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Paul Ybarra
October 25, 2021
Mrs. Stringer, you made a difference to your students at Ashland Middle School in the late 80's. I was one them. You had the patience, kindness and humor to find old-fashioned solutions to modern problems for middle school kids as a counselor and confidant. I remember your smiling eyes; you always made sure to make eye contact when listening to your students pour out their teen torments to you. And you listened to us, without interruption, something that most of our overworked parents couldn't do. I don't think we realized how difficult, time consuming and energy draining that kind of special work as a middle school counselor has to be prepared for, but never once did I see you not interested, not attentive; you showed up, you cared about your students and it always showed, rain or shine. Your smile, your warm voice and authenticity in getting to know us late 80's brats (lets face it, middle school kids are the most mercurial and temperamental), you made us feel seen. You made us know we mattered. Thank you so much, Maxine Stringer, for sharing your time, your trust and your love with us students. You offered solace, snacks, and solutions. On behalf of the former 7th and 8th graders of yours from 1988-1990, thank you for loving us. We love you, and never have forgotten you.
David Ybarra
October 22, 2021
Mrs. Stringer, I recall you vividly. It's a shame to recognize your name here in the obits. Your memory is as clear to me as if yesterday was merely 1988 again, and we were both back at Ashland Middle School: me as the awkward 7th grader; you as the experienced guidance counselor. I remember you as a compassionate lady with an old fashioned faithfulness in simple solutions to the pre-teen predicaments we troubled you with consistently. You cared through every calamity. Some of us were foster children, runaways, kids fighting the guilt and shame in the discovery of our budding natures, but you didn't judge one of us. You offered reprieve and restoration. You were a friend and effected change in a few of my own from that time. I see the black-and-white picture of you here, taken years before we met, and I see the goodness I took for granted that was always there. You don't have glasses yet and your hair isn't grey but I recognize the bangs, that ready smile, and most of all the grace of trust in the depth of those familiar eyes. That look must've always been there in them. I hope other students reached out or reached back to tell you a bit of this in your lifetime. I wish I had because I've always thought of you so fondly. I'm sorry you're gone. I mourn your passage and what the gravity of it means to those who knew you best. I remember you as if it were yesterday and that memory is of someone good. Thank you for playing a compassionate, kindly part in my growing-up years.
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