ALEXANDER HAYS Obituary

HAYS--Alexander Monroe.

Alexander Monroe Hays, passed away on Thursday, August 9, 2018 in Manhattan while visiting his parents at his home in Manhattan. He was born at New York Hospital in Manhattan, to the sound of Mozart. He graduated from Columbia Grammar and Prep School in Manhattan. He worked for the family business in Manhattan, Target Health Inc. In the company's weekly newsletter, ON TARGET, Alex was responsible for the section called, History of Medicine. He entered New York University with a major in history and ended up at SCI-ARC school of architecture in Los Angeles, CA. He worked at Griffin Enright Architects, a firm in Los Angeles, and was very fond of the owners of that firm. Alex had planned to get his license and return to New York, with a friend and open a small firm. Alex was a non-stop reader of history, politics and great literature and loved art, theater and music. He was an early musician and played piano, guitar, double bass and the saxophone. At three years old, he played his guitar on the apron of the stage with Willie Nelson's band in Atlantic City, NJ. Willie signed his guitar, out of great respect for this curly haired child's ability to play for 1.5 hours, non stop. He loved classical, especially Mozart and Chopin, and jazz. At fifteen, he formed a jazz band and played in the Village on weekends. He was a great photographer. His favorite opera was, "Cosi" which he saw recently at the MetOpera. He knew every museum in New York City like second homes. He traveled as far as Africa and as close to home as the Adirondacks which he loved. Alex Hays was erudite and kind. Everyone who knew him, loved him. Survivors: his mother, Joyce Hays, stepfather, Dr. Jules Mitchel, father, Dr. James D. Hays, sister, Vanessa C. Hays and other relatives. The life of Alex Hays is a beautiful star, shining, now exploding, like a super nova. He will be missed by a great many people; but in our hearts forever. A visitation will be held on Tuesday 4pm-8pm service to begin at 6pm at Frank E Campbell "The Funeral Chapel". 81st & Madison Avenue. The family of Alex Hays plans to set up a Memorial Award at SCI-ARCH, each year for a talented graduate. We will call this, the "Alex for Excellence."

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Published by New York Times on Aug. 14, 2018.

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Joyce Hays

April 17, 2024

Alex, I can't believe you've been gone for over 5 years. Now, you and Jules are together, waiting for me, then Vanessa. I'm so sad these days..... missing you and Julzee so much. Visit me in a dream. Love you forever

bethany

July 15, 2020

I can't believe you're gone. I had no idea this whole time but I think a part of my also knew. My heart hurts thinking about you missing from this world. We had so much catching up to do. You had so much more living to do. I'm so happy you finished Sci Arc and worked as an Architect. That was your dream and goal for so long. I'm so happy you fell in love again. I happy you saw your family and travelled. One of the things I remember most about you is how easy it was to be in your presence. We could easily spend a whole day doing nothing. We used to tackle around Santa Monica, you'd introduce me to random movies from the 70s, and were so so smart and never made me feel dumb. I'm so sad you're gone. You were a wonderful friend to have. We went through so many phases together and it's so heartbreaking to know we aren't going to share the next one. I love and miss you.

March 30, 2020

Happy Birthday Alex, my beloved son. My heart overflows, forever, with love for you.

AC GA

August 14, 2018

May God's loving kindness comfort you and help you through this sad and difficult time. Psalms 119:50,76.

(JW)Nina Taylor

August 14, 2018

How rare is your personality? Only 1% of the population has your strong mind, soul and spirit.

Your most defining traits: You set high standards and you achieve them (yet you don't see it), you are a control freak and you are flawless in everything you do.

You have a strength and fighting spirit that few can match. You're strong, determined, dedicated, and willing to sacrifice for what you believe in. You are incredibly courageous and fight hard to achieve your goals. This type of warrior spirit goes along with your perfectionism. You always try to do the best work possible, and you inspire others to do the same.

Possessing this combination of traits, has taken a long toll on your life, and we think you should try to relax a little, even take a short vacation, you will feel better, trust us!

Daniel NMarkofsky

August 13, 2018

I love you brother and dedicate my future adventures to you. Your candle burned out way too soon. You live on through the people you touched.

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