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Stephen Coenen Obituary

COENEN Stephen Foster Coenen, originally from Rayville, Louisiana and later settling in New Orleans, Louisiana, passed from this life into the Hands of our Lord during the early morning hours of September 22, 2008, following a valiant battle with lymphoma cancer. A memorial service and Catholic Mass will be held in celebration of Steve's life on Saturday, October 4, 2008 at 10 a.m. at the St. Louis Cathedral on Jackson Square in New Orleans, officiated by Msgr. Crosby Kern. A burial service will be held at the Rayville Masonic Cemetery in Rayville at 10 a.m. on Saturday, October 11, 2008, officiated by Rev. Philip Pazhayakari, CMI. All friends of Steve are invited to attend either or both services. Steve was truly a Man for All Seasons as his life combined a multitude of professions and service including being a noted professional landscape architect, painter, sculptor, professional performing artist, and humanitarian who gave his life, time and talents to those of his beloved City of New Orleans and throughout the United States. Steve was born in Rayville, Louisiana on June 2, 1949, the son of William R. Coenen and Mary Elizabeth Ricard Coenen. His mother died when Steve was very young and he always credited his two aunts, Marguerite Coenen and Lorraine Lamie, for their love, guidance and inspiration during his upbringing. Steve was predeceased by his parents, as well as his grandparents, Mr. and Mrs. Frank J. Ricard of Denham Springs, Louisiana and Mr. and Mrs. Theodore J. Coenen, Sr. of Rayville, Louisiana. Steve was survived by siblings Carol Camille Coenen Christie and her husband, Ron of Brenham, Texas, William R. Coenen, Jr. and his wife, Ruthie of Rayville, Thomas R. Coenen and his wife, Darlene of Loranger, Louisiana, Margaret Ann Holdiness of Alto, Louisiana, and his step brother, John R. McClendon and his wife, Odwina of Tulsa, Oklahoma. He was also survived by fifteen adoring nieces and nephews and many wonderful friends from across the country. Steve graduated from Rayville High School in 1967, being named Mr. RHS and remained very close to many of his RHS classmates throughout his life. He attended Northeast Louisiana University (now University of Louisiana - Monroe) and, in 1975 graduated from the School of Landscape Architecture at Louisiana State University in Baton Rouge. During his LSU days, Steve was one of the featured vocalists and guitarists at The Christ the King Catholic Church each Sunday and frequently entertained around the campus with fellow performers. Following graduation from LSU, Steve worked for several years as a lead entertainer for Holland America Cruise Lines, honing his skills as a singer, dancer and musician. Steve chose New Orleans as his home, inspired by the native Louisiana oak trees and year round plant growing season. His creative genius in landscape and floral arrangement and design attracted many individuals and hotels as clients. Steve was widely known in the New Orleans area for his "moonlight and magnolias garden look" as described by Hardy and Douglas in Gardens of New Orleans, and was particularly sought after during Mardi Gras and Christmas seasons for planning and decorating for fabulous parties. Ever moving into new art forms, Steve developed the unique process of creating mosaics and sculptures of glass and ceramics, using discarded pieces of crockery, porcelain and glass. Steve's home in the Faubourg Marigny neighborhood of New Orleans, filled with plants and many of his sculptural creations, was the subject of many articles in newspapers, magazines and gardening books. Those fortunate enough to own a "Steve Coenen" creation truly received a lifelong conversation piece. Steve's contributions to the City of New Orleans were numerous. He was a frequent performer at the Le Petit Theatre, the La Chat Noir Theatre, as well as the Tulane Summer Lyric Theatre and the Jefferson Parish Arts Society productions. Steve literally put his life on the line on December 7, 2002 when he rescued an individual being victimized by an assault in the French Quarter of New Orleans. Steve was shot in his chest by one of the perpetrators, but through his efforts, the life of the victim was spared. For this act of heroism, Steve was presented with the 2003 New Orleans Public Safety Citizen of the Year award, the 2003 Storer Boone Humanitarian award for outstanding contributions to society and community and in 2005 was one of 21 individuals in the United States to receive the Carnegie Medal for extraordinary heroism. After becoming ill, Steve continued his painting career, becoming a prolific watercolor artist, often donating his works to those critically ill at M. D. Anderson Hospital and to the doctors and caregivers as well. He also wrote, painted watercolor scenery, and recorded songs for a children's book entitled "Little Bird" which will be published posthumously. Steve will be long remembered for his flamboyant suits of orange, blue, and purple, "matched" with shoes of red or green, worn to events such as a niece's wedding, where he entertained the crowd with his Fred Astaire-like dance style, always leaving the crowd both amazed and full of laughter. Those who knew Steve seemed to always smile, if not downright laugh out loud, when remembering his talents, wit and charm. He will be forever a favorite brother, uncle, cousin, and friend to all he touched. A special thanks is due Steve's sister, Carol, for her daily encouragement and care of Steve during the last 16 months of his life, to Dr. Louis Fayard of M. D. Anderson Hospital and to Hospice of Brenham, Texas for their loving care during the last weeks of Steve's life. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be sent to the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, 5005 Mitchelldale, No. 115, Houston, TX, 77097 or to Hospice of Brenham, TX, Hospice Brazos Valley, 302 Horton Street, Brenham, Texas, 77833.

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Published by The Times-Picayune on Sep. 29, 2008.

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Eileen Muschlitz Postmaster

October 21, 2008

I'm at a loss for words..my friend Steve is gone.

The day he walked into my post office he brought with him a breath of fresh air. He made me smile and laugh the minute he walked thru the door with his straw hat! What a whirlwind! We bacame fast friends. I never met anyone who embraced life with such enthuasium. When I told him a just built a new house and was in the process of landscaping he brought me some tiger lillies. Every year he visited with Martin and Larry I received another plant. I wasn't allowed to say thank you - he would only accept a hug and kiss. How fortunate was I to have such a kind and generous friend. My condolences to Steve's family and friends..know that he was loved and will be missed by all who kew him.

Jane Jennings Kelly

October 11, 2008

Billy and Ruthie, and all the rest of the Coenen clan,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of such a bright spirit to everyone. I have so many fond memories of Steve when we were all kids growing up together in Rayville. I remember how his musical talent was evident early when he sang so beautifully in the choir at Sacred Heart. I also remember getting into horrible trouble with my mother after following Steve and Sadie Jo down the street from our old house to Miss Marguerite's house. Steve was like the Pied Piper even then. I think I may have been four or five at the time, and I still remember how mad my mother was. I am so sorry for your loss. After reading the other posts on this site, it is obvious that Steve gave much joy and love to many. What a wonderful and full life he had. We will remember Steve and your family in our prayers.

Timo Ritchie

October 8, 2008

I first met Steve through my friend Jeff Roberson. We would occasionally gather at Steve's house in the Marigny to coordinate filming sessions, usually musical comedic shorts for Varla Jean Merman. Steve was always kind, hilarious and generous. I would also see Steve at the gym... and it was always a pleasure to catch up on "Varla" news. He was one of a kind... and knowing him enhanced my appreciation for this strange world we're in.

Eternal gratitude,
Timo Ritchie and Philip Austin

Ralf Jost

October 7, 2008

I met Steve 1988. From the first moment we became friends. Since then Steve has been a very important person in my life. Steve hosted me several times in New Orleans and I could enjoy there his warm and familiar hospitality. Summer 1998 we spent wonderful days full of sun and fun in Provincetown. I challenged Steve with my many movings within Europe. He visited me in Vienna, Hamburg and Munich. I never will forget our "rainy weekend" in Tyrol/Austria. He told me: "I feel here like Julie Andrews in the Sound of Music" and he sang the whole time songs from the movie. We had so much fun. But more than just a funny caracter Steve became a real role model to me. Steve taught me that being gay means more then just having fun. It's literally being friendly, tolerante and gentle to all kind of people.
Steve gave the world so much "laughs, joy and colours". My friend Steve made the world a bit better.
Thank you STEVE.

Catherine Koppel

October 6, 2008

I am heartbroken to learn of Steve's death, but I know he's in heaven yelling "woo-hoo" at all of us. I was fortunate to meet Steve many years ago when we danced with Komenka together. Steve was a wonderful dancer, choreographer and singer, but he was also a wonderful life teacher to me as an impressionable teen and young adult. I will never forget his stories of silent "seat dancing" with his brother on long family road trips or his pantomime recaps of actual events when we traveled with Komenka to Russia. I will always be grateful for how he introduced me to the "cultcha of da quarters" and the many fascinating friends he'd met along the way. I have the best photograph of Steve and playing guitar on stage in Russia, in a cowboy shirt and hat, singing his heart out to a suburban Moscow crowd. I will always remember him that way.

Miriam Davey

October 4, 2008

Steve Coenen was one of the most radiant people I've ever met, and also one of the most wise, generous, and compassionate. When I was very young, he taught me to swim, and much later, taught me that sometimes all you can do in life is keep swimming no matter what.

Still swimming, Steve. Bless you.

John David Gautreau

October 4, 2008

Heartbroken. Steve made living in New Orleans even more fun. We once won a dance contest together at a fundraiser. He was a unique individual; I'm glad to have known him.

Lisa Stephen

October 4, 2008

I met Steve through dear friends, Martin and Larry. He quickly became one of my favorite people ... a joy to be around. During the first summer of our acquaintance, he painted a watercolor of my home that I cherish. It's hanging in my office, so not a day goes by that I don't think of him with a big smile on my face.

Robert, and Heryka Lukocki

October 3, 2008

Steve, for my mom and myself was a friend who visited our summer days, and brought laughter, and happy times. I remember him wearing a big straw hat, and a big "How are you Robert" with a big smile... Once on my vacation to New Orleans, Driving through Burbon Street with my girlfriend, I cannot believe my eyes, I see a joyful happy man giving everyone a smile.. I will never forget that, he was full of joy an happyness. Our deepest condolonces to everyone who knew him...

martin gould

October 3, 2008

It is impossible for us to say goodbye to our much beloved friend Steve. For many years, he nested himself in our Pennsylvania house during the month of June to escape the heat of New Orleans. He charmed all of our friends and they became his as well. Everyone looked forward to Junes when the house would come alive with the sound of Steve's singing day and night! Starting in April, they would ask: "When does Steve arrive?" The postmistress of the tiny Durham, PA. post office, Eileen, was one of Steve's favorite local characters.

Our happy and joyous memories together are endless whether they were in New Orleans, Provincetown, Nantucket, NYC or in PA. We will never forget the spectacular and magnificent job Steve did to decorate our home for housewarming party. The caterer wanted to hire him full time! There were all the special names we shared: "Sissy Missy" for Steve, "Granny G." for Martin, "The Doctor" for Larry. He renamed our dog "Dixie" from Cordelia and when he dog-sat for us when she was a puppy in NYC, he met many people on the street using "Dixie" as his lure. There was the plastic owl he bought for our PA. house to scare away the birds that became known as "Hooty Hoot". We will miss Steve for the rest of our lives.

We are so grateful that Steve had such a loving support system of friends and family during his illness. We send everyone our condolences.

For now, we say "au revoir" to dearest Steve because we know we will meet up with him sometime again and will be joyous upon hearing his trademark "Woo Hoo" when he sees us. We love and miss you, Steve! (and Dixie sends you a big lick!).

Martin Gould and Larry Dumont

Joey Macaluso

October 2, 2008

We have lost a true N.O. treasure with the passing of Steve. He brought joy (and yes, sometimes angst) to those who were lucky enough to cross his path. He leaves a glittery rainbow behind that literally circles the globe. I'll never forget the fun times we had, be it in Paris, PTown, S.F. or our beloved N.O., especially the time he tricked me into going to his Uptown client's 50th birthday party wearing a Varla Jean buglebeaded outfit and blonde wig when it wasn't a costume party and everyone else was in nice dress clothes. That was our Steve, forever joking, laughing and entertaining. He fought the good fight, always with an upbeat attitude. I am particularly glad that I got to spend his birthday with him in June and see his beautiful watercolors. A special thanks to Michael and Tommy for all they did for Steve during his time in Texas. I am so fortunate to have had Steve as a friend.

David Richmond

October 2, 2008

What a privilege it was to have known Steve. I've never met such a selfless person and I doubt I ever will again. Thank you for all the happy times we spent together. Ta ta old bean.

JoAnn Yates

October 1, 2008

Dear Steve,
I know that even though we can't see you or touch you, that you are still here in the universe -- smiling, laughing and dancing because your energy can't be stopped. And every time I see a beautiful flower or sunset, I'll remember your beautiful paintings and think of you.

My condolences to Steve's friends and family. He will surely be missed by all whom he touched.

Michael Tarek

October 1, 2008

I want to thank all who took care of Steve during his illness as he always said how grateful he was to all of you.

Steve came into my life as a fellow dancer, Nazi, Capri Core group in 'Cabaret' at Le Petit in 1980. We danced together in several shows and Mardi Gras Balls which were some of the most fun I have ever had and I will always cherish those memories of Steve. He brought so much joy into my life. I moved away to also become a Landscape Architect but would try to see Steve in NOLA as often as I could. NOLA will never be the same for me without Steve. My condolences to all of Steve's family and many friends. I will miss you Steve.

Sara Fuhrer

October 1, 2008

First of all, I'd like to extend condolences to Steve's family and thank those who took such loving care of him in his final days.

Secondly, I want to say what a privilege it is to be in fellowship with so many wonderful people from all over the country who knew and loved Steve. Rarely in a lifetime does one come across someone so genuine, so creative, so kind, so altruistic, so just plain JOYOUS as our dear Steve.

We met over 20 years ago and spent some happy moments at his great house on Burgundy St. It wasn't until I read this obituary that I realized how little I actually knew about him; I am all the more honored to have known him.

Cindy Peters

October 1, 2008

Dear Steve.
I am so grateful to have known you.
What a dear sweet man!
I met Steve when he joined the dance group I was working with aboard the Holland America Cruise ships. What a joy he was.
I particularly remember the group of us going ashore in Bermuda and visiting the botanic gardens there. Steve was giving us a tour and impressing us with his knowledge of the flora. I asked him the name of one particular bush and he couldn't momentarily remember. "Oh Poo" he said in frustration. So it became an "oh poo" tree and a standing joke. Somehow we always managed to refer to it in letters or cards until years later when he visited me in London and we made a trip to Kew Gardens and there, finally, I was shown the "oh poo" tree in it's full glory with Latin names attached!
Dear Steve I will miss your funny ways.
I still have the screen print of your New Orleans garden and will think of you every time I look at it.
My deepest sympathy to all his family and friends.
You will not be forgotten!

Elaine Robinson

September 30, 2008

I am another of Steve's painting buddies in San Francisco. I feel like he was a special gift to us, bringing joy and laughter and beautiful paintings full of color and pizazz. I am so lucky to have known him even for such a brief time. One special moment we shared with him was the day we all painted at the home where he was living. One large room was filled with player pianos, he turned them all on and we danced around the room singing and laughing. Such joy!

Neil Newman

September 30, 2008

"Hey Queen!"

That's how he always said hello and it meant you were part of the club.

I met Steve and his band of merry-makers through our mutual friend David Johnson. I had never encountered anything quite like Sissy Carter but because it was my first trip to NOLA, I was pretty much game for anything.

So I happily spent much of my first day of vacation in his kitchen hot-gluing plastic spines onto green foam cactus costumes meant to accompany Steve's Wild West choreography for a Vieux Carre drag show. Needless to say, the costumes and Steve were a huge hit.

Somehow friends and family will soldier on but the world without Steve just won't be as fabulous.

I'll sign off with the same flourish he used on his answering machine for years: "Thanks for calling and don't forget to water!"

Mark Collins

September 30, 2008

I have one of Steve's ceramic sculptures in my garden here on the end of the Cape. It seems impossible that its creator, so vibrant and outrageously alive, is no longer with us. He will be sorely missed.

Yanni Georgiou

September 30, 2008

I grieve Steve's untimely passing. My deepest condolences to his family and everyone whom Steve has touched. Words can not describe the magic and greatness of this amazing personality. Steve was a stunning ray of sunshine here in San Francisco where I met him through Jim. In addition to his being an artist whose paintings I loved, the most entertaining dining companion and a truly accomplished country western dancer, Steve was also a Karaoke singing star who would boldly improvise on his songs, sometimes altogether rejecting the original version, spicing up the lyrics in order to shock and entertain his audience and generously offering everyone his unpredictably wild and fun dancing moves. I'm so happy I filmed and recorded some of these golden moments which I will cherish for the rest of my life. Steve always made us laugh. Even when he became ill and asked me to sign to become his health care agent while still in San Francisco. We laughed and joked so much about this whole thing -- and even when he was already in Texas he reminded me that I was still registered as his health care agent. One of my fondest memories with Steve was a quiet and subtle one, surprisingly enough for this perpetually full of life volcano. It was an afternoon here in San Francisco during Steve's first days in the hospital. He took me to a common area room so we could chat and gossip, a room that had many windows giving us a breathtaking view of San Francisco. It was dusk and the room was empty. Steve and I talked and talked and talked. Until it was late and dark. We didn't switch on the lights of the room - just enjoyed the natural serenity of the darkness. At that moment, all the clouds were far behind us and troubles melt like lemon drops and somewhere I knew a bluebird had just flown over the rainbow ... We miss you, Steve.

Diane Pizzoli

September 30, 2008

Goodbye, Steve and God bless. Your painting buddies here in San Francisco will never forget your great wit and your enviable, amazing fast learning curve in water color. Your work was so wonderfully uplifting and delightful...we wanted to see more...

Thierry Pin

September 30, 2008

I had known Steve for 20 years. We met in Paris where he used to come regurlarly and we used to see each other with always the same pleasure. I went to visit him in San Francisco and Provincetown and it was always so vivid, colorfull and joyfull. I think he was a truly good friend. And he was so unique!
I will always remember him. Thierry (Paris, France)

Jim Logan

September 30, 2008

Steve's humor and spice could brighten the most dreary day, he was so much fun. We hit it off at Sundance, where he had more energy than all of them put together. I don't know that I ever saw him sitting one out. And he could put his own stamp on a karoake classic like nobody else. His cheery attitude all the way to the last was amazing. The two years that I knew him in SF were the best of times and I miss him very much.

Joey and James

September 30, 2008

New Orleans has truly lost another 'character'. He will be greatly missed and always loved.

Monte Mitchell

September 30, 2008

I only knew Steve briefly for an extended weekend 20 years ago when he invited me into his home as a friend of a friend. I will always be touched by the magnanimity of his grace and his innumerable talents.

Suzie Fortier-Hodge

September 30, 2008

As a Burgundy Street neighbor for many, many years, I loved being on the receiving end of Steve's inimitable "Woo-Hoo." Often he would hand me a flower on my way to work and wish me a good day. Faubourg Marigny was made a better place because of Steve's presence in it. He was a treasure, and he will be greatly missed. My deepest condolences to his family.

Ott Howell

September 30, 2008

The world is a much better place for having had Steve in it. He will truly be missed not only for his speaking to everyone and making them feel better, but also his way of never saying anything bad about people and just his wonderful smile....

Randall MacDonald

September 30, 2008

I met Steven on a ferry going from Boston to Provincetown in August, 1989. He was so charming and I loved his sparkling personality. We then met a few days later for lunch in New York. I actually didn't physically see Steven again until he moved to San Francisco where we again had lunch. However, he was ever faithful with his wonderful letters and of course famous Christmas cards from our first meeting. I am saddened at his passing and we have all truly lost a wonderful person.

My condolences to his family.

Randall MacDonald

Jerri Marlette

September 30, 2008

My heart goes out to you at this time and my prayers will be for you in the days ahead. I remember Steve as a child, but did not know him as a man. I am amazed at his life and all he accomplished.

Jerri Byers Marlette

Jo Ann Mason

September 30, 2008

Just received the news today about Steve. We just can't believe it. He was the best. He was such a wonderful person, who would do anything for anyone. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your families at this time. We will always cherish the wonderful memories of Steve.

With Deepest Sympathy

Jo Ann, Jim and Lauren Mason

Mike McKinley

September 30, 2008

I first met Steve at an audition in New York City about 1979. We were both young, struggling actors, and we were both enmeshed in the notorious Catch 22 of the New York theatrical business: you couldn't get into an audition if you weren't in the union, Actor's Equity, but you could not get into the union until you were cast in a union show. Being in Actors Equity was our Holy Grail. There were, however, occasional open calls for anyone, especially for showcases, shows that you would do for free in the desperate hope that an agent, director or SOMEBODY would notice you and take you on as a client. I was at such an audition when I first saw Steve. Everyone was sitting in a knot of nervous and frightened wrecks, terrified and waiting to go in and sing. You were allowed to sing 32 bars of music, that is unless the audition started running long, then they told you that you had to cut it to 16 bars or sometimes even 8 bars of music. It was freezing, dismal day. My fellow actors around me were so tense and depressed, clutching their music, resume and photo with a death grip, that it was as cold and depressing inside as it was outside. All of a sudden, out of the audition room burst Steve: dressed in a lime green shirt and pink tie, he came out doing high kicks and singing, "I am a STAR! I am a STAR! I am a non-Equity STAAAAAAAAAAAAAR!" Then he vanished out the door. The other actors and I looked at each other astonished, like, what was that?

Later on, we both were cast in the same showcase performance. We called it Theatre Nowhere, seen by No One and starring Nobodies. It was an "I Heart NY" show celebrating life in New York City, and by then, we two Southern boys (I am from Texas) absolutely HATED living in the Big Apple. However, we soldiered on with the show and became great friends. After about a year, I moved back to Texas, but we managed to stay in touch throughout the years. I even wrote a play in which Steve was a prominent character. I mean, who else on Earth was like him?

I visited him in Houston the weekend before Hurricane Ike slammed into the area. I think it may have been one of his last really good weekends. He was still able to go out for coffee, sit in the park near the Menil collection, which he loved, and go to dinner with his wonderful and supportive friends in Houston: Michael, Tommy and Jeff. My sister sent him a gris-gris for health and he really liked that. We spoke long into the night about the profundities of life and death.

I will never forget Steve, and I will always love him for his great optimism, positive attitude and good humor. He enriched my life beyond measure.

David Johnston

September 29, 2008

I knew Steve for more than 25 years. I had some notoriety as being the guest that came for a weekend and stayed for a year. That extraordinary generosity was at his essence. I was going through a difficult period of grieving and Steve opened his house and his life to me for as long as I needed it. His generosity extended far beyond the almost nightly dinners he had always inviting friends and neighbors or the gardening tips or parties or just going out into the world to bring joy. He was there for everyone with his loud yoo-hoos, suits and outlandish performances. New Orleans has lost another bit of its soul.

Darlene Olivo

September 29, 2008

I cherish the memory of his twinkling smile, curly blond locks and the color he blazed on his path. I was so smitten with one of his costumes at La Scuola Vecchia one year that I copied his design for a robe: aqua/white striped sleeves and a darker blue pattern of angels, crescent moons and smiling suns for the rest. Sweet, sweet man. He touched my life and for that I am grateful.

Darlene

Ken Donze

September 29, 2008

My deepest sympathy to the Coenen family.
Your brother, uncle, cousin, was one in a million. His humor, artistry, kindness, generosity, and heroism made the world a better place. I treasure Steve's friendship and take comfort in all the good memories.
May he rest in peace.

Jim Watkins

September 29, 2008

I’ve been looking for the appropriate place to tell my Steve story. I believe this is the place and it will serve my need to grieve while I hope you all will find it interesting. I do offer my sincere condolences to the family, and I know they will offer the same to me.

Steve and my sister, Linda, were high school friends before Steve and I met. He, Linda and another friend, Peggy Reddick, performed together in some high school folk group a couple of times, although I don’t remember the details. One time while at our home visiting my sister Linda, we met. I immediately got his attention because I played the guitar. It was a match made in heaven, he was the singer and I could provide accompaniment.

Over the next couple of years of high school, he was two years ahead of me in school, I served as his accompanist and he sang to anyone who would listen. We performed in school functions, church functions and on the school buses traveling to away football games. We influenced each other positively, as I began singing and he learned to play the guitar.

During his time at Northeast (University of Louisiana Monroe) we remained close and I would drop by his dormitory when I was in Monroe. After my graduation, I moved on to LSU, but Steve and I remained close and in contact. The summer after my freshman year, I successfully convinced him to come to LSU and “try it out” for summer school. After that summer, he never considered going back to Monroe and enrolled at LSU full time pursuing his Sociology major.

That summer, and the two years that followed were some of the most fun I ever had. We honed our musical act, if it could be called that, and auditioned for the LSU coffee house performance at the LSU Union. In fact, we contacted the coordinator the day of an evening performance at the Union asking if we could perform. Having not ever heard us, or heard of us, they said they would give us an audition behind the stage, during the performance of other acts, and make an “on the spot” decision. After hearing us they were reasonably impressed and gave us permission to sing two songs. We were subsequently allowed to perform three encores that night. Let me make it clear, Steve was the talent. What I could do that not many could, was stick to a melody while Steve wandered through harmonies that were different every time we did the same song. He was magical.

Steve being Catholic provided another stage, and we became involved with the Catholic Student Center and the mass each weekend. That was always fun and it lead to the two of us singing in weddings all over town and the state. We would occasionally be invited to sing at local pubs like the Rathskeller and the Common Ground. I still have tapes of some of those performances.

One of our biggest opportunities came when we sent audition tapes to Rome. A high school friend from Rayville had participated in a Louisiana Tech summer program in Rome, and returned telling me about an American night club called the Red Banjo. Steve and I made a tape and sent it unsolicited to the manager of the Red Banjo. When we heard back, he offered us the job guaranteed three nights a week. What an opportunity. Well, the Steve you know would have jumped on that opportunity, but the Steve in 1972 was a chicken. He was scared to death and blamed his reluctance on the fact that we may get there and not make enough money to make ends meet and couldn’t get home. How many believe that Billy Bob Coenen would not have spent the money to get his boy back to the U.S.? Oh well, opportunity lost.

When the summer arrived, I accepted a job working in Yellowstone National Park and Steve stayed in Baton Rouge. That was the end of our time living together, but upon my return in the fall, we continued to sing at weddings and events for several more semesters. Steve graduated in Sociology and immediately turned his attention to Landscape Architecture. There he met many of his sole mates and found the career that he was apparently destined to find.

Steve befriended me in high school and at a time that I needed his friendship and more mature influence. We continued to influence each other for the next five years, and I believe we both became better men because of it. We didn’t communicate as frequently in the years following LSU, but we always had a bond and history that we both cherished. I will always think of him as one of my closest friends and miss him always.

Thanks for tolerating this story telling. I hope some of you remember the events told here and know how important Steve was in my life.

Jimmy Watkins

Myrna Yee

September 29, 2008

We had known Steve only the short time he painted with us, yet he made a huge impact during that year. We miss him much but the memories he left and his beautiful spirit will remain with us.

Debbie (Coenen) Brugger

September 29, 2008

Cousin Steve will be missed by his best friends, family, and also by the friends that he made every where that he went. His Texas cousins are checking in.

Virginia (Ginny) Carpenter

September 29, 2008

We will miss Steve greatly. Our thoughts and prayers are with all the Coenens.
Love from,
Ginny Carpenter & family
Mike Coenen

charlotte Karp

September 29, 2008

Steve was a member of friends who paint together here in San Francisco. All of us who had the delight of knowing him loved being with him and sharing his sense of fun and his very evident talent.We have missed him since he left for treatment but had kept in touch by email. I find it hard to believe such a vibrant alive personality is gone. Thank you Steve for inspiration by your courage.You will always be with your family and friends in spirit.

Pamela Dupuy

September 29, 2008

First, my deepest sympathies go to Steve's family. Second, from this day forward when feeling down or in a pickle I will ask myself, "What would Steve do?" and then I'll laugh and dance my way out of it...thanking him each time for providing such a grand outlook on life.

Mardi Gras memories

Annie zipkin

September 29, 2008

Robert Steven Rutledge

September 29, 2008

My sincerest condolences to Steve's family in this huge loss.

I will certainly miss Steve. Gone will be his signature high-pitched "Woo-Hoo!" greeting to me on foggy French Quarter mornings, the sight of his curly blond locks peeking out of a topless straw hat on sunny days and his delightful and carefree performances at Le Petit, Le Chat and Summer Lyric Theatres.

Everything Steve did seemed so easy, yet a good artist always makes his craft appear that way when in actuality it is very difficult.

Through the years, Steve and I continually joked that we were "fellow Pansy Pushers" as competing (friendly) gardeners here in New Orleans. He was always ready to lend me a hand, or to give a plant source reference. I am grateful for his longterm friendship and his professional guidance as I came up in the profession after him. His reputation preceeded him at LSU's landscape architecture school so I knew of him before I actually met him years later.

The gap he leaves behind will not soon be filled.

Godspeed Steve - we love ya!

Nadine

September 29, 2008

Steve always had time for his elderly neighbor Miss Rose, my great-aunt. He made her smile, as he did all of my family when he showed up at my Dad's wedding in one of his famous colorful suits. He was a caring and fun neighbor to me years ago and will live on in the Marigny in many ways.

GENO'S ITALIAN RESTAURANT BRUSCATO

September 29, 2008

Our thoughts and Prayers are with the family; a person such as Steve will be greatly missed by so many. We all remember his friendly smile and great personality.
Frank, John, and Phyllis Gene Bruscato

steve murphy

September 29, 2008

What a guy!!! When my dad was alive and working at my nursery, Steve would always make it a point to stop and talk with my dad. Good memories! Love ya steve!

Dianne Ricca

September 29, 2008

To Carol, Biddie, Tom, my thoughts are with you. Thank you for sharing your dear, dear brother with us. He shared his love and great courage with so many. He was the best.

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