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Thomas Stackpole Sr.
Thomas Stackpole Obituary
August 19, 1942 - July 16, 2025
Thomas (Tom) Michael Stackpole Sr. of Murrieta, CA, passed away unexpectedly at his home on July 16, 2025. He was the beloved husband of Linda Labanara Stackpole.
Born in New Haven, Connecticut, Tom was one of ten children of the late Henry and Letitia Smith Stackpole. He was predeceased by his brothers LtGen Henry Stackpole III (Vivien), James Stackpole (Diane), and George Stackpole (Barbara); his sister Gayle O'Mara (Joseph); and his cherished granddaughter, Gia Stackpole.
Tom is survived by his devoted sons, Thomas Stackpole Jr. (Starr) and Peter Stackpole (Elizabeth); his adored grandchildren, Jessica Westerhold (Brent), Hunter Stackpole, Tori Stackpole, London Stackpole, Nicholas Trunkey, and Max Stackpole; and his great-grandchildren, Ace and Sutter Westerhold.
He is also survived by his loving sisters, Joan Gorry (Joseph), Holly Aven (Michael), Susan Alberino (Dominick), Diane Briody (Joseph), and his brother, Michael Stackpole (Betty).
A graduate of West Haven High School, Tom served his country honorably in the United States Marine Corps. In his later years, he continued his service by volunteering to drive fellow veterans to VA medical appointments and by dedicating time to the local food bank.
He was known for his deep love of family, generosity of spirit, sense of humor and passion for golf. Above all, Tom was a devoted husband, father, and grandfather whose presence will be profoundly missed by all who knew him.
Services will be held at the convenience of the family. If desired, donations may be made in Tom's memory to an organization of your choice or to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.
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Betty Stackpole
July 25, 2025
This is happy memories of his younger brother(Michael), & wife (Betty), visiting them in Calf., a few years ago.
Russell Sperry
July 24, 2025
I first met Tommy when we played for the Exchange club in the West Haven little league in the early 50s
Later in life we had a ""happenstance encounter"
in a mess-hall at Camp Geiger N.C
I said re you Tommy Stackpole from West Haven? The thrill from meeting someone from back home.
Proud to have known you.
Semper Fi Marine!!
Rest in peace
Lisa D'Agostino
July 23, 2025
My sincere condolences to Tom´s family and friends.
I had the honor of working with Tom in Waterbury, CT back in the early 2000s. He was such a kind, witty, and funny man - he could make me laugh until I cried. He always spoke so highly of his family and was so proud of them. I wish we had kept in touch after he moved from Connecticut.
It was truly a privilege to work alongside Tom. He was an amazing person, and I will always cherish the wonderful memories.
Joe Raucci
July 23, 2025
Tom and I met in high school in West Haven. We joined the Marine Corps under the buddy system in 1961. Although we moved all over the country, we were just a phone call away and maintained a friendship for over 64 years. Tom liked to end a call by saying Semper Fi. So I say to you my friend, Semper Fi. We will all miss you
Johnny Howard
July 23, 2025
Big Hank and Tish raised the most wonderful family. We lived a door away on Ivy Street in West Haven. Tommy was slightly older than me and we would play baseball in the street until the street lights came on. My parents and I missed them for many years after they moved. Tommy and his family left so many nice memories.
Elaine Walsh
July 23, 2025
Some friendships are forged in fire. Tom Stackpole was one of those rare, enduring friends who walked with my father through some of life´s most defining moments. They met as teenagers in Boot Camp at Parris Island. From the beginning, Tom was the kind of man who showed up. He was there for my father through those early days of becoming Marines, and over the decades. And no matter how much time passed between visits, they always picked up right where they left off, like true brothers.
After my mother passed away, Tom flew across the country from California without telling anyone, just to be there for my dad. He walked into her wake in New York and said simply, "I needed to be here for my wingman." That´s who Tom was; selfless, and loyal. A one-of-a-kind friend you can only hope to be blessed with in this lifetime.
Last year, Tom and my dad returned together to Parris Island, the place where it all began. Two old friends retracing the steps of their youth, reflecting on the boys they were and the men they became. I´m grateful that they shared that time together. I can´t thank Tom enough for being the kind of friend every person hopes to have and every family is grateful to know. He will be deeply missed by his friends and family.
Semper Fi, Tom. Thank you - Elaine Walsh
Al & Lana Simmons
July 22, 2025
Sincere condolences to all of Tom´s family. Tom was a wonderful man, always a smile and fun story to tell.
May he rest in peace.
Al & Lana Simmons
Southington Ct
Kevin and Jackie Stackpole
July 21, 2025
Aunt Linda, Tommy and Peter, I am so sorry for your loss. Uncle Tom was an amazing man who will be missed dearly. Semper Fi uncle Tom!
Arman and Laura Semerjian
July 21, 2025
We are so saddened by Tom´s passing. It was an honor to share so many days with him, both on the golf course and at family gatherings. I always looked forward to playing golf with Tom; he made every round fun and was always there with a kind word and a genuine check-in. He truly cared about the people around him.
Our hearts go out to Linda, Tom Jr., Starr, and the whole family. Tom will be deeply missed, but the memories will be with us forever. ~Arman and Laura
Ed & Robin Gorry
July 21, 2025
So sorry
Our condolences
We loved visiting him and Aunt Linda
James M.Stackpole
July 21, 2025
God Bless, Rest in Peace UT... Good man!
John Dunn
July 21, 2025
One of the nicest and most genuine of men I have ever met( or will likely ever meet) A compassionate, caring , and loving man who I enjoyed many laughs with. Thanks Tom , I will miss you, but I take solace in the fact that you have left an amazing legacy . Rest in peace, John
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