PAMELA HOWLAND WESCOTT

WESCOTT, Pamela Howland Died in the early hours on Sunday, February 8, 2026, at her home in Hyde Park, Massachusetts. She had been diagnosed with bulbar onset ALS, in the fall of 2024. She was 76 years old. A lifelong writer, sailor, and gardener, Pam lived a life defined by deep connections and a pursuit of justice. Professionally, she dedicated over 20 years to the Informed Medical Decisions Foundation, where she pioneered research into patient dialogue and informed choice, helping thousands find their voices in their own medical care. After retiring, she fulfilled a lifelong dream by publishing her novel, Burnt Umber, a work she described as reality fiction that explored race, gender, and the beauty of finding one's true self. Pam was proud of her Wellesley undergraduate education and remained active, attending reunions up through her 50th. Many classmates were her lifelong friends. While working on her novel, Pam completed the Stanford Writing Certificate Program and had ongoing ties with her teachers and cohort. Pam was a Renaissance woman. She bicycled 4,200 miles across the country at age 28, sailed her boat Cadenza through nor'easters, and cultivated a dahlia farm in her Hyde Park backyard. She approached life with fierce determination and a sense of purpose. Even while living with ALS, she produced her weekly substack, Healing Conundrums, that provided a sacred space of honesty and hope for a community of readers around the world. Pam was accompanied in her battle with ALS by the caring staff of the Healey Center, the ALS clinic at Mass General Brigham Hospital. Nurses and therapists were helpful at every step and maintained contact over Zoom and email when Pam could no longer travel to MGH. Compassionate Care ALS, the organization founded and run by Ron Hoffman, was intimately involved. Ron and Eileen Garry, Pam's liaison to CCALS, were immeasurably helpful in visiting, delivering supplies, humor, and practical solutions. Brenda Civitan at the retreat center in Falmouth was a friend and facilitated visits there. Caregiver Bridget McDonough came each week to assist Pam and helped maintain machines and equilibrium in the household. Good Shepherd Hospice helped at the end by receiving emergency phone calls and providing comfort and expertise when Pam died. Pam is survived by her devoted wife and kindred spirit, Kathleen Carspecken; their Welsh Pembroke corgi, Isaac; their daughters, Daniela and Alicia; granddaughters, Amora and Lyla Grace; her sister, Jane; her brothers, Clay (Alison) and Tom (Holly); her brothers-in-law, Phil Carspecken (Lucy), Randy Carspecken (Dawn), and Bruce LePage (Christine), and her many beloved nieces and nephews. She had a wide circle of diverse friends who were a source of great joy. Pam was predeceased by her parents, Robert and Priscilla Wescott; stepfather, Joseph Huber; brother-in-law, Bill Smith; and, recently, by her former husband and renewed friend, Jamie Whittemore. Pam quoted Mahatma Gandhi: "My life is my message." Her message of resilience, love, and hope will remain with us all. To honor Pam's life, please consider a donation to Compassionate Care ALS (CCALS) in Falmouth, Massachusetts.

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