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John Ainslie Obituary

Ainslie, John Harrison

MADISON - John H. Ainslie passed away at his home, following a brief battle with cancer, on April 4, 2021. He was 73.

John was born on Oct. 16, 1947, in Ipin, China, the son of his medical missionary parents, Dr. Robert B. and Margaret Fay Ainslie. After fleeing the communist takeover in 1949, the family lived in the Philippines for three years. Eventually moving back to the states, they finally settled in Madison where John graduated from LaFollette High School in 1966. He went on to graduate from Ripon College in 1970 where he met and then married Chris, his wife and loving partner of nearly 50 years.

Following a stint in the U.S. Army, John worked in the insurance industry for both American Family Insurance and for the State of Wisconsin, a career he found both fulfilling and engaging. After retiring in 2013, John was able to pursue his many and varied interests. When he wasn't working in the garden, John enjoyed fly fishing, woodworking, singing with various community choirs, practicing tai chi, traveling with his wife, and learning about the geology of our beautiful country. He volunteered for the Sun Prairie Food Pantry and delivered meals for The Colonial Club. With a great love of learning, John enjoyed listening to lectures and taking classes his entire life, earning two master's degrees along the way.

John was preceded in death by his parents, Bob and Margaret Ainslie; and his brother, Tom. John is survived by his wife, Chris; his two sons, David (Triumph) and Ben (Stephanie Porter); his sister and two brothers, Sue (Roy Sellars), Fred (Chris) and Bill (Vicki); his sister-in-law, Terry; and his two delightful grandchildren, Paris and Henry.

John will be laid to rest in the columbarium at Holy Wisdom Monastery, the place of worship where he felt a deeply spiritual connection. His family will celebrate his life at gatherings later in the year. They wish to thank all the staff at SSM Health and SSM Health Hospice for their compassionate care over the last few months.


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Published by Madison.com on Apr. 11, 2021.

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Kathy Hoch

May 11, 2021

I was sorry to hear of John's passing. As organist, I always enjoyed having him in the choir at Lake Edge UCC and having conversations with him about various topics.
With sympathy - Kathy Hoch

Jennifer Krapf

April 14, 2021

John's absence is felt deeply by our centering prayer groups. We will miss his voice and his wonderful prayer notes book. Whether it was a book, a Great Course, Wisdom School, Silent Saturday, or a Cynthia Bourgeault class, it was always a pleasure hearing John's thoughts on a subject. May his memory be a comfort to Chris, their sons, and their family. I will miss John.

Liz Ainslie Peschman

April 12, 2021

Love to you all. I´m thinking of all of you and can´t wait until we get together and I can hug you like you should be hugged.

Anita Casper

April 12, 2021

Chris, my thoughts and prayers are for you and your family.

Diane Hensen

April 12, 2021

Thoughts and prayers to Chris and family. Hugs.

Mary Hartkopf

April 11, 2021

It was a joy to watch John as he walked through our neighborhood with such enthusiasm. I enjoyed singing with him in various choral groups and hearing his thoughtful reflections about life. He has left a warm footprint.

Kim Kohler and Joe Gruber

April 11, 2021

Joe and I worked with John at the DDB. He was always compassionate in his work and a true gentleman and friend. We all had many great conversations. John could discuss any topic with great knowledge. His sly smile and twinkling eyes will be missed. We are truly sorry for your loss.

Neal Newman

April 11, 2021

As do all of the Ainslies, John meant a lot to the Newman family. Even though I was very young I remember John going out of his way to help my oldest brother, Mark. When they were in HS at LaFollette, John and Mark were very close. But with all of Mark's health issues it was John who reached out to Mark. John was a loyal friend. My parents thought the world of John. Thoughts and prayers are with you...Neal Newman

Jan Thompson

April 11, 2021

My thoughts and prayers to the Anslie family. I enjoyed visiting with John while outside doing our lawn grooming. He will be dearly missed.

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