1949
2022
Tong, Lillian
MADISON - Lillian Tong was born in Rochester, NY on June 29, 1949 to Nancy (Lim) and Karl Tong, joining older sister Vivian to complete their family. Her father was a research chemist at Kodak while her mother managed the household. As one of the few Chinese families in the city at the time, their social life was largely centered on the close-knit Chinese community, though Lil appreciated the pot-luck dinners much more than the Chinese lessons that preceded them. The family's relatives were all living in California so the cross-country car camping trips every few years to visit family were highlights of her childhood. She enjoyed camping and visiting National Parks along the way, a theme she carried for the rest of her life.
Lillian was an excellent student and leader at Irondequoit High School, where she graduated in 1967. Remarkably, she maintained relationships for over 60 years with several other girls in her class, some of whom were in the same elementary school and Girl Scout troop. She looked forward to meeting with this group of "49ers" every five years in Rochester or Florida until the last meeting in 2019.
Lured by their Honors Program, she decided to go to college at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor where she majored in psychology. Lil quickly developed a serious interest in research and published several papers on psychophysics of visual illusions (e.g. "Probing 'twixt Poggendorff Parallels") as an undergraduate. She decided to continue studies in the physiology of vision and stayed at UM for graduate school where there was an active visual sciences community and completed a Ph.D. in electrophysiology of color vision in 1977.
Also of importance during this period, Lil met her future husband Tom Yin, a graduate student in engineering, through connections in Ann Arbor's relatively small Chinese student community. Their love and commitment to each other spanned over five decades. They married in Rochester in 1972. In an unconventional but perfect-for-them choice, instead of a traditional honeymoon, they asked for a canoe and backpacking equipment, and spent a week blissfully camping and canoeing in Northern Ontario. There ensued a few years when they were separated as Tom did post-doctoral stints in Buffalo for 9 months and then Baltimore for 3 years while Lil was finishing her dissertation in Ann Arbor. Coincidentally, Tom's field of study was also neuroscience. When Tom got a faculty position in the Department of Neurophysiology at the University of Wisconsin in 1977, they moved to Madison into the house that they have occupied for the last 45 years.
In 1980 the family expanded with the arrival of Eric, age 23 months, whom they adopted from Milwaukee. The family increased further in 1984 when they travelled to Taiwan to adopt a baby girl Laura, named for the favorite books of Ingalls Wilder. Numerous complications in the adoption process caused this trip – originally intended to be a matter of a week – to stretch into a month. The adoption was only possible through the help of one of Tom's aunts and the intervention of one of the close family friends from Rochester.
Lil continued doing research but the challenges of two young children and long experimental hours made her move to an administrative position with the Neuroscience Training Program in 1989. After returning from a sabbatical year in Australia in 1992, she was offered a job with the Center for Biology Education and with it she found her new passion: working with UW faculty to improve teaching and campus diversity. For the next 14 years she was instrumental in multiple campus-wide initiatives to engage faculty in undergraduate education, including Creating a Collaborative Learning Environment (CCLE), Instructional Materials Development (IMD), First Year Interest Groups (FIGs), Women in Science and Engineering Leadership Institute (WISELI) and the National Academies Summer Institutes, to name just a few. As she liked to put it, she was "teaching the teachers", despite the absence of any formal teaching credentials. Her success was reflected in being chosen to be a member of the Teaching Academy, one of the Outstanding Women of Color in 2014, and to the Campus Diversity Planning committee. In addition, she was on the Asian-American Studies Program Faculty Advisory Committee since its inception.
Throughout her life, Lil enjoyed travelling, a passion she shared with Tom and instilled in their children. Whether in China in the early years of that country's reopening to Western visitors where she was invited to give a research talk to the Institute of Physiology in Shanghai; Australia, England or continental Europe for academic conferences; backpacking in one of the great American National Parks; canoe camping in the wilderness expanse of Boundary Waters; or countless other places, Lil always had immense curiosity for cultural destinations, respect and love for being in nature, and a thirst to make the most of every moment of vacation. Notable were extended stays of a year in Brisbane, Australia in 1991 and 6 months in Shanghai in 2017, which gave her the opportunity to dive into the local culture in depth. Her literature collections and insistence on everyone waking up early to see every possible thing made every trip an adventure.
On top of working and raising a family, Lil made time for a remarkable number of hobbies, most of which she mastered to an astonishing degree. Although she always claimed to be only a passable pianist, she accompanied on the piano both of her children as they learned to play their own instruments. She was an enthusiastic participant and volunteer in the Wild Hog in the Woods Coffeehouse and the monthly Music Night for many years; this was an outgrowth of her lifelong love of folk music that was stimulated by many nights spent in the Ark, the legendary folk music venue in Ann Arbor. She has also been in countless recorder and ukulele groups. In later years she honed her skills in fiber arts, where she excelled at almost every step of the process of turning a sheep into a knitted work of art, sometimes dyed with indigo harvested in the back yard. A frequent volunteer at the Wisconsin Sheep and Wool Festival, where she demonstrated spinning techniques, she even considered buying an alpaca to help with the lawn mowing duties at home. Her last foray into fiber arts was to take a weaving course from a local expert. The many scarves, sweaters, hats, mittens, slippers, and other beautiful things she made for others are cherished by those who were lucky enough to receive them.
Lil was overjoyed with new additions to her family later in life. Eric and Jodi's three children: Josh, William, and Michael, were a constant source of joy. She enjoyed bragging about their exploits, spoiling them to death, sharing with them her love of arts and crafts, and entertaining them when they came to visit Madison.She taught Laura's long-time partner Sarah how to knit and the three of them enjoyed many hours playing ukulele and singing together. After retirement Lil was also very active in multiple ukulele groups in Madison including the Madison Area Ukulele Initiative (MAUI) and the Fitchburg Ukulele Network (FUN). She and Laura had fun volunteering to teach at One City Schools during the pandemic. She joined the board of the Lakeshore Nature Preserve and was the president-to-be until she became sick in her final year.
After a courageous battle with gall bladder cancer, Lil passed away peacefully at home surrounded by family on January 16, 2022. She is survived by her husband, Tom; son, Eric (Jodi Shields Yin); daughter, Laura (Sarah Hallas); grandsons: Joshua, William, and Michael and sister, Vivian Nagy. She will be remembered with love by the countless people whose lives she touched, enriched, and made better.
A memorial service will be held at the First Unitarian Society in Madison at noon on Saturday, March 12, 2022. The ceremony will be live-streamed and the event will be available on YouTube afterward. In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations to the Lakeshore Nature Preserve (https://lakeshorepreserve.wisc.edu/donate/), Carbone Cancer Center at the University of Wisconsin (https://www.uwhealth.org/philanthropy) or Wisconsin Public Radio (https://give.wpr.org/page/15344/donate/1).
Karin Kohlman
April 13, 2022
Dear Tom and family,
My deepest sympathies on the loss of Lillian. May all the lifetime memories of your travels up North and time together bring you some peace and comfort. I remember the beautifully handcrafted sweaters, hats and mittens she made for your family , the emotional support she provided to others and the stories about the weekend dinners you hosted to celebrate traditions and time with family.
Patricia Takemoto
March 12, 2022
I am so sorry that I was not able to be in Madison for Lil´s funeral. But even as far away as Hawaii, her passing was felt, puncturing the universe as her spirit soared up to the heavens. Lil had a beautiful Buddha-like aura around her. She possessed ethereal wisdom, a peaceful acceptance of her fate while also acknowledging the profound sadness of her untimely illness. She led such a wonderful and rich life, shared with Tom, Eric, Laura and their families, as well as her many friends and colleagues. I was amazed at her ability to experience and express joy, appreciation, and happiness even as she said farewell. Lil was a loving and wise master teacher, and we all have learned so much from her.
Margaret Lu
March 11, 2022
The four of us, Jeannine Liang, me (Margaret Lu), Viv, and Lil spent several really memorable years in Rochester, NY in the late 1960s, in the loving care of Viv's & Lil's parents, Karl & Nancy Tong. Jeannine & I learned so much from the Tong family, from how to love & care for one another, to cooking wonderful dishes from scratch (roast duck by Karl, desserts and other delicious dishes from Nancy -- I still have all the recipes!) These memories will stay with me for ever. Rest in peace, Lil. Tom and Viv, our thoughts & prayers are with you.
David and Kari Warshauer
February 18, 2022
We knew Lillian for only a brief time through the Gilda's Club GI Cancer support group. She contributed so much to the group with her knowledge and insight. She had a great sense of humor and provided laughs that cancer patients desperately need. We missed her when she was not able to attend the video meetings and were so saddened to learn of her death.
We will always smile when we think of her.
Our condolences
David and Kari
Catherine Stephens
February 11, 2022
Lil will be dearly missed. I´m grateful for her deep wisdom, and her big heart.
To the family and my friends Laura and Sarah, my deepest sympathies. Sending you love and peace.
Mary and Jim Bachhuber
February 10, 2022
Thinking of Tom and the whole family at this time. We were neighbors as we raised our young families. May the many happy memories with Lillian provide comfort to you now.
Chris Wooddell
February 9, 2022
Lillian lived her life fully and well. She was a remarkably loving person and so much fun. I knew her from singing together for years. We needed one another to hold a melody that would allow others to harmonize. As the evenings wore on the singing became sweeter. When we both became grandmothers we gathered with two musician friends and recorded a CD of songs for our families. Having this collection of songs for our grandchildren has been highly meaningful to me and my family. I will miss Lillian greatly. RIP. My heartfelt condolences go out to Tom, Eric, Laura, the grandchildren and all the family as well as to Lillian's many dear friends who will also miss her greatly.
Millard Susman
February 9, 2022
It was my pleasure to work with Lil in the Center for Biology Education. She was indeed a "teacher of teachers," and she did the job with skill, devotion, and joy. She searched the university for faculty and staff who loved teaching, and she brought us together through a multitude of programs that raised our consciousness, honed our skills, and strengthened the university as a learning site. Her influence will continue for years to sustain the excellence of our educational programs. I cherish my memories of Lil as a friend and colleague. She was good hearted, generous, cheerful, and brilliant. I extend my deepest sympathy to Lil's family and friends.
Kathryn Kleckner
February 9, 2022
I was saddened to hear of Lillian's passing. She and Tom were one of my favorite parents when I worked as Eric elementary school child care teacher back in the 80s. They were so patient and loving to their feisty young boy. I liked learning more about Lillian from the obituary. Truly a remarkable woman. Wishing Tom health and support.
Midge Hibbard Dwyer
February 9, 2022
The world has lost one lovely, gentle, caring, educated lady.
Lil was one of my first friends.
I am so saddened for you and your family.
Donna Whitlon
February 9, 2022
What a beautiful life! My condolences to you and your family, Tom.

Ruttanatip Chonwerawong
February 8, 2022
It was such an honor to have known Dr. Tong and see her around UW-Madison campus. I always appreciate her kindness and presence. Please accept my sincere condolences.
Nina Tumosa
February 8, 2022
Lil headed a canoe trip of a dozen friends down the Mississippi River where we spent a blissful day in the water, on sandbars, and drifting downstream in the canoes. And that night she kindly and competently tended to the worst sunburn I ever had. I think of Lil every time I use sunscreen.
Erin Reddy Wolff
February 8, 2022
To Tom, Eric, Jodi, Laura, Sarah, Joshua, William, Michael and Vivian and all of Lillian's unnamed friends, colleagues, family members, and other loved ones:
The loss of a fellow knitter and lifelong student is a true loss indeed. My condolences are flowing toward you, along with as much love as possible. May all of the love you had for each other and your memories help to carry you through the difficult moments to come...
Most sincerely,
Erin Reddy Wolff
fellow knitter and member of MKG
Daisy Jen
February 8, 2022
A life fully lived and touched her whole family and all the people she encountered, such joy! I remember, Nancy, Tom's mother, frequently spoke proudly of Lil on her charm, intelligence and accomplishments. The fortunate was Tom's.
Now it's Tom's turn to continue the love she has given to everyone and treasure all the good memories. Wishing Tom the best ! With my best, Daisy Jen
Bob Jeanne
February 8, 2022
What a remarkable life! Well lived and full of love.
John Woolsey
February 8, 2022
Although anyone who knew Lilian, even casually, could not but sense that this was a REALLY accomplished human being, there were many, many things that I did not know about her long (but all too short), wonderful life. It was a pleasure to get to "know" her via this obit, and I will miss her smile during my periodic visits to Madison. My heartfelt sympathies to all her family and friends.
Robert Bohanan
February 8, 2022
Lil was a colleague that became a friend. A colleague that helped those around her work with aspirations and a friend that connected and cared beyond the boundaries of campus.
Heather Johnson Quartaro
February 8, 2022
I was so sad to read about Lil´s passing. I worked with her as a college graduate at the Center for Biology Education and remember her warmth and quick wit. I feel very fortunate to have known her.
Gloria Mari Beffa
February 8, 2022
I am very sorry to hear Lil has passed. I have very fond memories of working with Lil. She was a wonderful human being, and we were lucky to work with her.
Craig Gjerde
February 8, 2022
Lillian was a wonderful colleague in the Teaching Academy. I think of her and it brings a smile to my face. Anyone who plays a ukelele has to be loved.
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