was happening. It was great to have your reassurance and strength to stand by. But I know still that everything will be okay. Thanks for everything!
Lisa
February 27, 2005
Hey Vicky - I went to a courage retreat the other day as a field trip in school, and it made me think about how many people i no have shown courage towards me or anybody. I thought about you ecspecaily because you showed so much courage and you beleived in things that some poeple would have just looked over, i miss you so much. If you see Rosie or Ditto tell them I say Hi, i miss everybody so much. Suds has been sick lately and it makes me think about the numerous lessons i had on him with you and how fun everyday was, but don't worry we're pulling through - i love you vicky
February 25, 2005
If you happen to run into Max, tell him that we all miss him too. It just isn't the same without him. We miss the honesty and wisdom that both of you shared with us. Fortuna is a mess and there isn't anyone who can fill your paddock boots Vicky!!
February 23, 2005
The winter hasn't been too bad. I thought of you last evening when a barn kitty perched on my lap for warmth. Riding is going OK, I love my new guy, although he's not so new anymore! He's just not paid for completely yet. I past by the cemetary today and wondered where you are in there. It is a beautiful and peaceful area, in the spring I will look you up and bring you flowers.
January 22, 2005
David is coming in Feb. I don't know if I'll ride, maybe just audit. It gets a little expensive, especially right after Christmas. Winter is here with snow finally! Miss you.
Lisa K
January 14, 2005
Hey Vick.. We miss you A TON! i love you! Liz and I are going to try and BE STRONG.. but its hard cause your gone... im at J.O. and got both the saddles! and liz and kristen made these really cool necklace things that have your picture on them and have things you would say so that you will always be with us when we ride!
love you and miss you Lisa
January 13, 2005
Hi Vickster!
Miss ya tons! We are having VERY cold weather now...too cold to ride unfortunatly. I miss you a lot, especially recently. Lisa & I will BE STRONG! Always thinking of you!
LL
January 12, 2005
Hey Vick!
I miss you, but I know you are close by. Your vicky wisdom is in all of your sudents, to not only POST BIG but live in a big way, to accept the challenge. You TRULY made your mark. I Love You!
-sa-
January 10, 2005
Another year has passed, 2005 already! Think about you often especially when I'm blocking that outside shoulder. I am getting an arthritic rein finger on the right. Getting very old!!!!!
Happy New Year.
December 7, 2004
Hey Vick!
I miss you. Just been riding other's horses as usual. Still looking for a riding instructor that I liked as much as you. All is well though and I am having fun. But I still miss you!
November 23, 2004
Time is slipping by, Thanksgiving already. One of your favorite times.........lots of good food!!!!! I am thankful for the time we had with you, even if some of the time it was physically painful!!!!!!! No pain, no gain.
Happy Thanksgiving, dear friend.
Lisa Kellenberger
November 15, 2004
Hey Vick. Its been a while I guess but I'm still really sad and I can't get over it! I wish you were here, thanks again for everything. I think about you a lot. Everytime I ride and more. I'm going to clean my tack sometime :), oil my bridle! haha... I miss you a ton and none of my friends (besides Liz - haha...) seem to get it.. Im trying my best not to cry, cause I no you wouldnt want that. But the tears seem to keep coming. Thanks again for everything Vicky I love you a ton! It was hard at the Pony Cup when i got eliminated and you weren't there to say go over the oxer - you suck! Instead Nancy was saying oohh its alright, i need a tough instructor like you. The CSDEA banquet was good, I didn't win anything, we all missed you a ton. Sarah Alt won the Vicky Memorail Trophy. Love you Vicky. Lisa
November 8, 2004
Ralph Hill was here this weekend. First time I have rode with him. I know now, why you liked him so much. He is looking at your horses this am. The weather has continued to be fairly nice, just a little cooler.
November 4, 2004
A beautiful week. I happened to have Wednesday off of work, and of course knowing the way my mind works.............I could ride the HUNT! My new horse has not seen a hound or heard a horn, but he was incredible! Just like I knew he would be. He found it all very interesting and I found it all marvelous!!! Beautiful country and colors. Happy hounds and riders, quite a change. I have learned to appreciate the little things, knowing it does not last.
I see things differently now, miss you.
November 4, 2004
Beautiful time of the year, you would love it. I know this is a great time in my life, but I'm finding it difficult. I am losing friends, and I know it is a sign of the times. Myron, You, Max, Paul, and Claire. Not fun........
I keep all of you in my heart and thoughts, you have become presious memories and thus a treasure.
Liz
October 21, 2004
Vickster,
Had a good end of the year. Otter Creek went well, we got 7th. I took her to MN Harvest H/J show. It was a fun experience. Could have used you though. Missing you a lot, it is a great time of year, as you probably know, leaves are very pretty colors. Thinking of you and all the cool horses you are probably riding! Thanks again for everything!
October 20, 2004
The weather is getting chilly. I think of you in your layers of riding clothes and cats!
Alex Austin
October 19, 2004
I just heard from Kathy Adams about Vicky's tragic accident. I'm so very sorry and sad. I'm in New Jersey now, and both my horses have died, but i still depend on and cherish her valuable instruction about horses and life.
October 10, 2004
Wow! It was a beautiful weekend, sunny, blue skies, and no bugs. Perfect trail riding weather. Rode in David's clinic, hard to understand that I have to hear over and over to block the outside shoulder. When does it become muscle memory? You were missed this weekend.
October 5, 2004
Think about you a lot, mostly with a sense of loss. David is coming this week, you will miss it.
CJ
September 20, 2004
Thank you for the memories. I will miss you.
Grant Brekke
September 14, 2004
Vickie,
You will always be remembered, and never forgotten. I know you are clearing some big fences on a great horse; having a blast, smiling at last. Take care Vick, love, Grant
Pickles&Jackie Dillman
September 12, 2004
Vicky, It seems so wrong to think that we wont be having anymore of your (next projects)in the barn over the winter, you are already greatly missed up here in the north country. Thank you so much for the friendships that we've made through you, in your area of the equine industry.Yes leave it to you to prove that cowboys and dressage/hunter-jumper people can learn a little something from each other. I think we all have the same goals in life, Great friends and Great horses, You provided both! Thank you Vicky,God Bless You. Pickles Dillman
Valerie Wilcox
September 11, 2004
Dear Vickie,
It’s been almost a week since you’ve been gone. It’s taken me that long to gather my head together. I’ve been a little “out of brain” as you would say. I decided to write you in hopes somehow you will see it. You always believed in all that spiritual stuff in a way I never did, and that's good enough for me. I take some comfort in that maybe it might be true, and so I'm writing just in case. I swear to God I was going to call you last week. I took my horse out for the first time in a year and decided to start training again. I rode at a friend's ring that morning and practiced and I heard your voice in my head, "Don't lean, don't lean, DON'T LEAN!!! OH YOU LEEEANED AT IT!!!" It made me smile. I was going to call you and tell you that you and Ron have to come out here and visit me. That the fall colors will be beautiful this year. And that there’s this lady who lives right on the rail trail and we could borrow one of her horses and go for a good gallop like we used to. I was going to tell you that I was hoping to get out there soon because I miss you and wanted to hang out with you. And even that when so much time goes by when we don't talk and then we just pick up where we left off and it's like no time has passed. And then I got the news. Like everyone else, I am heartbroken. I wish I could have been there for your funeral. I wish I could have seen you again. If wishes were horses...
It's been twenty years, old friend. In that time, and in all my travels, I have never met anyone quite like you. The times I spent with you were some of the most happiest times of my life. I don’t know which is more unbelievable; the fact that you have gone away, or the fact that someone as remarkable as you came into my life at all. For the latter, I will be forever grateful.
Goodnight sweet friend,
Val
On behalf of North Star Pony Club
September 10, 2004
No pity I ask, and no counsel I need,
But bring me, O, bring me, my gallant steed,
With his high arched neck, and his nostril spread wide,
His eye full of fire, and his step full of pride!
As I spring to his back, as I seize the strong rein,
The strength to my spirit returneth again!
-Grace Greenwwod, "The Horseback Ride"
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family and friends of Vicki. We have lost a real force in the horse community.
Kathryn Brandt
September 10, 2004
Although I'd like to go on and on about me and my loss and my memories and my heartsick tears, I know Vicky, not the emotional type, would tell me to get over it and carry on.
If anybody learned anything truly important from Vick, it wasn't about riding so much as it was about letting go of pettiness and negative thoughts; working hard and realizing goals.
Vick was the eldest child of seven children, and according to her, a mother to them all. Despite her belief that her role of "mother" was in the past, she parented many, even me. She just couldn't turn away a stray cat, an eager student, sharing a new experience, or helping to find a way to make the world make sense.
Vicky taught so much more than half pass, she taught people how to listen, value friends and realize that control is something you only have over yourself.
Yoga, spa day, horse shows, dancing until dawn, essential oils, theater, nutrition, blood type, World Cup - all these things and so much more - Thank you Vicky for being my friend, I miss you terribly and always will. Happy Trails - until we meet again.
Alyson Berg
September 9, 2004
My deepest sympathy to family, friends and all who Vicky touched. Although I didn't train with you as often as others. The time we did spend working together was memoriable. Not just because you made me work hard, but you believed that I could get over that cross country jump and made me believe it too. I wish I would of had more time to spend and learn from you. But what I did learn will stay with me always.
God Bless those that were closest to you.
Alyson Berg and Berg Family
Kevin Holen
September 9, 2004
Few events in my life have brought forth more tears than the sudden loss of our beloved friend Vicki. Vicki held a special place in the hearts of our "barn family". She was an inspiration to everyone and a calming influence whenever one was needed. She was the clear voice of reason in our often busy, chaotic world.
She exhibited great humanity in her relationships with both the people and animals who were lucky enough to be associated with her.
It never ceased to amaze me that "her" cats would gather in a literal herd around her whenever she was present at the barn. I know the animals miss her as much as we do, many still sit by her tack room door waiting patiently for a friend who will never return.
Her unconventional thinking and very often abstract viewpoints kept us all mentally stimulated. You could count on Vicki to provide a unique perspective. She was one who truly thought outside of the box (stall?).
In death as in life, Vicki chose her own way and she "died with her boots on" (watch the movie, SECOND HAND LIONS).
She was one of the few persons I have known that truly gave meaning to the word "life".
We should all strive to "BE LIKE VICKI" (Well, maybe a few less cats...)
Vicki, you will be missed, but your memory, your wisdom and your inspiration will live on in us all. Until we meet again...
And yes Vicki, I will water the arena.
shannon Dee
September 9, 2004
to the family and friends of victoria my deepest sympathy.
Kim Hiller
September 9, 2004
I was fortunate to spend two years taking lessons from Vicki making the weekly trek to Monticello. She was a great teacher who put her whole self into teaching. I always felt that it was important to her that you "got" it and she wouldn't give up on you until you did.
I can picture so clearly her morning ritual - opening her tack room was a signal to the all the barn cats to come running, then she would empty the water containers in the arena and get fresh water for the cats. I also remember how she took the time to win over and tame Oreo when he showed up near death, until he got it that people were worth knowing. The last time I saw him he was pretty adamant about getting petted - a far cry from when he first arrived. Even though the strength of her spirit lives on through the lives that she has touched, she is still sorely missed.
Lisa Kellenberger
September 8, 2004
If it wasnt for Vicky I'd probly still be learning how to hold the reigns. She has taught me so much through out the years. I can't believe she really isn't going to be here, it hasn't quite hit me that she wont ever be teaching me lessons again.But every lesson wasn't just a lesson, she often stayed for lunch and asked questions about your life outside of horses (I know I know.. what else is there besides horses??) She would always listen to everything you had to say, and she always had an answer to your question. I remember at Trott Brook - my first show with Chandler. He was just diagonosed with an absess in his right hind and stomach ulsers a two nights before the show. During dressage warm up Vicky and my mom were standing in the middle and i was circling around them.Vicky kept telling me how Chandler was fine, "Take him in the ring you'll be fine, if anything its that clampy right leg thats making him look like he's lame!" and then she wouldn't say something for a minute or two, and I'd glance at the middle of the circle and i could see her telling my mom that he was off, and it wasnt just my right leg.So when i cantered he was much worse and i got off.. Then 10 minutes before I had to go into the ring my dad came biking up to me tear stained face as i watched the other competitors ride there dressage tests. He told me to get on his bike and get back on because Kim had given chandler some badamean and he'll be fine. So of course i got on the bike and tacked him up again - I trotted to the dressage ring, trotted straight to the bit check and then right into the dressage ring. Vicky was up at the XC warming up my sister when i did my dressage round. So when they both came walking back to the trailer and i told them the news Vicky was ecstatic. I can't even explain the look on her face. That's the thing about her, she's always so proud of you, and there's something about her that makes you feel so good inside. When she says good job, it really means something. And the littlest thing - like, unclamping your right leg (A Kellenberger problem)felt like a HUGE accomplishment when you finally softened it. She would always tell me that whenever she said good job that i would suddenly get all relaxed and stop doing whatever i had just done. Vicky was always so in touch with everything, from her horses and herself to you and your horse. She has known me since i was born because of my older sisters and she started giving me lessons when i was very young. She felt like a family member to us and it feels like something is missing because she is no longer here, though i no shes still with us and will be forever. And i no all she wanted was for her students to progress- and she did the most she could do to help - and thank you so much vicky! you did a lifetime of teaching for me and my family.
When we were pulling out of the Trott Brook driveway.. I remember saying - Vicky Vicky - chandler has been doing this hiccupy coughy thing all day. Instead of saying something like, well its okay, or maybe you should call the vet. She said - well keep watch over it he'll evauntly get better, its just this certain aterary... that gets to close to his heart and when his heart beats you here that sound. And i asked what would happen if it didnt go away, and she said well just keep watch - it will go away, nothings gonna happen if it doesnt. Vicky has taught me so much - she unlike any other trainer she's an amazing rider and person and i love her to peaces! Thank you so much Vicky!
Bethe, Lauren and Ryan Hattara
September 8, 2004
It hit me like a ton of bricks,
When I heard of your sudden death;
I stood in silence and disbelief,
And blindly held my breath.
This just can’t be, I must be dreaming,
It has to be a mistake;
Life simply cannot be so cruel,
As this beautiful life to take.
You touched our lives in many ways,
And shared your wealth of knowledge;
Not just about horses or riding techniques,
We were students of Vicky’s Life College.
Your passion was clear and words sometimes strong,
Your energy often intense,
Our egos would occasionally take some lumps,
As you prepared us to face each fence.
How did you see that inside leg,
Or know what our horse was feeling?
You had such an uncanny sense of knowing
Your spirit powerful and ever-healing.
I came to know you because of my kids,
As their trusted mentor and guide;
You toughened them up as they faced new challenges,
And led them through to the other side.
When we needed help in the search for our mounts,
Your opinions were honest and direct;
We always knew our decision was right,
With you, it was what we came expect.
You prepared us well for ratings and shows,
With circle torture, grid work and bending;
We were tired and mentally drained at times,
But your drive was simply unending.
Lauren promises to release Artie’s right rein,
“Flicking hips” and “riding messy” to lengthen his stride;
She’ll put him together and keep him “in brain”,
To excel in their next cross country ride.
Ryan vows ride with a “manly chest” and hold onto his reins,
But, more importantly, he wants you to know;
When he hugs Orphan’s neck and looks into his eyes,
He’ll see you looking back saying “Let’s Go!”
So, thank you, dear Vicky, for all you have shared,
The lessons we’ve learned, we’ll retain;
We’ll build bricks upon the foundation you laid,
In our family’s heart you’ll always remain.
Polly Franks
September 8, 2004
I just want to say how sorry I am at the loss of a truly remarkable friend. Vickie was so giving and totally unselfish. We meet few people who possess the high standards she held.
She will be greatly missed.
Robert Huffman
September 8, 2004
Like everyone, I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear of Vicky’s death; my mind was instantly flooded with all my memories of her. When I first met Vicky I thought, “who was this Owl eyed, skinny women and what was she going to teach me?” Like the Owl she was very wise and watchful. Her skill as a XC / dressage instructor was unmatched. I always felt confident that when Vicky said it was safe to jump it was. Vicky’s best instruction, however, was given outside the ridding area. She taught this uptight man to loosen up and have some fun. There’s so much about Vicky that I’m going to miss:
The competitor
The laughter
The dancing
The sense of humor
The caring
The honesty & candor
Most of all I’m going to miss having someone in my life that would ask how I was doing and then listen to the answer.
May God bless Vicky Harris.
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Lisa Borzynski
September 8, 2004
Like everyone, I am still in shock over the news. She touched many people's lives in many ways. We will always have our special memories of her. I for one will always think of her when I smell lavender or peppermint oil or the other wonderful aromas when travelling to shows with her. Deepest sympathies to Ron and her family. Ride like the wind, Vicky!
Sue Johnson
September 8, 2004
Vicky was a great teacher and friend. I have ridden and worked with Vicky for the last few years. She spent so much time teaching and showing me many things. She always had time to answer a question or help with a problem no matter who you were. She was dedicated to her horses, students, friends, and the sports of eventing and dressage. Vicky will be gratly missed by me and everyone whos life she touched. Her love of riding will go on through her many students.
Tracy Jennings
September 8, 2004
I learned so much from Vicky, not only as a rider, but as a human being. She instilled confidence, encouraged forward movement and forward thinking, always saw the positive in every person and animal, captured the smallest accomplishments and made them feel grand. I was looking forward to having the time to take more lessons in the fall. It just shows there is no time like the present and that we can not take anything for granted. I will miss you Vick, but your energy surrounds us all-always. I am honored to have known you. Until we meet again, Bijou's mom,
Erin & Bob Owen
September 7, 2004
Our sincerest sympathies go to you Ron and to Vicky’s family. My husband and I were lucky enough to meet Vicky a few years back. We have truly learned a lot from her. She will be sadly missed and Tuesday evenings after RDP’s just won’t be the same around the barn. Vicky had so much to share. Lessons went long after we had dismounted from our horses. Long talks about horses, riding and life lessons were just part of the deal. We will always hear your voice telling us to “keep riding”! Vicky you were an amazing woman and you will remain forever in our hearts.
Love,
Erin & Bob
Liz Lund
September 7, 2004
Vicky was an amazing person. Not just with horses, but everything. She taught me a lot. I started riding with her in August of 2003 untill Trott Brook 2004. She helped me through the death of a horse I was riding this July. She said that animals aren't scared to die and neither is she. She said that when you die you come back as another life form. I know that Vicky wasn't ever scared. She always made everything okay when you were scared. The most recent horse I have been riding, Newsy, Vicky was the only one to believe that she would be a good horse. People thought that she was just crazy. Without her help I wouldn't have been able to do so well at Trott Brook, coming in 2nd and Newsy's 2nd event at Novice level. She is an amazaing riding instructor and knew how to mold you to make everything flow together. I felt like she was an instructor who didn't just say good job all the time, but when she did, you knew it was true. Lisa Kellenberger and I once talked at a Otter Creek clinic for 2 hours in the pool by ourselves about Vicky and how much we loved her and depended on her and how everyone should take lessons from Vicky. I didn't just learn about riding horses from her. She taught me about shoeing, and how she took care of her own horses feet, all about her oils, all about her beliefs on life. She gave me 2 movies and a book to read about her beliefs. I would have long talks with her on Weds nights at Katy and David Holub's after lessons and dinner when everyone else went to bed. We would sometimes talk till 12:30 on a school night, I just never wanted to leave and there was always a question to ask her that she could answer. I still had so much I wanted to learn from her and do with her. Now she is teaching us the biggest lesson of all, not having to depend on her and knowing that we can do what we want if we just believe in ourselves. She always believed her herself and knew that she could do anything if she wanted to. She left this world how she wanted to, with the horses and her friends and family. She was an amazing person and someone I looked up to a lot and I will miss her very very much. No one else will be able to touch me like she did. I LOVE YOU VICKY!
Sarah Bandt-Alt
September 7, 2004
Victoria has a way of making everything "all right". Thank you for beliving in me and making so many dreams come true. love you -sa-
Janet Bridgland
September 7, 2004
Vicky has been an extraordinary teacher, mentor and friend in so many arenas of our lives, not only those related to the horse world. Fearless grace - an unusual combination - are words that come to mind to describe her. She was pure energy and all heart. Once again, she is blazing the path for us. Go in peace, Vicky, knowing that you taught us well and your legacy continues.
Kristin Hodnefield
September 7, 2004
Vicky Harris was a respected teacher as well as a great competitor. Although I only met Vicky a couple of times, when I heard her give her lessons to a friend of mine she sounded so knowledgeable in what she was saying, and I learned a great deal from her just by listening, and had hoped I could have had a lesson from her, her death was very tragic and my greatest sympathy's go out to her friends, family and students and I know that no one will ever forget her.
anita BOYD
September 7, 2004
When I first saw Vicki teach 3 years ago I thought, this is the one for Sally! She was tough, intuitive, & fair. I worked off Sally's lessons, and a few of my own. When I put something on backwards she would walk by in her casual way and say, "that's backwards" letting me figure things out for myself. It was interesting to work for her and I learned as much from watching her ride and teach as from riding myself. There has never been an instructor who taught us more. What will we do without her?? Love you V. Anita
Vicky with friends at the 2003 Las Vegas World Cup
Linda Murphy
September 7, 2004
I guess I always thought Vicky would be here. I, too, can not believe she is gone so soon. When I moved here 16 years ago, Vicky taught me dressage on Grandeur and Buddy. Then, for cross country, she took my hunter jumping style and made me appreciate why eventers jumping style is slightly different. I remember her warning me over a down hill jump, "Linda, get forward like that before the fence again and if your horse stops,or hits the fence with his front legs at all, you will be flat on your face on the ground." How true. Somehow Vicky always knew what to say to get you to do it right the next time. Always straight forward, always a smile on her face.
For years, our pony clubbers at Lead Hound Pony Club have learned from Vicky. They, like so many, are heart broken at the sad news. Her students would ride for Vicky, showing her how they could apply what she had tried so hard to teach them. Vicky loved to train and coach the kids and I saw her at Trott Brook this weekend with her students and she was smiling big time.
I am submitting a picture of Vicky with that famous smile, taken from a fun trip with friends to the 2003 Las Vegas World Cup. I will miss you Vicky. Lead Hound Pony Club will miss you. You taught us all so much.
My deepest sympathies go out to Ron, Vicky's family and her many, many friends.
Linda Murphy
& Lead Hound Pony Club
Julie Stenslie
September 7, 2004
Vicky's love for horses and teaching was evident in the work she did with both young riders and young horses. I admire her for the devotion she showed and the efforts she made. While the horse community will greatly miss her, my heart goes out to Ron and her family.
Vicky teaching pony club kids
John Pierro
September 7, 2004
The heart and mind still won't let us think of Vicky as gone, but then she truley isn't. Vicky lives on in my children and all the kids and adults she has taught over the years.
Vicky had been the foundation of Lead Hound Pony Club's riding program for years. I'm so glad that on her last day she saw so many of them do so well at Trott Brook. Every time I saw her she had a smile on her face.
My kids are having a hard time now but I know, with time's healing, they will remember and be inspired by the little lady with the big voice, Vicky.
Lori Kjeseth
September 7, 2004
Ron and Vicky's family,
My deepest sympathies. I can't believe she's really gone. Vicky has been my trainer and very good friend for 10 years. We were at Spring Gait together and at Freedom for the past few years. She was an awesome rider, an awesome trainer and had a great eye for horses. She found my horse, Diva, for me, so in Diva I will always have a little piece of Vicky with me. I *loved* taking lessons from Vicky and loved watching her ride; I learned so much from her. She was so generous with her time and had the patience of a saint. She had such passion when she taught; I looked so forward to every lesson even after all these years. There were no ordinary lessons. She also cared about each and every one of her students, their horses and what was going on in their lives. There will never be another Vicky. I loved her and will miss her forever.
With great sadness,
Lori and "Diva"
Judy Conger
September 7, 2004
WOW!!! this really hits home. makes me realize how short life is and important every second is. I guess this will be Vickies legacy to me. Known her forever it seems. will never forget her and her big mare she showed aganst me in Dressage. Also will always remember her at Trott brook, galloping cross country, at what seemed to me to be flying at great speeds. Good by to a great rider and all around great person. I am sure she is up in heaven riding Gods horses.
Sarah Lund
September 7, 2004
The last words I remember Vicky saying to Liz on Sunday at Trott Brook were, "Ride like the wind over that ditch!" Weekly dinners at Holubs farm with Vicky after her lesson were a highlight for Liz. Vicky not only shared her great love and knowledge of riding, but her views of life and death, nutrition and natural health remedies, and so much more. She will live on in many ways, in many hearts.
Sarah Lund
Jennie Hakes
September 7, 2004
Vicky was one of the most unusual, unforgettable, and talented horse people I have known. She was truly her own person and had picked her path in the world and the way she wanted to live it. She exuded confidence and I couldn't help but pick up a little more confidence just being around her. She opened my mind to alternative ways of caring for horses (not that I followed all of them!).
I have been thinking back to the XC Rider Development Program, which is where I really got to know Vicky. It was so obvious how much she loved and doted on her horses, and was so willing to share that love and knowledge with others. I remember going to "away" shows and always finding Vicky there, ready to sit on a hay bale and talk, and later to go out for a drink (or more!) at the end of a long cross-country day. My eyes are tearing up again as I write this. Most recently we caught up on things when we both had our horses worked on by Dr. Showmaker, and a week later at Trott Brook. I asked her if it felt funny not to be showing at Trott Brook, and she laughed so hard and said that coaching was much easier and less stressful. And we watched Orphan truck around the stadium course and I could see how proud she was of this horse and the young rider who was showing him.
Vicky was an such a rock in the local eventing circle, I can't imagine the sport without her.
Car ride to ottercreek-Vicky and her bionicle
September 7, 2004
Victoria at 2003 Leadhound Pc Awards
September 7, 2004
Mary Kay Myrmel
September 7, 2004
Vicky,
I can't imagine the eventing community without you. You were a second mom to Michelle when she needed lots of moms. Your dedication to riding and getting the best from your riders inspired many. Your legacy - the many wonderful eventing riders from this area.
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