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Debra Whitesell Obituary
Debra Ann Whitesell, 44, of Whitehall, died Wednesday, Nov. 15, 2006 in her home. Born in Allentown, she was the daughter of Ruth A. (Spaits) Passalis and the late Daniel H. Passalis. She owned and operated Mulligans Family Golf Center for 12 years. For numerous years, she sponsored Christmas brunches and gifts for area underprivileged families through the Salvation Army. Debra had an avid interest in golf, sailing, fishing and photography. She will be greatly missed by family and friends who loved her very, very much. Sentiments of her daughter, Jessica, include, Mommy, words cant describe how much I will miss you. You are my everything and always will be. I love you more than life itself. Please help me be strong!!! I love you 143 XOXO. Survivors: Daughter, Jessica Lynn of Allentown; former husband, Leon O. III of Emmaus; mother of Allentown; brother, Dan Passalis and his wife, Annette M., of Allentown; nephew, Michael D. Passalis of Allentown. Services: 11 a.m. Saturday in Stephens Funeral Home Inc., 1335-37 W. Linden St., Allentown. Call 9 a.m. until service time. Contributions: In lieu of flowers, to Salvation Army, 144 North Eighth St., Allentown, 18101.
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Olivia Nolt
November 10, 2022
I cannot believe this many years have passed, it feels like yesterday when I was laughing with you. I will never forget that smile or laugh. With all my love to your family, Olivia Nolt
Olivia Nolt
November 21, 2019
Debbie will never be forgotten by any of her friends, who could forget that infectious smile and laugh. her generosity was incredible, and her love for her family. She juggled all of it, and no one ever got short changed. She was a blessing to her friends. I hope that Jessica is doing ok, I know she still must be devastated, it's so very difficult to go on sometimes, no matter what people say or do. I know I think of Jessica so often, and hope she reaches out if she needs anything. This offer has No time or year limit. Her Mom was one of the sweetest and kindest people I had ever met. Regardless how many years pass, she still can bring a smile and tears to my face, just the mention of her name. We only wish things had turned out differently, she was such great source of pure sunshine, I only hope she knew that.
always,
Olivia J. Nolt [email protected]
April 19, 2017
I heard Toby Keith today and it made me think of you! Just thought I would stop by and say hello, it's been too long. I still think of you often and keep Jessica in my thoughts and prayers.
Love you always second mom.
Molly <3
Molly
November 14, 2011
I cannot believe that five years has gone by. I hope that you continue to guide Jessica the way I know only you can. You have touched so many people's hearts and taught so many people what kindness is. I think of you often and I know you are proud of your little girl who has now grown up to be a beautiful woman. Please keep watch over all of us tonight as we celebrate your life and how you have touched us all. <3
jessica whitesell
May 9, 2010
happy mothers day mommy.. today is just another day to remind me how much i miss you, i love you more than everything in this world always
jessica 143
Lisa Keiper (Braun)
November 14, 2009
Dear Jess,
I came across your entry and it makes me so upset with myself for losing contact with your mom! I think back of our teenage years, and hanging out together. We use to go to a place called Lazy J Ranch horseback riding and just hang out when they lived down in the apt. at sheifield. Your mother was a great person and I am sure is still looking down upon you! There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her, my sister Bonnie and others that went to quick in their lives... cherish those special memories, and it has a way to make your heart smile ( a little anyway) Take Care... and never forget those special times (the ones that make you smile and cry!
jessica whitesell
November 13, 2009
mommy.. i can't believe it's been 3 years already, it seems like it was yesterday. i miss you every single second of every single day
love you always 143
jessica <3
November 13, 2009
mommy i can't believe its three years already, i don't know where the time has gone.. i think about u every single second of every single day and i miss you more and more
i love you always 143
jessica
Lisa Keiper (Braun)
August 2, 2009
Dear Deb,
I know it's been years since we have seen each other, but that doesn't mean that I have forgotten you! I remember so many of the good times we had when we were younger, and now it is the tears that come to my eyes thinking of you... I know you are in a better place now... and the painful memories are so vivid, my sister Bonnie passed away last week at the age of 47. I know you are both at peace, and please watch over all of us and give us the strength that the loved ones you both left behind need right now.
Love You Girl
(you both are gone, but never will be forgotten)
Jess,
your mother was a dear friend to me growing up, and I know she will never be forgotten... by many of us. Please cherish her memories, and try to smile about a good time, rather than her passing.
jessica whitesell
June 30, 2009
i miss you so much
love you always 143 jessica
jessica whitesell
January 6, 2009
I realize now that losing you wasn't the most painful part, its being left behind to live without you that becomes unbearable..143 mommy <3
Megan Pagnano
November 13, 2008
I miss you and wish you were still here...Please keep jess strong. You may be gone but you will never be forgotten. 143
November 13, 2008
its been 2 years...:( seems like just yesterday...i keep you and jessica in my prayers.. miss ya 2nd mom...
molly <3
<33 molly
October 7, 2008
i drove by your house over the weekend..and i thought of you. tears came to my eyes thinking about all the good times we all had there. i hope and pray that you keep jessica strong. you touched our lives and i will never forget you..
jessica whitesell
July 15, 2008
happy birthday mommy<3 i miss you more than anything
143 love you
jessica
jessica whitesell
June 11, 2008
i miss you and i wish you were here.. life's so hard without you
love always and forever
jessica 143 xoxo
Mandy Ludwig
May 11, 2008
Happy Mother's Day Debbie. A day does not go by that you are not thought of or deeply missed.
Love you!
jessica whitesell
March 24, 2008
i love you mommy and miss you. i wish you were here, life's so hard without you. i would give up anything just to have been able to say goodbye
happy easter 143<3
jessica, max and phoniex
jessica whitesell
December 26, 2007
merry christmas mommy <3 :( i miss you more than anything!! it doesn't even feel like the holidays since your gone, grandma and i love you
143 always && forever
jessica
jessica whitesell
December 10, 2007
mommy.. its my 2nd birthday now without you here, they're just not the same at all.. but i know your always with me and watching over me and i just want you to know i love you more than anything and i miss you.. can't wait until the day im with you again
love you always 143*
jessica
Mandy Ludwig
November 24, 2007
Debbie,
I still can't believe a year has passed since you left us. Life is not, and will never be the same without you. I miss you more then you could ever imagine. Jess has grown so much in the past year, and you would be soo proud of the daughter you raised! There is not a day that goes by that you are not thought of, or dearly missed!
Jess,
You are my best friend, and my sister. I love you so much, and your mother would be so proud of everything you have accomplished this past year! There is not a day, that you do not amaze me for who you have become! I love you!
Andrea Martis
November 16, 2007
Deb,
I can't believe a year has passed already. We miss you more and more everyday, especially your beautiful smile. You have touched all of your lives in so many ways. You would be so proud of Jessica for how strong of a woman she has become. Please keep watching over us and help Jessica stay strong.
Jessica,
You have gone through hard times this past year. You are the strongest and most courageous woman I have ever met and you are a hero to me. I am here for you always and I love you!
Love always,
Marty
Lisa Braun
November 16, 2007
Dear Deb,
Just sitting here thinking of you, and missing all the crazy times we had together. I know you are watching down with your big beautiful smile. We miss you!
Lisa Braun
Philip Frey
November 15, 2007
We miss you Debbie. Things aren't the same without you. One year has gone by, but you are always in our hearts.
Phil, Carolyne, Spencer and Karissa Frey
jessica whitesell
November 13, 2007
mommy- i can't believe its one year already where did all the time go i feel like its a life time, i count down the days since i last saw you.. i still feel like it was yesterday, this by far has been the worst year in my life i never ever thought i would of not have my mom.. i dont know how im going to make it the rest of my life without you.. i know you are watching over me and that your always with me<3 i hope i have made you proud-- i thank god everyday for having you in my life, you were the best mother in the world by far and i want to thank you for everything you have done for me, you were the most caring person i have ever met with the biggest heart (your my angel and i love you more anything in the world)
143 always and forever
jessica <3
molly martis
November 13, 2007
Deb...
its been a year...wow..it seems like yesterday we were all at your house watching movies... eating all your food...well this year has had its share of lows. jess misses you so much..we were talking about you the other day and on my way home i thought about you and i did cry. I will always remember you and your smile and your funny stories and ur silly christmas gifts and all the times i would go to the mall and u were ALWAYS there! haha! I hope u understand how much you are missed by all of us second mom, Jessica needs you now more then ever to keep her strong!
Love Always,
Molly
Jessica,
It has been a hard year, ive watched you at your lowest and at your highest...never for one second should you doubt yourself..you are so STRONG! I told you i would be here no matter what and im still here today! you amaze me with how you can always smile and look to see the best of life! Thank you for showing me what true strength, and courage are! im always here for you and i love you so much! she is always with you and i see her shinning through! love ya
<33 Molly-Molly
jessica whitesell
September 14, 2007
i miss you more every day.. i love you with all of my heart mommy 143
<3jessica
Lisa Braun
September 14, 2007
Dear Deb,
I'm just sitting here thinking about you yet once again... and missing our friendship.
Jess,
I know your mother is very proud of you, and all you have accomplished!
Love Lisa Braun
molly
August 30, 2007
deb...
so today we watched her graduate from school... i know u were watching and so happy but we missed you there. im so proud of jessica!! she is really being so strong. she misses you so much and i find we talk of u everytime we are together...crying, laughing, or a little of both at the same time.. we are trying our best to watch out for her. i also miss you deb, summer was not the same no pool parties laying out at ur house everyday.. you touched my life and ill never forget you and i think of u everyday and pray that jessica will take ur strength and shine... please take care of her.. love ya and miss you "second mom".
love always
mol
Aunt Kay
August 13, 2007
Jessica,
The other day I took my 9 year old nephew to Mulligans to hit golf balls. After he started hitting some, he turned to me and started talking about your Mom. He was telling me about the times he used to go there and how Debbie the nice lady who was the owner was always so nice to him and gave him special golf balls to hit. I wanted to share this with you. Your Mom was one special Lady to have left a nice, lasting impression for a nine year old young man. Bless you always and take care.
jessica whitesell
July 30, 2007
143<3
jessica whitesell
July 15, 2007
happy birthday mommy! this just gets harder and harder as the days go on i still feel like half the time its just a bad dream that i can't wake up from, i need you so much life's not the same at all with you gone.. im trying so hard to be strong and make you proud- please take care of grandma.. i miss your laugh, i miss your smile, i miss every single thing about you.. friday was 8months since you died and now today its your birthday already it still feels like yesterday this all happened.. your the best thing that ever happened to me and i wish i could be with you.. i just want to go back to having my mommy again :(
i love you and miss you 143<3
jessica && max && phoniex
molly martis
July 14, 2007
deb,
keep her strong, we miss you and love you so much i think of u every day..
jess,
i love you so much<33
mol
jessica whitesell
June 16, 2007
My angel's right beside me, wherever i may go, keeping close watch over me, she's my mommy don't you know. God took her away from me, not so long ago, but she promised she'd never leave me, dear lord i miss her so. But i know she's right beside me, wherever i may go, for she's my guardian angel, my love, my life, my soul.
143<3
jessica whitesell
May 13, 2007
happy mother's day mommy.. today its 7months since you've died and i absolutely hate this i would give up anything to have you here with me, i miss you.. please watch down on grandma and i
i love you 4ever 143*
your one and only-jessica
Molly Martis
April 24, 2007
Deb....
Its been a hard road here without you for Jess, I know your proud of her..cuz I know I am.. I Miss you, It was so nice this weekend and I remember all the weekends Jess and I would go ride the horses and then go lay out with you and eat all your food :) I miss it, and I always will..love you Deb, watch over us! <33
love,
Molly
Jessica,
I LOVE YOU! AND IM ALWAYS HERE! NEVER FROGET IT! <33 NO MATTER WHAT IM STILL RIGHT HERE AND I GOT YOUR BACK HUN!
LOVE YOU SO MUCH <3
MOl
jessica whitesell
April 15, 2007
i love you mommy- 143 <3
i carry you heart with me
i carry it in my heart
i am never without it
anywhere i go you go, me dear
whatever is done by only me is your doing my darling
i fear no fate for you are my fate, my sweet
i want no world for beautiful you are my world, my true
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and sky of the sky of a tree called life
which grows higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart.. i carry it in my heart*
jessica whitesell
April 8, 2007
mommy.. <3 happy easter beautiful :( i can't believe its 6months next week since your gone.. i feel like its been forever, i miss everything about you.. life's so hard without you here- grandma and i are trying so hard to be strong, we shouldn't have to be going through this.. you should be here with me -i love you angel
143 always
*Jessica
jessica whitesell
February 24, 2007
i love you 143<3 i wish you were here..
molly martis
February 20, 2007
Deb,
it gets harder every day and every moment without you here to cheer us up or tell us fun stories...drink wine and laugh...talk about boys...we miss you second mom!!
<33 mol
Jess,
i love you and i will be here for you always!!
<33 mol
jessica whitesell
February 14, 2007
happy valentine's day mommy <3 i sat in my car yesterday outside grandma's crying looking at the valentine's day card you got me last year and stuffed animal.. i can't believe that i will never get another card or anything else from you agian, it didn't matter how old i was you still got me presents for every single holiday-- i miss you and i love you more than anything in the whole world *143* jessica
jessica whitesell
February 13, 2007
mommy.. everyday i wake up and hope that im dreaming, i have the hardest time in the world accepting that your not here i still feel like i can go to you house and see you or just call you and talk.. not only did i lose my mom i lost my best friend, i never imagined i would not have a mom anymore and its the hardest thing in the world, i miss you more every single second.. you were the kind of mom every girl dreamed of having and im so so proud to be your daughter.. you are the strongest woman i have ever known, and you amazed me everyday.. im by far the greatest fan of your life <3 you showed me so much in life and loved me more than anything.. forever you will live on through me- i would give up anything in the world just to have one more second with you just to tell how much i love you and that you are and always will be my world.. till the day im with you again
love always and forever,
your darling jessica<3 143
.. max and phoniex miss their mommy so much xxoo
February 7, 2007
Debbie,
I think about you all the time. I really know you are with Jessica everyday. I see your strength in her. I see your smile in her. I see your beauty in her. You are missed every moment of every day...love always~Dev
jessica whitesell
February 5, 2007
mommy.. i can't even tell you how much i miss everything about you and how proud i am to say that i am your daughter, today is 12 weeks since i last saw your beautiful face.. life is so hard without you and im only going on three months i don't know how i will make it through the rest of my life.. i know you're still with my and that you're watching over me, but i would give up anything just to see you one last time.. and every day i get closer to seeing you again- i love you more than anything in the world, you're my hero.. i hope one day i can be as strong as you.. 143 <3 i love you mommy <3 can't wait till the day im with you again
<3 Marty <3
February 5, 2007
Debbie,
Although it is sometimes hard to find the right words, I just want you to know that you are thought of everyday and we all miss you so much. We all miss our "Second Mom" and I just want you to know that you touched the lives of so many people and we will keep the memories we have with you close in our hearts forever. Please keep watching over us!
Love,
Andrea
Jessica,
I never really thought about if I had a hero but, when I think about it, you are my hero! You are such a strong woman, probably the strongest I have ever met. I love u SO much and I am so proud to call you my friend!!!
Love you always,
jessica whitesell
February 2, 2007
143 mommy <3
Vinny
February 1, 2007
Debbie,
I wish you were here right now!!! Jessica's having such a hard time!! she needs ur support so bad please help her, us, and all the above!! We talk to you and about you everynite before we go to bed!! just so you know the more time goes by the more we hurt for our wonderful gorgeous debbie!!!!!!!!!!! love you
molly martis
January 25, 2007
deb...
not a day goes by that i don't think of you, or jessica...things are not the same....she needs you more then ever. keep her strong and safe..i know your here in spirit and in our memories...still i miss ya second mom! somedays i dont know what to say...its just so hard for her that your gone. she is my hero ya know..she amazes me everyday and i know your watching her and your proud of her cuz i know i am! love ya and miss ya!
ps...did you see "Grandma's" hair... pretty good job :) <33
jessica whitesell
January 22, 2007
i love u mommy.. i miss you always <3 "my angel"
Vinny
January 15, 2007
Well deb i'd think u'd be proud! me and ur daughter are still up and its 4 in the morning. We're actually cleaning the house we're all moved in and i just wish u were here for the both of us but mostly jess u'd be proud shes really really cleaning!!! i love u and miss very much tell my grandfather i said hi!!!
Mandy
January 14, 2007
Debbie,
It is so hard to write to you sometimes. It still does not feel real. Me and Jess just left your house. Walking in the front door, all that anyone can smell is you. At the same time, tears come to your eyes because the house is silent, and that's not how it is supposed to be. Jess is reamining so unbeliveably strong, and you would be soo proud. Let me tell you, we have had many good laughs finding some of the things we have found! Oh, and Thanks for the snow. When I woke up on my birthday, I just kept wishing that I could finally see some snow, and out on my lunch break it came & I know it was you... We miss you more then you could imiagine, keep looking out for us.. Love you!
M Martis
January 11, 2007
Deb,
Wow....thats all i can say...its been unreal with out you. Time has been flying by and we miss you so much. Jess, Mandy and Me were at your house last weekend and it was not the same....i miss your smile and your great spirit...NO one will ever compare to your kindness and love for Jessica..she misses you so much, thanks for keeping her strong i see you in her...and she is making you proud! keep us safe and watch over us always. Love you and miss you!
<33Molly
Jessica,
You are my hero! You are so strong and brave, i just watch you and wonder where you get this strength from....we miss your mom so much! she is and always will be so amazing! i love you so much jess! you are making your mom proud! <33
<33Molly
jessica whitesell
January 8, 2007
mommy, its been two months today since i last saw you already i just still can't believe that you are gone.. time has never gone by so fast in my life.. i miss you so much, i need you here with me.. you're my best friend and i love you more than you will ever know.. i just wish i could have said goodbye
i love you always <33 143
jessica
leslie banister
January 3, 2007
Jessica - I was so saddened by the news of your mother. Allison, Curtis and I had just taken out some old birthday party pictures from the townhouse.We had such good times.Please know that you and your mother will always be in our hearts and our prayers.
jessica whitesell
December 31, 2006
happy new years mommy.. i can't imagin that you won't be here to call me or wish me a happy new year at midnight like you always did :( </3 i wish i could just be with you again
only the good die young.. i miss you beautiful-i love you always, your darling jessica<333
jessica whitesell
December 25, 2006
mommy<3 i love you angel, i never thought that you wouldn't be here.. you always told me you would live till you were over a hundred because you loved me so much you couldn't be without me :( and its christmas and im on my way to grandma's and you won't be there, nothing is the same without you.. i wish i could see you or just talk to you one more time.. i love you always and 4ever 143-- i miss you more than you could ever imagin </3
Mandy Ludwig
December 23, 2006
Debbie,
It's been a little over a month, and this is still so hard. You can't even begin to understand how much you are thought of and missed everyday. Please continue to look over us all..
Jess,
Everyday you amaze me more then ever for how strong you continue to be! I love and admire you more then you will ever know.
<3 Love,
Mandy
Molly Martis
December 14, 2006
Deb,
Jessica misses you more then words can describe...we are taking care of her..we cant do it as well as you can but we are trying. i know your looking down and watching over her everyday...keep her safe and i know your strenght is with her always! We miss you so much..until we meet again..<33
Love,
Molly <33
Jessica,
I love you so much...your mom was and always be so proud of you. You shine a little more of her everyday. Im here for you always and I hope you know that!! "Stand By Me"...love you so much <33
love always and forever,
Molly<33
Vinny
December 10, 2006
i miss you and i wish so much that you were here for jessica's birthday, and i bought her that burberry scarf that you tried so hard to get! got her alot of juicy stuff and uggs, so dont worry im taking care of your baby! I'm doing all the little things that u would of done for her! love u much i'll see u some day....kisses
jessica whitesell
December 10, 2006
my 1st bday in 22 years without you angel :( i wish you were here mommy.. 143 <3
LINDA ZIMINSKY
December 9, 2006
RUTH.iam really sorry about your loss Tommy,JIMMY,LOLA AND ANNA WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU.GOD BLESS YOU I KNOW WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH YOUR DAUGHTER IS IN HEAVEN WITH MY 2 SONS,
Arlene (Deanie) Moyer
December 6, 2006
The pain in our Hearts will never pass. The pain will ease when Debbie Doll smiles from above. She will smile every day as long as we keep her spirit alive. Love always, Aunt Deanie, Uncle Ray & Aunt Nettie
jessica whitesell
December 5, 2006
mommy* i love you<3 && i miss you angel.. i can't believe its been 3 weeks since i last saw you :( please help me stay strong bc i need you.. 143
Devon Malampy
December 5, 2006
Debbie..I was lookin through pictures last night and found pictures from the Salvation Army Xmas party..you were a beautiful Mrs. Claus..it just reminds me how wonderful you were and the memories will be kept dear to my heart. i still pray this is a dream...<3 xoxo
Mandy Ludwig
December 4, 2006
Debbie- this still feels like it isn't real. We miss you so much, that words can not describe. Love and Miss you
Love,
Mandy
molly martis
December 2, 2006
Deb..we are missing you down here, but i know you are in heaven watching down on us always..love you and miss you.
Love,
Molly
jessica whitesell
November 30, 2006
i love you angel.. && i miss you more than anything :(
1 4 3 5 9 <3 always
tanya bragg
November 30, 2006
jess and family, im soo sorry for your loss.debbie was so nice to me and my girls. she opened her home to me,linda,and betts so we could keep cool this summer.she was a special person. may god be your guide from here on.
Lisa
November 25, 2006
Dear Deb,
Although its been years since we spoke... it seems like yesterday. Last Saturday was hard for me to come say good-bye to a friend that I will cherish for-ever. We really had some good-times. Your daughter is so beautiful, and I couldn't help but look at all the pictures, and how you changed... since I last saw you. You were beautiful. I know over the years both of our lives drifted apart as we got older... but I will always cherish the friendship that we shared. I will miss you.
P.S. Can anyone tell me the name of the song that was played at the service... it was beautiful! Just like Deb...
Lisa
jessica whitesell
November 23, 2006
thanksgiving and no holiday will be the same without you beautiful face, i missed you so much at grandma's today.. it just gets harder everyday not being able to call you or see your face and smile.. i love you mommy, i just dont know how to move on life without you next to me your my life.. i just wish there was something i could do to bring you back i would give up anything, i just wanted to say how much i love you and that you are, and always will be the best mother in the world
i love you 143
jessica..
Jim Loftus
November 21, 2006
Jess--
The last time I saw your incredible Mom was two weeks ago. I walked into the new dazzling Saucon Valley restaurant where you just began working--Debbie saw me, ran up and wrapped her arms around me and kissed me. So full of that zest for life that she always exuded--she introduced me to you. I could tell how proud she was of her Jessica Lynn. What I recall indelibly about that night is how she listened with avid interest to my recent travails of taking care of my elderly mother. She gave me such heartfelt advice that I have been able to implement. Before she left that night, we embraced each other and promised we'd contact each other via e-mail. "yes, please e-mail me" were her last words to me. Over the years of knowing Debra Ann, I assumed I'd see her soon again at another happy gathering, and certainly get that e-mail out "soon." What I learned is all we truly know is "now"--this moment. Due to taking care of my Mom I was unable to say one last goodbye to Debbie this past Saturday. But the memory of that recent Tuesday night I will hold in my heart forever. Let us all pray as we approach Thanksgiving that the Good Lord in His Divine Mercy take her home and keep her safe. Pray for her.
November 20, 2006
Jess We are so sorry to here of your loss of your mother may your memories of her stay with you forever. charlie \Keith/ butch
DE Cressman Insurance
November 20, 2006
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2006
Mark A. Happel
November 20, 2006
Deb
Still can't believe it. Your were one of my very best friends and I will always remember the great times we had together
Jess
I will always be there for you no matter what. Your favorite step dad
Karissa Frey-Woroniak
November 19, 2006
I will miss you.
Kathy Wilt
November 19, 2006
Ray, Linda and family & friends I only had the great pleasure of meeting Debbie one time but the time that I did meet her she had a great big smile and that is how we all have to remember her... I know in my heart god is takeing great care of her now... and she is watching down on us.....kathy
Olivia Nolt
November 18, 2006
Dearest Jess,
I loved your Mommy so much, what a burst of lightning she was when she entered a room, even if there was a big time lapse. You would grab her, kiss her and hug her, because you knew what energy she brought to the moments she spent with you. I hope we can bring to your future, the same happiness and energy and love she gave to all of us. We want so much to be a part of your future and your life, because you will always be your Mommy's most precious baby, and I know she would want all of us to keep a watchful and loving eye on you. We will be there for you always. Please contact me as soon as possible.
My deepest sympathy to you, your Grandma Ruth and Uncle Dan.
With all our heartfelt love,
Olivia and David Nolt
1656 Allen Circle
Macungie, Pa. 18062
610-398-1603
[email protected]
Jennifer Trate
November 18, 2006
If there is one thing that I can remember you by, it's your smile and the way you always made sure everyone was ok and had what the wanted. You were always happy to see Jess and her friends and eager to make things fun and exciting. Not to mention you made prom for Jess and I a night to remember and helped keep it all a secret! I appreciate all that you did for me that night, and always! You will always be in my thoughts and prayers <3
Jessica... I love you huni and seeing you go through all of this is killing me. I will be here for you to help you be strong and as confident as you always have been. I will pick you up when your down and do the best I can to make this rough time a little bit easier on you. Be strong huni! Love you <3
Nadya Linderman
November 18, 2006
I will always remember you for your kindness and your smile. Thank you for blessing those of us who were fortunate enough to get to know you and be graced with your presence. You will always be remembered!
Jess, We have been through many things over the years. Know that I will always be there for you to laugh, cry and remember the memories. I love you with all my heart.
Rich and Janine
November 18, 2006
Danny, Annette, Michael, Ruth, Skeeter, and Jess
We are so sorry that you have to go through this difficult time. We will miss our summer swimming parties and picnics at the golf course. Debbie was a loving person who always made everyone smile. She will be missed by all who new her. She was truly a bright star. We are allways here for you.
Chelsea Nolt
November 18, 2006
Jess,
We haven't spoken or seen eachother in years but I still remember like it was yesterday, our moms and us having the best summers in Shepherd Hills! I still remember playing all around your house and all the laughter that filled the room with your mom's unforgettable laugh and smile. I'll never forget her being so proud of you and those beautiful pictures of you and your horse :) You were and forever will be the apple of her eye. The sun absolutely rose and set upon you. I want you to know that if you need anything or need to have a getaway to NYC, please call or write because I'd love to have you.
Take care and stay strong :)
Chelsea
Jess K & Barry Dayton
November 18, 2006
Dear Jess,
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. We all love you. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on we are here for you. Love you lots. xoxox
Jess & Barry
November 18, 2006
Dear Jess,
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. A special person like you should never have to go through soething like this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm here for you if you ever need a shoulder to cry on. I love you. xoxox
The Bauer
November 18, 2006
Dan, Annette, Michael, and the entire Passalis Family,
We are sorry for your loss. We will continue to keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
Michelle, Matt, and, Dakota Bauer
Andy Rosen
November 18, 2006
Jess, While its been a long time since we've seen each other, I just want to let you know that my thoughts are with you. Be strong.
Marilyn O'Brien
November 18, 2006
Debbie,
Your presence, appearance and manner were striking. Your generosity endless....I will always remember the fun times we had with friends. Your laughter and beautiful smile will always remain in my heart and mind. I will miss you until we meet again.
Love,
Marilyn
Michele Miller
November 17, 2006
To Dan and Family,
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you in your time of sadness. I pray you find comfort in the precious memories that will live in your heart forever. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
melissa seidel
November 17, 2006
Debbie,
Your style, beauty and grace was like no other woman I have ever met. You were by far the most caring and kind hearted person that walked the earth. Your smile and personality was so contagious, you lit up every room. You were such an empowering woman, that Jess was so in love with. I would give anything to give Jess just one more day with you. Growing up you were like a second mother to me and your spirit and memory will forever remain in my heart.
Love, Missy.
Deanna Caldwell
November 17, 2006
Jess,
Sweetie I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. No one is ever prepared to go through something like this. My thoughts, prayers and love go out to you hunni. If there's anything I can do for you please don't hesitate to call. I love you sweetie, stay strong.
Alice Hessinger
November 17, 2006
There you go Debbie, you're still smiling! I know that great big new shiny star I just saw is you smiling down at all of us who love you! I will miss you, and never forget the way we used to laugh together. Be at peace dear friend.
Love, Alice Hessinger
Larry/Alice Piotti
November 17, 2006
Dan,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.Stay focused on the good times. Remember your faith and family will see you through this difficult time. With our deepest sympathy, God Bless
Love
The Piotti Family
Cindy Lemanek
November 17, 2006
It was too many years since I last saw your mom. I always thought about getting in touch, and always thought there was plenty of time. I don't think I ever knew any person with more love of life and laughter. She was beautiful inside and out. This teaches me not to put off getting together with loved ones. I will miss her. My kindest thoughts go out to you, Jess. I cry with you.
Love,
Suzanne Fields
November 17, 2006
Jessica: I truly miss Debbie. She was a ray of sunshine. Her smile used to light up a room. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Debbie will always be looking over your shoulder in everything you do. She loved you very much. My door is always open to you. Suzanne Fields
Joethepro
November 17, 2006
Jess,
Your mom was one of my favorite people who I am deeply going to miss. Want to feel happy? Just close your eyes and picture that big wide teethed smile only your mom seemed to constantly wear.
I know that her ever love for you is what will keep you going, and you know darn well that she'll be watching over you closely so unfortunately you'll still have to walk the straight and narrow.
You are definitely not alone Jess We are all going through this sad time together and we all will get through this together just as your mom would want us to.
Ruth, Skeeter, Danny and all friends and family, rejoice in knowing that we all shared experiencing life with such a beautiful person.
Scott Yost
November 17, 2006
I am shocked and saddened about the news of Debbie’s passing. I will always remember her contagious smile and generosity. Her attitude and kindness always made you feel so welcome. I will never forget what a kind and wonderful person she was. Ruth our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Time will heal; stay strong in the face of adversity.
Eleanor & Gus Wanner
November 17, 2006
Dear Jess:
The right words are hard to express, but we want you to know how sorry we are for your loss. We remember how close you were with your Mom, and you will have those good memories of the times you spent together with her forever. You have "good" friends and a family that loves you. They will be your support.
Danielle Overdorf
November 17, 2006
To Deb's family,
I have been working at the Hess across from Deb's home in Whitehall for 4 years now. Deb came into Hess almost everday; I guess you could say we were aquaintences, from what I knew of her she was an amazing and sweet woman. I send my deepest sympathies.
Scott (LP) Luczkow
November 17, 2006
Jess I didn't know your mother too well. I've met her few times at Mulligans and she was always fun to talk to and be around. You and your mom had an awesome relationship that some only could dream about and it is too bad something like this had to happen. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, I know your strong enough to pull through this and look forward. I'm always here for you as you always were for me back in the day.
LP
Joyce Reed-Ebling
November 17, 2006
Deb, I remember meeting you a few years ago and you were so entergetic and your smile was contageous. I worked with you many years through the Salvation Army Christmas parties that you had for the underprivleged families in the area. You would call me every year excited to help 100's of kids and their families with a party with Santa and his helpers and every child had their picture taken with him and went home with a full stomach and many gifts which you paid for out or your pocket. May Jess stay strong and lean on the family for support and know that you will be her angel to get her through the tough times. Things will get better but you will never be forgotten. God Bless you and your family.
Paulette (Matsco) Schenk
November 17, 2006
Dear, Jessica,Ruth,Sketer,Danny,
My Dad Paul Matsco just loved working with Deb. He felt like she was a second daughter. and I loved that she always cheered his day. He loves being at Mulligan's and he will miss her very much. It always comforted me that she looked out for him. Thank you Debbie for your life and your love.
Paulette (Matsco) Schenk daughter of Paul
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