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Debra Flihan Obituary

Debra A. Flihan, age 63, of New Hartford, passed away on Wednesday, January 15, 2025, with the love and support of her sister, Sheila, and brother, Joe, by her side.

Debbie was born in Utica, NY, on April 20, 1961, daughter of the late Joseph and Judith Manion Flihan. A 1979 graduate of Notre Dame School, she went on to earn a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and Special Education from Nazareth University in Rochester and a Master of Science Degree in Reading from the State University of New York at Cortland.

Debbie loved books, travel, antiques and history. She also enjoyed working as a special education teacher. In 1983, Debbie began her career at Hugh R. Jones Elementary School in the Utica City School District. She later joined the Rome City School District as a member of the Ridge Mills Elementary School faculty. Debbie retired from teaching in 2018. Over the span of her 35 year career as a special educator, Debbie helped countless children reach their fullest potential as students and as people.

Debbie is survived by her brother, N. Joseph Flihan; sister, Sheila Flihan, both of New Hartford; as well as several cousins and friends.

She was predeceased by her parents, Joseph and Judith; and her partner, of more than twenty years, Mark McLane, Esq.

Relatives and friends are invited to attend her Mass of Christian Burial on Monday January 20, 2025, at 10:00 a.m. from Mary, Mother of Our Savior Church (Our Lady of Lourdes Campus). There are no calling hours. All in attendance can express their condolences to the family after the Mass. Private entombment will be in Calvary Cemetery.

Funeral arrangements are with The Scala, Roefaro & Karboski Funeral Home Inc., 1122 Culver Ave., Utica; David Roefaro and Steven Karboski, Directors. Online sympathy www.scalaroefaro.com.

"The years go fast…There is much joy and beauty awaiting in undreamed ecstasies. Do not wait too long, do not delay too much... It is the only way worth living." Emma Goldman

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Published by Daily Sentinel from Jan. 16 to Jan. 25, 2025.

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Mary Cardarelli Hunt

January 18, 2025

Joe & Sheila,
I am so very sorry to hear of Debbie´s passing. I have so many wonderful memories of her and your family, and all the great memories shared over the years at ND. Debbie was a sweetheart & I am so thankful to have had her as a friend. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Can five Fike

January 18, 2025

Debbie was an amazing educator and I was blessed to work with her. May she rest in peace.

Vince DeBella

January 17, 2025

Sheila and Joe, my most sincere condolences to the both of you. Deb was a kind soul. May she rest in peace.

Stephanie Schell

January 16, 2025

Was very dedicated to her students in the classroom.

Vincent Mazzei

January 16, 2025

So very sorry to read of her passing. She and her brother Joe grew up behind my family home. We spent some time together as kids. My sincere condolences to Joe and her family.
Vin Mazzei

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