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Clarence Refer

1937 - 2020

Clarence Refer obituary, 1937-2020, Kansas City, MO

BORN

1937

DIED

2020

Clarence Refer Obituary

Clarence Refer Clarence Refer, 82, died on April 19, 2020 of a lung condition called idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis. He was born in 1937 in Denver, CO but moved to Kansas City as a child. He served in the Army from 1956- 1958 in Korea. He married Linda Norwood in 1977 and they built their house in Overland Park in 1978, living there for over 41 years. He spent most of his career as a computer programmer and later manager at Commerce and UMB bank. Clarence had many interests. Before his illness he was an avid reader who devoured fiction and nonfiction books. In fiction, he preferred mysteries and thrillers. His interests included photography, astronomy, technology, history, science, foreign languages, woodworking, wine, Indian food, current events, cars, football and the stock market. At various times he studied French, Spanish, Japanese, Chinese and Arabic. What he loved most was travel. He walked on all seven continents. He went to Mexico, Canada, Hawaii, Alaska, France, Spain and Andorra, Switzerland, Italy, Germany, Austria, Denmark, Norway , Russia, Japan, South Korea, Taiwan, mainland China, Singapore, Tahiti and Bora-Bora, morocco, Greece, Turkey, Ukraine, Czech Republic, Peru, Chile, Argentina, Uruguay, Ecuador, Ireland and Portugal. He cruises through the Panama Canal and to the Caribbean. He also went to New Zealand on a separate trip and spent a month in Australia. He went to Antarctica and walked among the penguins. He took a river boat trips along the Snake and Columbia River's to the Pacific Northwest, and along the Mississippi through the American South. In addition, he took many trips throughout the continental United States and saw many of our national parks. He was funny, witty and a great talker. He also was a kind person and loved all animals, including but not limited to cats and dogs. His favorite dogs were Chihuahuas. He is survived by his wife of 43 years, Linda; sisters Bonnie Cowan and Tamby Kenslow; and cats, Walter, Leroy and Bella. He was preceded by his sisters, Kay Barnard and Echo Clemens. His favorite cat Walter faithfully stayed on Clarence's bed with him during his final illness. A private graveside will be at Longview Cemetery. A memorial service will be scheduled at a later date.

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Published by Kansas City Star on Apr. 24, 2020.

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Bill Ceccoli

May 16, 2020

I will fondly remember the many walks Clarence & I took during lunch at UMB Bank. He was a witty man with a wealth of knowledge about the world and could find the humor in life that others could not see. He could describe the history of Kansas City's downtown in detail as we strolled the streets or relate the intricacies of the complex IT systems that we worked on. Clarence's breath of knowledge was clear to anyone who spoke with him. His loss is a loss to us all.

Peggy Smith

May 11, 2020

Clarence was a part of a water aerobics class at Village Shalom, and I knew him through that class. He was such a kind, considerate man. He always greeted everyone in the class, and we thought he was the perfect gentleman.

Carlos Velazquez

April 27, 2020

I met Clarence in 1996 during his tenure at UMB but it wasn't until February of 1999 that he became a stalwart regular with Steve Young (another UMBer) and I. By "regular" I mean we would go out to dinner, once a month like clockwork. Who knew that tradition would go on for 20 years? All of us being programmers, we kept our visits charted on a spreadsheet, over the many years.

My favorite memory would be any of the many times we went to Stroud's (which was usually Clarence's pick). That was one of his "happy places". Then we would go to one of our homes and play Cuban dominoes. Many times Linda, his wife, would join us, when we played at their home.

The three of us stayed friends through the good times and the bad. Clarence will be terribly missed.

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