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Thomas Dennis Ruane, Sr.
Thomas Dennis Ruane, Sr.
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Thomas Ruane, Sr. Obituary
A proud scholar, Tom graduated first in his class from St. Peter's College (1972) and again from Fordham University School of Law (1975). He rose to partnership at the renowned Robinson, St. John & Wayne firm in Newark, later serving as Chief Legal Officer for Siemens USA. He went on to found WhiteCap Partners, a New Jersey-based investment fund, blending legal expertise with entrepreneurial vision. Tom was a trusted advisor both professionally and personally, and his legacy of integrity, mentorship, and generosity will continue to inspire.
Passionate about golf, Tom enjoyed courses around the world - and the 19th hole with friends and family. He lived for nearly 30 years in Little Silver, New Jersey, before moving to Naples, Florida, where he became an active member of The Vineyards community and proudly served as President of the Homeowners Association.
Above all, Tom cherished his family. He is survived by his beloved wife Ann; children Elizabeth, Christine (Charlie), and Thomas, Jr.; grandchildren Henry, Tommy, Christian, and Charley, who knew him lovingly as "Fox;" and sisters, Ellen and Nancy.
Services to honor his life will be held at 10am on Friday, September 26, 2025, at the Church of the Nativity in Fair Haven, New Jersey. Additionally, a celebration of life will take place on Sunday, October 12, 2025 at 1pm at The Vineyards Country Club in Naples, FL.
Tom will be remembered for his brilliant intellect, quiet resolve, Irish humor, and the countless ways he enriched the lives of others. His signature one-liners and comedic timing turned ordinary moments into unforgettable memories.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Dyslexia Road (www.dyslexiaroad.org) or Avow Hospice (www.avowcares.org)
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Sharon Gutschick
October 6, 2025
Tim and I are deeply saddened about Tom's passing. He was genuine, honest, kind and just an all-around great person. We had the utmost respect for him and loved the time we got to spend with him, always enjoying the conversation and learning something new every time. He will be greatly missed by everyone at the Vineyards.
Respectfully,
Tim and Sharon
Patrick Caulfield
September 25, 2025
Ann and Family:
I was very saddened to hear about Tom's passing. Tom and I both graduated from St. Peter's Prep, St. Peter's College and Fordham University School of Law, in the same classes, and got to know each other very well during those 11 years. Tom's academic achievements speak for themselves, but they only begin to tell the story of Tom Ruane. Tom was a man of character and integrity. He was was brilliant, humble, genuine, straightforward and soft spoken, and had a great Irish sense of humor. He also treated everyone with dignity and respect, and would go above and beyond the call of duty in helping colleagues, friends and family. Tom was truly the best of the best, and will be sorely missed.
Pat Caulfield
Lori Kruk
September 24, 2025
Ann, Larry and I will forever be grateful for meeting you and Tom, Tom was a great man of wisdom, humor and logic. The Vineyards Pub will never be the same but his spirit will live on there with all of us. God Bless you and your family. God Bless Tom. Lori and Larry Kruk
Pat McNally
September 24, 2025
Ann and family,
Our condolences on a great loss.
Tom was brave, kind, generous and always found a way to make you smile whenever you were in his company.
He will be sadly missed.
Pat and Liz McNally
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Woody Graebe
September 23, 2025
To Ann and Family:
Carole and I want to offer our sincere condolences and prayers for Tom and his family. In the 20 some odd years that I have known Tom, I can honestly say that he was one of the most sincere people I have ever met.
I also know that Tom was a very charitable person. If there is a place in Heaven for any of us, it is definitely Tom.
Sincerely,
Carole and Woody Graebe
Len Bello
September 23, 2025
A great man with a warm heart and a dear friend to so many- you will be missed - God Bless.
Larry Bergdale
September 23, 2025
Ann,
So sorry to hear of Tom's passing. I greatly enjoyed our conversations over a glass of chardonnay in Mr. P's. So very witty and funny.
May you cherish the memories with Tom and may he rest in peace.
Liz and Bob Weiss
September 23, 2025
To Ann and family,
We are so sorry to hear the news about Tom - we only just heard. What a lovely man - he will be missed.
Our thoughts are with you at this sad time.
Best wishes,
Liz and Bob Weiss
Denise
September 22, 2025
Tom was an amazing friend to me and my husband! He would go to the ends of the earth for you. I will truly miss him I'm grateful to have had him as a friend rest in peace I'm sure you are dancing with Johnny and Jimmy
Leslie Martello and Bruce Lerner
September 22, 2025
We are so sad to hear about Tom. Our deepest sympathy to Ann and the family.
Patrick & Jade Mc Graner
September 22, 2025
Tom was truly a legend and a stand up guy that everyone could count on.
May he rest in peace
Patrick & Jade
John and Sheila McGraner
September 22, 2025
Truly a great man who would do anything for you
Paula and Mark DeVoe
September 21, 2025
Tom will be truly missed; always enjoyed our interactions...his demeanor, intellect and wit were wonderful.
We were honored to be part of his orbit and will always think fondly of him.
Bill Wood
September 21, 2025
We started to miss Tom the minute he left Little Silver. Now we miss him even that much more. His friendship, generosity, sense of humor, & business acumen, are attributes held by very few. Tom was the guy you turned to for advice, a favor, or a trusted opinion on most any topic. As Ann, Elizabeth, Christine, & Tommy know, our lives were enriched having Tommy with us.
Mike and Sandi Werner
September 20, 2025
The world lost a great man. Tom was brilliant, humble, and the most generous person I ever knew. Our sincere condolences to Ann and his family. Mike and Sandi
Scott O'Dell
September 20, 2025
Our thoughts are with Anne and the family after losing Tom. He was truly a legend!! Anything you need, at any time, we are here for you. Scott and Jennifer O'Dell- The Vineyards.
Pat McCullough
September 20, 2025
Ann and Family, I was shocked to hear the news about Tom. He was so full of life with his quick wit and humor. He was always very generous with the golf staff at the Vineyards and I´m sure he was the same everywhere. He will be missed. Pat McCullough
Dan and Barb Enneking
September 19, 2025
God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow. Tom was a great giving and loving soul and will be greatly missed.
Dan and Barb Enneking
Richard and Peg Cacioppe
September 19, 2025
What a sad loss for his many friends and the community he served so well. He had a unique and magnetic personality that made him a beloved friend to so many. He could brighten any room with his upbeat and positive personality. The world will be a little darker without him in it. I'll forever miss his big smile and 'hello general' greeting. There will only ever be one Tom Ruane.
Michael Greenough
September 19, 2025
Tom was a rock to all our charitable causes. He led the group to raise funds and truly paid it forward. I will miss him dearly.
Tamuccio Patricia and James
September 19, 2025
Dear Ann and family,
At a time like this sadly, there are no words. Our deeply heartfelt sadness is with you and the family.
Tom was a unique man with an endearing personality. A man who, if asked for help or advice, was always there for you. A man full of life, fun, endearing to all but especially to his family. His loss will be felt by many but especially by you, whom he adored, the children and grandchildren. May he be resting in the Palm of HIS hand and may GOD BLESS you and watch over you and the family.
Our thoughts and prayers have always/will be with you.
Luv,
Jimmy and Trish Tamuccio
Rick Ewart
September 18, 2025
Dear Ann and family,
I am deeply saddened to hear of Tom´s passing. I have many fond memories of Tom, during our youthful years. He was definitely a man of honor and was deeply committed to his family and friends. Although I didn´t get to see him often in recent years, he would always make me feel like our friendship had never faded. I will keep you and your family in my Prayers and I hope that you all can find some small measure of comfort in the knowledge that Tom is now Resting in the Arms of Jesus. God Bless you.
Rick Ewart - Miami, Fl.
Patty and John O´Sullivan
September 18, 2025
Dear Ann
Our hearts go out to you and your family. There are no words that can express how deeply Tom will be missed by family and friends. He was a wonderful caring person. His sharp wit endeared him to everyone, yet you knew underneath it all he was truly your friend. We were privileged to know him.
He was the epitome of the Vineyards Community and he will be with us everywhere ..we love him and will miss him dearly. Our prayers are with you and your family..
Marianne Gambucci
September 18, 2025
Ann,
My deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss. Tom was such a caring man and always there to give advice when asked for his opinion. May you and your family have some peace knowing he is now in the loving arms of God. He will be missed by all those who had the pleasure of knowing him.
Marianne Gambucci
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