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Stephen Kirby Obituary
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Stephen R. Kirby, 70, passed away peacefully on April 7, 2019. He was born in Marion, Ohio on July 26, 1948, the eldest son of William Kirby and Ruth Messenger Kirby. Steve attended parochial schools and graduated from Marion Catholic High School. After graduation, he enlisted in the army and was stationed in Germany for three years, attaining the rank of First Lieutenant. After the service, he returned to Ohio where he lived with and cared for his grandmother, Goldie, until her passing. Steve then joined his parents in California and worked with his father at a factory while attending college in San Diego, later finishing his degree in Maine at USM. Steve worked in finance throughout his career, retiring as Finance Director for Portland Metro. He was a supporter of the Boy Scouts and a member of the Deering Lions Club. Steve was adept at many things. His family would joke that if you gave him a manual he could figure out anything. He was a master of dad jokes and prone to spontaneous outbursts of singing. Lovingly known as Colonel Kirby for his fondness for giving orders, especially to his children. Steve enjoyed camping, driving long distances, making his own maple syrup, and following the stock market; he recently he wrote and published a book on Stock Market Trends.
Steve was predeceased by his parents, brother William Kirby, daughter Emily Kirby, and stepson Jack Darling. He is survived by his beloved wife, Nancy, son Matthew Kirby and wife Victoria, daughter Laura Haver and husband Rob, son Ethan Kirby and wife Sarah, and youngest son Benjamin and fiancé Kendall; 8 grandchildren, sisters Kathy Warren, Karen Schendel and Tina Johnson, brothers and sisters-in-law, and many nieces and nephews.
A private burial and celebration of life will be held. Expressions of sympathy may be made in the form of donations to: Hospice of Southern Maine, 180 US Route One, Scarborough, ME 04074 or online at www.hospiceofsouthernmaine.org/give. Visit Advantageportland.com to sign Steve's guest book.
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Memories and Condolences
for Stephen Kirby
Ellen Beale
April 17, 2019
Nancy, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Never had the pleasure of knowing Steve, I know how much love you shared. Sending love and deepest sympathy to you and your loved ones.
Christine Koch
April 16, 2019
Nancy, I am so sorry for your loss. From what I know of Steve, he was a larger than life personality who will be remembered with love. I send my love and thoughts to you and your family.
Christine
Ronald Gard
April 15, 2019
To our family in Portland, Carol & I send our sincerest condolences. We so much enjoyed the Tulsa visit with Steve and Nancy. Steve was like a brother to me and I love him dearly.
May God open his arms and welcome Steve with a smile and a warm hug.
With Love,
Ron and Carol
Pamela Plante
April 12, 2019
Our condolences to the Kirby family. My husband and I worked with Steve at Metro. He was a wonderful boss and a pleasure to work with. I will always remember that smile. He will be missed.
Bernadette Gratto
April 11, 2019
I have wonderful memories of Steve with Nancy and Ben during our years together at Riverton School. I am so sorry Ben and Nancy for your loss. My thoughts are with you both.
God Bless,
Bernadette ( Mrs. Gratto)
Bill Williams
April 11, 2019
Gone too soon
Rest in peace my old roommate
Greg & Tina Johnson
April 10, 2019
Steve, my favorite memories of you are from our childhood. Family vacations with The Nicolosis, the igloo you and Bill built, and walking me to school.
Thanks for teaching Greg how to eat a whole lobster. And thanks for all the Christmas centerpieces that graced our holiday table.
Most of all, Thank You for being my Big Brother.
We will miss you, until we see you again in Heaven.
Jay Casey
April 10, 2019
In loving Memories! God Bless Stephen Kirby and All
Kirby Families! We send sincerest prayers blessings and condolences! From Casey's......MCHS!!
June
April 10, 2019
Steve was an amazing person! I'm so glad I was a part of his life. Nancy, I'm sure you made him laugh everyday.
Rev. Matthew Brett
April 10, 2019
My deepest condolences for you loss. He truly was a great man: he also was one of the very few people that ever called me Matthew, and even more rare; it always felt good when he did so. If there is anything that I can do, please don't hesitate to let me know!
Diana Wilson
April 10, 2019
Very sorry for your loss. I went to school with Steve MCHS class of "66". If God brings you to it,He will see you through it.
Erika Chabbi
April 10, 2019
Very sorry and our sincerest condolences
To you, Matthew, Laura and Ethan.
Love, Aunt Erika and Uncle Mohamed
Ray Le Comte
April 10, 2019
Very sorry for your loss. I worked with Steve in the late 90s, I enjoyed his sense of humor and admired his strong work ethic and his dedication to his family. I will always remember him with a smile.
Bill Malloy
April 10, 2019
I had the distinct pleasure of working for Steve at a point in my career where his guidance set me on a path of success. I am forever grateful that he took the time to nurture my talents. My all his loved ones be comforted by their memories of him.
Mindy Frye
April 10, 2019
So sorry for your loss.
Steve was the best boss!
He will be missed!
Benjamin Kirby
April 10, 2019
Sad you're gone, Dad, but I know you're looking down on us with those who made the journey before you. I love you and will miss you.
Until we meet again,
Ben
April 10, 2019
We are heartbroken that Steve is no longer with us. Rejoicing that he is no longer in discomfort and praying that we will always have his memory to look back on and smile. He was so kind and loving! He will be greatly missed by many. Ann & Mike Hood
Kate Deans
April 10, 2019
Lots of love to your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Karen & Buzz Morton
April 10, 2019
Memories are the legacy of love
Matt Kirby
April 10, 2019
We will miss you, Dad. Keep an eye on us.
Love,
Matt, Vicki, Averie, Maya, and Miller
Matthew Kirby
April 10, 2019
We will miss you, Dad. Love, Matt, Vicki, Averie, Maya, and Miller.
April 10, 2019
Thank you for your service.
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