Pauline Heyder

Pauline Heyder obituary, Manasquan, NJ

Pauline Heyder

Pauline Heyder Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Orender Family Home on Nov. 18, 2025.

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Pauline J. Heyder, 77, of Brick Township passed away peacefully on December 14, 2022. Pauline was born in Rahway, NJ in 1945 and raised in Winfield Park, NJ before moving to Brielle, NJ in 1979 and then to Brick Township, NJ in 1998. She was employed as a waitress while living in Brielle. Most of all she was a beloved Mother, Grandmother and Friend. She cherished spending time with her family and dog Roscoe. She greatly enjoyed gardening, crafts, shopping, bingo games and trips to Atlantic City.
Pauline was predeceased by her father and mother Alfred and Leocadia Settele. She was also predeceased by her husband Robert Heyder, brother Ronald Settele, sister Bertha Thall, and son Michael Heyder. Pauline is survived by her brother Al Settele, daughters Linda Wheeler(Eric) and Donna Boa(Ian) as well as her son Larry Wheeler(Mary Beth). Pauline also leaves behind two beloved grandsons, Joseph Boa and Michael Wheeler.
Arrangements are under the care of Orender Family Home for Funerals, 2643 Old Bridge Road, Manasquan, NJ 08736. A burial will take place on Saturday, December 17th at 10:30 am at Greenwood Cemetery in Brielle, NJ. To send condolences to the family please visit www.orenderfamilyhome.net.

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