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Sebastian Gaeta Jr.

1936 - 2021

Sebastian Gaeta Jr. obituary, 1936-2021, Charleston, SC

Sebastian Gaeta Obituary

Sebastian Gaeta Jr

Sebastian Gaeta, Jr., Captain, United States Navy (retired), died Thursday, July 8th, 2021.

Sebastian was born December 30, 1936 in Hackensack, New Jersey, the son of the late Katherine Aversa Gaeta and the late Sebastian Gaeta. He is survived by his beloved wife, Helen Cook Gaeta, his sister, Lois Avery Gaeta Baker, his daughters, Mary Katherine Gaeta, Elizabeth Lynn Gaeta, Joanne Marie Gaeta, step-daughter Elizabeth Ann Cook, step-son, Christopher Benjamin Cook, granddaughter Danielle Howard and step-granddaughters, Alexandra Elizabeth Cook and Madison Renee Noe.

His early years were spent in Wyckoff, New Jersey. Following graduation from Fairleigh Dickinson University, Teaneck, New Jersey in 1959, he enrolled at the Marshall Wythe School of Law, College of William and Mary, Williamsburg, Virginia and earned his law degree in June 1962.

After successfully passing the Virginia and New Jersey bar examinations, he enlisted as an officer candidate in the United States Navy, receiving his commission as a lieutenant (junior grade) Navy Judge Advocate General's Corps.

In 1973, he received a Master of Laws (Law, Psychiatry and Criminology) from George Washington University.

Naval duty stations included Commanding Officer, Naval Legal Service Office, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, Director, Navy Marine Corps Appellate Defense Division, Washington, D.C. and Circuit Military Judge, Northeast and Southeast Judicial Circuits.

Captain Gaeta was awarded the Navy Commendation Medal, Meritorious Service Medal and Legion of Merit.

Upon retirement from the Navy at Naval Base Charleston 1989, Sebastian and Helen continued to reside in Mount Pleasant. Sebastian was a municipal judge for Mount Pleasant. When appointed as an administrative law judge by the governor of New Jersey, they moved to New Jersey in 1993. In June 1999, Sebastian was sworn in as a judge of the Superior Court of New Jersey, serving as a family part judge and then a criminal part judge in the Bergen County Justice Center, Hackensack, New Jersey.

Upon his seventieth birthday, as required by law, Sebastian retired from the Superior Court to the place he and Helen considered home: Mount Pleasant, South Carolina.

He was an avid golfer which went all the way back to his teen-age years. He loved his golfing friends at Snee Farm Country Club. One year, he qualified to play in the South Carolina Amateur, which was held on Kiawah Island. He also played in The Rice Planters Amateur. He was a member of the VFW - Post on the Coast, Isle of Palms, SC.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests contributions be made to East Cooper Meals on Wheels. Their telephone number is 843-881-9350. He delivered meals for many years on a one-day per week basis. Their mailing address is: P.O. Box 583, Mount Pleasant, South Carolina 29465

Celebration of life to be decided upon for a later date d/t COVID-19.

Expressions of sympathy may be viewed or submitted online at https://www.mcalister-smith.com.

Funeral arrangements have been entrusted to McALISTER-SMITH FUNERAL & CREMATION, Mt. Pleasant, 1520 Rifle Range Rd., Mt. Pleasant, SC 29464, (843) 884-3833.

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Published by The Record/Herald News from Jul. 10 to Jul. 11, 2021.

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Paul Janoff

July 27, 2021

My deepest sympathies and prayers to the entire Gaeta clan. Captain Gaeta was my first Commanding Officer at Naval Legal Services Office in Philadelphia. He was a brilliant attorney and a leader who inspired everyone under his command to lead lives of integrity and compassion. Erava anche il mio amico!!

Won Jai Lee

July 23, 2021

My deepest sympathy for Judge Gaeta's family and children. I was his second full year law clerk in the Superior Court of NJ and working with him was a great experience. He was a kind and gracious man and was well liked and loved by those who knew him well.

Toni Ann Duncan

July 13, 2021

My deepest sympathy to you Helen, and your family. I was his court clerk until he retired. I enjoyed being his clerk, he was always kind, generous and understanding. I always tell people in the courthouse about him. I'll keep him in my memories always.

Paulette Ramsey

July 12, 2021

Our thoughts are with you Helen your family and dear Lois. From Paulette Ramsey,Richard W DeKorte/John C Ramsey family.

Barry Cohen

July 11, 2021

Condolences to the Gaeta family. I feel old as I didn't really know Judge Gaeta but I knew his father well. Hi father was so proud of his son and I recall him speaking so highly of him. Good bloodline, good people. Take comfort in your memories.

Nancy Dansby

July 10, 2021

My deepest condolences to you Helen and Buddy's family.it was my honor to have known him.love nancy

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