After graduating from Westtown Quaker School (Philadelphia), Haines received a bachelor of arts with distinction from Oberlin College in 1988. She majored in English, with a special emphasis in creative writing and a minor in art history. An accomplished poet and painter, she pursued graduate work in poetry, receiving a master's degree from Hollins University (Virginia) in 1991.
In 1992, and at the age of 26, Haines married Duncan Alasdair Tate of Leeds, England. The couple had been introduced through family and first met at the South River farm. Following her husband's appointment to the physics faculty of Colby College that same year, Haines embraced Maine as her adopted land, celebrating its rhythms and seasons and marvels in both her writing and in her artwork. She was a contributing writer for Maine Times for several years; her poems also appeared in national journals such as Shenandoah, Carolina Quarterly, and The Southern Poetry Review.
Poet, painter, printmaker, essayist, violinist, splendid cook, lover of books and gardens and a good cup of tea, Haines always found means to express creatively her deeply felt way of being in the world despite life's inevitable challenges and limitations. During her five-year journey with breast cancer, Haines remained steadfast in life's course, enjoying trips to the sea in summer and snowshoeing in winter, discovering new art forms at the Haystack Mountain School of Crafts in Deer Isle, and learning Italian. This fall, she took great joy in planning and planting a new flower bed for the spring.
With abiding fidelity to family, to friendship, and to the created and creative world, Haines lived life with uncommon clarity, dedication, and kindness. She loved greatly and was greatly loved and her presence among us will be deeply missed. In addition to her beloved husband, Duncan, cherishing her life and memory are her mother, Elise Sprunt, of Rockbridge County, Va.; sister Elise Sheffield, also of Rockbridge; brother David Sprunt, of Littleton, Colo.; sisters-in-law Fiona Tate and Sandra Sprunt; brother-in-law Eric Sheffield; parents-in-law Brian and Gladys Tate of Leeds; nieces Silvia and Laurel Sheffield and Elizabeth Ann Sprunt; and several aunts and uncles, and many cousins and friends.
A family service and burial will be held Feb. 4 in Lexington, Va., with a memorial gathering in Waterville planned for May.
Haines' family would like to thank with heartfelt sincerity the many caring people who walked with Haines in her long illness, including many friends in Maine and beyond, and the skilled healthcare teams of the Harold Alfond Center for Cancer Care, the MaineGeneral oncology ward, and HealthReach Hospice. Your kindnesses and considerations will never be forgotten.
In lieu of flowers, donations be made to any of the following charitable organizations, with addresses found on their websites: The Harold Alfond Center for Cancer Care (in Augusta); Maine Audubon; or the Haystack Mountain School of Crafts (in Deer Isle).
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Melanie Yazzie
January 25, 2023
Ten years have passed and she is still with us in our hearts, minds and souls.... I look out to the snow this morning here in Colorado and remember the quiet beauty that was all Haines..... Big Love to you all, Melanie Yazzie
Melanie Yazzie
February 14, 2012
Haines was an amazing person. I was her roommate in high school and she was kind and very giving. I will always remember how she was a quiet and beautiful soul. Much love to the family .
Rebecca Green
January 31, 2012
What a moving tribute to a very special person and a life well lived, though all too brief. We will remember Haines with great fondness and admiration. Rebecca and Leo
Peter Harris
January 31, 2012
Dear Duncan,
I've never read a more beautifully written obituary--how fitting for a person saturated with beauty herself.
Peter Harris
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