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John R. Lane Jr.

John R. Lane Jr. obituary, Wilmington, NC

John Lane Obituary

John Robert Lane, Jr. of Wilmington and Sampson County, was born on September 9, 1945 in Goldsboro and died unexpectedly at Betsy Johnson Hospital in Dunn on January 3, 2010, near his 2nd home, Oak Grove Plantation on the Mingo, in Sampson County.
Bob was the son of John Robert and Ella Mae Lane of Mt. Olive. He attended Mt. Olive schools, Mt. Olive College, East Carolina University, Wilmington College, and studied art under Claude Howell, a lifelong friend.
Artist, genealogist, scholar, and lover of nature, flowers and herbs, Bob Lane was a man of many talents and avid interests. During childhood, he opened an antique shop and museum in his family’s cabin and served as president of the Confederate Gray’s Chapter of Children of the Confederacy.
Bob had lived in Wilmington since 1965. He served as a Merchandise Presentation Manager at Belk-Beery Department Store for 38 years. The first few years he worked under S.O. Guyton, then took over when Mr. Guyton retired. Bob was responsible for many of the antique-centered displays and memorable picture windows that drew people to Chestnut Street during the late 1960s and early 1970s.
Bob's community service projects were numerous. He served on the NC Azalea Festival Art Show Committee and as director and designer of the Azalea Festival Queen’s Coronation Pageant. He was a founder and first Beautification Chairman of the Residents of Old Wilmington; a member of the Board of Directors and Vice President of the Lower Cape Fear Historical Society; Chairman of the Latimer House Committee for many years; and Registrar of the Lower Cape Fear Chapter of the Sons of the American Revolution. In addition, he established the Wilmington Herb Guild.
Bob was a member-at-large of the Sons of Confederate Veterans and helped reorganize the George Davis Chapter of the Sons of Confederate Veterans. He was Registrar and Vice President of the Sons of the American Revolution in the State of NC, and was a member of the NC Society of the War of 1812 and the Old New Hanover County Genealogical Society.
Bob served as President of the Moore’s Creek National Battleground Association. He and Bob Warren created the concept of the "Old Wilmington by Candlelight Tour" and worked to promote and execute the tour for 11 years. They opened their home on South Fifth Avenue many times for this event that benefited the Lower Cape Fear Historical Society.
Bob Lane was one of the original pioneers of historic preservation in the city of Wilmington and the state of North Carolina. He served as general consultant for the restoration of the Bellamy Mansion and as consultant at large for the Bellamy Mansion. He was consultant for the Latimer House Gardens and the Historic Wilmington Foundation exhibit, "Wilmington Furniture, 1720-1860."
Bob was an adviser for Cape Fear Museum’s exhibit on the Cultural History of the Lower Cape Fear, and for the Reredos Preservation Project during the 275th anniversary of St. James Episcopal Church. After Bob retired from Belk-Beery, he and Bob Warren opened "J. Robert Warren Antiques," located in the historic Hogg-Anderson House on Orange Street in Wilmington. Bob Lane was host at his home to many wonderful people including Wendell Garrett, editor of the The Magazine Antiques; Bill Blass; Gloria Vanderbilt; Rudy Favretti; Bill Seale; and the mayor of Dandong, China.
Bob Lane and Bob Warren treasured their close ties to many dear departed friends and true Old Wilmington characters, including William Whitehead, Claude Howell, Dr. Charles Graham, Betty Divine, Dame Catherine Carpenter, Emma Bellamy Williamson Hendren, and Gladys Taylor. Like them and many before them, Bob Lane is now part of the posthumous essence of genuine Old Wilmington.
Bob was a fan and friend of Archibald Rutledge, Poet Laureate of the State of South Carolina. He visited Rutledge at his home and championed his writings, particularly the little book, Life's Extras. One of Bob's favorite Rutledge quotes was, "Believing in a God of infinite love and of infinite power, I find it natural to believe that death is not a disastrous sundown but rather a spiritual sunrise, ushering in the unconjectured splendors of immortality."
Genealogically, Bob Lane and Bob Warren are collateral descendants of Richard and Catherine Kenan Holmes Price, builders of their residence on South Fifth Avenue. Through them, the 1840 dwelling has remained in the same family to this day, and has been shared through tours and numerous publications.
Bob Lane was proud of his genealogy. He was a descendant of the Basse family of 17th-century Virginia. When one of his Basse ancestors married a Native American, he became famous as one of two Early American settlers to embark on a Prayer Book documented union - the other one being John Rolfe who married Pocahontas. Bob Lane was a 10th generation North Carolinian and a member of the Order of the First Families of NC.
Bob's aunt, Ruby Thomas, lived on Jamestown Island and helped give him a deep understanding of the history of Jamestown and Williamsburg. Bob Lane and Bob Warren visited the area every year for four decades.
Bob Lane celebrated existence to its fullest every day and his zest for life has inspired many. His personality is irreplaceable. Repeating a phrase coined by his aunt, Peggy Douglas, "Rather than meeting him, you encountered him."
Bob is survived by Bob Warren, his friend and partner of 43 years.
Bob's experiences at St. James Episcopal Church were meaningful experience for him.
A memorial service will be conducted there on January 17, at 2:00 p.m. A private internment will be conducted during spring in the garden he designed and implemented at his Oak Grove Plantation cabin.
Memorials may be made to St. James Episcopal Church, 25 South Third Street, Wilmington, NC, 28401; or Moore’s Creek National Battlefield, 40 Patriot's Hall Drive, Currie, NC, 28435.
Arrangements by Skinner & Smith Funeral Home, Dunn, NC. Online condolences may be sent by visiting www.skinnerandsmith.com

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Published by The News & Observer on Jan. 12, 2010.

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Kris Petersen

February 6, 2010

I was Bob's acupuncturist, massage therapist and friend for over a decade. I will miss his wealth of knowledge on many subjects and his love of life. He was one of the most unique people I will ever know. Thanks Bob for being you, I for one, am a better person for knowing you. Bless you Bob Warren.

Kris Petersen

February 6, 2010

I was Bob's acupuncturist, massage therapist and friend for over a decade. I'll miss his love for life and wealth of knowledge on many subjects. He was one of the most unique people I'll ever know. Thanks, Bob for being you. And bless you Bob Warren.

Carol Blanton

January 16, 2010

My sympathy and prayers go out to Bob's family. I met Bob 35 years ago working at Belks downtown. My last job at Belks was working for Bob and I never had a better supervisor. Bob was all about the smallest detail in everything but always praised your work. I admired Bob very much for all the things he was able to do during his life. Wilmington will miss Bob Lane.

Margaret Shelton

January 15, 2010

I will miss Bob. As spring nears I constantly recall his great love of gardening and herbs. He generously shared a storehouse of knowledge of botany and local history as well. We will miss his help at the market. Among friends we will continue to recount the legacy of a truly interesting and always entertaining personality. He has left many fond memories.

Ed Turberg

January 15, 2010

Bob was a cornerstone in Wilmington's historic awareness and taught us about the Cape Fear region's long cultural importance. He knew beauty and all who knew him were attracted to him. As the prayer book says: "The departed whom we now remember have entered into the peace of life eternal. ... May the beauty of their life abide among us as a loving benediction."

Louis Kermon

January 14, 2010

He was always an interesting person to meet. I'm sure there are many stories he could have told about Wilmington's past and various characters that will be missed. My sympathies to his friends and family.

Zach Cox

January 14, 2010

Bob Lane and I knew each other as kids. When my brothers and sisters and I would walk down to his Dad's store in the summer time it was always a joy to get to hang out with Bob for a while. He was the age of my older sister and was always a magical character to me. I have followed Bob's life from afar all these years hearing every now and again about some of the things that he was involved with and my impressions from childhood always remained the same, a wonderful man. We will miss him.

John Cox

January 13, 2010

I have not seen Bob since he left Mt. Olive. But he lived just down the street and I grew up with him. Who ever wrote Bob's obituary did a great job. I think if Bob had read his own obituary 45 years ago he would have said, "I won't change a thing, that's exactly how I hope my life will turn out." Way to go Bob!

Sharon Roetger

January 13, 2010

Please accept my deepest sympathy at this time of great loss. I know your wonderful memories will bring you comfort in the days ahead.

Cathy Casas

January 12, 2010

My Dad, David McCulloch and I (Cathy) are terribly sorry for the loss of Bob. Our love to Bob Warren. My Daddy lived on 4th street. He's down here in Florida with me now.

Mark

January 12, 2010

I never knew Bob but from reading his story I can tell I missed out on meeting a wonderful guy. So very sorry for your loss.

Sankie Stallings

January 12, 2010

I knew Bob and his parents from childhood, here in Mount Olive. We attended Mount Olive College together. The last time I saw Bob, he came by my house and stopped, seeing that I was in the yard. I ran out to his car and got a big hug from him. He was a very nice person and I am saddened by his passing. He will be missed. Sankie (Sister Glennie)

Thomas (Sonny) Millard

January 12, 2010

Bob was of great help in my geneological research. Without really even knowing me, he provided me with key information that he had found over the years. A very generous person. He will be missed.

Sharon Stone

January 12, 2010

On behalf of the entire board of directors, we cherish the memory of Bob Lane as a dear Friend of the Bellamy Mansion Museum. He will be missed.

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