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Joseph DiBernardo Obituary
By: Ron DiBiase, Lt. Kevin Yoos, Paul DiBiase, FM William Rohr, Glen Pinkava, and Joanna Smiroldo
Joey was born on December 9, 1970, the dear son of Joseph G. and Barbara DiBernardo.
At a very young age Joey became fascinated with his dad’s chosen career, a firefighter for the City of New York. As his dad moved up quickly through the ranks of the FDNY to the rank of Deputy Chief, Joey's interest turned to passion. He answered this calling as a volunteer firefighter with the Setauket Fire Department in 1989. As a member of the Setauket Fire Department, Joey held the ranks of firefighter, Lieutenant, and Captain of Hook and Ladder Co. No. 1. In addition to responding to thousands of alarms, Joey was instrumental in the formation of the Setauket Fire Department’s Technical Rescue team, which spawned the creation of the Brookhaven Technical Rescue Task Force and the Suffolk County USAR team.
In 1993 Joey became a Fire Alarm Dispatcher with the FDNY, assigned to the Bronx Communications Office. Joey was appointed to the FDNY as a probationary firefighter on October 15, 1995. Upon graduation he was assigned to Ladder Co. 56 in the Bronx. He was quickly recognized as a hard working firefighter who had the 'job' flowing through his veins. In 1998, he applied for and was accepted into the Special Operations Command and assigned Squad 61. Showing great aptitude, determination and skill, a true firefighter, Joey was hand selected for the elite ranks of Rescue Company 3 in October 2000. Here, Joey worked alongside and was mentored by true legends of the FDNY. Joey excelled, and was soon training fellow firefighters at the FDNY’s Technical Rescue School and around the globe.
On the morning of January 23, 2005, Rescue 3 responded to a fire in an apartment building in the Morris Heights section of the Bronx. Joey was among six firefighters trapped by illegal partitions inside a fourth-floor apartment. That day became known as “Black Sunday.” The firefighters desperately tried to escape the blaze. Despite the limited options, Joey heroically put the life of fellow Rescue 3 firefighter Jeff Cool first and held a safety rope as Jeff tried to rappel down the building. Joey then attached the personal safety rope to a window guard, but the rope gave way about 10-feet down, sending him plunging nearly four stories into the basement-level courtyard below. Joey landed feet first and shattered every bone from his waist down. He underwent eleven hours of surgery on his right leg and nine hours on his left; his coma lasted eighteen days, during which he twice received last rites. When he finally awoke, he was 40 pounds lighter—despite the addition of 10 titanium plates and 60 screws in his lower body. Joey never fully recovered from those injuries.
Prior to the occurrences of January 23, 2005, Joey scored well on the FDNY Lieutenant’s exam, and was promoted in May 2005. The events of Black Sunday, in addition to his work at WTC on September 11, 2001, continued to plague him and he was forced to retire from the department on January 26, 2006.
Joey passed peacefully sometime during the morning hours of November 22, 2011. Joey leaves behind his beloved dad Joseph, beloved mom Barbara, loving sister Carolyn, brother-in-law Gino, the love of his life, and goddaughter, one year old niece Gabriella, as well as his aunts, uncles, and cousins. Joey’s life was his family and the FDNY. Joey is now providing fire and technical rescue services beyond the pearly gates; and yes, Grandpa DiBernardo is right there with him cooking the sauce and macaroni for the meal.
We will always remember ‘Joey D’ … he was family.
In lieu of flowers, please send donations to the New York Firefighters Burn Center Foundation at:
The New York Firefighters
Burn Center Foundation
21 Asch Loop
Bronx, New York 10475
Friends may call at the Bryant Funeral Home, Inc. 411 Old Town Rd. Setauket, LI. Visiting hours Saturday and Sunday 2-4 & 7-9 PM. Funeral mass Monday 11 AM at St. James RC Church, Setauket. Interment to follow at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, Coram, NY.
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Michael Magnanti
February 4, 2019
Miss you bro. Miss you every day. Was telling my kids stories about our escapades and makes me laugh because I always need to clean them up. Love you man.
Michael Magnanti
March 27, 2018
Miss you pal, every day. Love you man
Gary Gruber
March 26, 2018
Joseph and I palled around together when we were at Saw Mill Rd School in Bellmore. He was always fun to be around. So sorry to hear of his passing. He was a great guy and will be remembered by many! God Bless.
Patti Ruppel
April 23, 2015
I only knew Joey as a child- little kids, 4 or 5 years old, on Doris Avenue in Bellmore. I don't remember too much but I DO remember he loved fire trucks. His passing away made me sad, but it makes me smile to know he grew up to live his dream of being a firefighter. God Bless.
richard stefani
September 17, 2014
Didnt know joey personally but was a neighbor firefighter from selden
JOHN LIGHTSEY
May 27, 2014
HELLO JOEY.. REALLY MISS YOU, AND FUN TIMES WE HAD AT FDNY AND HOME. YOU WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN BY ME..
Cecil Lynn Farrar
May 23, 2014
Joey was always fighting for what was right ,,, that is how I remember Joey. He share this on FB.
"Change your FB profile picture to a cartoon from your childhood! The goal? To not see a human face on FB til Monday, Dec 6th. Join the fight against child abuse. Copy & paste to your status to invite your friends to do the same."
You changed my life ,,, you will never be forgotten my dear FB friend. See you when I get to the other side.
Love,
CeCe
Dennis Whittam
May 23, 2014
Joey exemplified the meaning of Brotherhood. Even after Black Sunday, he carried on caring about the person that was next to him. He is missed.
Melinda Ann DeLuca
November 22, 2013
Joey was the one true
Love of my life. He taught me how to love and showed me what it was like to be treated like a lady. I will always love him and I know I will reunite with him in another time to finish what we started.
karla gentile
November 2, 2013
your legacy lives on, and on.....
Keith Rosario
October 26, 2013
God Bkess You Brother....You Will Be Remembered For The Consummate Professional & Hero. You Fought A Valiant fight, Ever Watchful, We'll Take It From Here! Rest In Peace
Bartr Simpson
October 23, 2013
Joy D we all miss you so much. Your smile your humor,and all the training we did at both FDIC and Firehoue Expo. And the after training adult beverages
Watch out for us a we carry out duties.
October 23, 2013
Miss you Joey D...thanks for sharing your knowledge and experience...never forget.
September 2, 2013
how ya doin pal...peppe went over the rainbow bridge saturday..make sure you look out for him and take care of him..with Trooper, Captain adn Whiskers..and rescue is doing just fine, so no need to worry about him,,
luv ya man
Diane Guido
August 28, 2013
Missing you my friend
Lisa Braithwaite
May 28, 2013
Just showed my 12 yr old my Murphy Jr High Yearbook and the first post I noticed was signed Joey D. Most people would think there must of been a lot of Joey's in our class growing up on Long Island but I knew right away it was you. You will never be forgotten.
Nancy Ervolina-Meyers
May 22, 2013
Joe DiBernardo," Damn glad to meet you!" I want you on my truck. His first words to me the first time I met him at Station 3 meeting. We became instant friends. He took the time to work with me and teach me. We could have 5 hour conversations and not run out of things to say. He would show up at my house at 3 a.m. and call to say he was out front and wanted to talk. Even though its been 14 years since we moved from N.Y. we still had that connection. Heaven definitely has the best Firefighter, teacher, hero, there ever was. You have left a tremendous hole in everyone's heart here on earth. Even though you are taking care of us from above I miss hearing your voice and seeing your face. How you doin'? I have so many memories to hold on to. So many of our phrases only we know....Oh my God, I'm seeing Stars!!! Keep watching over and protecting your family and friends, and I'll talk to you again......promise. Fino ad allora, sarai sempre nei miei pensieri e nel mio cuore il mio amico speciale. Ti amo sempre...
Jeanine Stewart
May 22, 2013
It's been 1 year and 6 months since you left this physical world. It still seems surreal. Each day I love Rescue more. He is such a good boy, so smart, and so misunderstood. I know you are "around", Rescue can see and feel you....he lets me know so we can talk to you. Keep watching over us and keeping us safe. Rescue keeps me safe, warm, and allows me some room on the bed...sometimes. Thank you my friend for the "loud" times, the laughter, the tears, the trips to IKEA which can never be matched, the coffee sessions and sharing your life. Until we meet again my handsome sandwich, I shall honor and cherish our friendship and love your dog...who is my best pal now. We love you.
Sherry Stebe
January 20, 2013
Miss u Joey. Watch family and friends from heaven. U were loved so much. Peace I'm heaven .
Michael Magnanti
January 20, 2013
I think of you every time I see an apparatus. Makes me smile and laugh. You were such a great friend to me and I miss yo every day.
Kathleen Cooney
January 19, 2013
It is always nice to be remembered. As I can see, you surly are and will always be in the hearts of those who loved you. You are where we all will be. R.I.P.
Colleen (C) McKenna
January 16, 2013
How I miss you every day..there are no words..
Until we meet again
Mary Jo Stark
November 22, 2012
I am lucky for the memories of all twe shared. Over all the years we had them all, laughter, tears, sunrises and sunsets. It makes me laugh to think about the day I joined SFD, and you were all FDNY fireman standing in the doorway. I did not know how you would shape my life. There are days I cant believe how much I learned from you. I believe God saved you from growing old and not being able to walk anymore. To be spared suffering is a grace. Today is Thanksgiving and I am working on being Thankful for all the time we had together and the memories that keep you alive in my heart everyday. I miss you terribly.
LouAnn Richardson
November 16, 2012
RIP Joey....still miss talking to you my friend...
Jennifer Wojcik
October 30, 2012
Joe, it's been 11 months, and I haven't been able to sign this guestbook. It's just unbelievable that you are gone and just so so sad. 11 months, and I feel *sick* writing an entry here. But I had the most vivid dream of you two nights ago to the point that I was confused when I woke up. I miss you, our conversations and even our loud arguments in the firehouse. Your friendship was very important to me-- I am grateful for your honesty, and patience. The time we had together at Station 3, and the time we had together as friends taught me about selflessness. I didn't know why I'd make you so mad from time to time, but suffice it to say, I do now. Sometimes I wish I hadn't moved away, so I could have been a better friend to you after Black Sunday. I wish we had more time.
laura horowitz
October 23, 2012
RIP Joey!!!
Chey Ducloseille
October 22, 2012
Love u brother we will see again.
tony mirande
October 22, 2012
Joe, you did your job well your shift is over but you will never be forgotten and will always " ride "with us. Rest in peace brother
Skip & Jeannie Kurrus
October 22, 2012
Our love and prayers are with you always
Lorraine Glessner
September 30, 2012
My earliest memories of you are of the summers when we were both very young and my family and I would visit your grandmother's house for barbeques. No sooner were my sister and I in the house than you were asking us if we wanted to see your fire trucks. You were so shy that I could barely hear you as you mumbled into your shoulder. As many can attest, your shyness dissipated as you grew into a man, a hero who lived passionately, loved his work, respected brotherhood and loyally sacrificed for it. Your brilliant smile and character often hid the heartbreaking pain you daily endured as a result of your sacrifice, yet I can rest in the knowledge that the hole in your heart is forever repaired and your pain has now been converted to eternal love, forgiveness and grace.
I always thought you an amazing person with a tremendous will and spirit that will never cease to inspire me as well as many others. You taught me so much both in life and in your passing, not the least of which is to treat each moment as precious, to live life to the fullest and to listen to my heart without hesitation, even if it's difficult to do so. I will now do these things, without fear, in order to honor you, your life, what you did for others and what your friendship did for me.
I'm grateful and honored to have shared your last few months with you as well as help you cross off some items from your ‘bucket list'. You always noticed and appreciated the little things and this is one of the many characteristics that set you apart and made you so special. Sadly, we weren't able to accomplish more as it seems that God had a more significant and fulfilling bucket list for you to complete.
To say I miss you is a dire understatement. The painful hollowness in my heart is a constant reminder of the void only you could fill and that will now always remain. Even with this pain, I'm extremely fortunate to be blessed with the gifts of your amazing words and poetry as well as some incredible memories that will sustain me until we meet again. You now know love always, Life's Good.
Karen Leming - Tenor Drummer
Karen Leming - Tacoma Fire Department
September 22, 2012
I was honored to play at the IAFF Fallen Firefighters Memorial with the Pipes and Drums remembering your sacrifice and also paying tribute to your family. I was honored to meet your family and have nothing but the sincerest condolences for them. You are "New York's Bravest" and will be missed my Brother.
Marta Pollina
September 22, 2012
R.I.P. Joey
Gary & Linda Neilsen
September 22, 2012
we are so sorry for your loss, he is such a handsome young man, I can't even begin to imagine the hell you are living, Please know that our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Laura Horowitz
September 22, 2012
RIP Joey. I am glad to have found your Mom & Dad on Fb & I will keep you all in my thoughts & prayers ,always Laura
Marc Gluesen
August 22, 2012
thx for your service - things that make a difference - true hero
Colleen M
August 20, 2012
~When you miss me, just look up to the night sky and remember, I'm like a star; sometimes you can't see me, but I'm always there~
Gone, but always remembered..
Tony Grazziano
August 1, 2012
Joey I will always remember both you and your grandpa. Every time we talked he said Tony you can understand knowing you have six grandkids that their is always one that stays a little close to you and that was my Joey. I wear the Rescue 3 buckle proudly and am quick to tell anyone your story.Because of you I met your Uncle Ray and stayed with him in Sturgis. The DiBernardo family are a real close group and because of you I got to know them.
Art Bloomer
July 31, 2012
Joey, you were a firemans fireman....the best Brother....miss you each day...
Kysten Ellison
July 23, 2012
Joey, I wish that I had a chance to say goodbye. I think of you often, and you will always be missed...
Ken Hargreaves
July 23, 2012
Joey was a friend,mentor and a brother! I had the honor to serve with him in the Setauket fire department. I miss him dearly everyday!
Cheryl
July 22, 2012
One of NY's FINEST & BRAVEST! RIP Joey! You are loved and remembered every minute of every day!
Michael Scotti
July 22, 2012
Miss seeing you pop your head over our fence Joe.
Colleen M
April 28, 2012
I miss you so very much..I miss the sound of your voice..Gone, but Never Forgotten~
Jennifer Carbone
April 23, 2012
Joey, I was thinking of you today. I am glad we were able to reunite after years of separation (many years since the engine 50 ladder 19 Christmas parties). Even though you teased me relentlessly .I am grateful for the few times we had together as adults. You grew into an awesome man and will be forever missed! Love you!!
Lisa, Mike, Hallie and Mikey
April 17, 2012
I filled the bird feeder that you had in our tree today and when I couldn't reach it, I said to Mike, "please come do Joe's job for me." Every time I filled those feeders you always took that one down for me. We all miss you on Harrison Ave. Your dad was so kind to give us your windchime from your front porch. Although we hung it on our back porch, the fireman on there is overlooking your house. We miss you and Rescue very much.
Virginia Dean
April 1, 2012
I was in Church this morning and during the priest's sermon, he mentioned that once in a while during our life we come upon ordinary people that make an extraordinary impression on our lives, and really inspire us by their words, actions, etc. I immediately thought of you and no one else. Throughout your all too short life, you accomplished so much, you helped so many, you put your life on the line, you were all that was honorable and good, you were a hero. To me you were that ordinary person who did extraordinary things for so many. I love you my dear nephew, and the hole you left in my heart when you left us is filled with pride because of all that you were. Rest peacefully and shower us with the strength to carry on without you.
Erin Yoos
March 28, 2012
Joey was like an uncle to me. One that I'll never forget. I will miss him greatly, Because if there's one name I'll never forget its Joey DiBernardo
Fred LaFemina
March 27, 2012
I remember Joe well. When he was in Sq-61, I had worked there as a covering Captain. I always liked when Joe was working since we had the same passion for the job. We would talk fire well into the night always having a fresh cup of coffee. When I was promoted to battalion chief I worked in the Rescue Battalion and Joe had transferred to Rescue 3. I always would visit R3 during my tour and especially if Joe was working. It was nice to see Joe working at major incidents as well because I knew if R3 was operating the outcome would be sucessful. I was also the commanding officer of the Technical Rescue School and Joe was one of the first of the young guys to step up and teach. That was intimidating because Joe was teaching members of the Command who had much more senority. But Joe didn't care because he wanted everyone in the class to get the best training he could give them. It was an honor and a blessing for me to have worked with Joe. God Bless him and the entire DiBernardo family.
Erika Schaub
March 26, 2012
This is hard to write because there was so much, we were friends for over 15 years. He never let me get lazy, to treat everything like it was the real deal. The one thing that I miss is his passion. Whether bad or good, he always had passion. That and his smile. I miss him but don't we all....
Erin Elba
March 26, 2012
Joey,
You were so loved and looked up to by so many. You wrote me after my brother passed away and I thought how sweet that was of you and you had some really nice things to say about him. Now here we all are doing it for you. I still can not believe your an angel now. You were and always will be a stand up guy. We had some fun times and I will miss you. RIP
Erin Marotta
March 26, 2012
Joey,
Although we only met a few times, you have made an impact on my life that I can't explain. You are a true hero and an extraordinary person. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you, as well as your Mom, Dad, Gino, Carolyn, and Gabriella. My prayers are always with you. Rest in Peace.
Engineer Eli M. Dierkhising /San Antonio Fire Dept
March 24, 2012
Joey,
I found you a stranger walking the streets in San Antonio, TX. By that evening you were meeting the family at our home. Your cheery smile and love for firefighting had you leaving as a good friend. Your FaceBook messages to just say "Hi" and the advice for Texas travelers in NYC was always welcomed and appreciated. It's easy to see you were truly a "Good Guy" and a great friend to so many of us. Thanks for sharing your life with us.
Jeff Cool
March 22, 2012
Joey,
My friend, my Brother,my Hero I would not be here today if it was not for you.You put me before you own self that dark dreary morning. You have allowed me to see my children grow up and for me to grow old with my wife. I am forever greatful for what you have done for me and I will never forget you, nor will my family.I will forever cheerish working beside you in Big Blue and laughing at your jokes and admiring and learning from you.You will always be Uncle Joey to my Boys ,Jeff and Dylan and you will always be my Brother. Till we meet again,Brothers Forever!
Elyssa Yoos
March 15, 2012
Joey,
I still hear your name "Joey D." around my house as often as I did when you were here. Brian, Alexa, Jaime and I continue to talk about all the fun times we shared with you whether it was a Holiday, a day on your boat, meeting you at the firehouse or just a BBQ. I didn't realize how much you were and are a part of our family. I thank you for all the great memories and for being a great friend to Brian. We try to stay positive but miss you terribly. There are so many things that remind me that you are watching over us and that gives me comfort. I wish you were still here to make more memories but I am glad you don't have to feel any more pain. I always felt so bad when you canceled because you were in pain. Well, I am sure you know how much everyone loves you and misses you. You were a very special person who had such a positive impact on so many peoples lives. You were everyone's hero.
Elizabeth Simmons
March 14, 2012
Such a brave, caring young man will be missed and remembered. I knew you through your friends.
Lori Walters
March 14, 2012
Joey...you have left such an incredible impact on those of us who knew you, I hope you can feel all of our love wrapped around you! It would be too simple to say that you are missed...it's more like a profound loss that is felt. I see your family and friends and you can see that a part of them is gone...I know we all still cry quite often. Thank you for the times you came to the house, whether it was to help Dave or for a holiday or to have a beer during a bbq...it meant the world to us! And thank you for always writing me such warm and sweet notes thanking us for including you...I still have them!
Please continue to protect and look after us all...and we will do the same for each other...some very special friendships were created after you were taken, it helps ease the pain a bit.
Thank you for the memories, Joey...they will be cherished forever!
xoxo, Lori
Denise Pacheco
March 12, 2012
Joey....Till we meet again...keep those clams chilled, family reunions will never be the same again but we will keep them going " in memory of those that are no longer with us" Still can't believe your gone but you will never be forgotten! Will always Miss you and Love you! xoxo
Katie Acor (Sheppard) Station3, SFD 490
March 9, 2012
I will remember you for the rest of my life! You were so dedicated to all the fellas at SFD and NYFD. You loved people. We all were blessed to have known you.
I will be praying for your Mom and Dad (I remember what a pleasant man he is) and your loving sister and family...
Steve Sora
March 5, 2012
Joey,
It was always great to see you. It makes it that much more tough to miss you.
Curtis Waxenberg
March 4, 2012
Joey,
I don't know what to say. It still seems like a bad dream that I will awake from and be told that I just had an episode and you are waiting for us to build a raker shore. You taught me not only tech rescue, but living with pain and life itself. We all miss you brother. Keep the seat warm for us.
Deborah Piera
March 4, 2012
My Dearest Joe,
I know I should have done this a long time ago, but once it's in writing it then has to be real. I still wait for your crazy text messages or a phone call. I still have a problem believing you are gone. I find myself thinking of all the good times we had together and am so sad there will be no more. You were a friend I could always count on and I feel your loss. Your little chuckle could always put a smile on my face. Not a day goes by when, I don't think of you and how much I miss you. You touched so many people and left such an impression, that you will be missed by so many. Rest easy my dear friend, until we meet again. Love ya!
Connie Modzelewski
March 2, 2012
I can't take your number out of my phone, hoping to talk to you once more. I think of you every day.
Deanna Baez
March 1, 2012
Joey, you have touched so many peoples lives. You have made a forever imprint on my life and have been taken from all that knew you to early. You are greatly missed.
Mikey Muller
February 27, 2012
Joey D was my hero, it's as simple as that. As he was a hero to others in his everyday life but he meant much more to me. I am so proud and honored that I have the ability to call him my cousin; my family. In 4th grade I did a project on Firefighters and what their jobs entail and there was no better candidate than Joey. He came to my house one afternoon and let me try on all his Rescue 3 gear and watched me walk around my house with his gear on, which was much too big on me. But this started my love for the FDNY and what heroes like Joey did by just doing their job, and ever since that day, that's all I've ever wanted to be is an FDNY fireman. The day I heard the news that Joe had passed, a part of me died, I had lost my brother and a person in which I idolized and loved more than the mere word itself. He was my hero, a person who showed me how to love unconditionally, be thankful for every day that you have here on earth, how to talk to girls, how to smoke a cigar, how to diffuse a serious situation with a bit of sarcasm and many others. But his impact on my life extends farther than what I could even thank him for in words, it is unexplainable. This was Joe though, he touched everybody he met in a way that is unexplainable. He brought joy and a bright light to anybody's life he had the pleasure of being in. If I was having a bad day or week, Joey was there with a quick pick up text or call and he always ended, "Love you Bro." which I'll never forget until the day I join him. It feels weird now when I think about him and I pick up my phone to call him or text him and he's not there, I miss him and it's the only way I can justify my heavy heart. The world has been robbed of one of it's brightest stars and Joey D, I can not explain in words what you have done for me. Rest easy my brother and until we meet again, I love you bro.
Monica Butera
February 24, 2012
Dear Joey, I never knew the extent of your story & what a real hero you were until you were gone. You were a great friend to my husband, John who misses you so much & I thank you for that. Rest in peace with no pain, it is the only consolation for those whom you left behind.
Claire
February 24, 2012
Joey has impacted many lives. We knew Joey growing up on Doris Avenue. Many great times did we all have with the army of children on that block. "The Dead End Gang" describes it best. The block party, pool hopping, school yard relay races and lets not forget the egg toss. Those were the days. I pray that you and your family are able to find peace.
Mr & Mrs DiBernardo and Carolyn,
Winston Churchill said, "If you are going to go through hell, keep going."
Brian Yoos
February 22, 2012
Three months have passed since you left us but not one day has passed that I haven't thought about you. I honestly feel you are by my side each and every day. Moving on has been hard at times but I know its what you would want me to do. We all miss you so much and talk about all the good times together. Every month the brothers are getting together to drink some beers and smoke some cigars in your honor, I'm sure that you are there too. Keep watching over us all and protect us from above. You will always be my friend, my mentor and my brother. I love you Bro.
Christine E
February 22, 2012
Dear Joey,
It's been 3 months and I still can't believe you're gone. You had so much life left to live. I feel selfish wishing you were still around.
It is ironic that your near death experience is how I got to know you and appreciate how much you've contributed to this world. I'm thankful that you survived that horrific day, and that I had the opportunity to get to know you. I'm also very sorry for the incredible amount of pain that you experienced as a result of that Black Sunday.
Despite all the challenges you faced, you had this awesome ability to find the joy and humor in the most mundane of things. I still remember visiting you at NY Hospital after they removed some pins, and you were joking about putting them up for auction on Ebay. Or starting a pool after the landslide in upper Manhattan.
The world is missing some sunshine without you in it. But I know you are cracking up everyone in heaven with your great sense of humor, and continuing on as the life of the party.
Finally, I hope that you are at peace, and free of pain.
You will be missed...
Chris King
February 15, 2012
Joey, I write this with a heavy heart. Not a day has gone by that I have not thought about that fire. I try to focus on the 5 years we worked together on 176st. You were you happiest when were out all night at fires . You had a distinct way of describing a situation using sarcasm as only you could. We started out co workers but became friends. I will cherish our friendship. Rest Easy Bro
Dan Worrell
February 12, 2012
Hey bro found a buisness card you left on my rack at Selden a few years ago saying "Brotherhood through unity" on one side and on the other side it was hand written said "Stay safe brother! Joey D" You taught many of us most of what we know about what Brotherhood really is and how to be awesome firefighters and none of us will ever know truely thank you but I think you would be proud to know that because of you we spread the lessons so that what you taught us and what you believed in lives forever. Miss you bro.
Bridget Riddle
February 12, 2012
Joey D. I didn't know you for very long, but i did know that you were a great man and friend! I hope that you are watching over us. I think about you everyday and how funny and cool you were. You'll never be forgotten, you'll always be in my heart and in my mind until the day I die. I hope to see you in heaven one day. I miss you very much! :P
Cassandra Camenzuli
February 11, 2012
Uncle Joey, what can I say? The second I walked through the doors of station three you started to tread me as a daughter. I remember all the advice you gave me and everything. I remember how you were telling me boys were stupid. You always laughed every time I had to go to the hospital. and oh my gosh going to your boat that one time and I was in a sour mood so you tried pushing me in the water! We are all devastated for what happened, but we know you're feeling better. Uncle Joey thank you for everything, thank you for showing me and teaching me about the world. You're my hero.
Allie and Shane Hyland
February 6, 2012
Joey, we feel so blessed that we were able to spend time with you at our wedding in September. It was Shane's first time meeting you - and he just couldn't stop talking about how nice and genuinely happy you were! I have always been so proud to have a hero like you as my cousin. You put others lives before your own, and you survived so much. You left us too early, but you leave behind an amazing impact on all of our lives. You are a true hero, and we love you always.
Andrea Ingoglia
February 2, 2012
I don't know why god took you away so early, I guess he needed you. I have a feeling we would have grown close, with precious Gabriella to watch over. I will try to do the best I can for our Godchild. Please watch from above, and be her angel. Listen for her, and help her when she is in need. Till the day we meet again...
Andrea Ziomek
January 26, 2012
Joey, it seems so ironic that God took you back so early when you managed to live through and survive so much. In your short 40 years you have achieved so much more than most of us could even dream of achieving in 100 years or ever!
You have touched, rescued and inspired thousands with your amazing, selfless spirit and enthusiasm... your killer smile broke many hearts and mended a great many others...your magnetic personality and sense of humor drew people to you like insects are drawn to light. But despite all those incredible qualities rarely seen in ONE person, it is your HUGE HEART that is remembered most by all who had the privilege of knowing you.
You were the kind of guy marvelous and unique enough to leave a person with lifetime-memories after just one conversation with you. You have enriched many lives with your presence and I am grateful and honored to have known you. My heart goes out to the loved ones you leave behind – may your family find peace in knowing that your mission on Earth was accomplished and it was time for you to return to Heaven where your light is shining brighter than any star we have seen. I miss you every day... until we meet again, my friend.
John Butera
January 25, 2012
What an amazing hero!!! Joey as time passes since you left us, I can't help but think there are so many things we should've done together. Like you asked me out on your boat, and I never went, we were going to open a bar together, but we never did, we were going to go to a few sports games together, but we never did. However there is one thing we did do, and that was become great friends and I am eternally grateful for that!!! Love ya Joey, miss ya forever.
Claudia Hoermann
January 25, 2012
I worked for Joe as the cleaning lady.
Im thankful to have served him and his companion Rescue.I saw his passion for FD,from every room I learned to understand what meant to be a firefighter when he talked about his life experiences
I liked a photo he had posted on the fridge"stair way to haven"something about that.... I dont know what.I cant believed you felt "sleep"(as my way of saying it)
Andrew Ingoglia
January 24, 2012
A son, a brother, an uncle, a friend will be missed by all. Rest in Peace.
Shirley Anderson
January 24, 2012
I only met Joey one time at Gabriella's christening. I know that he is now watching over her from Heaven.
Alyson Sebor
January 22, 2012
Joey...It's truly amazing to have seen the man you grew up to be, from the boy you were. I am glad we had a chance to reconnect after all these years. I loved seeing pictures of you with your niece and how she lit up your world. You are missed each and every day by so many people, a true testament to the man you turned out to be.
Andy Rasavongseuk
January 22, 2012
Joey, I still can't believe your gone and that's it been 7 years since that sunday. You were always a true gentlemen, there with a smile, a hand shake, and a huge hug. Rest easy brother. I hope the knowledge and example you set forward in the fire service continues to whom you have touch. Rest in peace..
Aileen Aveni
January 21, 2012
Joey:
You are a dear friend, someone who helped me through one of the toughest times in my life, you stayed by my side the entire time. It seems like I've known you forever, driving up and down the block in your cars always slowing in front of my house to rev the engine. Then seeing you in the stop and shop in Miller Place one day, and you finally having the courage to say something to me, We always kept in touch from that day forward, no matter what we were up to we would get together for a dinner or lunch. We were supposed to get together for dinner after Thanksgiving, I wish for that day to hear you say "Hey Babe, How the boys?" I miss you and think of you often and not for the Firefighter you were, just for the friend you are!!! and always will be.
Rest Peacefully with my Joe, I miss you both so much! XOXOXOXOXO
Love ya Babe!
Diane and Steve Lauro
January 19, 2012
Joey, our friend and hero. We miss you and speak of you almost daily. Hope you are in Harley heaven. Rest peacefully, until we meet again.
Jean Sehringer Cyganovich
January 18, 2012
Joey, I didn't know you but know your Mom. I have heard of the selfless acts you have by taking the responsibility so that a father could raise his children. That is a Christ-like act of LOVE! I pray that your family will be comforted by the Holy Spirit who is "The Comforter" (John 14:26). Joey may you Rest in Peace!
Sue Caufield
January 18, 2012
Joey, I only knew you for a season, but you had a big impact on my life. And you touched so many lifes in your short time here.Please look down on my firefighter son who you always took the time to ask about and you gave him good advice.Look down on all your Brothers and help them stay safe. May you rest with the Angels, and be at peace and pain free. I will never forget you, you were one of a kind. Rest softly Lt
jill ciavarro
January 18, 2012
Joey you will always be remembered I know you are watching over your family & friends you are a hero Rest in peace
Wendy Freyler
January 14, 2012
Joey, I did not "know" you, I am a friend of your Mom's. BUT, I have heard so much about you and recently read so much about you that I feel as though I know you VERY well. Know that you have done your family SO VERY proud!! They will always miss you and love you. Watch over them as they struggle with your loss. They, in time, will see "your" light and once again will continue on. Thank you for all you did for those around you and those you worked with. You leave VERY big BOOTS to fill. Rest easy now, until we all meet together.
Rest Peacefully My Friend
January 14, 2012
Joey, It has taken me weeks to be able to bring myself to write something. Words just can not describe what an amazing person you were and how many peoples lives you touched, you didnt even realize just what an impact you had on some people. Life will not be the same without out. I miss you so much. I pray for comfort and peace for your family. The only comfort I find in all of this is, is that you are no longer in pain. I love you Joey, Until we meet again,
Joyce Franceschini
January 14, 2012
Joey, you shared a terrible day with my brother (Gene) but your actions that day helped a father and fellow firefighter be with his children. Your legacy of bravery and selflessness will live on forever. Rest in Peace.
Judy Rothwell
January 14, 2012
Joey: May you rest in peace and know that you are truly missed by everyone whose lives you touched on. May your family find comfort in the years to follow and know you are watching down on them, always.......
Cheryl (Symmetry)
January 14, 2012
I wish I could have known you, Joey...but I know your Mom...and she's a great woman. I hope you are looking down upon your loving family and are happy and whole...they love you, and you are sorely missed.
Michael Magnanti
January 13, 2012
I miss you very much today. I love you pal.
Peg Waldmann
January 10, 2012
I met Joey D back in the early 90s. My daughter had decided to join the Setauket FD, and Joey was her teacher and soon became a dear friend. While I was nervous that my 20-something daughter was fighting fires, I always felt calmer knowing that Joey would teach her well and protect her as he would all his fellow firefighters. Joey was a gentleman and a hero. He is sorely missed by everyone whose lives he touched. May he rest in peace.
Michael Diamond
January 9, 2012
Joey, words just dont seem adequate enough to describe the friend that you were to me. I have been thinking for over a week what to write here, We became friends right after you joined the Setauket FD. From that moment you became one of my closest friends, We shared many a wild and crazy time at my apartment on Rte 347. Though the years and our careers limited the times we would see each other, when we did you always greeted me with that famous smile and a big hug. I hope you have found the peace you truly deserve. I will miss you and when we finally meet again the pizza and beer is on me.
January 7, 2012
I told you so many times how much I love the sound of your voice, and I now I just miss hearing you on the other end of the phone so much.I miss hearing how your day was and all the thoughts you would share.I can't count the times something you said left me blown away and speachless. I constantly think of all things we talked about and didn't get the chance to do.I replay over and over in my head the time you said you thought "God brought me in your life for a reason", well I think it was the other way around I think God was showing me what amazing looked like.Which ever way it was intended I'm grateful, just wished it was longer.I'll miss and love you forever xoxo
Sweet Dreams - I know you know who
Bryan K
January 6, 2012
Hey Brother,
Like so many others, you pushed me to limits even I didnt know I could surpass.. Like down in Baltimore, when I told you I hated heights during bailout training.. After awhile of you being nice and saying I could do it, you finally had enough of me saying i cant and gave me the option to go on my own or with a little help from you throwing me out the window.. lol Back then I would have never thought of being on tech rescue, but bc of that and you i've been on the team and i'm always looking for the next place to repel.. Most of all I will never forget having the bailout talks with you and you telling me how important it is to always have rope with you, and that was a few years before "Black Sunday".. But most of all i'll miss hanging out in Baltimore or down at Tars's for a burger or some where a cigar.. You gave me so many great memories brother, ones I cant wait to share with my own kids as well as some they dont need to know about.. lol Love and miss you always brother...
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