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BARRY METZGER Obituary

METZGER--Barry. (06/11/45- 12/22/2012) With love, Jackie, Darren, Rebecca, Annette, Lucca, Matteo and Noah. His confidence, strength and stories made him the best husband, dad, opa and friend. His love and wisdom stay with us. We miss him.

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Published by New York Times on Dec. 22, 2022.

Memories and Condolences
for BARRY METZGER

Sponsored by The Metzger Family.

87 Entries

Jacqueline S Metzger

December 11, 2022

IN MEMORIAM-BARRY METZGER
JUNE 1945 - DECEMBER 2012
DEAR FRIENDS AND FAMILY,
IT´S 10 YEARS SINCE WE HAD BARRY AMONGST US. I FIND THIS A SIGNIFICANT MILESTONE WHICH I WANT TO SHARE WITH OTHERS WHO KNEW AND CARED ABOUT HIM. THE YEARS HAVE PASSED, PARTICULARLY NOTED BY THE GROWING GRANDCHILDREN (LUCCA, 20 AND MATTEO AND NOAH, 15). WE EACH TRY TO BRING BARRY INTO OUR THOUGHTS AND INFLUENCES- "WHAT WOULD BARRY SAY" OR "WHAT WOULD BARRY THINK" OR "HOW WOULD BARRY RESPOND" AS WE PROGRESS IN LIFE. HE HAD BROAD SHOULDERS WHICH WE ALL LEANED ON. HIS WISDOM AND ABILITY TO THINK THROUGH THINGS WAS UNPARALLED.
I THINK BACK TO HOW "WE" REPAIRED THINGS IN THE HOUSE. BARRY WOULD LOOK AND REFLECT ON WHAT WAS NEEDED AND THEN INSTRUCT ME ON HOW TO FIX IT. HIS AMAZING MIND COULD CREATE WONDERFUL PARTY AND VACATION IDEAS. WHEN HE BECAME A PARTNER AT COUDERT BROTHERS WHILE IN HONG KONG, HE HAD THIS IDEA THAT WE SHOULD TAKE A GROUP OF FRIENDS ON A BOAT AND THEN HIRE PIRATES TO COME ON BOARD TO TAKE THE BOAT! IT WAS ONE OF THE FEW IDEAS I NIXED AT THE START. BUT HE HAD OTHERS. HE ARRANGED FOR A "GORILLA" TO COME TO THE COUDERT OFFICE AND DISTRIBUTE BANANAS. HE PURCHASED A VERY CONTROVERSIAL PAINTING IN SYDNEY CALLED "THE DEFEAT OF REASON" BY THE ARTIST VICTOR RUBIN. IT SAT BEHIND HIS BACK SO HIS GUEST COULD VIEW IT. THE PROMINENT FIGURE WAS A LARGE MALE NUDE AMONGST A CROWD OF NUDE PEOPLE AND A GRIM REAPER IN THE BACKGROUND. MANY QUESTIONED BOTH THE PURCHASE AND THE PLACEMENT OF IT. HIS SECRETARY JENNY, COMPLAINED TO ME ABOUT IT AND I RESPONDED THAT YES, IT WAS A POWERFUL PAINTING AND MAYBE IT NEEDED A LARGER VENUE. HER RESPONSE WAS THAT IT NEEDED A G-STRING! YEARS LATER WHEN I ASKED HIM WHY HE CHOSE THIS, HIS RESPONSE WAS THAT HE FACED THE DEFEAT OF REASON FREQUENTLY IN HIS WORK. THIS PIECE OF ART NOW SITS ON THE WALL OF BARRY´S DEAREST FRIEND, TOM RAGAN, WHICH GIVES HIM A SMILE AS HE THINKS OF IT ON THE WALL BEHIND BARRY SITTING AT HIS DESK. ON A LIGHTER NOTE, BARRY ARRANGED FOR A GORGEOUS DRAG QUEEN TO HOSTESS AT OUR FAREWELL PARTY IN LONDON ASSISTED BY ARTHUR, THE COUDERT OFFICE BUTLER. THE GUESTS WONDERED IF WE KNEW WHOM THE BUTLER HAD BROUGHT WITH HIM TO ASSIST AS SHE LEANED HER 6FT 2 FRAME OVER TO SERVE DRINKS, WEARING A BLOND WIG, A TIGHT TOP AND MINI-SKIRT. OF COURSE, WE, ARTHUR, AND US, WERE ALL IN ON THE LAUGH.
I MERCILESSLY TAUNTED HIM ABOUT HIS LACK OF GOOD PRIORITIES-WORK FIRST; THE KIDS SECOND; ME THIRD; HIM LAST! HOLES IN HIS SHOES AND RIPS IN HIS EXPENSIVE SUIT POCKETS WERE SURELY THE SIGN HE CARED LITTLE ABOUT HIMSELF. WHENEVER A HOLIDAY TIME LOOMED NEAR, TENSION AT HOME WOULD BUILD. HE NEVER GOT TO AIRPORTS EARLY WHICH WAS THE TOTAL OPPOSITE FROM MY WAY OF GOING ON A TRIP AND OFTEN HE´D BE UPGRADED FOR HIS TARDINESS. SO MANY TRIPS BEGAN WITH "I´VE GOT GOOD NEWS AND BAD NEWS" WHICH USUALLY MEANT WE WERE DETOURING FROM OUR ORIGINAL PLAN BUT WE WERE STILL GOING TO BE TOGETHER EVENTUALLY. ONCE IT WAS AN ADD-ON TRIP TO PARIS FOR HIM TO MEET A CLIENT IN PARIS EN ROUTE TO OUR SPECIAL HONEYMOON-THEMED VACATION, WELL-ORGANIZED BY ME, TO LONDON THEATER FOR A FEW DAYS. OR THE TIME THE KIDS AND I WENT ONTO JAPAN (OUR FIRST TRIP THERE) WITHOUT HIM AND STAYED ON TATAMI MATS WITH JOHN ROEBUCK AND FAMILY WHILE HE FOLLOWED MANY DAYS LATER. THE MOST AGREGIOUS WAS WHEN HE SPENT TIME ON AN AIRPLANE TELEPHONE EN ROUTE FROM HONG KONG TO NEW YORK TALKING WITH VICKI MARMORSTEIN IN THE LA OFFICE AND WHEN WE LANDED IN TRANSIT IN LOS ANGELES, HE GOT OFF AND LEFT ME TO CONTINUE THE TRIP TO NEW YORK WITH HIS LUGGAGE AND MINE. NOPE, IN HINDSIGHT, I THINK THE MOST CHALLENGING TIME WAS WHEN WE MOVED TO LONDON AND HE DETOURED TO THE PARIS OFFICE, SENDING US TO ARRIVE ON OUR OWN HOLDING VISAS SAYING WE WERE ACCOMPANYING FAMILY MEMBERS OF BARRY METZGER WTHOUT BARRY METZGER. CELL PHONES WEREN´T PART OF LIFE AND WE WERE HELD AT HEATHROW FOR SEVERAL HOURS. HE ALWAYS SEEMED NONPLUSSED BY THESE VARIATIONS AS MY SENSE OF ORGANIZATION WAS ROCKED TO ITS CORE. OF COURSE, THIS BEHAVIOR WAS ACCEPTABLE BEFORE 9/11!
HE WAS THE HEIGHT OF A GOOD FAMILY PERSON-HE LOVED HIS FAMILY UNCRITICALLY WHICH WAS AMONGST HIS VERY BEST TRAITS. HE HAD JUST BEGUN TO KNOW THE NEXT GENERATION WHEN THAT DARN PANCREATIC CANCER STOPPED HIM. BUT HE KNEW EACH OF US AND ACCEPTED OUR WAYS. HIS UNDERSTANDING OF HIS CHILDREN WAS REMARKABLE. WE MOVED FROM SYDNEY TO LONDON WHEN DARREN WAS 17 AND PART-WAY THROUGH HIS LAST YEAR OF SCHOOL IN SYDNEY. I QUESTIONED WHETHER IT WAS BEST TO LEAVE DARREN IN SYDNEY TO FINISH SCHOOL THERE VERSUS HAVING HIM TAKE A SENIOR YEAR IN LONDON AT THE AMERICAN SCHOOL. BARRY WAS STEADFAST THAT A YEAR IN AN AMERICAN SCHOOL AND ANOTHER YEAR OF LIFE IN THE METZGER HOME WAS THE RIGHT MOVE. WHEN REBECCA SEEMED TO TAKE MORE ADVANTAGE OF THE FREEDOMS GOOD PUBLIC TRANSPORT AFFORDED HER IN LONDON AND THE ABILITY FOR TEENAGE GIRLS TO PASS FOR DRINKING AGE ADULTS, I WORRIED WE NEEDED TO INTERVENE. BARRY ASSURED ME ALL WOULD BE WELL! THE UPS AND DOWNS OF RAISING OUR FAMILY REQUIRED MY WORRYING ABOUT ALL THAT COULD HAPPEN VERSUS HIS CALM ASSURANCE THAT WE WERE DOING ALL THAT IS RIGHT FOR THEM. AND SOMEHOW THIS FORMULA WORKED. SINCE LOOSING HIM, I HAVE TRIED TO STEP INTO HIS SHOES AS HEAD OF THE METZGER FAMILY BUT I´VE BEEN TOLD THAT IT DOESN´T WORK THAT WAY. HE WAS HIS OWN SPECIAL SELF.
LUCKILY, WE STARTED OUR LIFE TOGETHER VERY YOUNG. I CAN BOAST 46 YEARS OF MARRIAGE AND 49 YEARS OF KNOWING THE WONDERFUL, LOVING AND MOSTLY UNPREDICTABLE HUMAN BEING HE WAS. IN THE LAST YEAR OF LIFE WITH HIM, WE TALKED ABOUT HOW MUCH WE APPRECIATED THE STRENGTHS THAT EACH OF US BROUGHT TOGETHER TO MAKE OUR LIFE. HE TOLD ME THAT THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD WHOM HE FEARED WAS ME! WHAT A REVELATION. SINCE HE´S BEEN GONE, WE´VE HAD SO MANY LOVELY OUTREACHES FROM PEOPLE WHO KNEW HIM. I MARVEL AT HOW MANY TIMES SOMEONE WILL SAY HE TALKED ABOUT ME AND THE FAMILY. OUR FAMILY SMILES WHEN WE REMEMBER HIM WALKING ON EAST HAMPTON BEACH WEARING BLACK LEATHER SHOES AND BLACK SOCKS ALONG WITH SHORTS AND A SHIRT. AND OF COURSE, WE REMEMBER HIS LOVE FOR OUR BLACK LAB WHICH HAD AN HONORED PLACE ON THE BED AND IN HIS HEART. I HOPE MY NOTE TO YOU WILL BRING YOU A MEMORY YOU HAVE OF HIM AND ALSO BRING A SMILE TO YOUR FACE. HE WAS PART OF OUR LIVES AND STILL IS!
WITH AFFECTION,
JACKIE FOR ALL THE METZGER CLAN
DARREN AND ANNETTE, LUCCA, AND MATTEO
REBECCA AND NOAH

Helen Anderson

January 6, 2022

So much love a respect for Barry. He was a very fine man.

James Thackara

December 18, 2020

One of the great sadnesses of my return to Manhattan after fifty years, and of The Book of King's as an EBook, was not to find Barry here who was the most generous saviour to both.

Clifford Groen

December 26, 2019

Dear Jackie:

It is seven years since Barry died. I think about him a lot. He died too young. A victim of pancreatic cancer. He taught me so much.

Love,

Cliff

Myalee Sofield Chaytor

December 18, 2019

Thinking of Barry today and always - forever in our hearts. And huge hugs and love to Jackie, Darren, Rebecca and all the Metzger family on this day of remembrance. All our love from the Sofields & Chaytors xxxxxx

james thackara

May 10, 2017

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I am completely shocked to hear of this personal loss, however after the fact. Barry was no less than my salvation

Adrian Garai

June 5, 2013

Dear Jackie, so sorry to hear of your loss; a fine man, your husband. You may remember us us neighbors in Pokfulam HK.

John H. Gray

April 30, 2013

Dear Jackie,

I am so very sorry for your loss - I just learned of Barry's passing and immediately began to reflect on what a kind, intelligent, and giving person he was. I had the great fortune of working with Barry while he served as Chair of the Program Committee at Pacific Pension Institute - he was so very intelligent and articulate, but what made it especially meaningful to work with him was seeing his passion and genuine commitment to the organization. He was an incredible mentor for someone fresh out of school - a role that I think he enjoyed very much - and I count myself lucky to have known him and to have learned from him over those years.

With deepest sympathy,

Robert Zafft

April 23, 2013

My condolences on your loss. I made Barry's acquaintance through OECD events, where he was a leader in intellect, in policy, and in wisdom. He was invariably thoughtful and kind. A true mensch.

Julia Holz

April 2, 2013

Words cannot express the heaviness in my heart. Sincere condolences to you and the family. We have lost a fabulous friend.

Love,

Jessie Brenner

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,
I am so very sorry and sad. Words cannot express. My thoughts are with you. I know your heart is broken.
Wonderful Barry! I liked him from the moment I met him, when I was about 16, at dinner at my parents house. We really loved him and will miss him greatly. I know there are many people who will feel the same, because he was a wonderful man who touched many lives. A major loss to his loved ones, his friends, and in his own quiet way, to his country.
We love you. Our condolences to Rebecca, Darren, Annette and the children from us.

Judy Caouette

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,

we are heartbroken to read your sad, sad information. What a shock. Barry was such an honorable, smart, honest man - fabulous husband, great father and grandfather, a fine man among men. I shall never forget how he took me to "Nicky's Pizza" right after we moved to Larchmont to introduce me to the most delicious pizza in the world. How I appreciate that gesture. So many more as well.
We shall miss him terribly as will all his friends.
Our love to you and your family,

Sam Ray

April 2, 2013

Oh Jackie - my heart goes out to you and your entire family - and (as much as anyone outside your family can be) I am devastated with you. Words cannot express how much Barry meant to me - as a friend, adviser, mentor, and sage...not to mention the most witty and adroit sense of humor ever, picking up on every irony and foible.

Although I am not geographically "just around the corner" to be there for you on the spur of the moment, please know that I stand ready and willing to be on hand - no matter what - and I am sure you'll find legions of friends, colleagues and former clients who would be honored to do anything that would be an opportunity to pay tribute to a truly great man, his stalwart partner, and your remarkable family.

With great love and sympathy,

David and Kathy Gelfand

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,
We are profoundly saddened by this shocking news as we were simply unaware. On this most difficult day for you and your family our thoughts and prayers are lovingly with you and the kids. Know that had I been in NYC we would have surely been with you!
We both have always adored you and Barry and found him to have been a wise, thoughtful and caring friend and counsel.
May sweet memories, painful in the present bring you comfort, warmth and courage in the future.

In sympathy and abiding friendship,

Cinnamon & Chip Dornsife

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,
Sending you all our deepest condolence on the loss of dear Barry. He was the kindest, most generous man, a brilliant lawyer and beloved friend. I am so sorry - and we send you and your entire family all our prayers and thoughts.
In friendship, and in loving memory of a truly great person,

Fanny Beerman

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,

During this moment of our relentless sadness and dismay concerning the passing of your loving steadfast partner, Barry, husband and father of Darren and Rebecca, and our fine friend....please understand that your family is considered by our family to be the first genuine friends that we had met in Hong Kong so many years ago.

Barry, who was always dutifully busy with family and career, conveyed to our family the presence of mind and care that gave confidence to all around him that everything was calm, right and OK in our worlds - in other words not to worry because Barry was there. Indeed that feeling of reassurance still prevailed when we chatted with Barry during your party last January....you know what I mean, Jackie, that is, the more things change the less they change....such assurance was personified by Barry Metzger.

Jackie we realize that you have been Barry's loving and successful partner during the many interesting and exciting times you and Barry have enjoyed mutually building a remarkable life and unique family together. There are only a few certitudes out there but one is that you, Darren and Rebecca, and their respective families, will continue to excel at lofty levels of performance to emulate the contributions and leadership of Barry through it all.

Jackie - my friendship is yours forever - anything you need or want just ask...moreover we moved to New York City a few month ago so if you just want to talk, say, like in the ol'times, please call.

Love,

Tammy Taylor

April 2, 2013

Dear Jackie,
I know and am comforted by the fact that you are surrounded by friends and family who are providing invaluable love and support through this difficult time, but just wanted you to know that you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
I knew Barry only a brief amount of time, but it was enough to gauge the caliber of person he was, to feel a genuine fondness for him, and to admire and appreciate his deep love and commitment to you and his family. He seemed to be someone to whom humor and generosity came naturally, and to whom a sense of obligation to contribute to the world around him was important. I can't help but think the world was a better place for his presence and a lesser one without him.

My heart goes out to you.
Love,

Samantha Grant

April 2, 2013

Dearest Jackie,
No amount of words from family and friends will take away the pain I can only imagine you are feeling. I do hope that you are getting all the love and support you need at this time and into the future. Having beautiful children and grandchildren around must help.
Please send Darren, Rebecca and their families our love.

All the best,
Samantha, Jamie, Shoshana and Zachary Rigler

Jini and Bill Martens

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,
Bill and I were shocked to hear of Barry's sudden passing. It seems that just last year you wrote about him retiring and you were both looking forward to spending more time out in East Hampton.
Joanne told us that he had a serious operation last summer, but that you were traveling again and he seemed fully recovered. This is such a loss for you, your children and grandchildren, not to mention all the friends you have around the world. Our heart goes out to you as you remember with both joy and sadness all the wonderful years and experiences you had together.
Please know that you and your family are in our prayers.

Love,

Nancy King

April 1, 2013

Oh Jackie,
I am so sorry to hear that Barry and you lost your battle so suddenly. The two of you had a very special relationship which you didn't advertise, but which just WAS. My heart goes out to you.

You are strong.
Fondly,

Robert Hornick

April 1, 2013

Please tell me it isn't so. I had thought no news was good news, and was looking forward to a year-end note about travel to Europe and wine. I'm so sorry. Barry has been an important figure in my life since law school - and a good friend. It's like losing a brother. Gabrielle joins me in sending heartfelt condolences to you, Rebecca and Darren. Let us know what is happening by way of memorial services, contributions, and the like.
And please stay in touch.
Bob

Beth Baine

April 1, 2013

Jackie,
I am so very sorry about Barry. You are a lovely family and it was a pleasure that Joanne ever alerted me to you being at MSK. From what I could see you did everything right.
I know you are so sad now and that's as it should be. I hope you will reach out to your friends once the immediacy passes.They will all want to help you through this.

My prayers got with you on Monday.
I sorrow,

Lorin S. Weisenfeld

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,
I can't tell you how sad I was to read your news. I was under the impression that things has been going reasonably well. In fact, I made a point not to call around Thanksgiving time, as I had been thinking about doing, because I assumed that you did not want people badgering you as Barry got back on his feet.
Barry was a great friend and a great lawyer, as decent a fellow as you could find. As I sit here in sadness, my mind flashes back to all of the times we have gotten together over the last 40 or so years. What I see in every memory that comes to my mind's eye is Barry's smile, his wise thoughts, and his buoyant good humor. If ever there was anyone who should have been entitled to a long and peaceful retirement, it was Barry.

I hope that you and the kids and take some comfort from the fact that Barry's many colleagues and friends share your loss.

Love,
Laddy

Mimi Hutton

April 1, 2013

Dearest Jackie,
how sad we were to receive word today that Barry had died. I know you know this, but Barry was a truly amazing man and lawyer who taught me so many things as a young lawyer in Hong Kong.
He gave so much of himself to make the rest of us the lawyers we are today, and so I think he really does live on in us.

So many memories flooding back tonight, of hard work, lessons learned, and kindness to me as a very green young lawyer. Thank you Barry, and to you Jackie too, for all of that kindness and wisdom that you gave me.

We send much love to you and the children.

Love, Mimi and Peabody

Ann Heywood

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,
I am so saddened to hear about Barry. What a blow this must be to you and all your family. I know you have a tough road ahead of you, but I hope you can find some peace in togetherness with your lovely children and grandchildren.

Our thoughts are with all of you.
With sadness,

Prof. Dr. Peter Eigen

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,

Since some time Gesine and I have often been thinking of Barry and you. Our wonderful dinner at the Cafe Einstein seemed to have been just yesterday. When we heard about his cancer, it hit both of us particularly hard: We both had lost our beloved partners to this dreadful disease. We were hoping that you would live through this ordeal with strength and love. And now Barry had died so soon....
We are deeply sorry. He leaves a huge community of friends all over the world, who are grateful for his generosity, his wisdom, his professionalism, his warmth as a colleague - we all love him and feel a great sense of void, now that he has left.
But it must be much harder for you and the family. We wish you all the best during the coming time.

With warmest regards,
Yours Gesine and Peter

Kerry and Graham Hosking

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie and family,

We were terribly saddened to hear the news of Barry's passing.
It must be devastating for the family to lose such a wonderful husband, father, grandfather and an amazing friend to so many.
I am sure like us, everyone just has wonderful fond memories of not only an intelligent business person but a very caring and compassionate person.
There is nothing that prepares you for this loss but we hope that together as a family and with your strong faith that you will endure this difficult time.
Both Graham and I pass our sincere condolences to all of you and will be thinking of you.

Lot's of love to you.

Robert Hurley

April 1, 2013

Dear Metzger Family,
I have just learned of your devastating loss, and hasten to add my condolences.
To my regret, I lost touch with Barry over the years since my family's departure from Hong Kong. But while there with Chase Asia Ltd, which became Chase Manhattan Asia Ltd, I had frequent business contact with him, and through those meetings developed great respect.

Our sympathy goes out to your family.
Sincerely,

Andrew Rogers, Australia

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie and family,

It is now almost 30 year since Bob Seidler brought Barry up to the Court to introduce us. Every meeting with him since then has been an unalloyed joy. The man was such a lovely human being, such a friend and I am sure a great husband, father and grandfather. It is embarrassing to recall that after being able to facilitate Coudert's opening in Sydney Helen and I became the recipients of a million acts of friendship and kindness.
Jackie, all who knew Barry or had dealings with him realize that his passing lost us a great and good man with limitless capacity for friendship and kindness. Whilst your loss stands alone in its depth of grief we who feel privileged to have been touched in this life by our friend feel with you and for you.
Please envelop yourself in our deep and unlimited affection and sympathy for the loss of our dear friend.

Affectionate regards to you all,

Helen and Andrew Coonan

April 1, 2013

Jackie,
we are devastated!
I have tears in my eyes as I send this, thinking of your pain and loss. You can be comforted if at all possible by having shared your life with a wonderful man who made such a difference to so many lives.
How brutally unfair this is!
We will be back in touch with you when we absorb this and feel up to sharing where you are at.
Our deepest sympathy and our arms are round you.

Daniel Belasco

April 1, 2013

Dear Rebecca,
Ryan notified me about your dad. I am so very sorry for you and Noah and your family. I immediately went to your facebook page and saw the wonderful photo of the two of you together. That photo perfectly captures my memories of Barry, jovial and enjoying the energy of those around him, and a playful side bubbling below the surface. I always enjoyed not only talking to him, but being around him, he was a good presence and loving father and grandfather. He was cut from the same cloth as my dad, who just died over 8 month ago. I am still in mourning and saying kaddish every shabbat. I know you must be feeling something like I felt when my father died ... utter devastation, loss, emotional depletion, a broken heart. This doesn't last, and changes over time. But the first 30 days were a landscape of emotional pain for me. There were a few things that helped me through it. Being with family and friends. Are you staying with your mom during shiva? I lived in the house of mourning for the week and rarely left. It felt safe, and strangely like how I felt during the first week after Frieda's birth, like the whole world had contracted into my house, and time moved incredibly slowly. I was struck how similar in some ways birth and death are, at least in those earliest of days. The shifting of worlds as someone moves in or out of it. The immensity and intensity is so different that the rest of our daily lives. That first week the presence of my father was so strong, he always seemed to be just around the corner. He was there but not there. This was hard to feel at the time, but now I almost miss it, and I crave to find ways to feel close to him again, even if only in my dreams. So feel him now as much as you can.

The Jewish rituals do help and make sense, and you are so thoughtful I am sure you'll find the right practices for yourself. I started saying kaddish a few days a week and have settled into once a week since the shloshim. Right now, its the only public space where I am still in mourning, and people know that I have recently lost a parent, and that space is comforting since the rest of the world will not really understand what you are going through and after a few weeks won't even care too much. I was surprised how horrible it felt to lose a parent. Some of my close friends had lost parents, and I realized that I really had no idea what they went through until I "joined the club" myself.
So the other thing that helped me along the way has been taking comfort from those who have been gone down this road before. For me, the most comforting words came from people - some close friends, othertimes near starngers - who lost parents and shared their experiences with me. Helped the absurdity of my father being dead seem less absurd.

Please know that my, and Risa's, thoughts are with you and that we will try to help anyway we can.

Hugs,
Dan

Liz and Murray Napier

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie, Rebecca, Darren and families,
I can't tell you how sad we are to hear your news when everything looked so hopeful for Barry. We have lost one of our most special friends and are so sorry we cannot be with you. Julie and David are here with us or they would have gone to be with you all at Barry's send off.
We have many special memories not least our time around Julie's wedding which we now treasure even more, and we will never forget Barry and you offering to save our farm when the going was really tough for us. Only very true friends would do that. Fond memories of a very special, wise and generous man who we will miss a lot.

We are with you in spirit and will be in touch when things settle down a little.
Love you all,

Tom Jones

April 1, 2013

Jackie,
I was deeply saddened to learn from Peter and David of Barry's untimely passing. Please accept my deepest condolences.

Barry was my first "boss". I joined Coudert's Hong Kong office fresh out of law school in the fall of 1980 and he was the managing partner. He was a great mentor and role model the me and other young associates at the firm. I learned never to give him anything to review unless I felt it was as perfect as I could make it. He set very high standards for each of us and for himself. Law was a craft, something that you could learn and perfect - and he was a master at his craft - something he clearly thrived at doing. I always envisioned that he was much older than I given his wisdom and maturity that so impressed a fledgling associate like myself at that time - but he was in fact only about four years older!

I also remember attending Thanksgiving dinner at your place I believe near Fortress Hill in Hong Kong. Young Darren told the story of the Pilgrims and of Thanksgiving. I recall Barry beaming from the sidelines as he watched his son do this. I can only imagine how happy he must have been being surrounded by his grandchildren and watching them grow up.

Barry was a great man and will be sorely missed by many - I consider myself to be blessed to have been able to work with him and learn from him. I hope that your unbearable loss will be somewhat lessened knowing that he had such a positive influence on so many lives.
Sincerely,

Dennis Stillwell

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,

I am so sorry to hear about Barry. He was such a great and gentle man. He also commanded an audience. As you now he was kind enough to guest lecture at my NYU class. All my other speakers would come with PowerPoint presentations and do a good job. But Barry showed up with just himself, leaned back on the desk in the front and chatted. The students were mesmerized. They asked question after question. They didn't want him to leave and I usually had to intervene to get Barry free. To this day, I receive notes from my former students who said what they learned from Barry helped them move up in their careers.
We miss him too and our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Warmest regards,

Dennis

Richard Gardner

April 1, 2013

Dear Jackie,

I was deeply shocked to read your email upon my recent return to New York. Barry was an outstanding professional colleague and more importantly a dear friend. I remember so well my visits with you both in various posts around the world and the warm hospitality I always received.

With deepest sympathy, Dick.

March 28, 2013

Dear Jackie,

I am not sure if you remember me. I am Christophe Gautrot, a counsel at the Asian Development Bank.

I have learnt the very sad news of the demise of Barry Metzger. I send my most sincere condolence to you and your family.

I have a very good memory of Barry who was the General Counsel who hired me in 1997 as a counsel in the Office of the General Counsel of ADB. I appreciated working under his leadership. He was a boss who was a great source of inspiration for the young lawyer that I was then. I particularly appreciated from him the fact that he treated all counsels in an equal manner and took into considerations the opinions of each lawyer whatever his or her hierarchical position. Another of his legacy for me was his interest for the role of law in the development of countries in Asia. The interest and passion that he showed are still a source of inspiration in my work as a counsel in ADB today.

In these difficult days for you, I wish to send my moral support and prayers.

Christophe

Victor

March 28, 2013

Dear Jackie,

My deep condolences to you and the children. I hope you are all managing as
best as you can during this extremely difficult period.

I will miss Barry. He was such a very special, brilliant, giving, inspiring
man and leader. I have never worked for a General Counsel as committed and
dedicated as he. And he was an excellent teacher and mentor.

I hope that your faith will give you solace and certainty during this time.

Please take care of yourself -- eat, exercise and rest well. And do not
hesitate to let your friends know how we can help.

Love and Light,

Kate Reilly

March 28, 2013

Rebecca,

I am so very sorry about your Dad. I've been thinking of you and Jackie and Darren every moment since my Mom told us what happened yesterday. I wish I could say I can't imagine what you're going through, but, unfortunately, I can, and more than anything I wish you and your family didn't have to experience this. Please know that my family is thinking of you, and please let us know if there is anything we can do for you at this time, or in the coming weeks and months, as you deal with all of this.

I hope you know how much your Dad meant to so many people -- my family, of course, included. My father always told such wonderful stories about how your Mom and Dad were so kind to my parents in Asia and about how much he learned from your Dad when he was a young lawyer. I know how much he looked up to your Dad and respected him -- not just as a lawyer, but as a father. And I am so grateful for the advice and interest and guidance your Dad took in me and in my career after I lost my father. He always went out of his way to check up on me and to ask the question only another lawyer would know to ask, to offer sound advice, to be at my wedding, to remind me of a story about my Dad. It meant so much to me. And I'm sure you know how tremendously proud he was of you and of Darren and how much his love for you both was obvious -- I was always eager to hear his stories about his grandchildren, or what you both were up to, and he was always happy to share them. Your Dad just brought the most wonderful spirit to everything he did. He was such a good man. We were lucky to have had him in our lives.

I'm so sorry for this loss, Rebecca. I so wish there was something I could say or do to make it better. In the absence of that, my whole family sends its thoughts and its love to yours,

Clifford Groen

March 10, 2013

Dear Jackie,
My condolences to you and your family. I just learned today about Barry's untimely death. I met Barry when I joined Coudert Brothers in NY in 1976. I worked with Barry for several years. He introduced me to Korea. He was a brilliant and compassionate person. My wife Marti joins me in this condolence.
Cliff Groen

Jean Miller

March 5, 2013

Dear Jackie,
Jack and I send our love and condolences to you and your family on the loss of your dear Barry. The card I sent to your D.C. address was recently returned. We didn't know that Barry was ill. Let us know if we can help you in any way. Love, Jean

January 31, 2013

Dear Jackie,
I just learned a few minutes ago about Barry's passing. He was such a wise and generous person, a model for all those whose lives he touched. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Jonathan Wohl

Lance and Yuko Miller

January 27, 2013

Barry was a dear friend and mentor. In my nearly 20 years at Coudert Brothers I never felt alone. I was blessed with the support of a wise and generous human being to me and my family. I shall always remember Barry with great fondness and affection. The world would surely be a better place if there were more like Barry in it. My family extends its deepest sympathies to Barry's wonderful and loving wife and family.

Rich and Sue Dean

January 17, 2013

Jackie and family-

Sue and I were stunned and deeply saddened when we learned of Barry's sudden and premature death last month and have been praying for all of you since we heard the news. We pray that God may be a source of comfort, peace and consolation for you.

Sue and I always looked forward to our lunches and other encounters at the Baker meetings over the last several years. Jackie, you and Barry were great role models for us from the days I worked for Barry in Sydney- now almost 28
years ago- and we always treasured the time we spent with you. We were so pleased that our friendship with you lasted over the years. One of our favorite pictures to this day depicts our three-year old daughter, Emily, asleep on Barry's shoulders as we toured London together in 1990.

I have read with joy and agreement so many of the wonderful words that have been spoken in tribute to Barry. I have many of my own fond memories of Barry's intellect, high standards, compassion and commitment to serving clients as I had the privilege to work with him to build the Coudert Sydney office for two years in the mid-1980s. In addition to all of the above, Barry impressed me as a great leader and a person I wanted so much to emulate when I became a partner in the firm a couple of years later in Moscow. One of my fondest memories of Barry was the great celebration we had in the office when he announced at the end of 1986 that Sydney had achieved profitability for the first time. I think we cleared expenses by $1,000, but it didn't matter to Barry. He made everyone in the office feel special about his or her contribution to that important objective.

As has been noted, Barry was a legal entrepreneur and pioneer. He was the first to have a vision for Coudert offices in Sydney and London which combined under one roof U.S. and, first, Australian solicitors and then English solicitors. What seems commonplace today was actually conceived and implemented for the first time under Barry's leadership. It was not without risk! There were many days in Sydney when we expected the Law Society to shut us down for the unauthorized practice of law, but we persevered because
of Barry's skill in dealing with the opposition.

I learned many wonderful lessons from Barry about being a good lawyer, but he taught me most about a particular aspect of leadership that has had a profound impact on my career. In 1987 just after major reforms had taken place in the Soviet Union, Coudert, in particular Charlie Torem who led the Coudert Paris office, began to consider whether the firm should open a Moscow office. Barry decided, after consulting with Owen Nee who had built the Coudert China practice, that Coudert should have an office in Moscow and that I should be the one to open it. That was fine with me because I had joined the firm in 1980 in New York in part because I thought, having focused my academic career on the Soviet Union, that Coudert just might be the kind of firm that would actually consider opening an office in Moscow.
So you can imagine my enthusiasm seven years later when my dream began to be fulfilled!

As an associate in what was at the time the greatest and most established international law firm in the world, I was of course powerless to influence the process. But Barry took up the cause. He arranged for me to travel to Moscow with Charlie Torem and Coudert's then Chairman, Jim Sitrick, and he lobbied directly partners who opposed or were uncertain about the initiative. He arranged for me to attend and even speak at key firm meetings. He coached me at every step. I remember when he had me draft a business plan. Having absolutely no idea what I was doing, I projected having one lawyer in the first year, adding a legal assistant in year two and them a second lawyer in year three. Disgusted at my lack of vision, he instructed me to re-write the plan telling me "You want to get people excited about this? I want to see a plan for ten lawyers by year three!" Ever the visionary, but by year three of the Moscow office we actually did have ten lawyers in our Soviet Practice, located not only in Moscow but also in New York and Washington!

Now for the great leadership lesson: at some point in the flurry of activity leading up to our departure from Sydney for Moscow, I asked Barry a question, his answer to which has shaped how I have related to attorneys who have worked for me ever since. I asked him why he was investing so much time in the Moscow initiative when I couldn't see how he would benefit from it and it was creating a lot of dislocation in our Australian practice. His answer: "At some point in your career you become more interested in, and more pleased by, the success of others than your own success". For me this epitomized Barry's unselfishness and commitment to the development of my career. I am sure that many others have been blessed, as I was, by Barry in this way.

Sue and I hope and pray for all of you that the wonderful memories you share of that great man you called husband, father, grandfather or just plain Barry will compensate for the hurt and loss of his death. We will continue to pray for you, and may you know God's richest blessings in these hard times.
Love, Rich and Sue

Meredith Berkman

January 14, 2013

Dear Jackie and Family,
I just learned of Barry's death and am so deeply sorry for your loss. I remember Barry's warmth, kindness, humor, and wisdom. He was a real mensch. Best, Meredith Berkman

Mary Mortimer

January 4, 2013

My dear Jackie, We cannot find any words that will bring you any comfort. Barry was a very thoughtful, kind and enigmatic man with such generosity of spirit not only to his family and friends but equally to his very many clients and colleagues. He was one of those lucky men with a great presence and one was always drawn to him on entering a room. You and your family are very much in our thoughts and we send you our love. Steven Beharrell, Mary Mortimer and Natasha Beharrell, London, England

January 4, 2013

Dear Mrs. Metzger and family,

Barry was a kind and good friend, a wise and thankfully patient mentor, and a great storyteller. I always enjoyed his company. It was a privilege to be his friend.

My sincerest condolences.
Chris MacCormac, ADB, Manila

Nancy and Colin King

January 3, 2013

Jackie and family,

Although we knew of Barry's illness, we were shocked and saddened at his sudden passing. Our hearts go out to you, as well as prayers that you find strength and peace during this time and in the months to come. Yours was truly a blessed marriage.

Hyma Menath

January 3, 2013

Dear Jackie, Darren, Annette and Rebecca,

Subash and I are so very sorry for your loss. Although we did not get to spend a lot of time with Barry we knew as soon as we met him, that he was very special. His instant connection to people was an extraordinary gift. His interest and curiosity in the world around him was infectious and we caught ourselves having long conversations about everything under the sun, every time we got together. It was also great fun to watch him parry with Lucca, Matteo and Noah.

We are happy to have met and known Barry. Fond and happy memories of him remain with us and we will remember him for his energy, wit and love of family.

With love and prayers
Subash and Hyma

Peter McCawley

January 2, 2013

Dear Jackie and the Metzger family,

Anne and I have just heard the sad news here in Canberra from mutual colleagues at the ADB. We have very fond recollections of working and socialising with Barry and Jackie in Manila, in Tokyo, and at memorable ADB meetings in various countries. Barry's wide legal guidance during the key Asian Development Fund meetings was especially valuable because the issues we needed to deal with were often quite sensitive. We had great pleasure, too in spending time with Jackie and Barry in Japan when we both had postings to Tokyo. We have many dear memories of happy and rewarding times.

Peter McCawley and Anne Willoughby

Warren Scott

January 2, 2013

Dear Jackie

My deepest sympathies at this time of great loss. Barry was such an enormously generous, kind, giving man who touched the lives of so many people around the world. This is such an enormous loss and my heart goes out to you and the family.

Scott Gilman

January 2, 2013

Dear Jackie and family,

Barry was such a wonderful man and touched us in such special ways. We admired him very much and loved any time we had with him. He will be sorely missed.

Our love and thoughts.

Scott and Sheri

Katherine Warminsky

January 2, 2013

Dearest Rebecca and Metzger family,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have such wonderful memories of your sweet father; a gentle, loving and wonderful man. You and your family are in my thoughts.

Much love to you all, Katie

January 2, 2013

Last message from Rebecca Metzger

January 2, 2013

This is what I read at Dad's funeral (Temple Adas Israel, Sag Harbor, Long Island, December 24, 2012)

My father was the smartest man I knew. He could speak intelligently on many subjects, but he never grandstanded. He wasn't egotistical. He didn't speak to hear his own voice. He was a truly curious person. His music collection consisted of classical, jazz, rock, folk, and reggae. He was always willing to try something new. My mom said that anywhere they traveled where there was a piece of literature to be picked up and read, my dad picked up and read. He had subscriptions over the years to National Geographic, Scientific American, the New York Times, the New Yorker, the Wall Street Journal, the International Herald Tribune. Despite having traveled the world, I think his favorite activity was sitting by the pool in East Hampton reading. My dad truly loved it out here. He never minded sitting in hours of traffic if it meant he could wake up in his bed in East Hampton. His was a hard example to live up to, but his pressure was silent. He lived by example. He worked incredibly hard. Some of the moments I felt closest to him was when I was in high school in London. I would stay up until 3am in the morning some nights doing homework in my room on the 2nd floor of Linnell Drive while my dad worked away in his study on the 3rd floor. We'd take breaks together. I'd make coffee and bring it up to him. The summer before I went to college, my dad said he regretted having graduated Princeton after only 3 years, and we read my Smith College course catalog together from cover to cover, circling the courses we wanted to take and regretting the lack of time we had to learn everything we wanted to learn. My dad had a sense of humor that I think he reserved mostly for his family. The night after my senior prom, I was allowed to have male and female friends spend the night, though we didn't sleep, and my dad showed up in the wee hours dressed like a gorilla and handed out bananas. I think it was his way also of checking up on us. My dad had an incredibly kind and generous heart. I almost never heard him angry or utter unkind words about other people. He taught his grandsons about charity by modeling giving to homeless people and those less fortunate. When my dad was visiting me in Santa Barbara just this past Thanksgiving, my son Noah tried to get dad to give him money and my dad explained he had none on him. At which point, Noah found the tzedakah (charity) box from his room and brought it to “Opa” saying, if you don't have any money, then you should have this. My dad was really amused and impressed that Noah had taken his message to heart. Family was what my dad lived for. He loved being involved in his grandsons' lives. He loved planning occasions and vacations when the family could all be together, creating memories. That was how he wanted to spend his hard-earned money. I have incredible memories from family trips to Vietnam, Tibet, Cuba, Sri Lanka, Russia, Israel. My dad never lost his sense of wonder at traveling the world. I sometimes wondered what dada did to relax and regenerate. He worked so hard. During the months he lived in Japan, he would visit the Japanese bath houses and sit in scorchingly hot tubs. He surprised us all when, just a few years ago, he took up kayaking as a hobby, out on the Long Island Sound. That experience – either alone or with family – was very peaceful to him. I used to say that my dad didn't seem to know he had a body attached to his head. He lived so much in and by his intellect, but it wasn't true. My dad's hear, along with his wisdom, was why he was the one I would turn to when I most needed guidance—an adult who would listen and not judge, who would consider and offer advice in a measured and thoughtful way. I can't believe I have lost that stable presence in my life. I love you, Daddy.

Gulen Atay Newton

January 1, 2013

Barry is in my thoughts and prayers every day. My deep respect and affection for him will stay as long as I live.

Helen Anderson

December 31, 2012

Dear Jackie,Darren, Rebecca and family,
Our family are deeply saddened by the loss of your beautiful Barry. There are so many wonderful memories of you all when you lived with us in Sydney. I admired Barry greatly for being such a great husband and father. He always had more left over for friends. He shall be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
Much love from us all,
Helen, Andrew, Simon & Kristen xxxx

Claudia Zines

December 31, 2012

To the Metzger family, I send my love at this very sad time. I have such happy memories of the time you all spent in Australia. Barry was such a kind and generous father, spoiling his family with treats and hugs. His presence will be missed but his humour, happiness and generosity will live on in mine and other people's memories forever.

December 30, 2012

Dear Jackie,
Mum (Helen) and I were saddened to hear the news (via Jeff Grant) of Barry's untimely passing. We wish you and your family 'long life'.
Anthony Miller

Arnie Herman

December 30, 2012

Dear Jackie and family

I doubt that anyone can find the appropriate words to console you at this difficult time. Barry will live on in the wonderful memories each of us who knew him will never forget. Even as a child he was kind and considerate of others. He made everyone one in the family so proud of all his achievements, none more than Grandma Rae. My kids and I loved your visits when we were all in Boston and remember them fondly. Barry will be missed by all whose lives he touched.

Love, Arnie Herman and Sandra Gandsman

joan lebold cohen

December 30, 2012

Dear Jackie, Daren and Rebecca,
Please accept my deepest sympathy. I know you had a most remarkable and wonderful husband and father who was beloved by you and many admiring friends like Jerry and me.
We were thinking about the many joyous Chinese New Years we spent together with such joy.
We send all our love and sympathy,
Jerry joins me, joan

Michael Perry

December 30, 2012

I've known many smart people but very few wise ones. Barry was truelly one of the wise ones.

Monique & David Caiden

December 30, 2012

Dear Jackie, Darren, Rebecca and families,
We were shocked and saddened to hear of Barry's passing as we had no idea about his terrible illness.
May God comfort you at this difficult time and if there is any help at all that we can provide please don't hesitate to ask.
You and Barry have been so kind to us in the past and we will always fondly remember the happy times with him.
Monique, David and family

December 28, 2012

Jackie: It was always a foregone conclusion that Barry would be a success in whatever he did in life. I am so happy that it also appears to have been a life of fulfullment and happiness. I will continue to recall our times together whenever I think of Princeon.
Regards, Steve Herrmann

December 28, 2012

Jackie:
I was shocked and very deeply saddened to be notified via our Princeton connection of Barry's passing. He was, as you are, a good friend and colleague as well as classmate, and his suggestion to be about ADB is something that I will always treasure. My deepest condolences to you and your family and take comfort in that his spirit and his legacy will keep in foremost in the consciousness of many of us throughout the years. With deepest affection, Jerry Sumida

December 28, 2012

Jackie

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
sincerely,
Enyde Polesuk

Brian Breuel

December 28, 2012

Our deepest sympathies

Princeton '66

Darren Metzger

December 28, 2012

My family is humbled by the outpouring of emotion and thoughts from people who's lives he touched and changed (many from individuals he worked with). Barry lived to work, but not b/c he had to. He wanted to. He was so very passionate about the practice of law that it seemed to us that he sometimes forgot to take a break. We often made fun of how he dressed when he relaxed...his suit jacket, paired with shorts and capped by black socks (pulled up to his shins) and a pair of business shoes.

My father had an incredible intellect and sense of curiosity. He really was the smartest man I ever knew. He was also kind and generous of his time and spirit. He was always there for me. This continued throughout my life. During the latter part of his life and especially when I was older, he also became one of my closest friends. I spoke to him often and shared my successes and failures with him. He never once judged me, but always had something wise and meaningful to say to me.

One of my fondest recent memories was a guy's weekend we spent together in NYC. I introduced him to my NYC. We ate at a hidden restaurant, rode the interactive NY Experience bus, saw Book of Mormon on Broadway, caught a midnight movie and got tattoos (well temporary ones that looked real and sent photos to our wives claiming they were the real thing!) There are so many stories and good times we shared.

B/c of my dad's job, we traveled the world together as a family: Hong Kong, Sydney, London, The Philippines . We saw Haley's Comet, climbed Ayer's Rock, snorkeled the Great Barrier Reef, visited Lennin's tomb (Dad convinced our guide he was the head of the Australian Communist Party), celebrated dad's 60th in Italy. More recently we rented a house in Jamaica and took a cruise as an extended family (all 9 of us), because we simply enjoyed being together. And my mom had the chance to go on even more exotic adventures with him.

It's hard to talk about my Dad without mentioning my Mom. They loved and lived as one. They showed by example how a marriage should be and that finding true love was possible. They had the kind of love that most of us would dream of (married 46 years) — I felt lucky to see this at home.

It was a real joy once I had kids to see my father take to his role as Opa. Taking his grandsons to see the dinos at the Museum Of Natural History, kayaking on the bay in East Hampton (#1 love) or visiting his 2nd favorite place in the world...the bookstore, to share his love of books with my boys.

His legacy is this – the love he gave his friends & family. And I want everyone to know and to remember that this was his greatest gift. I am grateful that Dad showed us what to value in life: that if you put love & friendship in the center of it all — you will have a life that is full and well-lived. I will miss you, but you live on in me and others, pushing us to make the most of our time and the world a better place.

Barry with his son and grandchildren

December 28, 2012

Joram & Masha Moyal

December 27, 2012

Was very surprised and shocked when I got the message. Although I only met him a few times, I liked him very much. I met him as a very warm, interesting and open minded person. Sorry that I didn't have a chance to see him again. Condolences to all the Metzger family.

Janna Bellwin

December 27, 2012

Jackie:

Please accept my condolences for you and your family. It was a privelege to know and work with Barry these last few years. He was a brillant lawyer and great partner.

December 26, 2012

To the Metzger family - our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most important time. From the IT Department at Baker & McKenzie, Washington.

steven ross

December 26, 2012

I have not been in contact with Barry since highschool years,but I appreciated knowing him even then. He was so bright. My heart goes out to his whole family.

Sabina Gotuaco

December 26, 2012

My prayers to Barry and family. Barry was such an intelligent person and so dedicated to servicing our non-profit organization. Thank you, Barry, for your loving time and service to us.

Charles Critchlow

December 26, 2012

Cecile and I are greatly saddened to learn of Barry's passing. For over 20 years he was my partner at Coudert Brothers, and always a calm, thorough and trusted source of counsel. We will miss our social meetings in more recent years at Baker & McKenzie partner conferences. Our condolences to Jackie and the rest of the family.

Ira Reid

December 26, 2012

During the few, short years that we practiced law together, I found Barry to be one of the smartest and nicest people I have ever known. We have lost him far too soon. My deepest sympathies to the family. Rest in peace Barry.

Thomas Rice

December 26, 2012

Dear Jackie:

Please accept my condolences on your loss. Barry was a great teacher to me and countless of other Coudert lawyers over his many years of service. He was smart, he was passionate about getting the job done right and he was the quickest of wits.

He will be missed.

Tom Rice

Marc R. Segall MD

December 26, 2012

My ddepest sympathy amd comdolences to Jackie and the entire Metzger family. I was a childhood friend of Barry from Maplewood N.J. and quite close especially in Junior High School but unfortunately had lost contact after High School. He was an exceptional person in every respect and gone too soon.

Craig, Nancy, Drew, and Lindsey Katz

December 26, 2012

Barry and Jackie have been dear friends, who were a tremendous resource as we settled into Manila, Philippines, with young children. Barry was deeply committed to promoting the principles of transparency and law and governance. He was loved and will be missed, but his legacy and friendship will not be forgotten. Our heartfelt sympathies go to Jackie and the family.

Craig, Katrina, Charley & Max Allen

December 25, 2012

We send our deepest sympathies to the entire Metzger family. We have been privledged to know Barry, if only a short time, and we will honor him tonight in our hearts. We send our love to our most dear of friends.

Christine Wallich

December 25, 2012

My deepest sympathy to Barry's family. He was a wonderful colleague at ADB and I was very soory to learn of his passing.

Paul Bagoon & Family

December 25, 2012

As cousins Barry and I were close in the early years, but unfortunately after college we saw very little of each other.

My family appreciated that over the years as the Metzgers traveled the world they would always try and keep us updated with their year end family news letter.

My memory of Barry will always be that of a brilliant and caring man, husband, father and grandfather.

We extend our sincere condolences to Jackie and his family

Myalee Sofield Chaytor

December 25, 2012

Our deepest sympathies to Jackie, Darren, Becky and all the Metzger family at this sad time. We are all the richer for having known Barry and send you all our fondest love. Thinking of you. All our love - The Chaytors and Sofields xxxxxx

Manfred,Sabine & Patrick Kasburg

December 25, 2012

Rest in Peace

Gulen Atay Newton

December 25, 2012

I will miss Barry terribly ... He was the most intelligent and most caring boss I have ever had. He was the best mentor one could have hoped for. He had the broadest shoulders one could lean on and he so generously lent it to all... It will just not be the same without him. I will miss you Barry.. Rest in peace.

Shelley & Grady Smith

December 24, 2012

Barry's brilliance, energy, and humor were always a highlight of every Pacific Pension Institute event & he added immeasurably to the organization and to our lives. We will miss him dearly & often. We extend our deepest sympathies to Jackie & the family at this terribly sad time.

Oksana Chorny

December 24, 2012

Dear Jackie, Darren, Annette and Rebecca, please accept our deepest condolenses. May Barry rest in peace and the memories of him live on in your hearts and help you heal during these difficult times...

Gordon Fyfe

December 24, 2012

Barry's wise guidance and counsel will be greatly missed at the PPI, but we are all stronger today because of the years we did have him at our board table. I'll miss you Barry. Gordon Fyfe, Chairman, PPI

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