Robert "Bob" DeFeo

Robert "Bob" DeFeo obituary, Salem, NH

Robert "Bob" DeFeo

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200 Lawrence Rd., Salem, NH 03079

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Robert DeFeo Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Douglas & Johnson Funeral Home - Salem on Mar. 27, 2026.
Robert "Bob" DeFeo, 83, of Salem, NH passed away peacefully, Friday, March 27th, leaving behind a legacy of hard work, quiet generosity, and a deep appreciation for the simple joys of life.

He grew up in Medford, MA and he graduated from Medford Vocational Technical High School. He went on to further his education and dedicated himself to his trade, ultimately earning the distinction of Master Electrician-a testament to his skill, determination, and strong work ethic.

Bob was a longtime member of the Knights of Columbus, Bishop Peterson Council #4442, where he generously gave his time volunteering at bingo events. He found fulfillment in helping others and being part of a community rooted in faith and service.

He cherished his time outdoors, especially fishing and boating. Some of his fondest memories were made growing up on Cobbetts Pond, a place that remained close to his heart throughout his life.

Bob will be remembered for his steady presence, kind spirit, and the many ways he quietly supported those around him. He held a special place in the hearts of his family and friends, who will miss him dearly.

He is survived by his wife of 63 years, Janet (Sapochetti) DeFeo, his 4 children, Christine DeFeo of Haverhill, MA, Robert DeFeo and wife Kimberly of Derry, NH, Marc DeFeo and wife Erika of Salem, NH, and Amy Whittaker and husband Brent of Salem, NH, as well as his 8 grandchildren, Gabrielle, Lacey, Robbie, Elizabeth, Julianne, Cole, Ella, and Sawyer.

The family would like to extend their sincere gratitude to the staff at Silverthorne for the compassionate care and kindness shown to their "Uncle Bob" and the staff of Amedysis Hospice and the Alzheimer's Association.

Visitation is on Tuesday, March 31st from 4:00 – 7:00 PM at Douglas & Johnson Funeral Home, 214 Main St, Salem, NH. The Funeral Service is April 1st at 10:30 AM at Mary Queen of Peace Church, 200 Lawrence Rd, Salem, NH. Please arrive by 10:15 AM. Burial will follow at Pine Grove Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in Bob's memory can be sent to: Silverthorne Adult Daycare, 23 Geremonty Dr, Salem, NH or to the food pantry c/o Sts. Mary & Joseph Parish, 200 Lawrence Rd, Salem, NH 03079.

To send a message of condolence to the family, please view the obituary at www.douglasandjohnson.com

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Upcoming Events

Mar

31

Visitation

4:00 p.m. - 7:00 p.m.

DOUGLAS & JOHNSON FUNERAL HOME

214 MAIN STREET, Salem, NH 03079

Send FlowersBook nearby hotels

Apr

1

Funeral service

10:30 a.m.

Mary Queen of Peace Church

200 Lawrence Rd., Salem, NH 03079

Send FlowersBook nearby hotels

Only 3 days left for delivery to next service.