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Brian J. Anderson

Brian Anderson Obituary

Brian J. Anderson, aka The Door Man, passed away suddenly but peacefully the night of April 23rd. He was the beloved husband of Dyutisundari Dana, the wonderful and devoted father of Jahnavi and Jake, and the cherished brother of Lloyd and Jeff.

All of his family and friends are fortunate and grateful to have had the association of such a gracious soul.

A memorial gathering to celebrate Brian's life will be held at Oakwood Chapel, 3301 Paul Sweet Road, Santa Cruz, CA 95065, on Saturday May 3rd from 2:00 to 4:00pm. All are welcome.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Courier-Journal from Apr. 30 to May 2, 2008.

Memories and Condolences
for Brian Anderson

41 Entries

Susan (Kandler) Alintoff

March 16, 2009

I just recently heard this sad news about Brian's passing. I knew Brian in high school. We were in many classes together, and I will always remember his kindness and gentle manner. He was such a sweet guy. My deepest condolences to his family.

Ron Matthias

August 8, 2008

Kind, caring, and happy. That is how I remember Brian---although it's been 34 years since I last spoke with him. I am saddened to learn of his passing, and deeply sorrowed for the loss to his many friends and loved ones.

Todd Williams

May 13, 2008

Seems like I've always known Brian, and knew of him even before I was taken unawares by his charm. The music, laughs, bagels, garlic and wine we shared will be with me always. Soft-spoken, generous, kind, loving and supportive, the truest of friends. I moved to calif 22 years ago at Brian's invitation to finish a game of go he had started thru the mail and to polish off a few old songs. Never looked back.
Brian was unique, always had a different take on things, a different
rhythm, fair-minded, careful to see all sides. I lived the good life while in his company, he had that certain zest that made everything fun.
He patiently taught me to keep my fingers when dealing with a table saw or chop saw, tried to teach me not to rush. I always felt protected under his bear-like embrace. Not exactly sure how much of him is a part of me, but it is the good parts. Hurts so much to see him go on, but I will always treasure our times together. Too soon gone, I expect he went on ahead to set up the net for us. As all things must pass, these bodies must just be things holding our place in this world. I guess the lesson is to love, cherish and appreciate the time I have with all of you.
To Dana, Jahnavi and Jake, all my love.

Joshua Golden

May 13, 2008

Brian and I went to Clarke High School together and with Billy and Todd and Dana . We spent alot of time playing music. To this day I cant sing "Going Down The Road" without see his smiling face with the chin pointing to heaven. He was the happiest person I knew. High harmonies and soulful harp. I havent seen him since 1978, but asked about him often. Brian- with you its always a perfect summer day in youth, with endless time to spend, the body not knowing fear.
"Goin where the water tastes like wine- yeah!!- I aint gonna be treated this-a way...."
Josh Golden, Westbury NY

Joe Little

May 13, 2008

As Brian's cousin we grew up near each other on Long Island and spent many family holidays together. I will always remember him as a warm, sensitive individual with an incredibly inquisitive mind. His perspective gave me pause and insight. He was unique and I am grateful to have spent some quality time with him as a young boy.

Dana Dubbs

May 13, 2008

Dearest Dana,

The circle will never be broken. Mystically unlooped, but forever holding fast. Brian watches and smiles upon you.

All my love to you, Jahnavi and Jake,

Dana

Fred Haas

May 12, 2008

I met Brian at 14, and became friends for life. His warmth and love for everything in life never diminished to the very end. His friendship was a blessing. Brian leaves the world a better place, and I know in my heart that he has gone on to greater things. All of my love goes to Dana, Jahnavi and Jake, as well as Lloyd, Jeff, and all of our mutual friends.

Bhagavad Gita

May 10, 2008

For the soul there is neither birth nor death.
Nor, having once been, does it ever cease to be. The soul is unborn and eternal, undying and primeval. It is ever youthful, yet ancient. It is not destroyed when the body is destroyed.

Heng Shun

May 10, 2008

Brian was a wonderful human being. I'm grateful that I got to meet him in this lifetime.

Daisy Patrick

May 9, 2008

My Dear Dana~
Brian has left a legacy of love that will always live on in you.
With Sympathy and Love ~ Daisy, Jim and family

Marilyn and John Tessitore

May 9, 2008

Brian was an original. We knew that immediately when our son, Tom,brought him to our house during his hight school days. He was polite, witty and obviously quite intelligent. He was different - and we enjoyed his visits.It was our pleasure to have known him.

Tanya Canada-White

May 8, 2008

Brian has always reminded me of my mom's favorite poem written appropriately by anonymous.

"Wide wide in the roses side
lives a child without sin
and any man who loves in this world
stands there on guard over him..."

Thank you Brian for watching out for me.

I send my love to the family.
Jake, you know...

Melanie Bricker-White

May 8, 2008

What a warm and wonderful man. We lived next door to Brian, Dana and Jake for years in Ukiah. (weren't we lucky) Mostly I remember that genuine smile that let you know immediately Brian wished you well anytime you crossed his path. Somehow you were always better for the encounter. His wishes came true it seems. (powerful little man) The truth of him is a treasure. We've been missing the family since they moved back to Santa Cruz, but there is always later right? Wrong, the world has been permanently altered by the loss of Brian. We are permanently blessed to have memories of him. They come with a song and a smile that warms my heart. Dana, Jake , Jonavi, we send Brian's style of "wish you well" and our unspoken love for all you've been to us for years.

dsdd

May 8, 2008

b~
thanks for all the precious gifts.
always, all ways,
dyuti

Ken Stateman

May 5, 2008

Brian was a high school friend of mine. He was the guy you went to to discover the next thing in your life that needed discovering. It always seemed that he was in the know of what was just around the corner. I remember when he introduced me to Krishnamurti, I knew before delving into it that it would be something that would matter. The sweetest, most loving, guy you would ever want to meet. The very definition of "a good man" -- is there any higher compliment than that. The world will miss you Brian.

Jeff Anderson

May 5, 2008

Everyone who knew Brian has something from him, from the memory of a good laugh to a razor sharp tool to a finely crafted window or door. The list goes on, you know which ones you’ve got. Brian was always giving … his time, his effort, understanding, patience, humor, love. He gave it all. And we keep it too, for years, for a lifetime … because it’s the best we ever had. And in the years to come, Brian will always be smiling, helping, sharing … still giving. I will miss my little brother.

Priya Butler

May 3, 2008

I knew Brian for most of my life, he was always a kind, smiling face. He was also one of the most patient people I have ever met, it requires great patience to teach a then 19 year old girl how to use powertools! I am reminded of Brian often, every tiny bit of "handiness" I have I learned from him.
My love goes out to his family and friends, he will be greatly missed.

Vaidehi Normand

May 3, 2008

I grew up with Brian’s children who beautifully reflected his kind gentle nature. When I think of Brian the word that comes to mind is generous. We all have good days and bad days and for most of us that has some influence on our dealings with the people around us. But for Brian he never seemed to have a bad day or bring anyone's spirits down, he only uplifted the environment he was in. And even now, in his absence, he is doing us all a service by reminding us how temporary this life is. He reminds us that unexpectedly, the one’s we love or ourselves can leave at any minute. As soon as I heard about Brian's passing away, my heart felt overwhelmed with love for everyone one dear to me, that I should not take anyone for granted. I feel so grateful for this realization. He has done so much for everyone in his life. I feel fortunate to have known Brian.

Alison Zuber

May 2, 2008

Oh Sweet Ones,
What sadness to hear of Brian's passing -
an angel gone angelward.
May those he loved be held in grace.

In Isla Vista, we will be gathering tomorrow (Saturday, May 3rd) as well - celebrating Brian's life at 3:00 in Anisq' Oyo' Park (in the center of town). We will come together to sing, share stories, juggle in silence and then go together to the Co-op. All are welcome, please come join us.
Hands together, we lift in love, the life of our friend.

KrsnaPriya dd & Family

May 2, 2008

I first met Brian here at the Soquel Seva Ashram almost 5 years ago. He helped install the windows on Tulasi devi's house. He was always friendly, smiling,sweet and always ready to lend a helping hand. Just the week before he left he once again attended to Tulasi Devi's windows. When ever I go into Tulasi's house I think of his kindness and I pray to Srimate Tulasi Devi to guide him to Lord Sri Krsna's lotus feet.
I pray that Dyuti Sundari , Jahnavi and Janardan will find strength in this difficult time. Our affectionate prayers are with you all.

Jahnava Anderson

May 2, 2008

This is for Brian's Daughter Jahnavi...I don't know you or your family but the reason I'm writing this is because when I heard about your dad passing my heart sank for you. My mom just suddenly passed away a few months ago so I do know what you are going through my heart goes out to you and your family! Our names have been mixed up numberous times over the years...I couldn't belive someone else had my name, when I was born it was Jahnavi then changed to Jahnava. Anyway I just want to let you know we have never met but I've heard your name so many times when I read this I felt the need to tell you that you are in my thoughts and prayer! I wish you and your family all the best. I am very sorry for your loss.

Don Gardner

May 2, 2008

In his gentle way, Brian spread good cheer, and warm welcome. A fine wood worker, he took care with people too, making the joining places snug, and strong, creating a pleasing whole out of different parts. At parties he saw that everyone took part in food and fun, and did the cleanup so others could relax. A good and giving man, a wise and patient father. I am better for knowing him.
-Don

ramai

May 2, 2008

My first experience with Brian was when he came and set up the doors at the temple. i couldn't help not notice how genuinely happy he was all the time. Then several times later i saw he and Dyuti Sundari on their tandem around the area. From that i came to know that one who knows how to work well and also not under estimate the power of a good bike ride cannot but be healthy, wealthy and wise.

max randomness

May 2, 2008

Lloyd, Jeff, Jahnavi, Janardan, and Dyuti, I will be thinking of you and how much Brian loves you. Brian, I will miss your fuzzy, smiling, face, but your gentleness, patience, and generosity will continue to inspire me forever. love max

Srutasrava das

May 2, 2008

"The Beatles sang, "How does it feel to be one of the Beautiful People?" Brian was one of the beautiful people. It was always a pleasure to be around him. Although he worked in the construction trade his entire adult life, he was also a gentle man. He was kind, generous, compassionate and always friendly. If you needed some help, he was always ready to pitch in. The occasions that I was fortunate enough to work with him were not only extremely educational, but also very pleasant. Although he was so expert in what he did, he was also very humble, which made him one of the truly beautiful people. I hope to be in his prayers.

Kumkum Dasi

May 1, 2008

What a wonderful life to celebrate. Although our missing him is so much, really seems like too much, Brian lives on in the loving thoughts of everyone who knew him and will always affectionately speak together about him. There is only progress towards light now.

Nandarani

May 1, 2008

I have never met Brian but I have heard of his many gracious qualities. My deepest sympathy is with his family. May his family have courage in this time of sorrow.

Swarup Hebel

May 1, 2008

Seems the good -- they die young.

We did not know Brian but whenever his name was mentioned by mutual friends it was always with deep respect, admiration and affection.

Our condolences go out to you Dyutisundari, Jahnavi and all Brian's family & close friends.

Sincerely,
Bhagavac-citta & Swarup

Angel Rose

May 1, 2008

An acquaintance of mine who had been a friend of Brian's came to me. He told me that his friend Brian whom he loved very much had passed. He was very sad. He began telling me about Brian when I felt the presence of such a sweet soul surround me. He came through very clearly and I was overwhelmed with his sweetness and kindness. He counseled my acquaintance with love, truthfulness and clarity. We were so grateful for this unexpected gift of his loving spirit. I felt a great healing as his energy surrounded me like a warm hug going out to my friend as well. I was astounded at the depth of unconditional spiritual sweetness and love that I felt in Brian's presence. He must have been and still is a wonderous being. I am sure he will continue to bless his beloved family and friends with his wisdom, sweetness, guidance, protection and that deep deep unconditional love.

Noreen (Nandita) Monahan

May 1, 2008

Theres a kind of hush all over this small world of ours in which Brian surfaced. I will miss his sweetness that shone brightly throughout his journey in this life. Death is but the beginning. Nandita (Auntie)

Swarnangii

May 1, 2008

I cannot think of Brian and not smile because of his smile. He had a twinkle in his eye that seemed to lift you up and help you deal with life in a positive way. With his kind heart and gentle nature he exhibited tolerance, humility and gave honor to everyone, qualities that give one entrance to real spiritual life. I feel blessed to have known him.
Swarnangii

laura bayley

May 1, 2008

Dana, may the light shine on both you and your husband. Laura

Julie Graef

April 30, 2008

A Poem gift to Brian's family (written by my sweet sister before she passed away)
The sands sift and drift
yet the relentless rhythm
of those pounding, pulsing waves
echoing through the ages
like the heartbeat for the universe
remain the same.
The tiny creatures stir
in the stately forest
under the fallen leaves,
and the birds amidst the red and
orange and green, and even the very trees,
all come and go by stages.
But the wind and gentle breezes
blowing through the ages like the
breath of the universe
remain the same.
Millions of little fingers dance on the
strings of all those violins,
sounding so many Twinkling Little Stars.
Yet the same sweet song singing
through the ages like the voice of the
universe remain the same.
Though the nymphs leave their
hiding places and cupids dart about
to and fro,
take aim, and hit or miss;
and husbands and wives ad lovers
come and go;
and children are born and grow and multiply and die,
the love, especially of fathers and mothers, burning through the ages
like the soul of the universe
remain the same.
Though the willow weeps no more
near my garden door, her branches bare and drooping,
and the swan has found a new wooing, the still falling rain
like tears of the universe
remain the same.

Thank you Brian for your beautiful work and grace.

Kenna Krueger

April 30, 2008

When I made my move from the Midwest to California (Isla Vista) in the mid-70's Brian was one of my first friends. We shared housing together at Co-op West (in Isla Vista) for many years. I always admired and respected Brian's affinity for lending a helping hand where there was a need. Brian had a beautiful gentleness and sweetness about him. We had many great adventures together. Although, we have not been in touch for many years I have and will always consider him a friend and brother.

Ginger Bhakti

April 30, 2008

The shock that my friend Brian is no longer present is numbing, as death so often initially is. Our connection was many years past yet Brian's imprint on my life remains. I will be concretely reminded of him each time i ride the bike he made for me almost 30 yrs ago.
My compassion and open heart space for love and guidance goes out to Brian's closest people. Be gentle with yourselves in this overwhelming time of that which is initially so difficult to grasp.
Blessings for this difficult part of your journey, Ginger

Hal Macbeth

April 30, 2008

I have known Brian an Dana since the late 70's in Santa Barbara. I was taking a geology course at SBCC where I met Dana who also lived in Isla Vista where she introduced me to Brian.
We became close friends from the start. I have never known a more gentle, caring man, always with that great smile of his. We shared many a meal, laughed and kept each other company for many years living in Isla Vista. My heart goes out to Dana, Jahnavi and Jake and to his brothers Lloyd and Jeff. This universe is a much better place to have had someone like Brian in it. He has touched many lifes to our good fortune. I will miss him in the current world but he will always live in my heart, with a smile.

dana anderson

April 30, 2008

b-
the silence
of the absence
of your physical presence
in our lives
is deafening.
-your grieving family,
d, j & jk

Acyuta Priya das

April 30, 2008

The other day Krsnalata didi and I were looking at some wonderful black and white photos that Jahnavi didi had taken of Dyutisundari didi, Brian, herself, and Janardan. We were remembering with much fondness the great visit we had with them in Hawaii in 2000. This was the only time that I really got to know Brian, and I was very impressed with his soft personality and obvious devotional mood. He was one of those very special devotees who only thinks about his service, and who does not want any praise or recognition. In the words and example of Srila Guru Maharaj we have become familiar with this type of person as "backward pushing." We loved him immediately and will always remember him fondly. Acyuta Priya das

Susan Kirkman

April 30, 2008

We will all miss our dear friend, Brian, The Door Man. Everyone who knew him felt his kindness. He was a gentle soul with a generous spirit.
Our heartfelt prayers are with his beloved family.
And such a beautiful, faithful, enthusiastic, and humble servant of the Devotees will have all auspiciousness in his life journey.
With love,
Sanatani Kirkman

Jonathan Steinberg

April 30, 2008

Brian was a treasured friend. Although we didn't see each other often in recent years, every chance meeting left me smiling. Just last week I went past the house we rented together in Isla Vista nearly 30 years ago. Time passes so fast! My memories of Brian are of his kindness and generosity. We were lucky to have him in our lives.

Brian Batchley

April 30, 2008

I am deeply saddened to recieve this news of Brian's passing. He taught me to love the harmonica. I am sure that he had no idea of how much affect he had on my life. I hope that he is always at peace wherever the journey takes him.

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