Violet Rose Kahler-Thompson

Violet Rose Kahler-Thompson

Graveside service was held for Violet Rose Kahler-Thompson on Friday, October 10, 2025 at 2:00 p.m. at Fairview Cemetery in Tuttle, OK under the direction of Sevier Funeral Home. She will be lovingly missed by her parents, River Kahler and Charles Thompson.

Her story from her Grandmother, Davina, as spoken at her service.

Thank you all for coming today to support River and Charlie and the rest of our families, as we say goodbye to sweet little Violet.

Their story is one of love and support, tragedy and heartbreak, and grace and strength beyond understanding.

I remember the day River told her father and I that she was pregnant. I came home much later than usual from having dinner with friends that I hadn't seen in a long time and she and Wayne were waiting up on me. She told her dad before she told me, and he was there as her silent supporter as she told me the news. I think I just initially said, "Okay."

There was no yelling or anger in that moment, just a little surprise and quiet acceptance that our daughter was going to be a mother and while things may be a little harder as she finishes school, a baby is and always will be a blessing.

Over the next several months, I watched as River's belly grew along with her excitement of being a mother. There were many moments of watching and feeling her belly jump from Violet's little kicks.

When River asked me to make her gender reveal cake, I was so honored and excited to be the first to know she was having a little girl. I remember painstakingly removing any and all crumbs from the countertop so I wouldn't accidentally give away the surprise.

River told us on so many occasions that she couldn't wait for Violet to get here. If she was ever nervous or scared about becoming a mother, you would never know it. She embraced motherhood from the beginning, and her excitement grew with each passing day.

Around 30 weeks, I went with River to an additional ultrasound. Violet was so active and playful that day and we even got to see her little yawn. She had her face covered with a little foot and hand for most of the ultrasound, but then she moved them and we got the most adorable little 4D image of her little face. We were told that she was perfectly healthy that day and that she was even practicing her breathing, which not all babies do by 30 weeks. We walked away from that ultrasound with light hearts and excitement for her arrival.

The evening that River and Charlie celebrated their 2-year anniversary, River came to be concerned that she hadn't felt Violet move in 3 days. As I was sitting there processing what she was telling me, I was first in denial that anything was wrong. However, when we went to labor and delivery to get River and Violet checked out, our worst fears were confirmed.

River's heartbreak in that moment is something I will never forget or fully get over.

In the days after, I watched River and Charlie navigate the most devastating loss a parent could ever endure. River bravely brought Violet into this world, and she and Charlie spent about 10 hours with their sweet baby. I watched on as River gently gave Violet her first bath and dressed her in a purple little onesie. She was so gentle and loving. I got to see a glimpse of the mother she had grown to be. I have also gotten to see what a loving and strong partner that Charlie is for River. He stayed by her side from the moment they found out and was steadfast with her at the hospital. I watched him hold Violet, help River dress her, and comfort each other in those hours. Charlie helped with the molds of Violet's hands and feet and worked to get the most perfect little hand and footprint. His small smile as he admired his handiwork is something River will always remember.

The day after River was discharged from the hospital, she came with me to take her brother to an urgent care and there were 2 little girls around 1 and 2 years old in the waiting room and they were immediately drawn to her. One of them came up to her with a Bible and asked River to read it to her. I believe in that moment, in His own way, God was letting her know he was there with her.

River and Charlie both have endured the loss of their most precious little one with so much grace and strength. It surpasses all understanding. As I have watched them process the last few days, I stand here in awe of them both. They are incredible young parents with a resiliency and strength that could only come from God.

My brother wrote the following prayer and I have adapted it to include River and Charlie:

Father God, we come to You with heavy hearts, seeking comfort and peace for River and Charlie during this painful time. We ask that you wrap them in Your love and embrace, bringing them solace in their sorrow. May they feel Your presence and find strength in the love of family and friends surrounding them. Give peace in knowing that they will be together again with their sweet Violet in your kingdom one day.

In Jesus's name, Amen.