Jay Lynn Slate, 57, of Duncan, Oklahoma, passed away Friday, January 30, 2026, at his
home in Duncan.
Graveside services will be held 11:00 AM Friday, January 6 in the Fort Sill National Veterans Cemetery, with Pastor Jeremy Taylor officiating. Services are under the direction of Bailes-Polk Funeral Home. Military honors will be rendered at the graveside.
Jay was born July 10, 1968, in Santa Maria, California, to James David Slate and Trena
(Motley) Slate. He graduated from Central High School in 1986 and later earned a Bachelor of
Science in Information Technology from Colorado Technical University.
Jay proudly served in the Army National Guard and was deployed in support of Operation
Desert Shield and Operation Desert Storm during the Persian Gulf War. He also rode in
numerous funeral detail missions with the Oklahoma Patriot Guard, standing in honor of fallen
service members and veterans. His service did not end with his uniform. It continued through
his actions.
He worked as an electronics technician for R&S; Services and enjoyed riding motorcycles and
working on computers. To his nieces, he was their cherished Uncle Jug, a steady presence in
their lives who brought laughter, loyalty, and unconditional love. He will be remembered not
just for what he did, but for who he was to those who loved him.
He is survived by his parents, James David and Trena Slate of Duncan, Oklahoma; his
brother, Jamie Slate, and wife Amanda of Duncan, Oklahoma; and his nieces Ashlyn Slate
and fiancé Chris Franz of Moore, Oklahoma, Alexa Eefting and husband Aidan of Mesquite,
Texas, Kallie Slate of Moore, Oklahoma, Rheagan Slate of Duncan, Oklahoma, and Charli
Slate of Duncan, Oklahoma.
He was preceded in death by his grandparents, Johnny and Jay Slate of Duncan, Oklahoma,
and Rose and John Motley of Santa Maria, California.
Members of the Oklahoma Patriot Guard will serve as pallbearers in honor of Jay's service.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
910 West Oak, Duncan, OK 73533

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