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AARON DONNER Obituary

DONNER--Aaron B., respected attorney and political leader, died Friday, December 6, 2013 surrounded by his family in Bay Shore, New York. He was 88 years old. Aaron's life represents a great American success story. His father was a Russian immigrant who entered the US through Ellis Island. Aaron was born in 1925 and raised in Jamaica, Queens. He enlisted in the Army in World War II and fought in the Battle of Saipan. After the war, the GI Bill supported his undergraduate and Law degrees at NYU. He married Doris Schneider in 1951, and moved to Bay Shore, where he established a law practice specializing in real estate and became a leading legal figure on Long Island. He had a passion for politics, became active in the New York Democratic Party and Campaign Manager for Congressman Otis G. Pike, serving as his Congressional Aide from 1961-1978. He took pride in helping to create Congressional designation of the Fire Island National Seashore. He was chosen as Chief Counsel for the House Select Committee on Intelligence, and with Pike, led an historic investigation of the US Intelligence Community, leading to significant reforms of the CIA. In 1989 Aaron was appointed by then-Governor Mario Cuomo as Chair of SUNY Stony Brook Council. Aaron lived a full and accomplished life, pursuing his passions for family, recreation, and social activism with equal vigor. He adored sailing and fishing on the Great South Bay, and was never happier then when on the water in his boat. Aaron's Maine Lobster boat, the "Hannah J." was the source of great pride and enjoyment. He held an unflinching commitment to improving society and, together with Doris, engaged in numerous civil, social and political causes. Notable activism included work for the Development Disabilities Institute of Long Island, Planned Parenthood and Calvary Hospital in the Bronx. After the death of Doris, he retired and continued to divide his time between the Bay, supporting friends and local causes, and becoming an accomplished writer of short stories, based on his life experiences. In recent years Aaron lived with his dear companion, Molly Blue of Babylon with the kind support of Meg Green. Those who knew Aaron will speak of his extraordinary, noble values, his love of his family, his engagement with life and the world around him, his booming voice and mischievous sense of humor. He despised injustice and took every opportunity to challenge it, becoming a role model who influenced and shaped the lives of family and those around him. He leaves a proud legacy of achievement, integrity and love. Aaron is survived by his three children; Lauren, Jonathan and Ann, his grandchildren; Jesse, Becky, James, Julian, Olivia and Noah, and his daughter and sons-in-law; Louise, John and Kelley. The family requests in lieu of flowers that donations are sent to Calvary Hospital, Planned Parenthood and the Developmental Disabilities Institute of Long Island.

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Published by New York Times on Dec. 9, 2013.

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Beverly Garner

October 12, 2021

To the Donner family, my deepest sympathy and condolences. I had a part time job at Donner, Hariton, & Berka and I was so grateful they hired me. Mr Donner was a very kind man and well respected. I admired the way he cared for his employees and I knew he was a good family man as well. I just learned of his passing. Years later, I had called Jerry Berka with a legal question, and he was always kind to me, then I recently learned of his passing. I want to thank Mr Donner for giving me a chance. May God bless his family.

Madeleine Loeb

July 21, 2014

Aaron was my father Mort's best friend since childhood. Although later in life they lived on opposite sides of the country, they kept in touch through letters and long phone conversations. My father visited him every time he went back to NY on vacation, and Aaron came to visit us a couple of times, the last trip being with Molly. I will always remember him as a kind soul with a great sense of humor and a booming voice. I'm sure that my dad and Aaron are having a great time together in heaven discussing SJ Perelman!

Marcia and Allan Spector

March 31, 2014

We moved from Mowbray Avenue to Vermont last year and We have been traveling outside the US for several months and learned by accident only today of Aaron's passing. Aaron and Doris were our treasured neighbors and friends on Mowbray Avenue for over 30 years and were surrogate grandparents for our daughter Chiara. Aaron was our trusted attorney and confidante as well. He was an extraordinary human being; passionate, erudite, generous and kind. We will miss him greatly.

Marcia and Allan Spector

Abigail Blue

January 13, 2014

You will always shine on in my heart Aaron aka Dad !!!

Abigail Blue

January 13, 2014

You will always shine on in my heart Aaron aka Dad !!

marina-julia vandenberg

January 9, 2014

I am a guide in rome ,italy and I have
such a lovely memories of the tours we did together ,Aaron and Molly were so interested in archeology anything cultural and it was such a lovely fun
company very special,indeed I have had many tourists but special like them ,and I still have Aarons handwritten address on my address book which I will dearly keep..we did not have emails as yet !their rometrip
marina vandenberg www.guidesinrome.com
www.bnbchic.com

marina vandenberg

January 9, 2014

You will always live in our hearts and prayers.

Jonathan Donner

December 24, 2013

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Diane Ferber

December 16, 2013

In the 1980s Aaron was frustrated by not being able to land a plane on his commuter program, Flight Simulator. He passed the program on to my young daughters, and no one laughed harder than Aaron when Karen "landed" a week later. His good humor and wit will be missed.

Emily Frelick

December 14, 2013

Carol B. you so eloquently described my sentiments about life with the Donners.

Ann, Lauren, Jon, Molly, and the entire Donner extended family, I am very sorry for you loss. Ann has been a close friend since 5th grade, and from the moment I met Doris and Aaron, they embraced me and made me feel completely comfortable in their home. Doris and Aaron took a sincere interest in their children's friends and engaged others in lively discussions, story-telling, and laughs. Aaron's wise –cracking remarks and extraordinary laugh could be heard from afar and if you could keep up with his intellect and wit, you scored points major points with him; he couldn't relate to passivity. The Donner household was always fun and stimulating, and over the years, I continued to remain overwhelmed and fascinated by their interests, projects, and hobbies. Whether it was politics or culture permeating throughout that household, I always absorbed something, and learned something from the Donners. I am so grateful to have known and experienced the roar and passion of Aaron. My deepest sympathy to all. Peace and Love.

Lois Pike Eyre

December 13, 2013

Aaron was one of my greatest heroes. The world has lost a large percentage of its store of joy, humor, intelligence and kindness with his passing.

Abigail Blue

December 11, 2013

When my own Dad passed away much to early in life; I never thought I would have a second chance at having another Dad. However, when my Mom ( Molly Blue) became friends with Aaron, and then became his constant companion for many,many years- I had a second chance to have a Dad!!! Aaron fit that bill perfectly!! He always treated me like family; his advise was very wise; and his sense of humor, always made me smile! His wonderful children and Grandchildren ( my second family)will leave a wonderful legacy and tribute to Aaron and their Mother, Doris!! You will always be in my heart Dad!!!

DR MARTIN STALLER

December 10, 2013

Sorry for you loss.

Beth Sullivan

December 10, 2013

Aaron was my cousin-in-law. I was young enough to be his daughter, and as a child and young woman, his booming voice and physical presence intimidated me. As I grew older the intimidation changed to love and admiration. Aaron loved my hugs, which made me feel good. I felt a kinship with him after I lost my husband. He weathered the loss of his beloved wife, and in the process of healing his grief, he grew in ways he might never have imagined. He was a model of hope and possibility for me as I dealt with my own loss. I will remember his heartiness, life energy, and how he was always glad to see me.

Carol Robertson Guntner

December 10, 2013

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I was a classmate of Ann's (Class of 1977) and I worked for Mr. Donner from my senior year of high school through me and my family's move to Florida in 1999. He was a great man and a strong pillar in the community...... again, my sincere sympathies.... My daughter, Lindsay, still has the beautiful baby blanket that he and Mrs. Donner had given me when she was born in 1989. She was the "office baby", having come to work with me for the first 18 months of her life. I miss that office from way back then....

Carol Buchman

December 10, 2013

My deepest regrets to Ann, Lauren and Jon for loosing your remarkable father. Weekends at the donner house growing up were magical to me. I saw the family side. Doris zanily dancing a scottish jig, and Aaron, voice booming, presiding over a dinner where everyone actually laughed and talked substantively. OMG it was a functional family that loved to be together! He was warm and funny, larger then life, full of life. On my visits I felt embraced to feel like family. He Aaron and Doris found something they loved about everyone - from the garbage man to the congressman. I can picture Aaron perfectly - knowing him from around age 11 to my 50's, that spirit never changed. I did not see him these last 3 or 4 years and I truly regret that. I have watched his daughter, my buddy Ann follow in his footsteps with her deep commitment to social causes, and I have watched all of them manage to stay a close family and work together as Aaron aged, even spread around the globe. I love you all and in the name of Aaron and the Donner spirit, L'Chaim.

Jack Lindner

December 9, 2013

Aaron and I were law school classmates in 1950 and we spent many hours studying together during that year.It was sad to learn of his passing , even though our paths haven't crossed in many years, I have only fond memories of our time together.

Bob Thomas

December 9, 2013

Our deepest sympathies to the Donner family and especially to Jonathan, friend and colleague.

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